The refusal to date people is more born out of a cycle of normalized false beliefs, and in nothing ‘innate’ to what one is attracted to

And that’s totally fine - long as that cycle ends with you.

Now, before I get into what any of this means, I think I’d want to explain my stance here. There is truly and literally no reason to ‘suddenly lose attraction/interest’ in a person cause they’re bi. Every reason a person has stated does apply to the people opposite to their gender only attracted to their gender (so, the gays and the straights), and is rooted in either outdated stereotypes, homophobia, some extent of hetrophobia, very outdated and misinformed ideas and so on.

Thing is… a lot of these ideas and beliefs have been internalized and frankly, people don’t want to admit that a belief of theirs is rooted in a harmful idea. Which I understand, and now we can get into the meat of this

I think, the best a person can do when it comes to having these biases is admit to them and attempt to unlearn them. To be clear this isn’t to date me or some other bi person in the future, if you still end up with someone of the same orientation as you, then truly, enjoy yourself. This is to kill an outdated shroud which to be clear I do think is dying - I do think the perception of bi people has begun to improve and more people - regardless of gender - are beginning to view bi people out of the stereotype.

The reason I bring this up is cause the most common defenses are “it’s my right”, and “I can’t control who I’m attracted to” - which yes… it is, in fact I’ll even go as far as saying you’re entirely in the right be prejudiced in your dating preferences… as long as you admit that it is a prejudice you hold. The reason for this isn’t to make you a target for shame (which I will touch on in my next paragraph), but rather, to draw an end point to a belief system - and btw this applies to literally any other prejudice based dating preference, I focus on bisexuality because I am bi and it is a hot topic here.

Now, as for the target for shame part - I do strongly believe that the people who shame others for admitting they have a prejudiced belief are wrong, and are actually acting counter productively. Unlearning something doesn’t take a day, and even then, someone may never unlearn something entirely - ending the cycle of beliefs matters far more than whether one person holds onto them, and one person admitting they have said belief at least communicates this belief is rooted entirely in personal bias.