What I noticed about men that have a hot girlfriend.

TH3BUDDHA · 2023-09-05T16:32:04+00:00

Guys that can talk to people meet more people. More at 11.

RtistUno · 2023-09-05T15:40:49+00:00

Not socially awkward => Confident (to deal with people or anything in general)

Basically winners!

UnsuitableTrademark · 2023-09-05T16:42:07+00:00

I don't think it's about "killing your social awkwardness".

A much healthier route would be to analyze what's causing your social anxiety. Where is it coming from? What are you afraid of? And how does this impact your current interactions?

Understanding the cause will fix all of this. Masking it with more approaches will help, but won't solve the core issues happening.

lemonylemin · 2023-09-05T18:29:44+00:00

Tbh I’ve seen plenty of socially awkward guys with hot girlfriends.

chief_yETI · 2023-09-05T16:17:25+00:00

they are not socially awkward

surprise lol

bigplaneboeing737 · 2023-09-05T16:03:15+00:00

A handful of guys I’ve seen with hot girlfriends had average looks and confidence. I know guys do a poor job judging other guy’s looks, but I’ve seen some true crusties out there with 8s and 9s.

Khower · 2023-09-05T19:08:42+00:00

Introvert with hot girlfriend here.

Introversion is basically just if you recharge your batteries by yourself or around people. Im extremely social because its beneficial for me. I am very socially adept and I can say that my girlfriend has more social anxiety and tends to date men who can own a room.

If it helps I wasnt very socially adept or good with girls as a teenager and young adult but really turned it on in my early to mid 20s.

Good luck out there!

mister_k1 · 2023-09-05T17:12:21+00:00

being an introvert in the dating game nowadays is like going to run a marathon with only one leg

videogames_ · 2023-09-05T16:55:29+00:00

You made the first step. If you watch actionable advice it’s getting out of the house. Using the sidebar and Todd V videos to learn how to communicate with women. The first thing is literally just chatting with people and women. Just talk about weather and small talk. Then interests most people have like travel. Then use more Todd V videos to learn flirting, kissing, escalating, logistics.

FakeSafeWord · 2023-09-05T16:55:53+00:00

"I have observed that people who run, have legs."

ascarter · 2023-09-05T22:47:30+00:00

As someone with a hot girlfriend (idk about “incredibly hot”, but she gets hit on a lot) I can say that the biggest thing that won her over was that I have always been myself, funny and happy. Together for three years and I still make her laugh everyday. She’s dated taller, more chiseled men but they didn’t really have any hobbies outside of drinking/video games. Looks aren’t everything. She’s a deeper thinker like me and I know she enjoys being able to be more HERSELF around me. That being said, when you get the bag, don’t fumble either. Don’t take her for granted. Being with her has definitely put me in the gym more, more interested in my own hobbies and including her in those. She loves my friend group. You have to work to keep an attractive woman in your life, but that means you need to level up too. And this may sound a little superficial, but I think as men, we stay “youthful” a little longer which helps. Take care of yourself, and you’ll look like you’re in your thirties until you’re 55.

Badguy60 · 2023-09-05T16:47:25+00:00

This mostly because socially confident guys get to pick.

NuclearThane · 2023-09-05T18:07:40+00:00

In general yes you're right, confidence is key in attracting anyone. It feels a sign of maturity and makes people more comfortable around you, particularly if it's a romantic prospect.

There's one obvious caveat that probably bends the rules in every area of seduction-- money. I worked for a long time at a bar downtown and knew a lot of regulars who were very awkward and lacking in social sophistication. They mostly worked in tech/finance so they were well paid. It wasn't too uncommon for them to have hot girlfriends, but it wouldn't ever last long.

Also, a critical distinction is that "quiet" should never be conflated with "socially awkward". Even extroverted people can be quiet. It's actually a powerful social tool to be selective about when you speak, and how much you say. Less is often more, especially when trying to impress people-- as long as you are not cryptic or rude about it, you'll actually create an air of mystique and self-control that is very appealing. But others will always be able to tell if you are uncomfortable with your own silence.

brovash · 2023-09-05T17:38:00+00:00

hot girlfriends are overrated.

yes it's nice to bang hot girls and be with them but if that's your end goal I got bad news for you bruh.

Find you a loyal and compatible life partner that you don't have to worry about not being extroverted around.

Firehills · 2023-09-05T17:48:34+00:00

If you had a very hot girlfriend, very soon you would stop acting awkward as well lol

Stiltzkinn · 2023-09-05T17:31:17+00:00

It is a fact many nerds from here can explain better Pick Up than the football quarterback who lays 100 chicks per year. It is good you are outside in the field practicing socializing rather than being a keyboard jockey.

gornad96 · 2023-09-05T20:24:48+00:00

Trust me many are socially awkward. They are just confident. You can be confident and still have bad social skills. Hell some aren’t even confident but they met through sheer circumstance.

Tbh most hot couples I see usually one of them is pretty fucked up. I’ve never seen a handsome gracious dude with a hot well-mannered girlfriend. The guy is either insufferable, or the girl has issues.

MysteriousMix6206 · 2023-09-05T18:25:21+00:00

Quit being such a muppet. There’s nothing wrong with you if you are socially awkward. You go and make a thing about it and that’s when you’ll really start doing damage to yourself. I’ve gotten numbers by literally waking up to girls and admitting that I was shy and awkward. Self respect means saying look this is what I am, if you don’t like it, fuck off.

tylerden · 2023-09-05T20:38:39+00:00

Speak to EVERYONE my man so when you speak to a hot girl it's second nature.

gWiLiKeRzZz · 2023-09-06T13:52:31+00:00

What you don’t see are the introverts on the couch with their super hot girlfriends because they don’t go out too often bc they don’t like people

grass_cutter · 2023-09-05T17:45:13+00:00

Nah I had a super hot girlfriend briefly. Like by conventional standards. They’re all hot but you know superficially. Twig waist, massive boobs, guys necks swiveling. Very little emotional connection though sadly. Not exactly sure what she saw in me.

You definitely can be socially awkward. I am, more or less. I think if you’re an introverted intellectual geek type, you always will be a little off talking to the normies/ stupids. Ha but in all seriousness.

Thinking dicking hot bitches is a meritocracy is mistake one. It’s fickle. You should be able to at least fake social skills though a couple dates. And have basic hygiene like don’t stink and brush your teeth. If you’re fat or eat ethnic food then REALLY shower at least daily, deodorant daily, mainstream light spray of cologne.

Seriously so many dudes smell like literal shit these days.

TheManWithThreePlans · 2023-09-05T18:19:37+00:00

You may also be surprised to discover that water is wet

TacoRockapella · 2023-09-05T21:10:52+00:00

Sky is blue. Sun is bright.

ftdrain · 2023-09-06T01:03:00+00:00

I am not your usual Chad, introverted and definitely not the social skills guy, I lost my virginity at 27 (current BC is 50) and yet my gf is an easy 9 (23yold, 15k+ instagram just from being hot and pretty af) so theres that.

Educational-Cake7350 · 2023-09-06T01:12:26+00:00

You can totally be socially awkward and have a hot gf, it’s just how socially awkward are you, and how awkward are you behind closed doors with said hot chick.

Also, looks help. If you’re an attractive, socially awkward person, people will just think you’re weird, but still attractive enough to bang haha

Sendmeloveletters · 2023-09-05T17:20:39+00:00

Social anxiety is a hallmark of childhood. Women like men.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2023-09-05T21:10:27+00:00

I beg to differ.

What all the men with hot girlfriends have in common is they are genuine.

Some dudes are just permanently awkward, but certain guys know how to steer into the skid and own their default personality.

A guy who acts like he has social skills will do worse than a guy that is self aware of his social function and owns it.

Given the best case scenario is to actually have social skills without having to fake it, what matters most is presenting zero fake behavior.

Vast-Garlic1939 · 2023-09-05T22:16:26+00:00

I'm a woman in my early thirdies, and my experience is that I feel much more attracted to confident guys, and it usually means for me the ones that aren't socially awkward, the ones who know how to act around people and have that "I know what Im talking about" vibe but not in a arrogant way. It got more evident to me as I got older. I feel that looks played a much bigger part when I was younger. Now, it is really common for me to feel attracted to not conventionally good-looking guys, ones I'd probably not date when I was in my twenties, but now the way they conduct themselves make them more appealing to me.

Alittude · 2023-09-05T23:43:12+00:00

Most men with a hot girlfriend get insecure about other men and have to always cling tk her it's sad

StriveForGreat1017 · 2023-09-06T01:16:27+00:00

Dude every damn time !!! I can guarantee you that dude has charisma out of the ass . I know a guy who’s about average height and is always pulling the baddest girls, because he knows how talk. He knows how to talk to a woman and make a woman feel attracted , dude isn’t anything special at all, he’s just got hella game

lifewithnofilter · 2023-09-06T01:38:32+00:00

I have a hot fit girlfriend and I am a fat slob.

Though I guarantee you it won’t last if continue to gain weight. Trying to work on that right now.

yorkdonovan · 2023-09-05T21:31:43+00:00

Is Elon Musk socially awkward? But he always has hot girlfriends like Amber Heard... It is not about your social activity, if you are successful in life, hot girls comes to you.

PoinFLEXter · 2023-09-05T18:10:04+00:00

I’ve never had a bad date with a girl I liked if I was able to maintain my frame. And I have almost always had a bad date when I wasn’t able to maintain my frame.

It’s really that simple. I’ve even had dates start out bad and then become really good because of the fact that I was able to maintain my frame.

Captain_w00t · 2023-09-05T21:24:07+00:00

Just remember that introvert doesn’t mean socially awkward or lacking confidence.

An introverted and confident person might spark mistery, which is attractive for many.

A socially awkward person will just be like that, regardless of how they feel around people.

OoIMember · 2023-09-05T21:28:43+00:00

Confidence is key, from house cats to lions to women in bars they can smell fear

inverted_electron · 2023-09-05T21:57:50+00:00

The biggest thing to do is change your internal beliefs into believing you are confident. Tell yourself “I am the kind of guy that is confident and makes friends easily. Then practice and fake it until it becomes your natural state of being. It’s a lot of work though.

MOordty · 2023-09-06T00:38:56+00:00

My girlfriend falls into the category of hot to say the least without sound egotistical. When I met her at a party I’d did my flirting and walked away (and repeat).. leaving the rest of the horny guys interested to follow her around like a puppy dog or drunkenly mock her accent (English) just making fools of themselves. It was obvious all I had to do was the opposite of what all the other guys were doing.

ninetyeightproblems · 2023-09-06T03:55:20+00:00

I have a hot girlfriend and not socially awkward, but I do have social anxiety. For the first 6 months I refused to meet any of her friends, it was terror inducing. It’s much better now.

This isn’t so rare, one of my best mates who also has a stunning gf is severely mentally fucked up, including social anxiety.

We’re both good looking guys though.

KamuiObito · 2023-09-06T04:48:17+00:00

Yea but even when i try they can see the shyness its just apart of my being..i love it honestly id describe myself as a firework when im ready i can be one of the mfs ever cuz I’m extremely selfless and compassionate snd protective mfs in your life..but at the same time i dont even struggle girls compliment me a bit and i have well over 200 matches on tinder

ROBYoutube · 2023-09-06T07:49:27+00:00

Hahaha my dude, we're not in places you'll observe us as often as the extroverts.

Bushbound · 2023-09-06T14:53:41+00:00

Disagree. My last gf was objectively hot and I have social anxiety haha. Although to be fair, I wasn’t ever socially awkward around her. I feel comfortable around certain people

Chance_in_Pants · 2023-09-06T15:11:40+00:00

A common misconception is that introverts can't be social. Introverts energy drains from social interaction where extroverts energy is gained from social interaction. It's why introverts are usually isolating and don't mind not going out. And why extroverts get bored by themselves. I myself am an introvert, and I enjoy socializing. It's just that my energy gets drained from too much of it, and I need to recharge for a day afterward. Granted, it was skill I needed to learn much like what you're trying to do as you've explained.

For those introverts out here, don't use that as an excuse for not socializing. It's awkward at first but then it gets normal

Good-Elevator-9940 · 2023-09-06T17:40:10+00:00

Introversion and extroversion are both skills. You develop them like anything else. You arent predestined to stink at social interactions you just need practice

Myrrhth · 2023-09-07T04:43:34+00:00

I know a guy who doesn't fit this description at all. He's 22, stick thin, has no money, very shy and quiet and awkward, spends all day playing video games, has a very hot girlfriend. Not only hot, but funny, high energy, outgoing, cool interesting girl - totally the opposite of him. Kinda blew up my whole paradaigm. How the hell did he get her?

He just accepts himself 100%. He's totally unashamed of who and what he is.

FatherHawkColdApprch · 2023-09-08T00:40:16+00:00

Exactly - Get out of your own way.

Odd-Yak4551 · 2023-09-06T02:05:44+00:00

Good posture yoga martial arts does wonders for anxiety. Try and find something like that

Bjeoksriipja · 2023-09-05T20:26:17+00:00

Because men of higher status have more friends/relationships , ppl who rely on him or ppl who he can rely on.

Requires you to have something to give or contribute to others, such as a great skill or quality etc.

Men of lower status are isolated bc they have nothing to give others only take.

balamshir · 2023-09-06T04:03:23+00:00

You got that right, all these guys focusing on their looks when the only success comes from acting like a chad (and i dont mean that euphemistically). People are shallow as fuck and women are no different, got to embody that shallowness yourself if you want to get anywhere.

This is ofc for people trying to get laid, its a tiny bit different if youre trying to get into a relationship and looking for the 'right' person.

OutrageousCandidate4 · 2023-09-05T19:47:34+00:00

Any resources for speech clarity? I feel like that’s one of my biggest blockers in terms of social awkwardness and confidence.

simpleLense · 2023-09-06T04:06:16+00:00

This cannot be a real post

dumkopf604 · 2023-09-06T04:20:49+00:00

So just stop being socially awkward. Got it.

unpolire · 2023-09-06T08:39:26+00:00

Not judging you, but if English is not your first language, brushing up on grammar and sentence structure will definitely help you avoid awkwardness and communicate effectively. Girls love men that can smoothly communicate.

Sad-Reflection9092 · 2023-09-06T09:28:29+00:00

That's fake. I've had really hot girlfriends that everybody looks at them and i suffer from social anxiety since i was a kid. Of course, i'm not retarded, but i'm not the "ideal" person you should expect to be with a hot girl. You guys here are just taking theories out of nowhere and claiming to have discovered the secret for life. Things are way less complicated than this right here.

OrLuckyLuke · 2023-09-06T09:31:04+00:00

Remember, most hot girls aint that hot without makeup, and they know it and deep down are also insecure about their looks. No need to be awkward infront hot girls

DarthNox_Forcewalker · 2023-09-06T15:32:27+00:00

Women like confidence.

iammrh4ppy · 2023-09-05T21:48:36+00:00

behind every hot girl is a guy whos tired of fuckin her.

DoubleShotDepression · 2023-09-05T23:14:15+00:00

I have social skills but no confidence lol

Wlacaupius · 2023-09-05T23:28:16+00:00

Just being not-socially-awkward does not mean that you are going to have a hot gf.

It takes more than that...

purplethizzle · 2023-09-05T23:57:03+00:00

as someone who recently broke up with his extremely hot, and social girlfriend this is far from the truth

Eight-Nine-One-Zero · 2023-09-06T00:57:03+00:00

It’s called charisma.

ftdrain · 2023-09-06T01:03:52+00:00

I am not your usual Chad, introverted and definitely not the social skills guy, I lost my virginity at 27 (current BC is 50) and yet my gf is an easy 9 (23yold, 15k+ instagram just from being hot and pretty af) so theres that.

relish-tranya · 2023-09-06T03:08:28+00:00

I've known guys to go from virgin AFC to hottie girlfriends and you do have to wise up and can the goofy stuff. Save it for clowning with friends later or if she's feeling silly in private.

Little_Entertainer_6 · 2023-09-06T04:49:03+00:00

Half point dude. They are lucky. Right time, place and moment.

Glum_Emotion_9688 · 2023-09-06T05:48:07+00:00

Silent confidence without appearing cocky is the best. Girl here.

myrodral · 2023-09-20T08:30:14+00:00

Affectionate-Bill311 · 2023-09-05T15:56:01+00:00

They are also tall nd handsome

ZoinksRagey · 2023-09-06T13:29:54+00:00

Every single person on this subreddit has some form of autism

slumpttx · 2023-09-06T15:43:57+00:00

To be honest bro, I used to always want a hot girlfriend but then I realized how most of them will exhaust your brain cells down to the core. Start with a 6-7 get used to it and If you end up breaking up with her your social skills will improve and help you get a 8-9. 10s are blatantly impossible as most of them are dating guys that are 11s( financially or status stacked) focus on getting the ugly chicks first and work from there

TangPiccilo · 2023-09-05T15:50:36+00:00

I don’t care if she’s hot im tired of paying for coochie shit is getting expensive FR

Heavy-Story4679 · 2023-09-05T20:16:52+00:00

If you were a dinosaur youd be a Cuckasaurus-rex

Fun3Mo · 2023-09-05T18:09:51+00:00

Yeah i can only get average looking women. It sucks to not be socially confident

ExtraordinaryBeetles · 2023-09-06T00:42:30+00:00

The idea that your social anxiety is the only obstacle for social skills is a bit of an overestimation of your own social skills, for just about everybody here. These things can be both overlapping and mutually exclusive at the same time.

Taking a brace off of your leg doesn't mean you will run world record times, and there are people with injuries that run faster than those without. Focus on skill building instead of scapegoating.

tldrtldrtldr · 2023-09-06T06:02:40+00:00

Simple rule of a relationship dynamics is what you can provide to the other person. Plenty of simps including yours truly have dated hot girls, without being a social butterfly or coming even close to it. Half the men fail in attraction games because they come across as too needy

Silly_Randy · 2023-09-06T12:12:39+00:00

Honestly, most of the time. The hot girl is with a guy that is a pussy. Like "nice" or "soft". A good boy. A safe bet.

And most likely she's cheating on him with a bad boy.

OkAd6778 · 2023-09-06T01:42:27+00:00

My "gf" is hot and hyper social, I'm extremely introvert. Yesterday i let her in party because i couldn't stay more and she got upset because i let her partying with her best friend

spoods420 · 2023-09-05T19:41:46+00:00

Most hot chicks age out of it.

MajesticFerret36 · 2023-09-05T20:48:21+00:00

Here's what TC doesn't want to hear, but aside from really young people, above a certain age threshold, awkwardness is no longer acceptable in general.

Chaosr21 · 2023-09-05T22:42:12+00:00

Yea, I got addicted to drugs bad because I'm an introvert. Been sober for years and just started embracing who I am. Fuck it I'm not going to pretend but my social skills aren't horrible. I just usually keep to myself. Self confidence also attracts women, you don't always have to pretend to be extrovert but you do have to go outside your comfort zone.

Creamywank · 2023-09-05T22:51:39+00:00

For sure bro. I’ve noticed that too. I asked girls this same thing, it’s confidence that’s key. Or money 😂

AligatorTears · 2023-09-05T23:21:47+00:00

I work in a retail context where I see a lot of couples. In my experience, the top tier hot women could be with absolutely anybody and the moment where their partner comes in is always a roll of the dice. He could be a put together dude in a suit, he could be a built guy in a hoodie who wears his headphones above his ears and says three words for the entire interaction, he might be a fat guy with tattoos on his face, it might be a girl carrying a motorcycle helmet.

Being in public with a hot girl might make a lot of men seem more confident than they usually are. I can assure you though that when they're coming in to separate their accounts they don't look super confident anymore.

OllieOllyOli · 2023-09-06T02:56:05+00:00

My wife is hot, and we're both socially awkward

zertsetzung · 2023-09-06T03:11:10+00:00

Good, use it.

Key-Willingness-2223 · 2023-09-06T03:35:17+00:00

I can't be sure based on your post

But are you conflating being sixially intelligent with not being socially anxious or introverted?

worldwiderambles · 2023-09-06T06:00:43+00:00

Naw, tons of men with hot girlfriends are really anti-social, not talking to anyone, being guarded and jealous ect.

fapimpe · 2023-09-06T07:26:37+00:00

I've seen it before

wailot · 2023-09-06T10:26:39+00:00

They are also tall

ThatBritishGuy577 · 2023-09-06T12:27:22+00:00

Been in therapy and putting myself out there for 2 years its a long process improving social skills it doesn't help that I'm autistic as well. I honestly think some people are just wired to better socially adapted. Because although I've made improvements they haven't been huge and I'm still kinda akward and this is with consistent effort

KundaliniEnergy777 · 2023-09-06T13:00:03+00:00

Confidence will take you far in life. Social awkwardness won't.

Glum_Rhubarb_3175 · 2023-09-06T13:00:45+00:00

Long story short- you either develop this muscle or you don't.

Action plan- baby steps. Start talking to guys for instance to make friends and later build alliances.

Epiphanic_Eros · 2023-09-06T13:10:25+00:00

I believe that's generally true. More important, yet, is that the guys with hot girlfriends are usually well-centered. They serve as ground and guard for their girl, and don't get all bent out of shape about things.

darrylgorn · 2023-09-06T19:07:58+00:00

Of course.

The question you need to ask is how they got there. It's some combination of luck and skill, but usually moreso luck.

chanegeling · 2023-09-06T19:08:51+00:00

I’m an introvert too, but I’ve dated some pretty conventionally “hot” girls in the past. Something that I have tried to make a challenge of is just talking to random strangers in random places when out sometimes. Just making conversation about anything with anyone. Men, women, kids. It kind of goes against my nature and i sometimes feel awkward but I think I have a pretty ok personality and I enjoy meeting people. I am trying to work on this more and just getting to know people a bit in passing or diving deeper into who they are. Just takes practice and lots of mistakes. Who cares if you say something wrong?

SomeGojiBerry · 2023-09-06T19:50:00+00:00

That's true but that doesn't help.

maydarnothing · 2023-09-06T20:10:06+00:00

are you saying that girls can’t be socially awkward (yes even the hot ones)?

evilcats · 2023-09-06T20:50:24+00:00

There are plenty of hot socially awkward girls.

korana_great · 2023-09-06T21:50:44+00:00

Well no sh*t. If shes an attractive girl she can literally have almost any guy she pleases, in most cases hes a very social, confident, dude. Its just a guy that universally most people can like.

Some hot girls do get with introverts or awkward guys bc they know eachother from childhood or he’s like in a band or something but thats an exception.

EvanMcCormick · 2023-09-07T00:10:41+00:00

Can't tell if shit-post......

DekuuX_04 · 2023-09-07T05:26:36+00:00

But what is social awkwardness? My female friends laugh at me whenever I talk to them, I am starting to think I might be socially awkward. So jus wanna know what social awkwardness is? So I can improve

Ectoplasmic1984 · 2023-09-10T23:09:48+00:00

yup, and water is wet

Title	What I noticed about men that have a hot girlfriend.
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