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[–]sadpourtoujoursFDS Disciple289 points290 points291 points 6 years ago (28 children) | Copy Link
Passionate, “vanilla” sex is THE fucking SHIT! When you both are respecting each other’s bodies, focusing on mutual pleasure, making out passionately while fucking, in tune with one another, etc. There is nothing better than that!
[–]ny-ladyFDS Apprentice109 points110 points111 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Porn stick guy I know of... thinks making out and foreplay is for teenagers. His words, "thats what teeangers do". No, that was makes it hot and gets a women going.
Making out/foreplay can be hotter than sex but they are so lost in porn they have no idea.
[–]grimreapersdtrFDS Disciple38 points39 points40 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My long time porn addicted ex called foreplay “B movie groping”. 😖
[–]ny-ladyFDS Apprentice8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Its sad they think that way...
Im glad Ive never dated the guy above! LOL Hes an acquaintance friend.
[–]TullyPrideFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would have said "that's what men who aren't bad in bed do"
[–]Lost-CommitteeFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well... his girlfriend is not getting off. Good to know lol
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH59 points60 points61 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love vanilla sex with a giving partner. That point where you’re both just so into the pleasure of it and not into some kink that you can even climax together, is just the best. Had a lover who was into all this kinky stuff like hurting me and it was so gross. The guy I sleep with sometimes now is so old school and just does it for me. The kissing and the way he moves, no weird shit to make him cum. In fact he gets there a little too fast, but he always makes sure I get mine. Call me old fashioned, but it works for me.
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist99 points100 points101 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Amen! I miss it, but I don't miss men enough to even try haha
[–]FitncurlyFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂
[–]FitncurlyFDS Newbie64 points65 points66 points 6 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
YESSS! I never understood everyone’s obsession with tryin to out-kink each other. Just focus on love, connection and awesome sex and it will INDEED be awesome 😎.
[–][deleted] 40 points41 points42 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
They think being "kinky" is a substitute for having a personality.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good one.
[–]FitncurlyFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Sad stuff
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not as sad as the number of potbellied, balding misogynists who think a Utilikilt and a cheap leather vest are the height of fashion.
[–]FitncurlyFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I grimaced.
[–]noavocadoshereFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
at this point, what isn't a substitute for having a personality for them? anything to pretend they aren't blander than a bowl of unseasoned grits.
[–]greatmanatee2FDS Newbie39 points40 points41 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah they make sex sooo un-fun. They take the stuff too seriously, like it's a competition or some shit instead of go with the flow. Yet we are the "uptight" ones.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I used to "be into it"when 50 shades of grey and porn was my only exposure to sex education or experience because all the other little pornsick bois (I lost my virginity at 14 and had sex with the other high schoolers when I was in high school) would go that route- guys when I was 17-21 who liked to "tie me up and spank me"and do rough stuff like THERE WILL BE NO FACE FUCKING FOR ME. My face is to be treated with respect and delicate care. That's what makes me feel safe and sexy and open and sensual-when I feel respected and truly cared for which does not involve simulated abuse. But that's all that was "available to me"back then... I didn't know any better and I thought I needed the rough stuff to get off because I guess it was the closest thing to intimacy I'd ever experienced at that point. I was feeling very unloved/unlovable until about 25 yo 😢. I remember when a really nice guy I dated would have me over or take me on dates. I would just sit there and cry wanting to be held and cried a lot. It was really hard to let love in because I didn't trust anyone.
[–]Snowmist92FDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
As someone with some weird kinks, I'll take THIS over any kink ever.
[–]FutileDeathStar27 points28 points29 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same I have weird kinks but I am PERFECTLY happy without them ever being fulfilled in real life. In fact, I actually think some of my kinks I'd rather not have fulfilled... I'm happy to just masturbate about it. Good sex and good chemistry where I actually have orgasms are far better than trying out shit that might be awkward and not work out as well. Plus, why fix something that isn't broken? I know how to get myself off best, let's stick with that.
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[–]Unlikely-MarzipanFDS Disciple13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Agreed! But it’s so hard to find a guy that likes to just kiss, just because. Usually it’s to lead to sex, and even then the kisses are so sterile.
[–]noavocadoshereFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
my ex was like this. we'd kiss and he would automatically try to jam his tongue in my mouth 🙄 he didn't need an atmosphere, candles or foreplay because to him, it was just sex to get him off. kissing is sensational when it's done with someone who enjoy it and wants you to enjoy it too. it's cliche but a great lover will really have you ready to swoon and fireworks going off from just a kiss.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I love kissing but would rather not kiss at all ever if a) he’s a slobbery kisser and/or jams his tongue in my mouth and/or b) he has a strong odor from his mouth. Sometimes they have some kind of digestive insufficiency and no amount of oral hygiene is going to rid that smell. I just can’t kiss someone who has bad breath. It’s hard for me to tell them too, so I just sort of back away from it. I had one bf who consistently tasted like some kind of grassy spirulina powder. Like chewed up hay from a horse’s mouth. I have no idea to this day why he tasted like that. He was a great kisser too, such a shame.
[–]noavocadoshereFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
i completely understand this! for me, it's rough/forceful kissing, slobbery kisses or body odor (although i'm not a fan of bad breath either 🤢). i have no idea if it was his natural scent, but one bf consistently smelled like milk and i was so puzzled as to why--he smoked cigs like another man i saw but the other man didn't smell like that. otherwise he seemed fine hygiene wise, his diet was moderate and he worked out fairly often. milk man wasn't much of a good kisser and we found out we had negative chemistry when together, so it wasn't a loss at all.
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanFDS Disciple14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes! Holy shit it’s been a long fucking time since I’ve experienced this. Before porn induced ED and sex on a woman came into play with high speed Internet. The making out, dry humping can’t wait to tear each other’s clothes off but enjoying the build up. I miss this! This even used to exist with more casual encounters. Now... we’ll we all know what it’s like now 🙄
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I so miss sex pre-internet porn. Something has happened to most men these days. The magic of sex is just gone and it’s just about fulfilling some crap they saw on pornhub. It truly has poisoned them. To think humans went for thousands of years without porn and still enjoyed the hell out of sex, and now some guys can’t go a day without beating it to weirder and weirder shit. Ruined. :(
[–][deleted] 137 points138 points139 points 6 years ago (39 children) | Copy Link
My porn watching ex liked porn and was annoyed I mostly liked missionary sex the most. Idk if he was an addict but he wanted me to do stuff I didn’t like and I honestly just like plain vanilla missionary sex. I don’t want to do a split on a guys dick as he chokes me. I hate all of that.
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist87 points88 points89 points 6 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
My stupid ex wanting me to do squats on his dick. Why tf would I do that?😂
[–]throwawayz187yFDS Newbie126 points127 points128 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Men don’t realize that’s a whole ass leg workout. All that for their tiny dick to slip out every 5 seconds. Nah, sis.
[–]Dirty_Commie_JesusFDS Newbie70 points71 points72 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I have pegged a guy before and after I did I was so mad that men make it seem so exhausting. Thrusting is so much easier than hopping up and down like a frog like we have to when on top. Plus their big fat dad bodies getting in the way of our knees and bellies blocking clit access.
[–]grimreapersdtrFDS Disciple23 points24 points25 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You just gave me flashbacks... 🤢
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes. So true.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
(screaming in horror)
[–]GingyTheCattFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The clit access is where it’s it!
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist41 points42 points43 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Seriously. It's SO AWKWARD. Just be glad you're getting laid at all. Damn
[–][deleted] 49 points50 points51 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That honestly sounds painful. I was asked to twerk on a dick so I asked the guy how it was physically possible and he basically came to the conclusion it would just be regular thrusting when he thought about it lol.
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist61 points62 points63 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
😂 They really don't even think about what they're asking.
[–]FitncurlyFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Once again, that’d require brain cells 🤷🏻♀️😆
[–][deleted] 16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao I know right
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist119 points120 points121 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I had a guy literally ask me if I would take a shit on him once
I was like....OK that’s where I draw the line with you mediocre white men
I’m fucking out
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist77 points78 points79 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My best friend gave up on men and then a guy chatted her up at a bar and got her number. She was feeling like okay, maybe I'll try again. And the next day he asked her to pee on him. She was like OKAY I'm officially done with men! Nasty fucks
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist56 points57 points58 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
They’re getting more degenerate by the day sis
I’m just convinced they’ll want to spill our garbage bags and have us rolling around and fucking in them next - like mmm let me massage this rotten banana peel on you I saw it in porn once. Tres erotic
[–]GingyTheCattFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah that’s fucking weird. I’m gonna admit, I once went out with a dude who thought the idea of peeing on a girls body (like buttcheeks, stomach, etc.) in the shower was hot. I was like 18 at the time so I didn’t think much of it other than maybe it was just kinky and some dudes like that.
10 years later I told my boyfriend about that dude (without mentioning I went out with the guy) and he said “Yeah that’s freaking weird and gross.” Glad to know some guys don’t find disgusting shit sexy. I wasn’t as weird or less kinky for thinking that was gross. Lol
[–]FluffandRaincloudsFDS Disciple17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm screaming 😂
[–]cantstopthemachine77FDS Newbie110 points111 points112 points 6 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
Even as a prostitute I always refused to be on top. For one, it takes way too much stamina for something that I am already actively hating and for two, it would set the standard that he’s the one who’s gonna do the work. You wanna pay for pussy? Ok, access to my pussy is exactly what your gonna get, and nothing more.
Lastly, men cum the quickest when they are the ones controlling the rhythm. If you start by being on top, 3/4 of the time he is going to want to switch into a position that he is controlling the thrusts and now you have to allow this whole picky switch positions thing which he is definitely going to ask for another position switch (prolonging the encounter) since you already gave in once.
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 46 points47 points48 points 6 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Damn that’s some good calculations. Get to the thank you ma’m quicker.
[–]cantstopthemachine77FDS Newbie91 points92 points93 points 6 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Haha I do kind of have it down to a science. I could probably teach lessons at this point, but I would never want to encourage other women into so called “sex work” in any form. This knowledge was not worth all the horrible trauma and serious danger that comes with it.
Even the work where you don’t have to physically interact, like being a “cam girl” wears on your psyche.
[–]SarcasmSlideFDS Disciple44 points45 points46 points 6 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I would love to see you do an AMA in here. I’ve talked to a few other former sex workers who have since embraced FDS. I would love to pick y’alls brains.
[–]cantstopthemachine77FDS Newbie66 points67 points68 points 6 years ago* (8 children) | Copy Link
Well, I embraced radical feminism first and I’m not currently dating, but I have over 12 years experience in various levels of sex work ranging from selling panties to high end escorting to street prostitution and others. Which means that I have a lot of insider knowledge on the true nature of men and the depths of their depravity.
Maybe someday I will do a post like that if there is really an interest. This particular set of knowledge just never struck me as really useful insight outside of as an attestment to how dangerous men are, the depths of their depravity, and how they view sex as a purchasable commodity. Which is something a lot of women here are already quite aware of.
If you are sleeping with a HVM (which of course is the only kind you should be sleeping with) most of the stuff I have learned from the LVM who are willing to pay for sex or “intimacy”, will be completely inapplicable, but I do know about identifying these losers who sometimes otherwise seem decent and the excuses and lies they make up to justify their bullshit. So I guess I do have some good info when that stuff comes up
If you have any specific questions though, feel free to send me a message, I would be more than happy to answer them. That goes for any of you ladies.
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[–]cantstopthemachine77FDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You know what, you are right about young women contemplating prostitution. I have seen it be glorified around here occaisonally but more often on pinkpillfeminism as if it were a way for women to gain power over, and even take advantage of, men. Particularly dominatrix work because they think it’s like taking revenge on men and that it would be cathartic to engage in. But this mindset is borne out of nativity and lack of actual understanding of what these things truly entail. I always assume the woman is quite young when I see comments like that.
[–]FutileDeathStar13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Noting this down - I've also dabbled in sex work and would love to hear your insights. I had some thoughts too.
[–]cantstopthemachine77FDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Pm me, I’m always looking for fellow women to talk to who are survivors of, or currently involved in, the sex industry.
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was an escort and a dominatrix in the 90s... I got out as fast as I could.
[–]GingyTheCattFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Honestly you should write a book. A real good Barnes and Noble seller. Expose the shit men do from your actual point of view. Let men who read it see just the type of crap of people they shake hands with in this society. And let the women who are not feminist see the type of men they are defending.
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanFDS Disciple7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes! This would be amazing. I would love to hear more about the industry. I think it’s so important for women who have experience in the industry to talk about where they can, and obviously if they want to and are safe to. But I mean, their voices are so important and I don’t want them to be minimised.
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
/r/pinkpillfeminism
I find ex SWers fascinating. You witness the true banality of men. Their core nature. 100% of men work hard at appearing respectable - but they all have a dark side.
90% of women take men at face value. They generally believe their husbands + partners are decent humans. SWers cater to the dark side and know the animal that lives inside each man.
Being exposed to their depravity must take a toll on your soul.
Do you think men generally hate us? What was the moment that made you realise you had to stop this type of work?
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH25 points26 points27 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ugh. Prolonging the encounter. I love it when guys finish somewhat fast. It probably sounds crazy I know, but my ex would try to draw it out way beyond my comfort level. I love the excitement of the fast comers. They are just so into it. They are happy just to touch and feel your body and don’t ask you to engage in any weird stuff. I’ve had them tell me they don’t even care that I hadn’t shaved in days. I’m always happy to see them again. The ones I don’t care to see again are the ones who think their big dicks rammed up in you with no foreplay or passion equates to good sex. No thanks.
[–]GingyTheCattFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It all depends on my horny level or how fast I came. Also depends how much I like the guy.
[–]jetpatchAt-Risk Pick Me Youth2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He probably had death grip developing.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No doubt! He was definitely watching porn throughout our entire marriage.
[–]GingyTheCattFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s the problem, I like certain positions and some guys will be like “Can we do it this way”. To be honest the guys that didn’t ask but just threw me into different positions swiftly were the hottest. I like the dominance. That’s my opinion though.
[–]GingyTheCattFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The thing is certain positions FEEL better in your insides. So while being twisted up like a pretzel is his idea of kinky, missionary may just hit your vaginal walls better and makes you cum. Men and women who don’t realize this are dumb.
[–]StrawberryMoon3FDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He definitely sounds like he was addicted
[–]ivy176FDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My ex was so anti missionary that it's still a kinky position for me hahaha. Well not now but it was at first.
[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist64 points65 points66 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hahaha these corny people gotta hang themselves from a noose in the ceiling just to feel some spice in the bedroom
[–]FitncurlyFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And then get found dead by “suicide”. Crazy dark stuff, all for shitty sex 😣
[–]binbeenbetterFDS Newbie44 points45 points46 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I remember seeing this on the front page and immediately thinking “porn sick, limp dick.”
Do you have a link to that comment?
[–]randomgirlimokFDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I had sex with my porn addicted ex husband after being split up for a year. He STILL had ED
[–]persephones_torchFDS Disciple21 points22 points23 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Girl whyyyyd you go back
[–]randomgirlimokFDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We were not divorced yet. Just separated. Trying to make it work I guess. It didn’t.
[–]grimreapersdtrFDS Disciple16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Maybe she ran out of batteries.
[–]CyanCayenneFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
XD
[–]Wirerose13FDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LMAO
That battery comment killed me
[–][deleted] 18 points19 points20 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Siiiiiigh.
[–]daddyarioFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ex would rather watch porn than have sex with me because he hated the idea of vanilla sex. Glad I got out of there before we did anything. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
[–]bluelightsonblkgirlsFDS Apprentice50 points51 points52 points 6 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
What, exactly, constitutes “vanilla sex” to FDS?
I feel like vanilla sex is one of those terms (like hooking up, for example) that means different things to different people.
[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple70 points71 points72 points 6 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, it seems most of the time it refers to any act that you don't have to talk someone into. (And is used as a pejorative/shaming technique more than anything else.)
[–]bluelightsonblkgirlsFDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
That leaves room for so many things to be considered outside of vanilla, though. Like, if you’re asked to be on top and it’s not your inclination, is that now not vanilla? And I ask this because I’ve seen posts here and there intimating that starfishing should be enough for guy, which made me wonder if that’s “vanilla” to FDS.
[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple30 points31 points32 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh it absolutely leaves all the room. I don't know, I usually only see people using that term to indicate how much more cool and extreme they are. shrug I find the very term a red flag.
The MAIN thing on this sub, I think, is "what's in it for her?" not that women shouldn't enjoy their sexuality, whatever that involves. At the top of the list of most varsity level sex moves is a bunch of stuff that involves a lot of degradation and "performing" for your partner, and that's definitely not philosophy FDS seems to espouse.
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think non-vanilla has its place and the acrobatic stuff is fun to try and you get a laugh out of it. The weird experiments give an option for giggly bonding moments. Kinda breaks you out of a routine and have fun with things. Like those tantric position of the day calendars, it’s cute and who knows you may find a gem.
The difference is that it’s not the ONE AND ONLY thing that can get you/them there.
[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple23 points24 points25 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
OMG yes giggly experimental stuff is super fun! But yeah these roads get dark quick, and too often young women need to be reminded that they can say no, being the “cool girlfriend” won’t keep him, and if he neeeeeeeds extreme shit, it’s A Problem.
I’m not speaking directly to the people in this thread, but for all the other women reading along: don’t get guilted into having sex you don’t want, and that includes positions and specific acts that you don’t want, even with an established partner. Compromise has its place, in a committed relationship, but you are still allowed to have your limits. Fuck the “if you won’t shit on his chest, he’ll find someone who will!” crowd — let him go find it. I was called a prude because I don’t share my man with anyone (sexually). So old fashioned! So sex negative! Wrong, and so what anyway? You have to be ready to hear that and walk away with your dignity — and all your other parts.
Sorry I’m spinning off into a little bit of a rant — in NO way a response to anyone in this thread, I’m leaping off to slightly different places. Thank you for being cool and just tolerating me for a second. :)
But I spent a very long time in “alt sex” spaces, and saw SO many people guilted into things they didn’t want, either by a so-called partner who “really really wanted it” or by potential partners who would tell them “oh you’re not TRULY kinky if you won’t do X, Y, or Z.” (Heard it directly more than once!) A lot of these kinksters aren’t really even kinky, they’ve just ruined themselves. The porn they’re watching isn’t even porn, it’s just escalating dares. Just men sitting around a table trying to come up with new things to DO TO women.
Like was already mentioned, the choking thing. What you’d call breath play is something that only very experienced kinksters would mess with, and then only in very controlled and rare circumstances. And anyone who thinks this is a typical date night activity is fucking wrong and I’ll say it. Someone wants to choke you? Check that he’s got CPR certification because you might fucking need it.
Haha oh boy, sorry ladies, this is probably too deep into this thread to be seen by many, and again I hope you understand this wasn’t coming at you! It’s just something I’ve got a lot of history with, and for me that tends to also come with a bunch of words. :)
[–][deleted] 13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
I don’t think being on top is vanilla sex because like you said the guy has to ask for you to be on top for it to happen unless ur a dominant woman
[–]bluelightsonblkgirlsFDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I was just giving an example where a guy had to ask, and as a counter to starfishing.To me and in my circles, woman on top is “regular” (or vanilla) and provides a lot, physically, for a woman and her own pleasure (no need to wait for a man to ask or suggest).
[–]persephones_torchFDS Disciple8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Being on top is my go to because it feels so much better for the woman to control the thrust and then grinding the clit area is also a good sensation.
Idk I like it better than missionary.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s easier to cum but I like feeling like The guy is on top and serving me by doing the work lol
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Wtf is star fishing? Is that an insulting way to say missionary? (I don’t think ur being insulting I just didn’t know how to word it)
[–]persephones_torchFDS Disciple6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Men coined it for women who just lie there not doing anything.
[–]bluelightsonblkgirlsFDS Apprentice-1 points0 points1 point 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
To be clear, starfishing is a term I learned from FDS, I didn’t make it up myself, lol. From what I gathered reading those posts/replies, yes ‘missionary — but seemingly without the woman’s involvement and the guy doing all the work. Gave me a limp fish vibe, tbh, (which is no fun to me) and it surprised me.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sounds like.... rape. Sounds like men having sex with women who aren’t enjoying it and don’t want to even touch them. As a rape victim I wasn’t that sexy to be fucking either at the time and I bet you money the guy complained and dismissed it to himself as a hookup despite me saying no
[–]bluelightsonblkgirlsFDS Apprentice0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No, these were women in FDS implying that the men they were with should be happy and please with any sex they gave them, including star fishing. The context had nothing to do with rape (and I’m sorry that you experienced that).
[–]BovvsetteFDS Disciple69 points70 points71 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Vanilla sex? Usually it's respectful, cooperative sex that pleasures both partners involved. Simple, old school poses. Been there before the dawn of internet porn.
It gets weird when it's more of a training for a circus performance or elaborate magic trick than a sexual experience. Also painful or degrading acts, that bring you no pleasure and include body parts or fetish objects that are not healthy or feel good to use for a sexual activity.
There is nothing to gain from giving a pornsick LVM a chance. Not even sex will be satisfying, because you will have to perform some hardcore necromancy to raise their dead dick. And will that really be worth all that hassle? The answer is no.
[–]StillAwakeofCourseFDS Newbie31 points32 points33 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
perform some hardcore necromancy to raise their dead dick.
brilliant!
[–]TheWonderingIsleFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bahahaha! Necromancy...
I love you.
[–]DatonecatladyuknoFDS Apprentice10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same
[–]ivy176FDS Disciple9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I like vanilla sex and I also like a bit of domination/submission and roleplaying. If my man found normal passionate sex boring then I couldn't tolerate it. My ex struggled to cum at all unless it was anal. He said he wanted more freaky shit, however he'd freak out and reject me if I dressed up and did something freaky. So... men don't know what they want.
[–]dalia-chanFDS Newbie44 points45 points46 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
when I was a pre-teen who likes to catfish peoples online to pass time, I noticed that the confident fuckboys and the players ( you know... they’re not HVM but they’re not perverted sickfucks either, they’re decent looking, and don’t have a hard time to get laid ) , were actually more healthy minded, than the n Incels . For example most of them, were more likely to be turned off, when I propose a creepy role play, like incest or rape, and call me a sickfuck when I would call them Papa, ( it was an experiment tho lol) or they would tell me that I was too young when I will tell them my real age, I would be 13 and they were 18, and then I will have, a normal conversation with them, and some of them actually became my online friends and talked to me Like their little sister, or when i will tell that I was 9, they would give me a big lecture about the dangers of the internet 😂
On the other hand, the Introverted Incels, were actually the one that will propose me, fucked up shits, and when I will say that I am 13 or pretend to be 9 they be like: mmmmhh.. yes. ( even if they’re 35, yikes)
[–][deleted] 23 points24 points25 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
EWwwww I believe it
[–]hivadufiFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
but where do you find one?
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Gross.
[–]Jennwah3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"enduced"
[–]logician01FDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Cross posting this on r/PornFreeRelationships
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Women share their experiences and the trauma they went through with porn users.
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Is there crossover there with r/nofap ? It seems like most of the guys there have figured out how terrible porn and excessive masturbation is for themselves and their relationships.
[–]logician01FDS Disciple5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
99.99% are women that have been with porn users sometime in their life supporting each other and sharing feelings and finally telling about this problem in light without being told they are “crazy” and this is “normal” in isolation.
One difference is they did it to themselves. We didn’t choose this, and many of us were gaslighted but the man and society that we are “insecure” and “everybody does it”. Even on Reddit the main subs will was a finger on a woman “snooping” when the post talks about the man looking up child porn!
[–]CyanCayenneFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What is this sense-making.
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