Does a woman's cheating past matter if you are the Alpha at the finish line?

LysanderAegis · 2026-03-05T08:52:09+00:00

While past behavior doesn't guarantee future actions, crossing the Rubicon once and getting away with it makes it easier to cross it again. I understand that attraction to others can happen unexpectedly, but I'd rather be with someone who values honesty. At least for a serious relationship.

Zabadoodude · 2026-03-05T07:56:31+00:00

All relationships get a little boring after a while. Ideally younhave enough loyalty and connection to keep it alive. If she has a history of jumping on another man't dick whenever she gets bored, that's a a recipe for disaster.

If she could pull you for a relationship she can pull a guy at least as good as you for a casual fling.

abaxeron · 2026-03-05T13:12:41+00:00

Genetics and one's past are roughly similar as the best available predictors of one's future behavior. It does not mean that they predict the future perfectly. But yes, everyone's past matters.

DietTyrone · 2026-03-05T09:49:36+00:00

Because she's a cheater.
Doesn't matter how Alpha you think you are, you can't guarantee someone equally or more attractive won't come along, and if she's already proven to not be loyal then you can't exactly trust her to not monkey branch or step out.

"How you get them is how you lose them."

ganggajang · 2026-03-05T09:41:23+00:00

I get where you’re coming from. It’s logical to think that if you’re a high-value man who satisfies her hypergamous instinct, she has no reason to leave. But here’s the thing: being alpha isn’t a permanent finish line. In my experience, even the strongest guys can get betatized by a long term relationship once they get comfortable and lose their edge.

The real issue is pattern recognition. If her history shows that she deals with conflict or boredom by monkey branching that is likely her ingrained behavioral script.

You can satisfy her desire for a superior mate today, but you can’t fix a person’s lack of integrity or their need for constant external validation. You can control your frame, but you can't control her past patterns. Just keep your eyes open, man.

DiligentRope · 2026-03-05T08:46:44+00:00

This is a strawman of TRP.

TRP says "she's not your girl, its just your turn", "AWALT", and that the perfect girl doesn't exist.

Thats why mainstream TRP strategy is to date around, multiple women at once, you reward and promote the ones that stand out and become an asset to you, i.e. the ones that make food for you, clean for you, treat you like a king, help you with your work, etc.

CelicnisGhost · 2026-03-05T08:59:49+00:00

Once a cheater, always a cheater. It doesn't matter how "alpha" you are, if she did it before she'll do it again over the smallest mistake.

Sophisticated_Cynic · 2026-03-05T08:05:55+00:00

This is where you actually have to get to know her and you need to pay attention to what you do. For women, they always tend to cheat on a certain kind of man. If you aren’t the nice guy doormat type then your odds of having an issue decline a lot. On the other hand if you ignore her a lot or are cheating on her then your odds go way up.

So if she is cheating because she plans to monkey branch it not necessarily a guarantee she will do it again, especially if other women consistently want you. That is the key metric in my opinion.

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anonymousppd123123 · 2026-03-05T14:52:29+00:00

im just trying to get laid and have a good time, so not really

midnight_blue77 · 2026-03-07T08:33:40+00:00

why would a woman who has left her current partner and cheated on her partner with me leave me? Why would she cheat on me with another man?

Because there is always a "better man." The mere illusion of there being a better man is enough for her to already have one foot out the door in your relationship.

can't I satisfy that woman's hypergamy instinct?

No. Women's hypergamy plays on her imagination. If she so much as imagines another guy being better than you or imagines/feels that you're alphaness is waning she will dump you and trade up.

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2026-03-05T19:13:56+00:00

I think that, unless it's been at least ten years since she cheated, it's playing with fire to date a cheater. No man is too handsome to be cheated on. A woman of a cheating disposition will get bored of her partner no matter how many boxes he ticks. It's not about how good her partner is; it's about whether she has a strong need for variety.

Title	Does a woman's cheating past matter if you are the Alpha at the finish line?
Author	The_White_Pawn
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Comments	54
Date	March 5, 2026 7:37 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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