What are some examples of extremely common beta behavior you see?

TheDero · 2019-12-12T23:05:37+00:00

I'm going to speak personally and say the biggest two are:

Being comfortable with mediocrity

and

Putting women on a pedestal

I've battled both of these things. It took me a very long time to view myself as a strong, dependable guy that gets shit done. I used to blame it on a lack of parental role models and financial status. And that goes back to the first point. For the longest time I moped around, working part time jobs, taking classes in a degree I didn't enjoy, and simping over girls on social media. I settled into this beta, risk-free lifestyle where I, unbeknownst to me, was setting myself up for a life of mediocrity and no pussy. All I did was make excuses for my poor decisions, and had no concept of confidence, with or without women.

Things I remember fondly that still make me internally cringe:

Liking girls pictures on Instagram, thinking they would in return message me and talk to me
Spending 10+ hours a day swiping on 4+ dating apps at a time. My pictures were absolute trash, my game was trash, etc. Absolute shitshow
Thinking I didn't need to go to the gym because some girls liked skinny guys. Seriously. I thought that was a great game plan
Taking shit from coworkers and never standing up for myself/brushing it off/finding a new job
Eating fast food 2-3 times a day
Video games 8+ hours a day while binge drinking coffee and ignoring any resemblance of a good diet
Thinking my problems would "sort themselves out because that's the way the universe works"
Texting girls 24/7, and being depressed the remainder of the day if they didn't reply.
Assuming girls weren't attracted to me and never making a move.

Feels great to type this stuff out because I realize how far I've come. Never stop improving yourself. Even on your worst days. Even if its .001%. Get better each day, never settle for what's comfortable and what's easy. Chase things that you want.

Hungboy6969420 · 2019-12-12T22:32:48+00:00

Supplicating to women, not leading, thinking they need to be friends w women first, thinking that being sexual towards women is wrong. I could go on ...

fratercicero · 2019-12-12T22:26:59+00:00

Constantly rationalizing the decision to not make a move on a girl. Putting girls before your own best interest. Etc...

strengthenics · 2019-12-13T01:36:00+00:00

Sitting in relationships with shitty women and allowing the women to take the lead/abuse them is easily the number one.

Almost every married man I know has a wife who treats him like shit and spends his money and he is basically a servant to his wife. There are some exceptions, but the majority are like this.

Some highlights: My friend, let's call him Gary. Married with a son. He adores his son and is a great father. His wife tells him he cannot have friends and has to stay at home even though she's always going out to clubs and partying. He obeys. They had another baby last year. Baby is fucking Chinese. Gary just pretend it's not obvious he's not the father. We're all too awkward to say anything because it's so fucking obvious there's no way he doesn't already know so he's obviously just decided to put up with it.

Another friend, Gary 2, similar situation but just engaged. He actually looks like an alpha. His fiance makes him have no social life even though she goes out partying and spending all his money (she doesn't work). She cheated on him but said sorry so it's OK apparently. Last week she took his laptop and all his money and disappeared. Now he sits at home wishing she'd come back. I'm trying to slowly redpill him but I can't go down the "go out and fuck sluts bro" route because he's very conservative Christian and he isn't into all that. He is on okcupid tho so that's a start. He said he's arranged for some girl to come over so he can cook for her so there's something I guess, but I'm worried the cycle will just continue and if his fiance comes back he'll take her back.

Both of these guys are great dudes and a real pleasure to hang out with. They're funny, smart, and kind. It's a real shame.

i-am-the-prize · 2019-12-13T01:01:44+00:00

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hoopingblob · 2019-12-12T22:56:43+00:00

Letting them cheat, giving them too much attention, looking at IG Thots, making statuses with some romantic shit texts, criticizing your game.

Man, I can't believe men have fallen so far...it's kinda depressing to see your kind jeopardizing themselves

boy_named_su · 2019-12-13T02:11:08+00:00

"Just gotta check w the boss", meaning wife

Heard today: "my girlfriend lives in LA". The speaker does not live anywhere near LA

KrissVectorEOC · 2019-12-13T00:59:26+00:00

Chasing women and letting themselves go once they actually get into a relationship. Not doing the same things that made them attractive to the female in the first place and giving everything up for them. Always asking them what to do, moving with them for THEIR goals and giving up their own, and life revolving around the female. It's easy to spot a relationship destined to end quickly like this. Then they don't realize why the relationship ended because they GAVE so much of their time, finances, and sacrificed so much for their significant other.

Kaz__Kaan · 2019-12-12T22:52:01+00:00

Allowing women to disrespect you

Getting rid of their "boat" after their gf/wife asks them why they still have it.

Acting like all women deserve the highest level of respect by DEFAULT.

VigilantSmartbomb · 2019-12-13T00:57:17+00:00

Accommodating her so much they try to change my behavior to accommodate her as well.

No, I'm going to do me, and you can go be her lap dog.

Truedemocracy5 · 2019-12-13T02:55:54+00:00

Apologizing for everything and self depreciating jokes are big ones

2019-12-13T07:24:45+00:00

The state of the average man is desesperating.

Even social outcasts and incels can become better than the average man within a few years of work on themselves.

What's wrong with the average male ?

-Massive consumption of mindless entertainment

-massive lack of self-discipline

-massive alcohol consumption

-fucked up diet and sleep schedule

-pedestralization of women

-no hobby other than hanging out with friends

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-12-13T05:08:30+00:00

Just some that come to mind...

With women: -Guy sets place setting, napkins, salsa/condiments/etc while woman sits at table(restaurant) -Guys body language is over invested and over excited and she is aloof -getting upset at other guy who is trying to get at his girl or getting upset at other guy if she cheats(exception is a bro of yours who knows better) -guys who refer to their wife as "their better half" and "happy wife/happy life" -orbiting women on social media -trying to angle into a womans pants by being friends and acting like he just wants to be friends -guys who seek out a girlfriend

Life/general: -guys who are skinny/weak -acceptance of mediocrity -following the herd and not thinking for yourself -not being in control of yourself/disciplined

spottedstripes · 2019-12-13T05:50:45+00:00

Sending random women, on social media, money because they post their venmo handle or ask for money on their story

4thAndLong · 2019-12-13T13:38:45+00:00

When males say, "Happy wife happy life". It's so fucking cringe.

CocoaPill · 2019-12-13T13:45:05+00:00

The dude sitting behind me at work put a picture of his girlfriend on his desk. He's 25, it's the first girl he has banged since college, and they have been dating for 6 months.

failed_singingcareer · 2019-12-13T04:31:56+00:00

Not being able to take criticism, and instead resorting to immediately defending your precious ego.

Hitlers_Gas_Bill · 2019-12-13T10:58:51+00:00

Using every possible opportunity to flex. You can bet that these people are highly insecure.

SilentlyCrimson · 2019-12-13T14:47:46+00:00

Oh dear lord I see so much of my (not so distant) past self in this thread. And even some of my current self. I must keep pushing.

Domebeers · 2019-12-12T23:33:36+00:00

I mean my dude the culture is controlled by fags and women. No shit it's producing non males.

You know that the lizard people who run society want us to hate each other, right? They want men and women to not get along. It helps them cement power. A fractured society is one that is easy to control. They are literally teaching men that approaching women is sexual harassment. That isn't an accident.

If you can, provide an example for you fellow men. It's going to be up to 'us' to save men.

pointster_VSK · 2019-12-12T22:24:27+00:00

Read the book of pook

Compeliminator · 2019-12-13T10:43:47+00:00

I'm an older guy . I used to be a beta in most regards but one thing I never did was let women tell me what I could and couldn't spend money on. I spent a lot of time at my shop working on some of my projects. I spent a lot of money on my race cars and things like that . I always made sure everything was paid for ,the house was maintained and things like that . when I was married and had this last girlfriend I always insisted they contribute to the household if they were working. In other ways I was a Super Beta like trying to chase them if they broke up with me or something like that but I never put up with women spending my money or telling me I couldn't go and do something but I guess my way wasn't necessarily correct either because they are gone LOL

its_going_down_ · 2019-12-13T00:42:13+00:00

Agreeing to everything women say

rizzyfromthe9 · 2019-12-13T02:12:01+00:00

This guy at work said he would have sex with this 7/10 Spanish chick and put a baby in her then marry her

He was telling me some red pill truths the last work party but i guess he forgot

Fulp_Piction · 2019-12-13T16:38:46+00:00

All these answers are imo talking about guys who make women run a mile, omegas I guess. A beta has value to a woman: security, stability etc. Nothing tingle inducing, but they're still valuable. Thats why the get enough boring sex to keep them on the hook.

JurJur · 2019-12-13T00:49:14+00:00

I use to prize myself in my video game skills but I lost the urge to play when i started college. Now that i've graduated and don't play video games anymore, i have come to the realization that video games are just an escape from real life for betas. Plain and simple.

TFWnoLTR · 2019-12-13T17:33:06+00:00

The most common thing I see is guys apologizing for stuff that shouldn't be apologized for. I used to do it too and have made an effort to change that, which might be why I notice it so much.

Best example is a guy a work who assigns me tasks related to my expertise. Hes newer and not my boss, but we are supposed to work together. Since hes new, a few times I have forgotten to take care of something he gave me, and he always comes to my office apologizing for piling tasks on me then bringing the incomplete ones up. I almost don't even want to do things for him because he is like that, but I refuse to be bad at my job. He shouldn't be apologizing for doing his job.

Sorry I couldn't answer the phone when you called.

Sorry I opened the door just as you were reaching for the handle.

Sorry I existed in the space near you on your blindside and you bumped into me.

Pathetic. I cringe remembering how I used to do that.

XT3M3 · 2019-12-13T21:27:26+00:00

this is a big one for me, putting anyone else happiness over your own. too many people out there setting themselves on fire to keep other warm, then they have a shocked pikachu face when thats not returned.

and because its xmas, buying a girl you aren't dating a gift just because. especially if this women hasnt done shit for you or you aren't getting anything back for it

Manny1400 · 2019-12-13T01:14:19+00:00

Beta behaviors? Real ones?

White guy marrying an Asian girl
Any dude who goes to a woman's march
Dudes who are obsessed with their pets, especially cats
Any guy who unironically calls himself a feminist, or white knights women in hopes of getting sympathy tail
Any dude who has Noam Chomsky or Howard Zinn in his book shelf is probably an epic beta faggot
Guys who work as bike messengers at age 26

smartfunction30 · 2019-12-13T01:37:26+00:00

> I still find it hard to believe how common this behavior is but i've seen it for the most part and it really is the norm. Most guys get by on contextual Alphaness initially (some lucky storm of preslection) or their looks. Then when it comes down to it their behaviour is just the most pussy drying shit imaginable and it doesnt last. Honestly. I've seen some good looking dudes, ripped as fuck and successful guys and their interactions with their girls are anything but what you'd imagine a successful man acting like.

This sounds really judgemental, like you wrote it with a lot of self hate. I understand your point, but if you were comfortable with these things in yourself you wouldn't have to make this post.

cglehosit · 2019-12-13T02:34:41+00:00

“I just feel like...”

newbie3hunna · 2019-12-13T02:19:03+00:00

Soy? How is a food beta?

2019-12-13T08:20:34+00:00

Explaining themselves a lot in regular banter. So there's this dude i know who explains everything he says or provides justifications for his actions.

still_unresolved · 2019-12-13T16:57:03+00:00

Having a female boss, being a male feminist, gynocentrist, white knight is not beta, but omega !

InnerYeet · 2019-12-14T23:42:07+00:00

When put on the spot for wrongdoing, they will become defensive and either blame others, make a ton of excuses, and/or wallow in self-pity in hopes that you will feel bad for them and reconsider any negative judgements.

There are some exceptions to this, since some “betas” are in a position of power, but for the most part an “alpha” will have enough self confidence to take responsibility for his actions, even if he is seen negatively as a result. He may even look at situation in a positive light and use it to improve how he handles similar situations in the future.

Another common one (and my absolute least favorite) is when someone tries to present themself as more masculine or intelligent than they actually are.

Examples of fake masculinity: (for normal and everyday situations) 1. When clearly uncomfortable, holding your chin higher than what is natural, back as straight as humanly possible, and arms wide or on hips. I see this one pretty often in the workplace. 2. Using a deeper voice than normal or refusing to talk. 3. Excessive boasting.

Examples of fake intelligence: 1. Using the biggest possible words in your vocabulary and overcomplicating the most trivial of subjects. 2. Intentionally not talking or talking too much.

All of these clearly show insecurity. Comment any disagreements or other examples that you can think of!

i-am-the-prize · 2019-12-16T04:56:00+00:00

It’s icon says PFEI It’s by Olson apps.

i-am-the-prize · 2019-12-16T04:56:07+00:00

It’s icon says PFEI It’s by Olson apps.

hazaraMoghul · 2019-12-17T20:37:46+00:00

Actively listening to womens BS Too much smiling infront of them Fake happiness Having a conversation with women

akod1 · 2019-12-22T18:09:06+00:00

It’s how men are conditioned, from the get go we are taught to be successful in life, be nice to women, provide for them, protect them and everything will be fine. We are told to believe that women are angels, they don’t cheat or even like sex as much as men, that they only care about how you treat them and not your looks, status, money etc..

At some point men learn the hard way. They either accept whatever role is placed on them by women to appease societal standards, and turn a blind eye to cheating or they change, learn about the real nature of women, how to deal with that etc...or lastly they check out in some form (go gay, be a hermit, go on a killing spree)..

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2019-12-13T00:43:28+00:00

Making under 6 figures and blaming everyone else but themselves

AshyBoneVR4 · 2019-12-13T08:29:11+00:00

Extremely hot chick who I know for a fact was "easy" or "got around" in high school (don't wanna say Hoe because a lot of them are close friends LOL) all settled down with bitchy push over dudes to have their kids or raise their little bastard babies. But other than that, you hit the nails on the head. There's nothing wrong with being nice or respectful to women, but when dudes take their shit, bend over backwards for them, or let them take advantage of their kindness all in the name of MAYBE getting laid, then there's a problem.

fretty555 · 2019-12-13T01:49:05+00:00

The fact that you're even here making this post means you're just as pussywhipped as "them"

Title	What are some examples of extremely common beta behavior you see?
Author	Just1515
Upvotes	225
Comments	189
Date	12 December 2019 10:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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