Modern relationships in a nutshell

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2021-01-24T16:03:00+00:00

This is the tragic result of the current housing crisis. More and more women are trapped in abusive relationships and rushed into things because of the crushing cost of living and wage gaps. Where I'm from (BC, Canada), you can't even get a run-down mobile home for under $250k, even in the suburbs. Condos start at around 500k for a studio. It's ridiculous, unless you wanna move to some backwoods middle of nowhere town isolated from friends and family with no job or career opportunities. Rent is often more than mortgage payments, but the bar is so high for first time buyers, banks won't give a mortgage even when you've been affording (a higher) rent for years.

monivoz · 2021-01-24T16:26:23+00:00

Yes. Most of my lower and working class acquaintances in my area are moving in and buying houses with boyfriends under the guise of "taking it to the next level" but really its cause they can't afford to live on their own AND have nice things.

wagonwheel_ · 2021-01-24T17:07:16+00:00

Please see my latest post. This mindset IS A TRAP. Do not fall for it. ❤️

i_said_what_i_said_ · 2021-01-24T22:55:03+00:00

One tip I would give younger women who live in a high COL area is to invest young in your careers, and make sure you save money where you can, so you don’t have to rely on men later on to split housing costs.

I’m currently looking to buy a house, it’s eyewateringly expensive here, all the agents assume I’m buying with a partner....I’m like, what partner? Don’t need one 🤷‍♀️

saint-jezebel · 2021-01-24T17:36:39+00:00

This is such a sad mentality and one men use to their advantage. If you are on your own, stay there. If you have a support system, use them. I hate to see these IG post and TikToks and various other posts in which men say all the right things and do half of these things to women seeking something, just to sit back and wonder why the ring isnt coming, or why they dont care or why they move on with another quickly and "treat her better" giving her everything you begged and hoped and prayed for.

More women would get less hurt if they asked themselves and these men "why does he need me..." before jumping so quickly into situations that are not love.

miss_kay4 · 2021-01-24T19:57:34+00:00

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popsthrowsup · 2021-01-24T19:36:09+00:00

Saw some dude who was struggling during the pandemic mad at himself for moving out of his ex’s (before the pandemic) when they were fighting because 6mo into the pandemic he’s out of saving and could really use the rent break.

Seems a little messed up “I rather put us in a situation we don’t like cuz of rent savings “

What do they call them? Hobosexual?

SpaceC4se · 2021-01-24T20:15:59+00:00

"You can think that you're in love

When you're really just in pain"

- "Moral of the Story" by Ashe

ColdxConfection · 2021-01-24T22:12:27+00:00

https://www.vice.com/en/article/4xkzxq/as-rental-prices-rise-women-stay-in-bad-relationships-to-survive

Invisiblescars_123 · 2021-01-25T10:44:22+00:00

Public housing in my country (Singapore) costs about $400k on average (that’s if you live in the suburbs). It goes for $800k in the city. I always found it strange that you had to be married to be applicable for public housing. If you’re single, you can only purchase public housing from the government if you’re 35 and older. Not to mention that you won’t be applicable for most subsidies, considering they’re targeting married couples with children.

Many of my batchmates get into relationships and end up marrying the guy just so they can move out of their parents’ house. This isn’t uncommon and I’m currently studying in the 11th best university in the world. It’s even worse for uneducated/lower income folks who really have no choice but get married and spawn children with LVM.

In case you’re wondering, renting a room costs about $1000 in a public housing flat. There’s also no minimum wage where I live, so most people can’t even afford that.

Cool-Fill9819 · 2021-01-25T06:20:32+00:00

I felt this. I think about this all the time, but I'm not interested in headaches and problems. I also live in one of the most expensive cities in the U.S (and no I am not rich). I just need to figure this out LOL -- cries. The plan is to live abroad temporarily at some point... :)

Suspicious-Leg-1407 · 2021-01-24T15:42:59+00:00

Are there condos in your area that are going for 150k?

This is some of the financials around whether you can afford it. I believe many of you can.

https://www.saving.org/down-payment/150000

If you're able to get $7500 for a down payment, your mortgage is $700/monthly.

Title	Modern relationships in a nutshell
Author	vmuzondi
Upvotes	4019
Comments	76
Date	January 24, 2021 3:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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