Try looking deep down and wonder just why is it you keep imagining situations where you just "can't help" but do 50/50 - just swoop in and save the day - is it really about loving your man or is it about proving something?

Perhaps proving to yourself, to the man, to the society that you are indeed - a "good girl" and a kind person? Where do you think that savior and martyr complex came from?

Remember, we have been brainwashed since we were born. Perhaps what you think is "the right thing to do" - isn't really right for us at all.

Try thinking of doing 50/50 entirely from the perspective of maximizing your benefits in the relationship first and foremost - forget the man for a sec, just think about you - does that 50/50 still work?

Now let's shift the perspective to a genuine HV provider man for a bit.

You see, the very few provider-minded men I know - when they face financial difficulties - the first action they took is NOT to ask their wife to do 50/50 - even when their wife is more than capable, and very willing. They ask their wives to keep all those money in case the wife need it for herself and the children - while they bust their asses off solving the problems.

A genuine provider HVM never even want to consider the 50/50 - they rather work they bone to dust and they look at the wife's money as "at least one less burden" - they don't have to worry about the wife and children struggling. He doesn't mind the struggles - but he can never bear seeing his loved ones struggling, especially his own family unit.

He is the kind of father and husband that starve, if that means his wife and children can sleep with a full belly. And most modern men don't even need to worry falling to that level - most men can get out of financial difficulties in a few years provided that they are willing to work hard.

Please ladies, consider it very carefully.

That 50/50 sounds sweet and equality and all when you are still in the dating stage - going to movies and eating ice cream.

That same 50/50 suddenly become NOT great when you had to split bills on things you can barely afford because that is his level or that what he wants - and threaten you with shit when you suggest going lower.

And that 50/50 become really really awful when you have to split bills, grocery, living expenses etc. while still shouldering all the housework, cooking, cleaning, childcare and the mundane stuff while still have to cater to his lifestyle, whim and taste.

He will throw tantrums and make your days even more hellish is you dare suggest that you can't afford it.

And ended up crying silently at night beside the scrote sleeping soundly because you are worrying about debts and where to get the money while he get to keep his money and pay less than if he has to pay it all alone.

And even if the case if you are dating a guy making less money than you - why?? What benefits can you get from dating such a guy? What benefits can you get from doing 50/50 with that guy? Might as well just stay single and spare the headache.

Doing 50/50 is an irresponsible man's game. If he can't afford to financially support you and your future children, the responsible thing to do is NOT pursuing you. If he can't afford to build a family, don't build a family, period.

Ladies here heard enough about not giving "nice guys" and non-attractive guys a chance - how about expanding that to NOT give broke guys, guys below your financial lifestyle, guys who can't afford you and your future children, guys who immediately go for 50/50 and think that's normal a chance?

DO NOT let a man live in your place, use your car, leech of your food, use your credit card, hell don't even think about paying his debt for whatever reason. Seriously, why would you even want to do that? If he have debt, his main focus should be on solving that debt - not dating ffs.

Just please, think about it ladies. NEVER do 50/50 with a man, EVER.