This is a weird post, and honestly it's done a bit tongue in cheek. But legitimately, sometimes I get a bit anxious about the fact that my LTR is going so well. It feels like it's wrong. RP has taught me that shit will hit the fan eventually.
My girlfriend just never, ever, creates drama. She never complains about anything, she's never upset, or moody, or "too tired". We have argued once, and it wasn't rly an argument, I just scolded her over some dumb shit.
She casually gave me her phone password maybe a month after we met. Never changed it. I use her phone for a lot of stuff since mine is shit, she's got notifications on home screen and doesn't use snapchat. She has my face plastered on all her social media. She tells me how she loves me so much every day, compliments me. She proudly introduced me to all of her family, I'm talking 40 people. Her childhood friends. And always brings up, "I have X friend, she rly wants to meet you".
I try to fuck with her sometimes, use some very subtle dread. But she doesn't bite. That's the weird part, she's got a super solid frame, she trusts me so much I can't hurt her without going nuclear. She never shit tests. And when she gives me a comfort test, I can't do anything but give her the answer she needs, because she deserves it.
It's pretty cool, but RP doesn't actually address this situation so much. I know I'm supposed to keep doing whatever I'm doing, but according to RP, it'll go wrong at some point anyway.
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Make a point if you can.
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Why? If he doesn't fuck it up he'll be stuck with the same vagina until he dies. That's an abhorrent prospect.
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Sure, but it seems counter to the fundamental philosophy to TRP.
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Maybe I'm not being specific or clear enough. So in the sense that men in our society (women too) are taught many misconceptions about romance, sex, dating, attraction, etc. and then come here and figure out that they need to unlearn a bunch of stuff because the practical applications of these misconceptions are generally proven to be bullshit. I just feel that the expectation and desire to find a woman to settle down with for the rest of your life and to be faithful to is another one of those misconceptions.
If you desire a wife, I hypothesize that means you are not emotionally self reliant and that you believe, at least on some level, that you need to have a woman filling that role in your life to achieve the level of contentment/fulfillment you're striving towards.
I think you should enjoy women exactly as much as you want. Because it's almost completely about sex. And when you reach the age where that's not longer a priority, don't continue to participate in intimate relationships with women anymore. As they haven't much to offer you if you don't wanna fuck all the time anymore.
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Yes. I conceded in another post that it's important to raise children with both parents present and in an as emotionally healthy environment as possible.
I'm not actually against marriage, per se. But plan on divorcing someday. Maybe plan isn't the best word. Expect. Expect to get divorced one day and I, personally, recommend having a little fun on the side occasionally. And it's very important to always be extremely careful not to EVER get caught. In my experience it's helped me with resentment from feeling stuck with someone. And a sexy little freak on the side who loves to be choked, have her hair pulled, and calls you daddy; every few months or whatever, can go a long fucking way to mitigate feelings of being trapped and sexually bored.
You get bored of fucking your girl after a while, but spending a weekend or an all-nighter just mercilessly smashing a sexy freak will even make your girl at home seem new (a little bit) the next time you push up in it.
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You're putting women on a pedestal they don't belong on.
Men do. As long as they're attractive. I know you've been mentally beaten into submission by society but that doesn't mean it's right.
Ugh. You're what's wrong with men. You think you need a woman there all the time to make you happy.
I find your mentality literally repulsive.
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You're brainwashed by society. You think you need a woman to be truly happy. That sucks and it means you don't love yourself enough.
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How old is the relationship? Are you sure she's really what you've written or is it a projection onto reality. It kinda sounded like she's becoming oneitis. Just relax and enjoy the moment man.
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When you do feel down, and you will, don't rely on her or expose your concerns to her. I as well as many acquaintances have lost a precious partner by thinking "If I supported her for all this time, she can support me for this one time".
Make sure you still have a black corner in your head that she doesn't know, a separate hobby, something that she is not allowed in.
Don't loose outcome independence, you can always walk out and it wouldn't affect you the least.
You have been a year with her, the old saying says "before 3 years, it's a romantic comedy". So brace for impact in two years !
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You find the notion of getting married desirable? You see it as an end-goal of sorts?
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That is not a significant reason. Men have many naturally bluepill tendencies, that doesn't mean they're good ideas.
Cmon, you didn't think of that first?
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Honestly, if a guy really wants kids, I think a long term, BUT TEMPORARY, marriage is a fine idea. I think children should be raised by both parents and in as psychologically-healthy an atmosphere as possible.
There're just so many reasons not to try to keep it going forever. One reason I haven't mentioned in this thread is that at a certain age, you lose your libido to the point that having a woman around becomes much less practical. You wanna fuck them, and that's what they're best used for. Anything else would be better accomplished with male buddies.
But once you no longer want that, what then? I understand the notion of companionship but is it good to have companionship all day everyday? At that point your wife becomes your mother in all intents and purposes. You don't fuck her but she helps you get things done and looks after you.
I don't find that desirable and I'm trying to figure out if it's because there's something wrong with me, there's something wrong with people who feel that way, or if neither are as significant as they seem to me and it just really is a preference thing.
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Ok. I think I haven't stated my opinions clear enough and that's my fault.
My views are very nuanced as I try extremely hard to ignore the conditioning I've experienced throughout my life as well as the impulses I feel due to my ego. I know I can likely never rid myself of them completely but here goes:
So this seems like a really weak point. Maybe you felt the need to supplement the other points you've made but this is a very empty concept. It's worth keeping somebody around you at all times, sharing a bathroom, sharing a bed, and agreeing to not fuck any other women just so the chores get done? That doesn't make any sense to me and, in and of itself, seems to be indicative that your position is weak.
Ahh. You truly got me here. I think extended family is awesome. Mine was as a kid. I loved it. Loved seeing my cousins, my favorite aunts and uncles (there are many), etc.
But if you seen enough of my posts you'll know that I concede that if you wanna have kids, you SHOULD definitely be married. I believe that's the best environment for children to be raised in. That doesn't mean you should stay married forever, in my opinion of course.
This part I don't agree with. Aside from sex, everything in that vein would be much better supplied by a male friend. Also, why does your companion need to be a woman that spends their life right fucking next to you?
I understand that this is all very subjective. I wouldn't deign to try to tell you what makes you happy.
But I hypothesize that there are many men, like you, who have learned to appreciate all the other peripheral shit that comes along with finding a sexual partner. Men wanna fuck. So we get into relationships with women because that means we have a semi-permanent option for sex most of the time.
I think men like the idea that they don't have to go out, approach women, put their emotions on the line... They like that they don't have to figure out what to wear or put effort into shaving well or making sure you look as good as possible in the hopes of attracting a woman. So when they find one, they learn to love all the aspects of being in a relationship because it takes the pressure off them. They don't have to hunt now, they have the meat at home. And they become complacent.
And if you take the hypothetical guy out of my example and sit him down in front of you he'll tell you, "Sure, I love my wife. I love being in a relationship. It's not all about sex, we enjoy each other's company." I just think that most of the time men come to this conclusion because they've become accustomed to the peripheral circumstances of the actual, desired circumstance - which is to have sex whenever you want it.
It's a very powerful drive and men will endure much to obtain and retain it. Even convincing themselves that they actually enjoy having the same person, right there in your face, forever.
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How old are you?
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