Suicidal ideation since divorce

bluewizard8877 · 2025-12-18T01:57:09+00:00

Lithium. Lithium is the only thing that has been proven to actually stop suicide. It’s dirt cheap but it does require periodic bloodwork (not expensive) to make sure you aren’t getting too much. Regular doctors most likely won’t prescribe it. You will need to see a psychiatrist.

BeginningProgress551 · 2025-12-02T03:39:41+00:00

100% I did too. Checked out the gun case at the Fleet and Farm, but of course it was just fantasy. It's not the way to handle it. Find a Divorce Care group near you and go

No_Interview7580 · 2025-11-28T05:06:19+00:00

group activities, team sports, swimming, gym for loneliness.

hamayunminato · 2025-11-27T16:25:39+00:00

if you want to suicide then you can go but before that just go outside and do what you want to do for long time, test every fear you have because you have now nothing to lose

greenskies80 · 2025-11-27T03:56:38+00:00

Im sorry youre going through this friend. First i acknowledge this is real and it's not uncommon to feel this way, myself included. What helped me is to begin loving myself. My ex killed my identity and self confidence.

I took a short solo trip to another country.. go for runs, gym, checkout places on my own, basically take myself out on dates.

Once u love yourself, youll have compassion for yourself. And youll feel a desire to do everything u wanted to do. Thats when u know ur really turning a page.

Good luck brother

Royal-Suspect-1569 · 2025-11-27T03:26:27+00:00

I’m truly sorry you’re going through this. Feeling so alone and tired is incredibly hard, but reaching out shows strength. You deserve peace, support, and brighter days ahead. If you ever feel like you might harm yourself, please reach out to someone right away or a crisis line like 988 (U.S.). Your life matters, and you’re not alone

DivorceCoachGio · 2025-11-26T21:59:42+00:00

What does your therapist say?
Outside of your therapist, do you have anyone to talk to?
For me, the gym saved my life. Healthiest lifestyle possible.
You can be alone. You can build the life you want.
Just have to figure it out. Once you do, the sun shines again.
Trust me. I've been there and more than once...

TheMindfulWarrior9 · 2025-11-26T21:21:35+00:00

I went on a camping retreat. Being in nature for a few days… making camp fires with some random people really helped me.

Meditation also helps. Are you reading any good self help books? I’m enjoying dad starting over and his new book rebuilding

Do you have any old friends you can try reconnecting with? Or try meetups

Massive-Mess-2685 · 2025-11-26T21:18:32+00:00

I also went through active asI ideation. Checked myself into a psych ward. My wife came in a few days later seeking divorce and packed up some shit of mine and drove my car to the hospital with her bitch mother. She kicked me out of my own house seeking divorce alienated me from my children. Now 6 months later, she is still trying to drain me of all my money and leave me broke and destitute. Yet she expects me to pay $4k a month in child support and mortgage. I have no job, tried for 6 months to move on but cant. I struggle with SI thoughts weekly. If I do it, she wins. My kids suffer cause they love me. I dont know this woman that was supposed to love me. Your stories sound like mine. Women have gained too much power in this modern legal world.

Impressive-Spare1194 · 2025-11-26T18:01:01+00:00

I ended up un a psych ward after trying to kill myself and I'm on a lot of different medications but hey, I don't want to kill myself anymore and I'm much happier.

BRZBrian · 2025-11-26T17:29:31+00:00

Definitely have struggled with this 9 months after separation. you’re not alone in these feelings. Focusing on getting a good night’s sleep has worked helped me with the worst of it, but still lack joy in the things I used to. The world is better with you in it (assuming you’re a decent person), so thank you for hanging in there and making my world better.

euphramjsimpson · 2025-11-26T15:25:15+00:00

Yeah. Seven years for me. I have my kids half the time and I love them more than anything but I don’t think they’re being raised right. There are a lot of values that I feel should be instilled in them that aren’t because my discussing them would illuminate a lot of the stuff their mother has done and I want them to honor their mother, despite what she did to us.

It’s hard because I feel like I could have moved on much more easily if I didn’t have kids. Maybe that sounds callous but I knew what I was getting into when I married their mother. She knew what I was like. She just changed her mind.

I feel like I’ve brought dishonor to my family even though none of them would say that.

I really don’t want my kids to think it’s an option though. I certainly wouldn’t care if I got hit by a bus. One last caress.

Schmetts · 2025-11-26T13:10:01+00:00

I go through these thoughts enough that I am following this post. I don't really contemplate suicide but the idea pops in my head fairly often, like a bad pop song. Do you read books with a Buddhist slant, and practice meditation? That works for me, to some extent.

When unproductive thoughts pop into my mind, I think "unproductive thoughts" and push them away, and then try to focus on what I'm doing in the moment, and not think about the past or future. With practice, this works.

Factastical · 2025-11-26T12:52:00+00:00

Yes I had it for the first year though just thoughts never real consideration. Went through a very high conflict divorce with a pathalogical liar and cheat. Had to reduce how often I saw the kids that first year because of the constant panic attacks. The best thing I did was to ignore the lawyers and parrots here and left my house immediately into roach motel hell. I started dating and praying at the same time. God did bless me with a new woman who became a great friend and then a lover. She pulled me out of it. 4 years later and countless false police and sheriff's visits in a very prominent silver bullet process, I won across the board and the ex forever branded and widely known as a liar. I do not coparent with her despite the judges and child lawyers impositions. The kids are tweens and teens and old enough to decide custody. I used this to my advantage at every turn and every time I was ready to take yet another overnight. I don't hate her. I just want her to shut the fuck up (she did). I hate with a passion the court and their agents who espouse "in the best interest of the children" but carry on like vampires who need to suck money instead of blood. You're not defective and depressed because you're sad. You are lonely! You were robbed by hook and by crook. You lost what is yours. If you want to get back to the old you, the secret sauce is simple. Winning helps but good luck against these court leeches who allow lying with impunity for the benefit of escallating litigious conflict. My best therapy was ripping these motherfuckers apart in simple conversation and showing them a mirror. That took patience and big balls. I sat silent for years and pretended to be a good boy for years. Until I finally had all my proof and words put together. I beat the shit out of anyone (verbally) who knew her to be a liar and did nothing about it. The cops, the sherriffs, the child lawyer, the court clerk in the order of protection court. I just didn't give a fuck because I had already survived the desire for death and went from zero to hero. I had already regained my kids half the time and allowed her to keep them the other half without challenging her right legally. I did not alienate her. I only alienate her dipshit boyfriend who also got caught lying for her numerous times. These morons and the lies they tried in the silver bullet process didn't save any money. But being able to prove that the system allowed and encouraged it for years, freed me from sitting in the defensive posture. What my advice to you? Don't let these bastards abuse you too long. Sit there and take it until custody is settled. Once your at the money part, let the gloves come off and have a bare knuckle fist fight (verbally). Have a little fun with it if she is guilty as sin. Slap the agents of the court around (verbally). One more thing. This is not said here ir anywhere. It is a realization of mine without any evidence. Just a gut feeling. If you're a performing father, you work, you take care of the kids, you pay child support and you are needed, then you're a god against a liar. They won't judge the ex liar but they won't do shit to you either. Nobody going to slap cuffs on you and risk a family of warm bodies going to the welfare state for support. This system is a farce. It's a lie and you are it's victim. If you feel this way. If your ex liar was given equal opportunity without punishment in this court clerk circle jerk, now you know why you're depressed. If you have a similar case, you're not defective. You are abused. You don't have to take it. You don't have to be a victim of these vampires.

SonOfTheAfternoon · 2025-11-26T10:31:17+00:00

If you are a drinker, stop drinking. In your free time go for long walks in nature. Although you feel like staying in bed, get up and take care of yourself even if it feels like a huge task. Find a reason to get out of bed in the form of friends, family, charity work, hobbies etc). Try to discover who you are on your own before deciding you can’t make it alone

NewDay0110 · 2025-11-26T08:42:49+00:00

You need to find a new mission in life. One powerful way of doing this is service to other people. Volunteer with an organization that helps people who have less than you. Build something, do a nice favor for someone in need. That will help you feel more purpose in life and fill the void of depression.

Ok-Trainer-4100 · 2025-11-26T08:04:43+00:00

Try a holistic route St John's wort is a anti depressant but natural. See a kinesiologist and balance your body by butting foods and life style.

Been where you are it's hard . DM if you ever need to talk .sorry for your pain 🙏

Boglehead101 · 2025-11-26T07:04:43+00:00

Maybe the antidepressant didn’t suit. There’s others to try?

Also they generally make you feel worse until they kick in.

somethingsimple89535 · 2025-11-26T06:51:24+00:00

Best revenge is a life lived well. You got kids brother? Set a good example and live your best life.

Immediate-Story2562 · 2025-11-26T06:44:09+00:00

Do you have hobbies? When you go to dark thoughts can you try to redirect to think of something new to do?
Maybe a new sport, maybe volunteering, gaming or whatever just not drugs or alcohol. If you can find something to do that can lead your life into new paths, meaning and purpose.
Is it possible to get a dog? Maybe a rescue. If you get a puppy you are looking at 10 years of dedicated nurturing, joy and commitment.
Try to find out why you think you are not meant to be alone. Explore that. Thinking you can only be happy by being not alone and being with someone else is putting all the pressure of happiness outside of yourself. In the end only you can make you happy.

Suspicious_Dot6179 · 2025-11-26T06:07:12+00:00

Mine lasted exactly until I met the real love of my life the year after the divorce. And then it went from depression to complete unimaginable joy bro.

Hairy_Drummer_9648 · 2025-11-26T05:59:11+00:00

It does get better mate, don’t be too hard on yourself. Find something, I’ve started walking at night. Force yourself into other things. Take care and continue to vent on here if you need mate.

midlife-madness · 2025-11-26T05:19:16+00:00

Claw yourself the fuck out of that hole. I know it. I’ve been there. It does get better. Surround yourself with friends and family. You’re going to feel lost, spiral, etc. friends and family will help keep you alive while you slowly start to feel better over time. It will be Ok. Even better. Your best years are ahead of you. Tell yourself this shit in the mirror every day.

I’ve been there. I feel for you. You will be ok just keep going!!

colddarkstars · 2025-11-26T05:08:54+00:00

why does not being married make you there is no light at the end of the tunnel?

Title	Suicidal ideation since divorce
Author	Fluffy_Afternoon652
Upvotes	36
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Date	November 26, 2025 5:02 AM UTC (8 months ago)
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