Have you ever known a guy who was rejected, in person for being too muscular?

cxj · 2016-06-05T17:56:45+00:00

no. but, most of my friends don't hang out with or end up around muscly guys. and even if they did reject him for that, i doubt any of them would be rude enough to say so. generally, there's no reason to make him feel bad just because he isn't their type or has vastly different interests. i'm pretty sure muscly guys would mostly get rejected for a combination of things (attitude, priorities, compatibility) that involve being muscly rather than just muscle alone anyway.

buartha · 2016-06-05T18:59:53+00:00

I've seen it happen, though I can't say I personally knew the guys since even my more muscular friends are more lean and defined than beefcake. When we go out with our associated girl-group obvious gym bunnies have hit on them and I've watched them get rejected on the basis on 'not being (the girl's) type' since the girls were into guys with different physiques. It's worth noting that the girls didn't tell the guys that to their faces, they made excuses instead and explained their rationale to their friends after, so it's quite possible that guys who are muscular and are rejected because of it don't realise that that's the reason.

Don't get me wrong, I understand that being muscular probably appeals to a wider audience than being fat or unfit, so I understand why it's encouraged, but I don't think it's a good idea to promote the idea that any physique will give you a 100% success rate, or even an overwhelmingly positive one. Giving people that kind of unrealistic expectation will lead to them being disappointed with the results that they do get, even if it's an improvement.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-06-05T20:10:16+00:00

Girls who can get muscular guys aren't desperate for muscular guys and accept and reject them just like any other guys

Ekaj_B · 2016-06-05T18:42:38+00:00

I don't think I've been rejected for being muscular.

I've had people tell me that it can be intimidating (though I think this is bullshit - plenty of really attractive, tall, handsome guys get loads of female attention - wouldn't they also be intimidating using this logic?).

I do know that being shy and muscular is a curse because people judge me as an idiot when I'm just quiet. So I'd say there are negative associations that come alongside it that might put women off.

CaptainHarleyStorm · 2016-06-05T21:20:46+00:00

I wouldnt date a guy who is too muscular. If you notice that Wolverine and Captain America are exceptionally buff in their films but are toned down for the red carpet. Rarely do you see super buff men not on the tv screen. Its because most women dont find that attractive and tv shows that feautre the red carpet tend to have women as the prime audience in comparison to the superhero flicks which have men as the target audience.

You can also observe this on magazines as well. Cosmo and Glamour have muscled men but not Wolverine muscular. Mens magazines are the opposite

autoNFA · 2016-06-05T18:34:03+00:00

My sister slowly lost attraction for two of her boyfriends (and eventually broke up with them due to said lack of attraction) after they worked out and got ripped.

The funny thing is that in both cases they would show her pictures of men from fittness magazines saying that was their aim and she would say over and over again 'I find that too much/not attractive' and they would outright say that they didn't believe her.

PolishDistiller · 2016-06-05T18:16:36+00:00

Huge muscles, yes, they get rejected all the time. Being fit as fuck, where you have abs, much less likely. But here are large factors to consider.

Someone fit (man or woman) has discipline. More then likely their life is going well and they can afford a good diet and gym in both money and more importantly time. It's hard to compare when there whole life is better then the rest.
Jacked guys have higher test. When ever I shred down to 10%, I get way more attention, and only get rejected when I come on to strong on shy girls. Test helps with confidence to the point where you can over do it.
When a girl says gross, she is thinking this 0.00001% of the population. The only girls rejecting guys like this have a SMV so low they think guys like that will use them or laugh at them when they are naked.

darkmoon09 · 2016-06-05T19:09:49+00:00

A lot of girls say they only like a little bit of muscle, and that big muscles are "gross".

Stop paying attention to what girls say and pay attention what they do. Those same girls who say they "don't like muscles"? you wont see them with a skinny guy, you'll see them with big, ripped dudes. I've seen this happen time and time again. Also being ripped doesn't mean you have to look like an extreme bodybuilder, but it's definitely a good idea to have noticeable mass and some muscle definition because contrary to what many women will claim, a man's looks do matter to them.

shoup88 · 2016-06-05T21:00:38+00:00

Not that I can remember. My friends don't specify to me why they've rejected someone, and I doubt they specify it to the person. There's usually a combo of reasons behind why a guy is rejected - one physical attribute probably isn't enough on its own, short of a deformity.

I do have a male friend who lost a lot of weight and gained a lot of muscle a few years ago. My female friends and I agree that immediately after the change, his personality took a turn for the worse. He was kind of arrogant and too physical for his own strength. He's mellowed out a lot since and is the back to the awesome person we knew. That's the closest we've come to disliking a guy for his muscles.

Lonny_zone · 2016-06-06T00:37:22+00:00

When girls say big muscles are "gross" they mean absurd roided out bodybuilders, not natural builds.

DaphneDK · 2016-06-06T05:24:23+00:00

Bobybuilder types tend to have not-so-pretty girlfriends in my personal observation. Based on that alone, I'd say that it's not something which is super attractrive to most girls.

TonsilStones15 · 2016-06-05T17:53:42+00:00

Many factors determine attraction. Just because a guy is lacking in certain department doesn't mean he's undateable. I personally prefer athletic guys over muscular ones and think that anything bigger than Jaime Bell or Jean Luc Bilodeau is too much. On the other hand, if a guy had everything that i like but he just happened to be muscular I wouldn't refect him.

As for your original question, I don't remember ever being approached a a very muscular man, so no, i haven't rejected one.

civilsaint · 2016-06-05T18:09:30+00:00

If a guy is really muscular, he probably spends hours every day at the gym. Certain women are into that, but if they are looking for a good conversation after sex, that's probably not the trait they are looking for.

I wouldn't date a girl with a perfect bikini body. I have and we never meshed, even just as friends, so I'm actually biased against that.

I often see girls reject a guy for being too buff. Maybe if they're looking for a one nighter...

AdamtheFirstSinner · 2016-06-05T19:29:37+00:00

No. I have known a lot of the opposite actually; guys getting really beefcake and in turn seeing a steep increase in female attention.

I've had a female friend claim she thought a massive body builder guy at work was disgusting, but he never went for her so I can't honestly say whether she would have fucked him anyway if he had game.

Carkudo · 2016-06-05T19:37:01+00:00

I have, but he was rejected by a gay man.

Yonderlander · 2016-06-05T20:55:12+00:00

I don't think I've known anyone get rejected for any physical reason, in person. It just doesn't happen, people have tact and make excuses. Also it would be shallow to reject someone because they were muscly, even if your preference is not very muslcy, which is my preference.

[deleted] · 2016-06-05T21:05:54+00:00

Many of my friends don't like TOO much muscle. Rejected for that alone though? I dont think so.

9% body fat is usually awesome. I think around 4-6 it gets a little too much.

citizenkane66 · 2016-06-05T21:12:47+00:00

Obviously. For one thing if you just bulk up to a huge level and your face looks tiny = not attractive.

GridReXX · 2016-06-05T23:19:18+00:00

Yes. He just didn't realize we weren't interested.

[deleted] · 2016-06-06T02:21:46+00:00

Yes.

A girl I was dating (not exclusive) went on a blind date with a body builder. She claims is grossed her the fuck out and couldn't wait for the date to be over.

PollaTronante · 2016-06-06T06:35:21+00:00

I do this.

liftinginthemoment · 2016-06-06T12:05:56+00:00

I don't know any personally but I do know quite a few girls who wouldn't go for anything "too big" and by this I don't mean ripped but body-builder type. However most of the bodybuilder guys I know we really more into girls that lift and these girls generally don't. Personally I'm into really big guys but I lift myself. Since I started lifting I have gradually become more attracted to bigger guys. That skinny guy with abs who keeps appearing in the comments? Wouldn't do it for me at all. I would reject a skinny guy with abs over a bigger muscular guy with a little more body fat. My boyfriend is a pretty big guy and I do know girls who would probably think that he's "too big" but I'm not sure if they would actually reject him solely on that basis. Anyway, even pro body builders don't walk around looking freaky shredded all the time.

I feel like most girls rejecting guys on this basis would be more intimidated that they don't measure up to his standards.

LordLeesa · 2016-06-06T14:56:29+00:00

I've actually never known a guy who was rejected for being either too muscular or too skinny. I have known a few guys who were rejected for being too fat.

mustardduck · 2016-06-06T17:26:31+00:00

Not necessarily "rejected" but according to TRP, when you have huge muscles, women will flock to you, stumble over themselves, and look for a way to talk to you and grab your muscles. My wife and I went to a birthday party for one of my child's classmates. In comes a single father, who is about mid 30's, 6'2 (not sure the weight, maybe 220?) but this dude arms were huge. He was jacked.

There were approximately 15 women there, some married, some not. Not one of these women approached this guy. My eyes weren't locked on him the entire 2 hours, but it was a very small place we were at(an indoor fun jump). I talked to him a bit, nice guy(nice looking as well..no homo) but none of these women really cared that he was there.

[deleted] · 2016-06-06T18:51:37+00:00

I am 6 feet tall, 185, well under 10% body fat. You can see from my post history that I am very far from being considered "too muscular".

I think if you want to talk about Uber buff guys you're getting into the serious steroid realm and those guys have about 50+ pounds of muscle on me, same frame. VERY different physique, and not many guys get there, for obvious reasons.

BleedingAssWound · 2016-06-06T20:51:20+00:00

I've never seen a woman give physical reasons for rejecting a man. If they give a reason at all it's because the guy is a giant douche and it's taking a hint, hence he's rejected for being a giant douche.

cxj · 2016-06-05T20:49:48+00:00

Yes, he was a personal trainer who was somewhat short, like 5'7", with a handsome face, who was very nice and fun to talk to and had a social circle of UMC/rich 1% people. He did look kind of funny as big as he was tbh, I remember watching him go down a waterslide in the outdoor pool (this was a v ritsy gym), and I literally LOL'd it looked so funny. I heard multiple women tell him to his face he looked too big. Years later I saw him much less bulky but still obviously fit and he looked much better tbh.

funchy · 2016-06-05T21:24:42+00:00

I can say as a female I tend not to gravitate towards them. Maybe they're not my type? Maybe they're too busy at the gym to have time for a woman?

Right or wrong, there is also an idea passed around that really bulked up guys may be hitting steroids. Steroids are known to cause testicular atrophy -- the opposite of manliness. And then there's performance enhancing drugs which may have some negative sexual side effects. And then there's the bodybuilding obsession mindset: so focused on training that he doesn't notice the beauty of others.

Archwinger · 2016-06-05T21:32:49+00:00

I knew one. I actually knew the girl, not the guy. She had self-esteem issues and was only average-looking, and rejected him primarily because he was out of her league and she didn't trust his intentions to extend beyond sex.

[deleted] · 2016-06-05T23:04:27+00:00

Yes, I have done this several times. I'm not attracted to bulky, muscular male bodies. Says to me they spend too much time body building (and I am not a gym junkie) and I also don't find that type of body physically attractive.

Thick necks (yuk) huge thighs (yuk) veiny everywhere (yuk) look like a block in a track suit (yuk), walk like they just came off a horse because of big inner thighs (yuk) and also walk like a gorilla, because of big arms that don't let their arms lie flat against their bodies (yuk).

DivinePrince2 · 2016-06-06T10:42:53+00:00

I would. I don't believe that too much muscle is natural or healthy/ optimal. People who work out a lot have to eat a lot to survive. That just wouldn't work out if they were alone in a forest. They'd die of starvation.

PsychedelicDoc · 2016-06-06T19:20:34+00:00

ITT: Classic projection. Men are the only ones who generally care about being ripped and about the objective physical appearance of their potential partners, so they assume women like it, too. Not true. In my experience, a man's face is just as important as his body - the whole package. In a body, I want someone like me, which is a body that moves comfortably and with ease, is supple, and can perform life and sexual tasks without undue strain. A ripped guy will not do that. Plus, big guys are overwhelming to have hovering over you...ahem...during the deed. You feel trapped. Give me a thin, svelte yogi or runner or cyclist, with my favorite kind of facial hair, anyday. Yum.

LT_JOHN_RICO · 2016-06-05T18:00:46+00:00

Never. Given a choice of two men, all else being equal, she'll go with the more jacked one.

I think this is another one of those little lies people tell to make themselves and everyone around more comfortable. When a guy says he's not really into huge tits, is he really gonna turn down a chick with huge tits coming onto him? Doubt it.

BluePiller1776 · 2016-06-05T18:55:23+00:00

Yep, a bunch of times.

He was extremely muscular but couldnt hold a conversation to save his life. It was like talking to a brick. He also had a very bad lisp that caused a lot of confusion. Very nice dude but he barely closed with girls.

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OfSpock · 2016-06-05T20:49:47+00:00

All the time, since it was me doing the rejecting. It was usually early in the interaction. I prefer long lanky guys so I would generally talk to those guys and ignore/give brief answers to the others. See also: blondes.

downunderit · 2016-06-05T21:05:54+00:00

Yep plenty by me. Can't stand big muscles so not attractive to me. Actually turns me off. I like lean fit guys.

Title	Have you ever known a guy who was rejected, in person for being too muscular?
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Date	June 5, 2016 5:46 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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