I consider myself a progressive guy in the sense that I support equity for women (for eg menstrual leave at workplaces), am in support of women empowerment wherever possible, in favour of spreading more awareness about menstrual & sexual health especially among men, view women as intellectually equal (biology & hormones mean physically ofc it isn't true), and wouldn't like to be engaging in a gender war. I think men should be taught more about consent both implied & non-implied, and think they should be more involved in the household or their daughters' lives if not already. I think red-pill, manosphere ideology has a detrimental effect on society and men, and also recognize that by default, women have to be on guard and defensive with men until they can let their guard down, and that 'I hate men' is an expression of frustration.

At the same I also recognize that there are - albeit limited - issues of fake cases (like rape & dowry) against men and sometimes violence too (in my country) which shouldn't be just swept under the rug.

Being in uni myself I see instances of preferential hiring from college campuses which perhaps go against my view of equity since it subtracts from college - a place where equity has been already built in through quotas, etc - being a meritocracy.

I recognize the society is patriarchal in nature and this superiority system, conscious or subconscious, should be worked against. In principle, it should forms, including stuff like 'provider; as he should;' culture, even though I enjoy that feeling of doing acts of service, being seen as masculine & a provider myself. And similar mentalities where it's romanticized just because it's not harmful to women.

We have talked about this before and she said that firstly it doesn't apply to me since she's dating me. She said she didn't expect this question from me and that her friends are the first ones to defend me when they talk about men being 'bad'. I think it's important to mention that she had an abusive mother wherein it seemed like it was all fine from the outside but there was violence and verbal abuse during her upbringing. She has a male best friend who she's been friends with for 15 years, and multiple male friends, and a decent relationship with her father, but according to her we are all just one of the 'good ones'.
She said while 'I hate men' is a phrase that at best hurts men's feelings, 'I hate women' leads to systematic problems and instances of assault & violence. Which is true I realize.

I consider myself to share her opinions on this but perhaps not as strongly (maybe I won't be able to since I will never experience what women do - the constant staring, harassment, and feeling of being at risk; but I feel like if people said 'I hate all (insert any other demographic, even known to be violent/regressive on avg)', it would be seen as problematic, but since women say this, and we are one of the 'good ones', we are not supposed to be bothered by it be comfortable with it. I think what this does is also alienate men who have a similar ideology but feel attacked by this, that 'I am in support of what you support but you seem to hate me and my gender so how can I support a movement that HATES me' without knowing the full rationale of this phrase.