On finally fucking a girl after 18 years of celibacy

Zanford · 2018-08-29T00:08:42+00:00

One of the best things about sex is it helps you realize sex is not that big of a deal.

Also lol at your title...you had me thinking you were like some 36 yo incel

I’m a freshman in college

After 18 years of desperate longing and existential despair due to being sexually inexperienced

Are you a college freshman in his 30s (possible) or are you saying you've had this despite since you were born? lol

The_Phoenecian · 2018-08-28T20:59:43+00:00

Sexual chemistry is a fickle thing. All of us have hooked up with girls that should have been great matches on paper but for whatever reason the spark wasn’t there. Don’t sweat it at all, it happens. Hook ups are also a very bastardized and cheap form of sex in my opinion. Aside from a few girls that I clicked with sexually right off the bat, the best sex I’ve had in my life by far has been with longer term flings or girlfriends. It takes time to learn a person’s interests, the intricacies of their bodies. People that only have casual sex never get to that point and it’s frankly dumb in my opinion. Practically all virgin guys think sex is a way bigger deal than it actually is in practicality. Hence incels going crazy over never getting what they believe is the best thing ever, while guys that have sexual options treat it as it should be treated: fun but not a big deal. Don’t let this turn you off of future experiences, just be mindful that sexual chemistry is largely mental. The best sex you will have is with girls with whom you feel an intellectual and emotional connection to some degree. This is why you can bang an 8 and be underwhelmed by it, but bang the right 6 and think about it for weeks afterwards.

SlyGradient · 2018-08-29T02:04:21+00:00

Well your problem OP was seeking validation from external sources. Not the sex, nor the lack of companionship. You sound like you are making excuses. Until you are honest with yourself about the real problem, you won't be able to fix it.

TRP is not "a movement". We will not help you fill the void inside yourself. We are simply ancient knowledge repackaged for a modern world.

BigGreekMike · 2018-08-28T20:27:12+00:00

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Karmageddon17 · 2018-08-28T21:23:26+00:00

Tbh sex without emotion is just assisted masturbation or at least that's my experience. I realize that most redpillers wanna just smash and dash but I've always had to have an emotional bond at some level to enjoy it. Just my 2 cents

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-08-29T01:01:42+00:00

Claiming you have been celibate for 18 years - when you're 18 years old. Jesus. Who is upvoting this?

Good for you for getting laid but don't be so dramatic about it and claim things like your whole life has been a waste. Desperate longing and existential despair are things you shouldn't even be commenting on at this stage of your life because you literally haven't experienced anything yet.

ex_addict_bro · 2018-08-28T20:29:27+00:00

Such posts happen from time to time.

Pussy is like food. Nothing special unless you’re starving.

Whatever you were longing get used to it. This is a hole we all feel inside. People use god meditation magic thinki g,sex addiction things buying sports etc whatever to fill it.

My suggestion, get used to it.

Schnisi · 2018-08-28T21:31:05+00:00

People tend to overrate things which they can't have. So it's happening with sex. Nevertheless for me personally sex with a woman I know well (or is my GF) feels much more intimate and enjoyable. Doing the act with a girl I know for maybe three or four hours however feels always more like a disappointment in intimacy, passion and pleasure.

-Fidelio- · 2018-08-28T23:22:47+00:00

The first time you rode a bike, did you get to the end of the street without falling?

You can get a lot better at sex. You just need practice. There are a lot of things different than fantasy.

The best is when you're both into each other and know enough to have an idea what the other digs, but not enough that it is still exploratory. And you're both enthusiastic about fulfilling each others perversions.

Women have to be led into that of course and some are more self aware / open about it than others.

You know what's better than companionship? Companionship with good sex.

Once you get a couple under the belt, you stop sweating all the complexity, and start just having fun with it.

furcryingoutloud · 2018-08-29T04:08:16+00:00

I feel like I just walked in on a Christian bible study. WTF is this Sunday school?

Healthy relationship? I'm going to proceed to tell you youngsters why a healthy relationship can only be had with your right hand, or left, whichever one you favor when jerking off.

People lie

a. She/he is the only one for me

b. don't have eyes for anyone else

c. can't live without you

d. soulmate <-- not just a lie, a FUCKING lie

e. she's special <-- unless it's your daughter, it's a lie

f. did I mention people lie?

Now for some basic truths about life. At 18, you my friend, whoever that may be, are an idealistic idiot. You just got over the fact that Santa Claus is not real. So you're still looking for the Walt Disney version of life. There is none. It doesn't exist. And shit don't seem to be getting any better. The last marriage I saw that lasted was my grandmother's and my aunt, hell, my mother married 4 times. My father would have been content to stay married all his life, he only married once, old school red pill to the end. My aunt and uncle died one week apart after 75 years of marriage.

Let's look at my uncle. He had what many of you are probably crooning about right now. When you're done with your deep envious breaths, I'll tell you about his healthy relationship. You know what a man turns into after a few years in an LTR? A worthless, opinion-less, spineless, zero. Overshadowed by everything and anything that comes to the woman's mind. Kids, the house, family, the dog, vacation, car, weddings, barbecues and a list of shit that gains more importance than the man who spends his whole life working to provide for a family who in the end, doesn't give a fuck about him and ignores him to take pictures in front of the Christmas tree. Healthy? Yeah, I bet. Man cave? More like a play room for the little husband to invite his friends over and reminisce about how he used to kill it in high school. After working all your fucking life, you are delegated to one room in the house you paid for in full. Your little haven where you get to sit down and act like your life is perfect.

Read my post history, I am the first person here arguing about pussy not being the focal point of the Red Pill. But from that, to the Red Pill being the focus of a healthy relationship? What in the flying fuck are you talking about? The Red Pill is to make men truly independent. Bring you to a point that if that perfect little unicorn decides to leave you when you paid off the house, you don't fall apart in a bottle of vodka. A point where your life is not in the hands of a middle aged hag that can decimate you and your life's work in divorce court. Where your children can actually respect you for being a true man, and not mom's sock puppet.

The goal in life should be to accumulate unconditional love. Yeah, that's right, not love that is based on how you work your zipper or whether you got laid or sucked some pussy. Pure, unabashed, unconditional love. Is it possible from a woman? Sure. But only if you provide her with what she needs and wants, and that, is where the Red Pill comes in. This is when a person loves you and accepts you regardless of what you do or have done. Is this possible? Yes, but not in a relationship formatted in Walt Disney movies and the bible. Sex is just a tool used to keep people in line. It's used by the churches, and all religions. It's everywhere. It's bad. It's satanic, evil. I always laugh at no-fap. Have some self control you fucking idiot.

The Red Pill is about improving yourself to the point of self containment. Where you don't have to give anything up to have love. Where you don't have to sacrifice your soul to belong. Where you get to make choices. Where you have the independence that keeps your balls in your crotch and not in your wife's clutches.

Having said all this, there is nothing wrong with the man that decides to turn in his men's clubhouse card and join the ranks of the sightless, quiet, clueless men whose lifestyles we're sold like it's the last soda pop in the desert. If that is your choice then so be it. Proud to see you make your choice. But if your going to go all in on a dead bedroom, keep your mouth shut -- I don't want to hear a peep out of you -- shut up and go to work relationship, do it knowing exactly what you are giving up. This is what the Red Pill is about.

For those of you wondering what is so good about sex. Pussy can be a live fleshlight, or you can turn sex in the exploration of the whole woman. Use her to jerk off or make a hobby out of knowing what makes them tick. Foreplay. Make them cum. Learn how to make them squirt. Learn how to slowly and assuredly take that ass when others have not been able to or have had to take it by force. Instead, have her beg for it. Sex is not jerking off into a pussy. It is so much more than that, Make love to every woman you get into bed. Make her your companion for that day. Love her, hug her, spoon her. Fuck her, come on her tits, make her swallow your cum, but give her pleasure in return. Sex will become more than you ever thought it would be. Stop jerking off inside pussy.

Now go, downvote this comment, and enjoy your lives.

ebaymasochist · 2018-08-28T21:41:11+00:00

I'm gonna take a guess here.. You're 18 years old and have flirted with a lot of women but only fucked one... Either you are some kind of saint, or you have watched a lot of porn in the last 4 or five years..

I'm not judging you for that. It's pretty standard these days. And it causes a lot of problems like what you described. Cut porn out of your life and sex will be much better. Men are visual oriented about sex. You may have not penetrated before but seeing naked women is like 75% of the enjoyment, so it's like you already have all these reference experiences to judge the real thing against, which dulls the intensity.

Your brain will adjust

A_solo_tripper · 2018-08-28T22:09:23+00:00

Way to go!

And yes, companionship is good too. Hit her up if you want to kick it with her on a non-sexual level- if you want to. And see if there is something more you can build together.

Maybe you were her first too. Who knows?

Morphs_ · 2018-08-29T05:42:13+00:00

Congrats on losing your v-card. There are a couple of things to take into account which should put your experience in a more positive context, at least over time it will.

Sex can be VERY enjoyable, more so than your best masturbation sessions. But sex is a skill that you need to develop. I would strongly advice you to stop watching porn and severely reduce masturbation. Your brain will respond best to either one of those, and sex is the preferred one I assume.

Second, the chemistry differs per chick. It doesn't need to be there for sex to be fun, but it's likely only going to be a ONS then. You had huge expectations about sex, and you got some reality in your face. That's ok, but your experience isn't the complete reality either.

So go ahead and fuck more chicks, get some momentum going. Develop skill sexual practice. Learn. This stuff is hugely interesting and we are like scientists.

CainPrice · 2018-08-28T20:36:30+00:00

Don't conflate sex and love. Sex and love can go together, but they don't have to.

Sex is a need. Just like you might stop for a burger on the way home from class if you're hungry, you might arrange a hook-up that night if you're horny. Hook-ups are like the fast food of sex. It fills the need when you're horny.

Sure, the gourmet meal of true love and exquisite love-making is better than a clumsy hook-up with some college slut, but those are few and far between. Just like you eat a lot of burgers and not a lot of 200$ ribeyes.

The cool thing about sex, though, is that you get to cook your own burgers. If you didn't like something about the sex, you can fuck differently and better next time. You can try all kinds of things with hook-up partners that you'd never try with a serious girlfriend since you're not going to see these girls again most of the time anyway. This is your time to learn how to fuck, learn how girls work, learn how guys work, learn how the game works, and become the kind of guy who can navigate the real world once you're out of college.

Oliverott · 2018-08-29T01:22:54+00:00

When I was your age I fantasized about almost every woman I encountered and jerked off thinking about her, now I am double your age and when I have sex I try to remember it so I can jerk off to the thought of it later, alone in peace and enjoy it.

Sad?

That's life in a feminist dystopia.

theseeker24 · 2018-08-29T02:55:10+00:00

Why did you keep saying 18 years as if you were trying to fuck since 1 years old? Really threw me off with that idk why haha.

scissor_me_timbers00 · 2018-08-29T09:20:45+00:00

Lol ok Holden Caulfield.

For one, 18 is not that old to lose your virginity as a guy. 16-19 is pretty standard.

Secondly, you weren’t living in existential despair for your full 18 years. You weren’t suffering as a 7 year old because you weren’t getting laid. More likely you have 3-4 years of not too uncommon adolescent dry dick.

Now go wrangle some more fresh teen college puss for the rest of us too old for that scene.

2018-08-29T14:07:00+00:00

Dude, you're 18. That's hardly "18 years of celibacy", and tbh I'm totally for you sowing your wild oats. Uni is a time to experiment and learn about yourself, but just giving your virginity away to the first broad you meet won't make you feel suddenly any more special or virile; just more experienced at having sex. Hell, I hate one night stands for that reason. Sex is empty without having chemistry to go along with it, and when you actually know someone well the sex can be fairly amazing. Awkward sex with a stranger is trash, but have fun in Uni bro :)

onemanfortress · 2018-08-29T02:19:00+00:00

Lets see if i can help you. You put too much expectations and effort into it. Then of course you were disappointed. You are worshipping women because of all the indoctrination and bullshit society fed you, making you associate pussy with success, alcohol and money, just to make you a slave. Sure sex is good, but thats about it... As for companionship, i would not rely on the companionship of a woman who has no biological evolution regarding loyalty and reciprocity.

They are purely sex objects, and its due to the gradual decline in testosterone in men worldwide in the past century, that we are forgeting our true nature and therefore settling for less - not settling for less in the context of HB1-10, but doing lots of bullshit and being circus monkeys for women.

Just the fact that you are drinking to get laid, and counting the years you didnt get laid is already a pretty bad indicator of the status quo.

As for companionship you need hobbies, a team, a gang, a religion (not a religion in the sense of god), but you need something to stand that you value more than any bullshit society pushes on you, so to keep you free. Before that how can you even have those expectations? How can you expect to be loved if you dont love yourself. Kind of autistic if you ask me...

So no, women value is skyrocketed artificially through male disposability. Have we gone back to the caveman times and all of you would be pumping and dumping or just ignoring the weaker and dumber gender, because of priorities and standards, with little to no effort. And they would be sucking your dick for the taste of it. Instead all men have collectively quit, and lowered their standard, and will degenerate into whatever women demand you to be. If they expect you to be ripped dude 6 pack full time, you will even have eating disorders and injured yourself in the gym. You would say what is wrong with that right? Only the strong survive... But what if women suddenly demand that not only you have that but also you dont mind polyamory...there you go. Its all fun and games until someone loses an eye.

Never expect companionship from a woman, you evolved to obtain companionship from the tribe and the gang, the pack, woman companionship is weakness. Remember what i told you, because if you have an LTR in the future you will arrive at this conclusion. And also check MGTOW.

theseeker24 · 2018-08-29T01:33:30+00:00

Well my first time (I was 17 almost 18 years old) quite the opposite. I had the wow effect so I made her my fuck buddy for the next 2 years, she was hot and sex with her was perfect even in comparison to my recent LTRs But unlike most of the People around here, after those two years (actually earlier) I got that feeling inside me to move on and get some 'real girl' Don't know if it was a natural reaction or the family conditioning but yeah maybe you're not so much into sex or your testosterone is low or you're simply more balanced than me, but dude, I almost exploded when I done my first few weeks with her several times a day, every day, that's why I find your reaction pretty fascinating. Or the bond wasn't quite there, I knew my first girl very well so maybe that? Maybe the wrong play style? Or her smell ? Or she was to silent ? Or your body didn't like her pheromones?

monadyne · 2018-08-29T02:50:17+00:00

There is a psychological phenomenon called PCD, or "Post Coital Depression" / "Post Coital Dysphoria" where, immediately after orgasm in a sexual encounter, a person's mood plummets. "Dysphoria" is the opposite of "euphoria" which suggest what Post Coital Dysphoria must feel like. The cause of PCD is not definitively known. It may arise out of someone's personal feelings about their experience, or, considering how the act of sex involves dramatic hormonal changes and perhaps changes in the neurochemicals that regulate emotions, PCD may be a result of the disruption of normal neurochemistry.

Let's bear in mind, OP, that this was your very first sexual encounter. You have a long life of being a sexual person ahead of you. You need to have a number of sexual encounters before you can begin reasonably to draw any conclusions about the meaning of your own sexuality.

Also, OP, as an 18 year old man, you were raised in the era where each individual child was viewed as a "special snowflake" whose feelings were to be respected and protected from harm. A great deal of emphasis was placed upon your not ever being made to feel "uncomfortable." Well, if that was the case in your upbringing, it may have done a great disservice to you. Many of the rewards a man achieves in his life are gained only after having disregarded his level of comfort and/or threshold for pain. This is where phrases like, "Man up!" "Grow a pair!" and "Suck it up!" are invoked, to help someone reach within himself for inspiration toward action that discounts or even ignores entirely his own feelings of comfort or even safety. To cite an illustration: no one is actually happy to be in a foxhole, or comfortable there. But if it means enough to you to protect your family or home or culture or country from aggressors, you will choose to lie in a cold, damp foxhole time and again until the threat has been overcome.

Many times, the attainment of a goal requires putting oneself in harm's way, risking loss, risking even personal harm. It may require doing something we simply do not want to do. We know we'll feel utterly miserable, completely unhappy. This is an area where a lesser known application of IDGAF is warranted: "You know what? I Don't Give A Fuck about how I feel. My attention is on the mission, the objective. Yeah, it's gonna suck, doing what I need to in order to accomplish my goal. So what! It's gotta be done, and that's all that matters."

It's helpful to have friends cut from the same cloth in these circumstances. Rather than cheering you on, they'll bust your balls. "Don't be a little faggot! Just do it!" (whatever the noxious task is.) "Go on, man. I'll hold your tampons for ya!" You join them in laughing at your own discomfort or pain---as you disregard it and soldier on.

If you've grown up in an overly feminized family, school or culture, this mindset may be completely unfamiliar to you and seem, in fact, crazy. Your every hurt has been coddled, and you've been sympathized with through every trauma. The journey to self-discovery as a man will necessitate leaving the "my feelings matter" mindset behind. The truth is, yes, they matter... just not that much.

Sorry for this long-winded explanation, OP, but I thought perhaps these were concepts you might be unfamiliar with, and which may serve you well, since you are at an age where your adventure is just beginning. Keep having sexual encounters. If you have negative or puzzling feelings, note them, be aware of them... but don't give them any authority over you. With more experience, you'll eventually learn to know what's right for you.

thewrecker8 · 2018-08-29T03:03:12+00:00

After 18 years of desperate longing and existential despair due to being sexually inexperienced, having sex for the first time was nothing like I thought it would be. Was the girl hot? Absolutely. Was the sex good? Not really. It wasn’t as physically enjoyable as I fantasized about, and I wasn’t left feeling validated.

As others have said having sex to feel validated isn't what it's about. Often sex with a new person can feel awkward. Let alone losing your virginity. You'll find, in time, sexual chemistry is the bigger component. Also when you're more comfortable in general with a girl and the chemistry between you is good. That's when sex becomes more than assisted masturbation. You know what she likes, she knows what you like and you're both pushing all the right buttons. Like anything new there's a certain awkwardness. Take driving a car. If you've never driven one you're clumsy and unsure. Even driving something different than you're used to like a bigger vehicle. You're more cautious and nervous in certain spots. Then once your settled in and know the car everything flows. And you go from cautious and nervous to driving down the highway at 80 mph steering with your knees while your putting hot sauce on a taco while eating.

cigar1975 · 2018-08-29T06:26:41+00:00

My first time was at 17, with a girl that was very unskilled. It was messy, sticky and honestly, TERRIBLE. I went through a phase of complete existential dread, I wondered if I was gay.
I dated her for about 6 months, and we had pretty good chemistry, but the sex was just terrible. It got better, and approached something decent. I ended up moving on and was a bit of a fucking loser, and banged most of her friends and then her enemies. Sex was just a weapon, and I never cared for it much. It was just "what you had to do" Few years later I ended up falling for a girl that took my breath away, I loved everything about her. She taught me how good sex could be, she had me edging for hours.. She was my first wife.

My point, as muddy as it is, comes down to just enjoy the rest of your teens and twenties, but keep your eyes open, you will most likely find someone you adore. I sure hope you do!

toolate4redpill · 2018-08-29T10:22:33+00:00

You just described every guy's first sex encounter. That's IT?

WiseBeardy · 2018-08-28T21:17:59+00:00

Welcome to drunk one night stands!

BobSagetV2 · 2018-08-28T21:58:22+00:00

I'm in the same boat. My right hand can do better than most women, but that feeling of validation, importance, and companionship is what (most) men are really after. TRP preaches minimizing the impact of these (i.e. stoicism) in order to live a more fulfilling life, but everyone needs it sometimes.

RedPlanetMan · 2018-08-29T01:48:59+00:00

That realization, at the very end, don't lose sight of it.

theseeker24 · 2018-08-29T03:42:15+00:00

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2018-08-29T04:30:02+00:00

why feel self conscious? its normal to lose your virginity at 18.

people who have sex younger than 16 is not healthy. yes cavemen had sex at young ages but that never means it was healthy.

Guardian_of_Justice · 2018-08-29T06:50:59+00:00

Dude u had sex at 18 this is NORMAL i had mine at 19 with a prostitute. A lot of people think 18 is too late by looking at successful peers have sex at 14-16. In reality there are some hot girls and boys who had sex after 18. So, don't beat yourself too hard about it i guess. Don't compare your apples to someones pineapples.

februaryrich · 2018-08-29T06:57:46+00:00

Same boat here man. I was okay-looking then became sort of good-looking enough to get women’s attention. Enough to get ONS every now and then but I realized I don’t even enjoy the sex. Worse part is the clarity after you cum

52andjacked · 2018-08-29T08:13:00+00:00

I was that way. I did the girlfriend thing first in high school and college so I kind of got spoiled with the whole intimacy thing. For me, once I got a taste of intimate sex, a ONS wasn't fulfilling for anything but padding my ego. Where I made my mistake was fucking my way into finding my unicorn at age 32. By this time I had hard and fast rules about what I considered acceptable for a long term relationship. One of those things was that I didn't want a woman who slept around or went to clubs on any kind of regular basis. Call me hypocritical if you wish but that was a line I would not cross. No way. No how. I didn't care how good she looked , how good she was in bed, or if she was "reformed". Problem was after sleeping with 60 plus and messing around with a dozen others I couldn't offer the same package that I demanded. I got lucky and found my unicorn who ended up grilling me on MY past. Lol. She got over it but my point if that even though I had the numbers of a player I really wasn't a player at heart. I just wanted companionship with someone I loved, respected and trusted. Keep in mind when I met my wife in 1998, internet dating was in its infancy so I had to old school it with women. If I were a young person today I would go on a respectable dating website, hunt for my unicorn, and bring to the table myself what I expected in my future wife. Instead, I tried to be something that I wasn't.

Xexitar · 2018-08-29T08:13:13+00:00

"18 years of celibacy" doesn't count if you're 18 years old bro. That's not how celibacy works.

2018-08-29T08:54:32+00:00

Men rarely feel happy after sex.

I firmly believe in the benefits of semen retention. Sure, it might be a placebo, but it damn well works for me.

I don't masturbate, and I try not to ejaculate more than once a week when I get laid. That provides a good balance for me personally

HierEncore · 2018-08-29T09:51:37+00:00

This means you are a healthy and wholesome male specimen. What kind of human male would be driven to spread his seed without the assurance that he will be around to raise and guide his offspring? A lousy one... One with no pride and no self respect... Even chickens and ducks are naturally compelled to stick around after insemination

MattyAnon · 2018-08-29T11:44:13+00:00

Maybe it wasn’t sex I was longing for, but companionship

You've identified the problem right there. Sex won't feel good while you're trying to use it to fix other problems in your life.

OP - don't make the mistake of concluding you need a LTR or "female love" or some other disney myth.

And by the way OP... if you're just starting college now you're likely 18, so this doesn't really count as "18 years of celibacy". You can't start counting your celibacy from birth and then claim you're a reformed incel.

Original_Dankster · 2018-08-29T12:10:14+00:00

"After 18 years of desperate longing and existential despair due to being sexually inexperienced..."

and...

"Fast forward to the present day, and I’m a freshman in college."

What sort of fucking perverted infancy and childhood did you have, filled with "existential despair" and "desperate longing" for sex?

Cut the melodrama. You didn't get laid in high school. Big fucking deal.

"Was the sex good? Not really."

Wasn't that good your first time? Well duh. You suck at fucking. Probably because you have no prior experience. Keep practicing you'll get better.

"Maybe it wasn’t sex I was longing for, but companionship."

This post belongs in asktrp, not the main sub. You're posing a question here. As a FR it contributes nothing to our community.

redditrat99 · 2018-08-29T12:14:51+00:00

The redpill can turn into a cesspool of broness sometimes, but it's things like this that make me realize there are still some decent people out there. I have had a couple of one night stands, a few FWB situations, and then relationships, both short and long. While everyone is different, for me, I felt bored and empty during the one night stands. The friends with benefits was more fun, but I only if me and the girl hung out before/after and were actually "friends" not just horny associates. The short relationships were okay, but I always felt dirty afterward and that sex was just what we did. For me, the best sex came in my long term relationships. I also don't mean "best" as it, swinging form the roof, tied hands, screaming orgasms, etc. Those actually came from FWB situations. What I mean is that I felt the happiest, most fulfilled, and not-empty or disgusted during and after sex. It felt good to lay with them and talk about what we wanted to do the next day, planning for the future, cracking jokes, etc.

It's the difference between "fucking" "having sex" and "Making love". Guys and women today will role their eyes at the last one and yes, they are all mechanically the same, but there are differences in how you feel about it. I fucked my one night stands and fwb, I had sex in my fwb and short term relationships, and I made love in my long term relationships.

So, it sounds like you want a companion that you can make love to. And to that, I say - good luck. So many women today don't want that, at least not until they are old and worn out. The priorities of the masses have swayed from devotion and consistency to immediate satisfaction and women are the most easily influenced. So, long story short, I know what you are looking for, and I feel sympathy for you as you are starting your search in this day and age.

RightNeedsMight · 2018-08-29T12:18:32+00:00

Red pill isn't a cherry popping contest. Nor is it a bedpost notch game. Sly gradient was dead on. Red pill is about being your best self and being truly happy with the result of your constant work.

If you are unsatisfied with drunk ho sex, you should try having sex with a sober ho, or maybe a nice lady who will like you a lot and not ho it up behind your back.

The idea is to be an actual man, and not just a man only by comparison to some other set of men.

Congrats on the hb8, but I'm sure you are headed for greater things.

2018-08-29T12:48:28+00:00

That's the truth, man-- to be honest, it's pretty rare that one-night stands are going to be incredible sex (though there are exceptions). Knowing someone, what they like and vice versa really helps. Enjoying their company helps even more.

Another thing-- don't beat yourself up about "eighteen years of celibacy". If I'm reading your post correctly, you're currently eighteen years old, and I really don't think that's a particularly late time to start your sexual journey.

jazztaprazzta · 2018-08-29T13:02:59+00:00

It wasn’t as physically enjoyable as I fantasized about, and I wasn’t left feeling validated. I was left feeling empty. Almost as if the entire interaction was some perversion of intimacy. Maybe it wasn’t sex I was longing for, but companionship.

Exactly my thoughts after I tried to dig in the promiscuous life-style. I don't know if there's something wrong with me (low T levels probably?), but I am not enjoying the hook-up culture one bit.

gorebwn · 2018-08-29T13:05:35+00:00

The game is 100x more exciting than the sex

volvostupidshit · 2018-08-29T13:12:27+00:00

Watch out for chicks with Borderlines, OP. They unconsciously prey on guys that are desperate of getting laid. One thing to note from them is their oversharing of info like how they got molested before on the first date. Don't over commit.

s29 · 2018-08-29T13:51:11+00:00

This more or less happened to me as well.

Had sex later than most. It was meh for me. Now I'm much more interested in improving myself. Women bore me for the most part now.
Guess I need to find higher value women because so far I haven't been all that interested in what they have to offer.

-uftw- · 2018-08-29T14:42:16+00:00

Dude, if you've been jerking off like mad for years it's no surprise that this new kind of physical interaction on your dick is not going to feel great at first.

Trust me it gets better, just keep practicing. You're at the start of a very long & pleasurable journey. Over time you'll also discover a lot of stuff about yourself, likes & dislikes, etc... trust me some shit feels great, but I'll let you find out what it is for you.

BTW sex is also mentally very satisfying, knowing you "conquered" that new hot chick and you can permanently write her name on your all time list. That's the hunter in you manifesting itself.

jonpe87 · 2018-08-29T01:35:24+00:00

" I wasn’t left feeling validated."

Here you go, you don't want companionship, what you want is the feeling of being desired. This is the big difference between men and boys, Alpha/Beta, Strong frame and weak Frame whatever you want, and the funny fact is once you get rid of it you become a pussy magnetic. EDIT: I know you will ask how do you get rid of it, have a purpose greater than women.

OilyB · 2018-08-29T09:28:26+00:00

Repetition is what does the trick, OP. Talk to you again after banging 5-10 times. Your body will amazingly tune into the mind-body connection and you'll have conditioned it to seek your form of satisfaction.

Secondly - as I taught my 15yo boy. The skeleton/gist of good, wholesome sex is comparable to a long ass hug from someone you like, trust and know. All the rest is dressing. Good dressing, but dressing.

So don't give up. Look for an agreeable, sweet, slutty, willing candidate/plate to spin and it'll all work out.

And last, do not fall in love only because she fucks you good! Good dressing does not equate a good salad!

Edit - good wholesome

That_Deaf_Guy · 2018-08-28T21:48:55+00:00

See "The God Hole" post - should be somewhere near yours, as it was posted minutes after yours was.

Nergaal · 2018-08-29T03:43:16+00:00

You have been celibate right after coming out fo your mom's vagina? Try to be less dramatic pls.

look_good · 2018-08-29T03:52:15+00:00

lol, you realized a vagina is nothing but a wet hole. congrats on the sex, continually strive to be better

ricoue · 2018-08-29T05:40:16+00:00

I had a similiar experience. I got my dick sucked in college after I lost weight and it felt so... meaningless.

2018-08-29T05:44:24+00:00

Don't let it spook you. It gets better. First bang is almost never magical. You realize confetti doesn't shoot out of your dick and her pussy isn't made of cheesecake factory cheesecake. It's an alien-looking rod ramming into a gaping hole until it barfs into a condom. You got your foot in the door, which is important; build from there. It will get better and it will have meaning. Now you know what you're actually looking for.

Spets87 · 2018-08-29T07:20:15+00:00

What is this shit 18 years of celibacy? You're barely an adult, now go lift.

_Last_Man_Standing_ · 2018-08-29T07:26:00+00:00

I know dude... I felt exactly like that when I lost my virginity... but it get's better with experience... ;)

ps.
next week I'm going back to college after 6 years... :)
can't wait for the college girls....

DevilMayCry · 2018-08-29T09:30:53+00:00

That’s because sex ain’t shit. We put sex on a pedestal but in reality there are many things in life that are more fulfilling. When you reach a point in your life when you can have sex anytime you want you will realize that it’s not a priority for you anymore and you will be able to focus your energy on more productive activities.

U-94 · 2018-08-29T10:23:25+00:00

Did you faintly hear the devil laughing after you finished? /Schopenhauer

PleasantlyObnoxious · 2018-08-29T10:28:34+00:00

Are you serious? “18 years of celibacy”... must have been so hard to go without sex for those 10 years when you in elementary school. And that one year when you couldn’t even stand on your own must have been real hell.

SteveStJohn · 2018-08-29T10:29:00+00:00

Everything you felt is valid. You are one step closer to fulfillment. There are many steps, and TRP can help you avoid the pitfalls.

WhatRemainsAfter · 2018-08-29T10:54:29+00:00

There is a reason why fucking is brutal.

2018-08-29T11:17:13+00:00

Yeah, I heard a statistic that more and more young people are turning to porn.

The outcome is that it is more difficult to separate the show form the real thing. I'm not saying this guy fits the statistic, but when it comes to the real thing porn isn't helping. The thing about feeling like it was a preversion of intimacy got me to thinking about one or two things that might be the cause for that.

Sex through the eyes of the directer is just that. A pervered view of the real thing, staring mostly actors.

Hey bud, you should be glad that you are living in a day and age where young women are smashing like that more frequently.

All and all. Congrats on your first smash!

Always come with two or three condoms (never know when it will turn out to be a two fer) and no matter what... Do not hit it without a sock on the pickle. Not everything is fixed with a 💊.

potatorockstar · 2018-08-30T22:52:30+00:00

well its always empty it was not the specific girl or day. find peace in solitude to find peace with women. women can merely support you walking yuor own path, if you find a decent one.

JohnIan101 · 2018-09-01T03:38:56+00:00

Maybe it wasn’t sex I was longing for, but companionship.

As we get older, this becomes a greater truth. Sex, absolutely - but less dominate as we age closer to the grave. Good companionship takes its place.

And if you're fortunate, a good woman or women; life is pleasurable thing, amidst so much BS and immobile griefs.

It's a good thing you're learning this now. Seek out the ladies for your bed, but seek out the greater ones for companionship.

randomperson123321 · 2018-08-28T23:21:03+00:00

Sex with a partner you're not "in love" with, is as good as when eating food you despise.
Starvation is the point of doing so. The difference however, is that with food you will eat it when in times of need, while with sex you can masturbate instead, unless physically unable to.

AtlasGhost · 2018-08-28T21:02:17+00:00

That is what I call a black pill. You earned my respect, I think most of us feel like that, including females and so on. At the end is about not dying alone

doctorcoolpop · 2018-08-29T03:17:09+00:00

Not ‘deduct,’ deduced. Because of your spelling errors, you will never enjoy sex

UnluckyPenguin · 2018-08-28T22:10:17+00:00

I wasn’t left feeling validated. I was left feeling empty.

As someone that's in the top 20% # of partners and now married, you crave both one-off/exciting/hot-and-steamy sex as well as intimate/comfortable/regular sex with different women. Basically, if you want a specific girl, you should go for her or you'll always ask yourself "what if?".

Your first time should be with someone who is also having their first time. Frankly as an alpha, you should be the first guy for your first several partners. You'll always remember it. You don't have to plan on marrying the girls, but at least get along with them so you can narrow down what LTR-material looks like.

No 1 relationship can maintain an 'over-the-top exciting' sex life like choking, being tied up, put in handcuffs, and spanked. It's fun and everyone should experience it just like they should experience all the different races the world has to offer.

You should be able to look at other hot girls and say, "Been there, done that." I don't miss my childhood, and I hope my 2 kids enjoy their younger years like I did.

enkae7317 · 2018-08-28T23:45:28+00:00

Lol nah bro. Sex is fucking dope. It's not the entire world though. But still fucking great. It was just ur first time dont even stress, once yuo get good you'll be addicted to that shit.

In a good way. Like hunger, not thirst.

Ga5zilla · 2018-08-29T01:27:18+00:00

Maybe you just watch too much porn

benelijah · 2018-08-29T02:58:05+00:00

Dude! Don't stress it. I also lost my virginity a little late after a few years of looking from "the outside in," meaning watching porn.

No, the first time wasn't enjoyable and wasn't at all like I thought it would be. I also had doubts similar to you. The second time was better. I quit watching porn, and fast forward a couple of more times and the sex was mind blowing.

I'd also advise you masturbate less. If you do masturbate, use a condom, lube, and a soft grip. The death grip leads to the death of enjoyment in your sex life.

dsldragon · 2018-08-29T03:16:57+00:00

you prolly got the herps too

zeuD13 · 2018-08-29T03:36:24+00:00

So is seeking companionship considered bluepill ? I'm confused.

victor_knight · 2018-08-29T04:07:01+00:00

To top it off, she wasn't the virgin (or you would have mentioned it); you were. By the way, sex can be awesome.

Yourstruly777 · 2018-08-29T04:27:58+00:00

When you drink wine for the first time, you dont taste it, you don’t particularly enjoy it. Sex is the same, the first time you just hope you won’t mess it up; you don’t really taste it, you won’t really feel it.

2018-08-29T08:45:53+00:00

You can’t really call it 18 years of celibacy if you’ve just gone to college at presumably 18.

2018-08-29T09:26:39+00:00

I expected that post to last only 5 seconds.

careofKnives · 2018-08-29T11:38:19+00:00

Even if your best friend was an extremely hot woman and she suddenly wanted to have a relationship it would still not be what you’re fantasizing about. You’d still have to deal with an emotional annoying other person all the time. Do you not have friends? Are they not your companions? I’ve had LTR’s thinking I want companionship exactly like you. I was wrong. I would not wish a girlfriend on my worst enemy tbh. Let alone marriage, oh god the divorce rates and settlements, why people continue doing this despite atrocious well known statistics is beyond me. You fucked, it was quick and easy, that is the optimal scenario.

alpha_bravado · 2018-08-29T17:34:59+00:00

I just wanna see the clip, it sounds funny and interesting

Raknith · 2018-08-31T03:59:49+00:00

Opposite of me, I used to be great with girls and now I haven't had sex in 2 years. Somehow completely lost the ability to talk/flirt with girls, it's basically embarrassing at this point

Putins_Orange_Cock · 2018-08-31T09:25:24+00:00

I think this is over thought and that you’re forcing “Judeao-Christian” morality, for lack of a better term, into a concept that it doesn’t apply to.

You either pass your genes on or you don’t. In the process of passing them on you are either made miserable by the manipulation women can apply to your life or you have the self control and self mastery nescesarry to enjoy women and a family to the best ability.

I don’t think a life is richer if you eschew the pleasures of women and/or a family in pursuit of some “noble” ambition. I can’t believe the celibate hermit leads and more happy life.

I think Newton would have been happier with romantic love. Nietzsche was plagued by unrequited love and I think Zarathustra would have preferred a happy life with a woman and child.

More importantly, the “noble pursuit” and romantic/sexual pursuits aren’t mutually exclusive.

I also think you may be rationalizing MGTOW, which with rare exception, is a miserable existence.

KnightestKnightPeter · 2018-08-31T16:46:17+00:00

You were longing for your mother to hug you? What are you trying to say with this post? TLDR the message beneath the prose for us curious laymen.

HurricaneHugues · 2018-09-01T22:19:52+00:00

After 18 years of celibacy? Dude you ARE 18-19!! Wtf?

Diddlydangerous · 2018-09-02T00:48:25+00:00

Get the Sex God Method by Daniel Rose immediately and treat it like every word is absolutely true and applies. Almost memorize it and resolve to apply it.

2018-09-03T05:08:41+00:00

So you wanted sex when you were <10? 😮

that_arab_dude · 2018-09-24T03:15:59+00:00

It's because you're inexperienced and don't know what you're doing yet.

theseeker24 · 2018-08-28T22:19:22+00:00

Holy fuck!! Haha i thought a year was a long time. God damned bro.. good luck. Lift some thing heavy

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Title	On finally fucking a girl after 18 years of celibacy
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Date	August 28, 2018 8:25 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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