Some women can lustfully have hot sex with a guy they just met in the club/bar bathroom just from instant arousal...other women need to feel the full range of comfort, attraction, and trust to "have the hots" for a guy. Those women who need more time and connection are actually repressed sexually.

Competitive_Pen2282 · 2021-05-17T17:59:01+00:00

" If you immediately don't give me sex in the club bathroom you are repressed, need therapy ( and also probably fugly anyways )

looozooop · 2021-05-17T17:47:09+00:00

So let me get this straight: a woman who doesn’t act like a whore for free is “repressed”? Where to begin with the stupidity of this sentiment?

LonelyWineAunt · 2021-05-17T18:42:43+00:00

The women who need time and connection are normal. Women can face life-changing consequences from one sexual encounter—pregnancy—thus women are not predisposed for casual sex.

WestsideMoonWalker · 2021-05-17T17:36:08+00:00

This subreddit apparently forgets that people with lower libidos exist. Dear lord. Low libido doesn't mean repressed either.

Sage_Planter · 2021-05-17T17:56:56+00:00

I'm not repressed sexually. I'm risk adverse.

I don't need time to "warm up to someone" to be attracted to them, but I don't have sex when I have established trust with them. I have a low risk appetite when it comes to having it which is why I prefer to have sex with partners that I have a base level of familiarity with.

If I have sex in a club bathroom, I could get an STI or I could get pregnant. Neither of those are things I want from a random man I literally just met. Going home to a stranger's house or having a stranger come over to my house also have significant risks.

CosmicBioHazard · 2021-05-17T18:08:18+00:00

but regardless, if most all women are wired the same way

They’re not. Neither are men. We’ve got multiple reproductive strategies bouncing around the gene pool and which one you inherit is a dice roll

cowfishAreReal · 2021-05-17T17:29:05+00:00

Or they just don't see the point of having sex with a guy they don't feel anything for because most men are less effective in terms of reaching an orgasm than a woman doing it by herself

tdfhucvh · 2021-05-17T17:32:48+00:00

Did you even.. think before posting this? Yes all women are built the same we are just bots with the exact same amount of hormones and brain settings ofcourse. We actually aren’t individuals, we’re just here for men to have sex with. Idk how women are supposed to stop hating men when they post shit like this.

TrueStorms · 2021-05-17T17:53:19+00:00

People who hook up clubs are drinking, that isn’t their natural state, drug of choice serves to disinhibit them into an altered state. And it isn’t as common as you’re acting. I don’t know anyone who’s done that.

This is the fallacy of assuming male sexuality is default and female sexuality is a broken version. That’s where you get notions like women should be instantly visually aroused, or that squirting is the peak of female sexual prowess.

houstongradengineer · 2021-05-17T17:28:03+00:00

I don't think being different than 50% of people (if that many participate in club sex, which I doubt) is a reason to call someone repressed, broken, or any other derogatory term. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

Also, not all men do like club sex type women. Those women get insulted all the time for this very reason. It's not to repress women or some crap.

alberto-hoff · 2021-05-17T17:31:19+00:00

Being sexually repressed means you feel an element of shame or discomfort around sexuality.

Needing to trust a guy doesn't correlate with those things. Some women are just low/lower risk takers and need to feel safe with a guy before they have sex.

I'm completely sexually liberated, I have kinks that I'm not afraid to express and I enjoy casual sex. However I like to get a good 'vibe' from a guy before we fuck - even if he's very sexually attractive.

Some women take a whole evening to feel his 'vibe' but some take days, weeks or months.

CHOLO_ORACLE · 2021-05-17T17:31:57+00:00

Weird how women feel it necessary to develop trust in man in a society where men feel entitled to sex and rapists are given light sentences. It’s almost as if the prevalence of sexism and violence against women makes women hesitant about involving themselves with a man in a sexual way.

flowerwoven · 2021-05-17T20:01:17+00:00

That's simply not what repression means. There's no further argument needed. Repression means you do want something but you mentally squash it down. Most people simply don't like casual sex. You personally like it so you imagine everyone else likes and wants it.

AbsolutelyNobody0 · 2021-05-17T20:54:25+00:00

So the ones taking a drug (alcohol) that alters the mental state to help facilitate this behavior are the healthy ones? You know, a lot of women who sleep around often are known for having daddy issues. Is this also the ideal mentally healthy state for women?

OR is sex a naturally highly consequential act? Even if modern science can mitigate those natural consequences, that doesn't mean our biological instincts go away.

You're way off base with this one.

philomexa · 2021-05-17T17:48:32+00:00

The only women I've known that engaged in "hot lusty one night stand hookup sex in bar and club bathrooms":

possessed low self esteem
blindingly drunk
victims of CSA and thus internalized sex as their only value
severely hurting from a recent break up
rape victims acting out to "reclaim their power"
engaging in self harm
all of the above

Women are the risk averse gender, and only a slim margin of them can have 100% authentic "hot lusty one night stand hookup sex in bar and club bathrooms" (lol srsly dude?), free from neurosis or self flagellation.

If anyone needs therapy, its women who act out sexually to the detriment of their wellbeing.

An average woman engaging in anonymous club bathroom sex is more likely doing so from a point of pain/disorder/substance abuse.

"In a large cross-sectional birth cohort study, young adults diagnosed with substance dependence, schizophrenia spectrum, depressive, manic and antisocial disorders were more likely to engage in risky sexual intercourse, contract sexually transmitted diseases and have sexual intercourse at an early age (younger than 16) (Ramrakha et al., 2000). Furthermore, the likelihood of risky behavior was increased by psychiatric comorbidity......The strongest association of risky sexual behavior was with disorders characterized by disinhibition or a pattern of impulsive behavior and comorbid psychiatric conditions. In particular, depression, substance dependence and antisocial disorders showed stronger associations with risky behavior compared with any single psychiatric disorder."

xXx_FireHydrants_xXx · 2021-05-17T17:29:53+00:00

Can't this possibly be more of a hormonal thing too? And how can +50% of women be repressed sexually with the sheer quantity of propaganda and normalization that is meant to embolden them sexually?

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-05-17T17:50:05+00:00

According to Red Pill claims, and (a large number of the majority), all women are Asexuals. 😂

See: Demisexuality, Gray Sexuality, "Game", etc.

Not sure I buy this; there are more things that factor into a female not screwing like a Chimpanzee. Environment factors, etc.. are just one. I know some men that claim all women are lesbians, too.

This form of sophistic-thinking is what we call insanity.

evanstown21 · 2021-05-17T18:14:36+00:00

What if you just think those are dirty, germy, non romantic places? Then what? I get turned off just thinking about the amount of pee on the floor or if someone else can hear, etc.

flamingoinghome · 2021-05-17T18:53:22+00:00

......except that most women don't have "hot lusty one night stand hookup sex in bar and club bathrooms." Such encounters are very rare. Most women will have, like, one or two ONS's max, and find them unpleasant. If your theory is that "most all women are wired the same way" (which I disagree with), the indication would be that women who like anonymous ONS's are sexually dysfunctional. I don't necessarily think that's the case, but they're the outliers. It's just that straight men who like the idea of having club bathroom ONS's themselves don't want to admit that.

Western-Cartoonist-1 · 2021-05-17T19:50:44+00:00

Lemme guess - you’re certain that women are banging guys in club bathrooms. It’s just not happening to you and you’re salty about it.

Cut down on the porn, dude.

SaBahRub · 2021-05-17T17:30:12+00:00

women r not men

and since there’s more of us than you, we gots the majority, nyah

ur the abnormal ones; get with the program!

wtknight · 2021-05-17T17:38:48+00:00

They’re not repressed sexually because the normal human condition is that sex causes pregnancy. Reliable birth control is historically a very new development. The typical woman prefers to know that the man who she has sex with will stick around to help provide for her and especially the child. Women who act sexually impulsively are doing so largely because they have confidence in their birth control and because feminism tells them that it’s okay and actually empowering to have sex with strangers.

In the natural world that exists without the influence of either feminism or religion, women tend to have sex with partners whom they trust. Sometimes these men abandon them and they end up single mothers, but that doesn’t change the fact that they needed to be comfortable with the guy first before sleeping with him, and that these women are not sexually repressed for wanting to wait until they are at that comfort level with a guy.

Reddichu · 2021-05-17T17:41:38+00:00

If most women are wired the same way

They aren't. People are different.

then the prevalence of people having hot lusty one night stand hookup sex in bar and club bathrooms indicates that all women have the potential for instant arousal and hot lusty uninhibited sex

What bars are you hanging out in? lol

Additionally, all men want to be with a woman who is....

I am woman, I do not like one-night stands, because I like to get to know the person before I have sex with them. I also do not want to get an STD. I am not weird or repressed, I think this is pretty common in the dating scene.

I have ATTEMPTED a one night stand twice. Both times the guys were nervous and couldn't get an erection.. I'm sure if we had taken our time and let the physical aspect of our relationship progress slowly, it would not have been an issue.

I do not think spontaneous sweaty sex in a bathroom is the norm (although I'm sure it happens). In fact, I think having frequent sex with complete strangers is more likely to be indicative of emotional issues.

_lemazaki · 2021-05-17T17:47:14+00:00

Bruh! We have brains and we think about cost benefit.

A girl who is fucking at the club bathroom, in her head, is think about her cost/benefit in this particular moment of her life. Maybe she has nothing to extract from a men, maybe it´s just sex and fun.

A girl who needs comfort is considering other aspects in her cost/benefit calculation. Maybe a potencial boyfriend, maybe a friendship, maybe something more that we can´t tell looking from the outside perspective.

This has noting to do with trauma and mental blocks.

EDIT: english

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TheSnowyPlover · 2021-05-17T18:59:30+00:00

This is a variation of the classic feminist argument that “if only women weren’t so sexually repressed, they’d be horny all the time just like men”

The reality is that women are more sexually selective (lower sex drive, prudish, etc.) because it’s in their interest from an evolutionary standpoint. Women overwhelmingly take on the burden of reproduction and resulting child rearing. Plus, every child she has represents a much bigger portion of her reproductive potential compared to a man who can theoretically impregnate a different woman each day. Accordingly, women evolved to be very selective compared to men

Bigbigsby · 2021-05-17T21:01:28+00:00

The idea of fucking in a club bathroom makes me queasy lmaooo do you know how much puke..

All women need to “warm up”, some less than others.

Men are like switches, one flick(look) and we know we wanna put ourselves inside of dat ass

You’re better off thinking about women in terms of thresholds (disclaimer: women are a fucking headache) - for sex, the women you described have an extremely low threshold in that moment, and different shit like looks may be weighted unevenly against personality etc- the most important thing is that those women are fucking anything that crosses that threshold because they leave their house with the intention of having sex that night.

The woman who you describe as needing more to warm up, is more than likely not looking for casual sex, but ideally a LTR or at least a connection

GridReXX · 2021-05-17T21:58:24+00:00

1) the women having lusty vibes/alc induced party sex are low-inhib. The women are not low-inhib. That’s the major difference.

2) The woman at the club and the woman who isn’t at the club are only ever having lusty sex with men who inspire that. A lot of men have no clue how to do this . And the overwhelmingly majority of men on this sub qualify as that “a lot” most, if not all, of the time.

mistresswhat · 2021-05-18T00:21:36+00:00

The focus on bathroom sex on this sub is wild. It's uncomfortable and kinda inconsiderate to other people and sometimes it gets you thrown out of the bar? Go home and fuck in a bed like an adult.

Brainless-Wonder · 2021-05-18T00:57:39+00:00

This is b8

ArtNo6372 · 2021-05-18T07:59:13+00:00

Did i interpret this right?

so women who uhhhh actually think things through before jukping into bed with someone are traumatised or have low self esteem. wtf. that makes no sense

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