You are under ZERO obligation to be the “cool girlfriend”

stillcantsee · 2020-01-06T19:28:33+00:00

Aaaand that's what you get for participating in that bullshit for male approval. 😊

teeteereads · 2020-01-06T20:53:18+00:00

She was 19 and he was 29 when they started dating. He predatory swooped in on that pick me energy and made out like a bandit. Can you imagine the conversations of infatuation they had about her bisexuality?

2020-01-06T22:14:58+00:00

Saw 24F and 34M together 5 yrs and I just knew this was going to go swimmingly.

throwawayz187y · 2020-01-06T19:30:44+00:00

I’m bisexual, but I’ll never date a guy who’s into strip clubs.

karichar · 2020-01-06T19:52:41+00:00

This just gave me horrible flashbacks to when I was a Pickmeisha who did the same thing. I thought it would be “cool” and “fun” and instead I just felt sick watching my ex rub all over those poor women

throwawayy92838383 · 2020-01-06T19:51:28+00:00

Pick Me shit will only backfire on you in the end. If a man ever brings up strip clubs, shut that shit down firmly and immediately. Don’t leave any doubt in his mind that you find them unacceptable. Don’t try to be “down” and “cool” or waffle about your opinion of them.

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2020-01-06T19:34:53+00:00

Things only Pickmeisha does.

jalapenopancakes · 2020-01-06T19:39:11+00:00

I’m honestly shocked she has a ring.

itsirrelevant · 2020-01-06T23:02:45+00:00

I personally would never go to a strip club with any man I was seriously interested in. I'm not interested in going with anyone in general, but considering the circles I run in I've been out and outvoted. I do find women attractive. I'm not opposed to possible experimentation in theory, but this is not the way. I'm not interested in being unpaid labor. I'm not interested in giving overly catered to men any more sexual gratification than they already have. There is no man deserving of this fantasy. My God it hurts to think of how little self esteem one has to have to agree to this kind of thing. I've seen it first hand before and it was so hard not to say anything.

There was so much to unpack in her post about how this relationship must be awful that I don't even know where to start.

Sea_Soil · 2020-01-06T21:55:23+00:00

When they got together she was 19 and he was 29. Yikes. I wouldn't expect anything good to come from that.

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-01-06T20:28:13+00:00

Play stupid games and win stupid prizes.

Sometime I'm glad I'm a lesbian.

drragonbones · 2020-01-06T20:33:45+00:00

If you ever think you were a dumb pickmeisha, read this and feel better about yourself. LOL. Imagine playing yourself like this.

TheOGJammies · 2020-01-06T21:46:34+00:00

u/sammiemichelle

Sis

H_Mercury · 2020-01-06T22:26:10+00:00

Of the few strippers I’ve known in my life, they’ve all admitted those private rooms really aren’t for dances at all. Maybe where I am things are a little more liberal but I will never believe a man who went to a strip club didn’t pay for random sex with a stranger. Of the few men I’ve asked to fess up about it, they’ve admitted they don’t think it counts as cheating.

brbulk · 2020-01-07T01:08:15+00:00

Who in their right mind would ever do this? Lmfao play stupid games win stupid prizes

randomgirlimok · 2020-01-07T00:41:33+00:00

Give an inch, and they’ll take a mile.

2020-01-06T20:32:14+00:00

Girl.... no comment lol

2020-01-07T04:16:57+00:00

u/sammiemichelle come join this subreddit. There are a lot of stuff about dude like yours here. Time for a new life, because you are over stressing yourself over a loser. Level up girl.

CyanCayenne · 2020-01-07T05:53:28+00:00

A guy once took me to a strip club on a FIRST DATE. And then our mutual friend was all surprised I didn't want to see him again.

nosynobody · 2020-01-07T06:45:29+00:00

I am bi and this is exactly why I've told every guy I've dated. Yes am totally cool with bringing a girl to the bedroom, but you can't touch. At best you can watch me do another woman in a chair at the darkened corner of the room. Surprisingly no takers.

AnniaT · 2020-01-08T01:13:36+00:00

Like everyone is saying, you shouldn't try to be the "cool girl" and participate in this strip club clownery for male approval. Been there, done there, got the t-shirt but never got the man lol

But another thing:

I know many might not agree, but I'd refrain from telling a man about your bisexuality Why? Because most men will either assume it means you're game for threesomes and will try to convince you and nag you about it even if you say you don't want that. They'll basically fetichise and objectify/sexualize your sexuality. Or they'll participate in clownery like this because they'll assume your bisexuality means you're cool and relaxed about these things.

Noteatingforoneweek · 2020-01-07T05:39:25+00:00

FUCK THAT

starsheepie · 2020-01-07T08:06:48+00:00

Ok, but I totally had the opposite happen. I'm Pansexual & I had an ex-BF (who ended up being a total psychopath, BTW) get super mad at me for taking my friend who was Bi-curious to her very first strip club. I wanted her to explore her sexuality, & I enjoyed our time there. But he got sooo mad at me & banned me from ever going back or seeing a stripper ever again, even if it was at a Bachelorette party!!! We had just started dating, had only been together for a few weeks, & it felt like he owned me! I told him I was faithful to him & I would never cheat (I kept that promise for the entire duration of our year & a half long relationship, even when the opportunity presented itself) but he vowed to be incredibly hurt & disappointed in me if I ever went to a strip club or saw a stripper dance ever again. 🤦🏻‍♀️ So glad that relationship ended years ago. Goodbye & good riddance!!! I will never let a LVM tell me what I can & can't do ever again. #ByeFelipe ✌

Title	You are under ZERO obligation to be the “cool girlfriend”
Author	stillcantsee
Upvotes	240
Comments	77
Date	January 6, 2020 7:23 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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