For very valid reasons FDS members are highly critical of OLD. Often we tell women to volunteer or join groups or clubs for shared hobbies. I have been doing this for many years and would like to share my experiences.

I used to have my own fitness related business - pre-COVID. The client base was almost 100% female. At one point I was looking for an additional business venture and decided to diversify by opening another fitness related business where the client base was primarily male. I did meet men through this venture and was asked out quite a few times. I'm sorry to say these men were extremely LV and no better than anyone I met OLD, a few were markedly worse. I can say with confidence I dated 3 narcissists/sociopaths over the course of that business.

Recently I have joined some Meetup groups for active people, they meet several times per week to do all sorts of active outdoor activities. The group composition is reliably 80-90% women. The men who do participate are almost always misfits. Many have been divorced multiple times, have restraining orders against them (yes, they willingly reveal this info) are super salty about their divorces and talk about it constantly. Several seem to have anger management issues that pop up at random times, others appear to have Aspergers Syndrome. A disproportionate number of them are very short and/or significantly overweight.

None of this is stopping me from participating in activities I enjoy. I have met some amazing women in the Meetup groups and we now plan our own activities. I would highly recommend them for making female friends. The age group in question is generally people 30-60. I am in my 50s.

One of my new friends told me about what happens in another group she belongs to. It is a camping Meetup run by a couple of men. The men target the new female members, future fake them into sleeping with them and then dump the women. These women are then too embarrassed to continue participating in the group. Even though these are not groups for dating some predators are using them as their personal hunting ground. Their behavior is no different from the men OLD.

Remember ladies, men are opportunistic and will use any and all means to get sex and then discard you. Don't be lulled into a false sense of security just because you didn't meet them online.