I’m out

RichardCleveland · 2024-02-26T16:34:38+00:00

I hope your doing OK, day 4 now. Please let us know how you are doing!?

Ok-Barracuda-8970 · 2024-02-25T07:38:26+00:00

I'm feeling the same way tonight. But it will pass. Give it 12 hours.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2024-02-24T03:49:57+00:00

Life is amazing man. Just have to be able to laugh and find the humor of it sometimes

nakedokie67 · 2024-02-23T23:09:00+00:00

Talk to me ill give you my. Number. Dude please I'm here. I've been there too . But im. Here

TheCommentator- · 2024-02-23T16:58:11+00:00

You got people here who are willing to listen, reach to any one of us. Just give us a chance, we might be able to show a different perspective.

FastEdge · 2024-02-23T15:23:23+00:00

I'm sorry. I understand how you feel.

Apprehensive_Self_96 · 2024-02-23T15:16:29+00:00

I’m fighting the same fight bro !!! Dig Deep Reinvent yourself and be a better version of you

ProcedureAltruistic3 · 2024-02-23T15:05:10+00:00

I felt like this for a while. Now I'm angry. Hiw dare you make me want to end it! My whole life, through ups and a LOT of downs I never felt like ending it. How dare she make me feel like that. She isn't worth feeling that way. And now out of spite I'm going to make it.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2024-02-23T05:56:25+00:00

The only way out is through, brother. We made it. So will you.

aceraptor9111 · 2024-02-23T05:56:07+00:00

No. You're not out. You're not done. You'll keep grinding every day and we will all be doing the samething. We are all One dm, one post away from a quick chat if you need to vent.

gisdude · 2024-02-23T05:00:08+00:00

Bro, stay grinding. Hit me up if u want to talk.

Jason_1834 · 2024-02-23T04:13:41+00:00

Tell us about your kids.

alexmixer · 2024-02-23T03:55:50+00:00

Hugs bro don't do it wamem ain't worth it

lebonroidagobert · 2024-02-23T03:19:05+00:00

much love bro. here for you. dm if needed.

FollowingDesigner275 · 2024-02-23T02:35:00+00:00

Fuck man. I'll talk to you. My story is the the same as some of this guys. Here man. Luckily I have been to keep going. This shit sucks man but support systems keeps telling me it won't last for ever. Hold on day by day.

CuriousAd8259 · 2024-02-23T01:46:33+00:00

You know this sounds stupid, but it's always dark before the light. Just gotta hold on. Get through it, join a club, talk to like-minded people like people here.

Flapique · 2024-02-22T23:58:18+00:00

You need to change your storyline brother. You're only 42 my man, same age as me and I'm living with chronic health conditions and my wife threw me away when we had two young kids together and tried to paint me as a bad dude but truth was she just wanted sex more often than I could give it and I was depressed a lot of the times because my health condition and she didn't like being around it.

I high-five myself every morning in the mirror and I tell myself this is going to be an awesome day. I go to the gym. I walk 2 miles and then I lift weights until I feel pumped and have some good serotonin flowing.

If you have problems, take care of them. Write them down and check them off one at a time. Start with the easiest first. You will feel better after achieving some small victories and that will give you more confidence to take on the bigger ones.

Just imagine yourself being a tree with roots so deep and the trunk so thick that you cannot be moved. Rhinoceroses cannot walk backwards. It will break their knees. Forward is the only way we know. Your kids will miss you and it will ruin them.

It's time to be the guy that all the other guys should be worried about. Dedicate yourself to your happiness. Take measurable steps. Everyone wants you to succeed and you can. Every time I think I can't make it. I remember this video of this African dude out in the middle of a dusty side street with one leg hopping around cleaning cars... if he can so can I!

I was served in order protection on March 13th 2023 giving 10 minutes to grab my belongings and leave my house and was separated from my kids for over 2 months. I'm still going through this crap. My final trial isn't until the end of May. It's all good though. I'm going to get through this and so will you.

I believe in you. I love you man. Take care of yourself!

DCnative2020 · 2024-02-22T23:37:19+00:00

you are not done. you WILL get through it.

the saying is don't do something permanent for a temporary problem

in a few years you will look back and be like damn she was not the greatest wife. and your GF will be much hotter, and better personality. and younger

bk2747 · 2024-02-22T22:50:17+00:00

We’re here for you, bro. You’ve got a lot of living to do, and it’ll be a whole lot better when you’re single and free

organicwilly · 2024-02-22T22:33:41+00:00

We're here for you. I've been through shit the past 2 years and I've been there. It's worth fighting for

adventure_junkie67 · 2024-02-22T22:24:42+00:00

I hope you can move past this moment. Just try to make it through this urge and it will get better. Reach out to professionals. Hotlines are available. Humans kindness and love are there. Just open yourself to that spirit.

ShutUpHeExplained · 2024-02-22T20:53:17+00:00

DM me too. I've been there. Do. Not. Do. This. Nothing is that bad no matter how it seems right now. I've been there. I'm better now than I've ever been and I had a motorcycle accident in the interim.

Classic-Ad8157 · 2024-02-22T20:32:00+00:00

DM me, I’ll talk to you. I told my STBXW I had similar feelings on the night she told me she was leaving me and she showed no mercy…none, zip,zilch, ZERO. I proceeded to get inebriated and almost did it.

But I found a therapist, and I quit drinking, and I thought of my kids growing up without a protector. If I leave this divorce with nothing by the clothes on my back, I’m going to be there for my kids.

DM me…I’ll talk to you.

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2024-02-22T20:18:09+00:00

Don’t give up man many of us felt the same way but you have to fight through it, we’re all here for you!

Joocewayne · 2024-02-22T19:16:25+00:00

You can make it through it and you will. You aren’t whatever it seems in this moment. You are more than you know and you are strong enough to weather this storm and make it out on the other side, better, stronger and wiser. This is one of those moments where you’re being forged into a better man and it sucks immensely in the moment.

I’ll say a prayer for you right now man.

slow-motion-pearls · 2024-02-22T18:55:07+00:00

In about the same space. Looking to save up some $ and leave this shithole country.

pikohina · 2024-02-22T18:12:57+00:00

You’re not done.

i80west · 2024-02-22T18:11:25+00:00

All the same, write it down, edit it so it's clear and concise. It'll help clarify it all in your mind.

judasholio · 2024-02-22T17:13:02+00:00

Much love to you brother. I don’t have any cliche words to offer to you. Too many men suffer in silence.

summitsummitsummit · 2024-02-22T16:41:19+00:00

Please talk. Here if you need to. I know it’s fucking horrible trust me I’m feeling it all too. It will get better

Ecstatic-Shopping313 · 2024-02-22T16:18:29+00:00

No matter how cliche it sounds, it does get better.

I'm diagnosed 100% VA disabled with PTSD. I have severe depression and anxiety, and suffer from near constant suicidal ideation. I manage it with medication and intense therapy, but it still hurts.

I tried to kill myself so many times during the divorce. Now I can proudly say I don't fear that anymore. I was able to look at old pictures of us from high school and when we were so in love, and it just made me smile. I used to cry and lose my mind and go slit my wrists. Now I just smile. Loneliness still sucks, but it doesn't cut nearly as deep as it used to. Trust me, happiness is resilient.

MaitreGrandiose · 2024-02-22T15:39:31+00:00

What's your method?

Miserable_Ad_1172 · 2024-02-22T15:30:14+00:00

How are you feeling right now. Talk to any of us. Never give up.

JJJflight · 2024-02-22T15:02:17+00:00

how you managing?

Title	I’m out
Author	Miserable-Heart-6604
Upvotes	32
Comments	35
Date	February 22, 2024 2:22 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1ax7kig/im_out/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/Divorce_Men/im-out.1246113 https://theredarchive.com/post/1246113

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