I used to hate the game. I used to hate that women rarely initiated with me, and it was up to me to do everything. They'll put out all the signs in the world but will never get fed up enough to go "fine, I'll just go get him myself!" It's up to me (a man) to sack up and face the possibility of rejection. I've missed countless opportunities because I was a very shy person up until my mid 20s.

I used to hate the way things worked - but now, I see what I call 'the game' and I've just come to accept it.

Women are like fisherman - they cast out their 'line' and hope something bites - They'll cast out a lot of lines, but they'll never just stick their hand in the pond and try to grab a fish, because then she'd have to deal with the failure of not catching a fish when she actively tried to get one.

Women will send out all the signs, amounting to "NOTICE ME AND MAKE A MOVE ALREADY!!". As a former introvert and semi anti-social with a fear of rejection myself, it used to drive me insane. Now I just have a good laugh over it.

Point being - don't hate the game. Exploit the living shit out of it for your own personal gain, and enjoy it.

I've got one particular example - I'm not really 'exploiting the game' here, I'm just enjoying the stupidity of female logic at play, and wondering how long it'll go on for:

I'm barely active on social media, but when I do post something, the same girl (we'll call her S) 'likes' all of it, sometimes comments, etc. I never reply or even acknowledge her. She isn't deterred from her passive-aggressive social-media 'flirting' and just keeps going. I admire her persistence.

The last time we actually spoke was around 5 months ago - where I nexted her because reasons. The way we left things, I made it extremely clear I don't need her and she's bitter as all hell about it. Not my problem. S lives within walking distance of me. She could walk to my place anytime if she wanted. She could swing by with a coffee and try to get whatever relief she needs about where we left things, but that's just not how the female mind works.

In that 5 months, she's pouted a bunch, but only tried to talk to me once - around 3 months ago, but I just gave her one word answers and make it pretty clear I have no interest in her. She's not bad looking either. She's cute as hell but a complete bitch where it counts, and I just don't need that kind of childishness in my life.

Here's her logic:

"If I like enough of his posts he'll eventually text me!" aka it's his job to do the work even though I clearly like him a lot more than he likes me. Her due diligence in this matter is to make herself available - to convey to me that she's available to me if I so choose, but she won't put her ego at risk and face a possible rejection. Her job is to put herself in a position to be the recipient of an offer (coffee, drinks, etc.) wherein she gets the luxury of choosing.

S is in no way starved for sex. Like every other cute girl in her early 20s, she's got unlimited access to dick and men falling over each other trying to get her attention.

Now I don't want anything from this. I don't even want her to text me asking to hang out or anything. I just find it funny that she hasn't. She'll stalk my social media and make it VERY clear to me that she exists, but won't ever pick up the phone and do the dirty work herself. At this point I just laugh because of the ridiculousness and about how thanks to you fine gentlemen I know exactly what's going on. 2 years ago I would have validated her cries for attention and lost all value in her eyes. Now instead, I'm the one losing a lot of respect for her due to seemingly endless desperation.

I've found this theme to be the case through my whole life. And as an introverted person who still somehow manages to generate a decent amount of female attention, I've had girls 'throwing up signs' to me my whole life. Eventually they got pissed that I didn't ask them out and they moved on to one of the other guys who had the sack to face a 'no'. It's regretful, but not a complete tragedy. It's annoying that as a man I have to do everything and she's just the passive recipient of it all, but that's life. Trying to change women's nature is a ridiculous pursuit, despite how irritating it can be.

In the past few years, I've worked a lot on myself and managed to reconnect with a few of them over sex (nostalgia is A HELL of an aphrodisiac), and unanimously every single one of them says something along the lines of "well it's about time!", and of course I'm thinking "Well if you had done what I couldn't in high school we would have fucked then instead, but I was a gigantic pussy so yeah, that's why nothing ever happened".

You ever see that movie The Notebook? (Shut up, yes you have). Remember that scene where the girl is like 'WHY DIDN'T YOU WRITE ME? I WAITED FOR 7 YEARS!'. That's exactly the kind of shit I'm talking about. She could have written him instead and probably solved everything in a week but "nah, I'll just cry a bunch and wait around forever for him to do it."

Such is the female mind.

Lessons learned:

  • Don't be afraid of rejection

  • Know how life works and use it for your personal gain and amusement.

  • Women are gigantic pussies when it comes to facing rejection

  • The guys who get laid are the ones who aren't afraid of hearing the word "No", and have heard it a shitload of times.