...what’s YOUR worst case?

IAmGoingToBeBetter · 2021-01-28T12:13:11+00:00

I was talking to a girl online (Lesbian here).We meet up. We get halfway through the date, she says she wants me to meet someone. Comes back with her boyfriend. They get agitated because no I am not interested in a threesome. I thought this would never happen to me with how careful I am, but here we are.

seraphinelysion · 2021-01-28T06:25:02+00:00

Imagine not being cognizant of this lol

DallasM19 · 2021-01-28T11:44:26+00:00

I've heard many times that a man's worst fear about his date is that she's fat, whereas a woman's worst fear of her date is that he is a serial killer.

There you go. That's how fucked up it is when it comes to what men "deal" with vs what women deal with when it comes to the opposite sex. Men fear that she's ugly while women fear for their fucking life.

mongoosebicycle · 2021-01-28T09:08:39+00:00

My worst case is we fall in love and he then wastes years of my life trapping me in abuse. All three of my rapes were way easier than that. Of course getting killed would be worse but sometimes I wonder.

Pahapan · 2021-01-28T07:00:07+00:00

It's so depressing talking about my experiences on Reddit (outside the protective enclave of FDS), having been molested as a child and sexually abused by every man I've been intimate with in adulthood, only to receive a barrage of "nOt AlL mEn!!!" if I dare to insinuate whatsoever that there's a worldwide problem with a good majority of men. Imagine having your head so far up your own ass that you think a woman encountering predator after predator makes her a mythical statistical outlier (despite the countless women who've experienced the same), and failing to realize you're part of the problem when you won't even entertain the notion that yeah, all these cultures with super misogynistic, patriarchal histories haven't magically become safe for women in the cosmic nanosecond of the past 50-100 years. We used to be literal property. It used to be legal for our husbands to beat us. It wasn't until 1993 that marital rape was criminalized nationwide.

They're fucking delusional.

Half_Halt · 2021-01-28T14:58:04+00:00

But, but! My 4th cousin 20 times removed had a chick drop by his house unannounced to check if he was alive after he ghosted her after 5 year together! He was very scared & had to take a leave of absence from his job at GameStop! Won't you THINK OF THE MEN????

-- 95% of the male population & (sadly) at least 50% of women

TheLovelyTurd · 2021-01-28T07:01:37+00:00

We shouldn't be too harsh on guys. It's really hard to understand the world from their perspective of having their heads so far up their asses that they're chilling with the gut bacteria. It's a very toxic place I bet, considering what my exes ate.

ponchoacademy · 2021-01-28T20:15:53+00:00

Yeah, when I tell stories of my bad dates, I try and stick to the funny ones. And even then, Ive learned that if my "funny" story might end with them asking me if I called the police, to not mention that one either.

Thats really how bad it is, that esp when I was younger, I was in so many truly bad situations, even the ones that to me werent "so bad" freaked people out to hear about it. Now that Im older, less trusting, more cautious, I see the signs sooner and dont feel bad or worse yet, "impolite" about noping out.

But, back in my 20's and even early 30's...no exaggeration, I believe Im lucky a date didnt lead to me ending up dead. For example, due to dates Id been on, I started giving friends the advice to either let a friend know, or put a note up on their fridge with the name, phone number of their date, along with where they are meeting him just in case something bad happens, so there would be a way to find out who the last known person to see them was.

Thats what dating for women is like.

Vopli_ · 2021-01-28T07:59:11+00:00

My worst experiences were dating a 23 man while I was 14... The year before that another one of the same age touched my boob without consent... sigh

I understand this post so well...

Villanelloh · 2021-01-28T20:09:15+00:00

I've never understood dating for the sake of dating. Why would you waste your time like that? Get a real hobby

Title	...what’s YOUR worst case?
Author	smthindair
Upvotes	2511
Comments	63
Date	January 28, 2021 4:28 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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