Sad but true

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2020-01-29T19:46:41+00:00

Raped once, not entirely sure how many times I've been assaulted to be honest. It was almost normal for me at one point.

eatchickpeas · 2020-01-29T21:38:28+00:00

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neocissima · 2020-01-29T21:45:16+00:00

I don’t normally comment in general on Reddit, but.... (a few years ago now) I got called in for jury duty about a week after getting my rape kit procedure performed. I was so excited, I’d never been called in for jury duty before and I’m a fairly active politically minded person, so I was genuinely excited to be part of the legal process. I thought it would be a welcome distraction from how shitty I’d been feeling. Then I find out it’s for a sexual assault case. I had three panic attacks in the bathroom. I knew I wasn’t gonna make it and so I asked for a private moment with the judge. I wasn’t familiar with the process at all - where I am, it’s a tad confusing and it’s not like there’s a lead juror in the beginning of the selection. The judge came in, followed by the entire prosecution and defense teams, including the defendant. I then started hysterically sobbing and telling A ROOM FULL OF PEOPLE I DIDN’T KNOW I had just been raped recently.

I don’t know if that’s fully relevant, but I felt like sharing

jetpatch · 2020-01-29T18:13:52+00:00

Attorneys shouldn't be allowed to ask women that question. That's a law we can campaign for and get made.

Datonecatladyukno · 2020-01-29T19:01:24+00:00

I hear on Reddit many men saying that rape is rare 1 in a million. I tell them how can that be true when I don't know any women who haven't been sexually assaulted . Same with pediphillia.

CyanCayenne · 2020-01-29T19:29:18+00:00

Terrible. Well with the conviction rate so low, women should be able to sit on these juries.

eatchickpeas · 2020-01-30T00:16:52+00:00

i asked the women i knew in my circle, they ALL had a story of some kind. people think sexual attacks only happen to women over 18 but most of the women i knew had abuse before they were 12. none of the men who molested them ever saw a courtroom or a jail cell. its so common and its why women are focusing on their careers and abandoning dating altogether

extraacct1234 · 2020-01-29T17:25:15+00:00

From 22 to 29 I didn't have one close female friend who hadn't been raped. Even my female physical therapist, counselors I went to when I was looking for help, and my hairdresser have all been raped too.

I finally got to know two women online who hadn't been raped. They were both lesbians.

Being alone with men is dangerous. Even a wonderful nice man who you've known for a year who has always been a tender, sweet lover will often rape you when you tell him no.

This is why we need to be careful, learn red flags, leave at the first sign of abuse, and never be dependent on a man financially or emotionally.

Also never meet up with a man to dump him or after you have dumped him. Unless that man has always been completely respectful and never abusive, and then only meet him in public. I have probably read a hundred stories of a man getting dumped so he invites the woman over to talk about it and he rapes her or assaults her.

theghettogirl · 2020-01-29T17:59:53+00:00

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JesusisKingisLord · 2020-01-29T20:28:41+00:00

This is absolutely chilling.

classylassy28 · 2020-01-30T01:29:44+00:00

Since a man assaulted her maybe no male should be on the jury? That's about fair, considering he didn't allow women who where sexually abused.

Careful-Economy · 2020-01-29T20:25:34+00:00

My heart sank as I read that!

ComprehensiveAmoeba9 · 2020-01-29T20:43:54+00:00

They only asked the women? How sickening that this day and age the justice system still favors men. No one should get off the hook for sexual assault, it’s so damaging and can affect the victim for years. And what’s sad is that a lot of us have to live with the memories

2020-01-29T23:14:34+00:00

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sweetpotatochipss · 2020-01-30T01:25:10+00:00

Even more fucked up that make the women talk about their experience and then they get taken off the jury!

KillChildProcesses · 2020-01-29T23:20:56+00:00

There's no justice in this world.

2020-01-30T01:34:29+00:00

In Canada they dismissed all potential jury members who were indigenous peoples for the murder trial of an indigenous boy by an old gross white man. The jury acquitted him on all charges. It's never an accident 🤡

2020-01-29T23:58:32+00:00

What the fuck?? This actually happens?

psychsense · 2020-01-29T23:34:17+00:00

Can we just lie and convict them

steggun_cinargo · 2020-01-30T02:41:04+00:00

Wonder if they dismissed men who had also been in fights with other men.

ivy176 · 2020-01-30T04:52:44+00:00

That's fucked up. Majority of women have been assaulted.

NeverEverNotaBear · 2020-01-30T03:20:56+00:00

This reminds me of when my mom went to jury duty, I think I was in middle school or highschool. It was afterwards that she told my sister and I about her assault as a child and suddenly her over protectiveness of me and my sister made sense.

During jury selection she was asked and had to explain her assault, however they still chose her.

She was put on a case where a woman confided to her husband that she was raped by a family member as a teen and the husband took the family member aside during a family get together and beat him up. Sadly there was not enough to convict the man and she felt terrible about that, but she noticed that the female members of the jury believed the woman and the men were very very reluctant to want to put the man away. (or how she phrased it "one of their own.")

2020-01-30T03:39:58+00:00

Yep. A man's only concern is their penis.

ldid · 2020-01-30T14:26:03+00:00

It's crazy that it's supposed to be a jury of your peers... But are they really your peers if they fully eliminate the people who can truly empathize with the victims? Do they do this to people in car accident cases... "oh you have been in a car accident before, you are dismissed"

GraeWest · 2020-01-30T15:48:55+00:00

This is fucked up. I don't know many women who wouldn't be excluded on this basis. This effectively disenfranchises women from serving on juries.

shadowdragonking · 2020-01-29T23:22:58+00:00

Kind of? I mean I agree with everything said except that last line. But yeah either they shouldn’t have asked the women that, or they should have followed up by asking the men about their past.

2020-01-31T08:24:44+00:00

I told one of those guys that man on man rape is increasing so welcome to the party. He scoffed at the idea and said he will never be raped and he thanked me for my lack of empathy. I have no empathy. It's time for men to get a taste of this medicine.

hardy_and_free · 2020-02-08T04:18:57+00:00

Bet no one asked which of the men had assaulted anyone.

Title	Sad but true
Author	extraacct1234
Upvotes	1885
Comments	104
Date	January 29, 2020 5:20 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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