There's this misconception regarding porn consumption that the main divider is the chosen media. Men on average want to see explicit videos, photos and drawings(rule34 etc) whereas women on average want to read spicy stories.

I agree that reading engages more of the mind. Some guys should really consider mixing things up and get on that instead, but that's more for the side-benefits like stimulating intellect and imagination but,

It's not what actually decides if the attachment/obsession is healthy or not.

Right now there's this sprawling female-centric "monster story smutfic"-community and I feel uneasy about it.

When the driving motivation is obviously negative like: "This character is yearning something insane for this woman. No man has ever done that for me"

"This minotaur/orc/vampire is undyingly loyal in no way no real man could ever be"

things turn grimy real fast.

And so many of these fans have obviously such negative motivations. Maybe it's all symptomatic of the growing cultural divide between men and women, dating app shitfests, 4B-movements and whatnot? Idk.

Anyway, there was this convention for these women recently, and it turned to crap real fast with numerous sexual offences commited against male performers and cosplayers who were only there to enhance the event.

Even furries looking in on this trainwreck cringe hard. It looks exactly like their fandom used to look like in the 90's/early 00's when it was driven mainly by shame, negative escapism, inhibition and unfulfilled desire. The furry scene cleaned up a lot due to a massive influx of healthier fans with normal social lives etc. changing the tone considerably.

When even furries start to give critical pointers on your fandom, you know it's time to give pause and consider what the hell you're doing.