A couple days ago a respected artist in r/comics posted a comic about how she was catcalled and objectified as a child. A mod posted a very long, and unfounded self report about radical feminism in the comments that was prefaced by saying that one could apply for a ban by saying that concepts such as "not all men" or that "radical feminism radicalizes men towards the right" are useful.

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Towards the bottom of their long and rather unhinged rant they say that "Misandry does not exist. Fuck you." They then claim that racism is prejudice + power, which is why you can't be racist towards towards white people. And since we live in a patriarchy, there is no systemic or institutionalized misandry, and so therefore misandry does not exist. And that 100% of the problems faced by men are a direct result of misogyny. In other comments this same mod referenced radical conservative feminist Dworkin, who claimed that all heterosexual sex is rape.

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I replied. Mentioning that those are not the definitions of misandry or racism. Racism is prejudice against race. Misandry is prejudice against men. It is people in power with those prejudices who put said prejudice into the system. There is no such thing as "racism/misandry that only exists in theory," because every race/gender can experience prejudice. That you can't change the actual definitions of words just to suit your own personal views.

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I bring up the systemic bias against men in court. In divorce proceedings and child custody battles. In conviction rates and criminal sentencing. I cited sources. Research papers written by professors with PhDs who are not nobodies. Experts who are well cited in the fields of criminology and sociology. One of them being a feminist female professor from Pennsylvania State. A teacher of the year at San Jose State University. Real research conducted by legal and sociological experts, published in the most prestigious journals of their fields. I cited a source that shows how women are accepted into universities at higher rates than men, regardless of demographic or the quality of their applications.

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I mentioned the hypocrisy of female writers and the objectification of men in the media. (See outlets like Cosmopolitan or Buzzfeed claiming that objectification of women is disgusting, while at the same time releasing articles admiring mens' bulges in the summer and winter Olympics.) In the massive lack of resources for male victims of abuse, or homeless males. The Heard vs Depp case, where numerous feminist organizations and figures supported and continue to support Amber Heard and call Johnny Depp an abuser despite all the evidence to the contrary.

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Instead I got banned.

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Note that I did not mention anything regarding their opening "apply for a ban by saying this." I talked simply about the clear, empirical evidence of misandry in societal systems.

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When I appealed my ban in mod mail they muted me. I DM'd the mod who banned me asking to be unmuted. They did, saying that if I was open to having an educational, good faith discussion, I would be unmuted and allowed to discuss my ban. I agreed to these terms. I am always open to having a genuine, educational discussion. I am always open to discuss the facts and reality. When I explained my position I was told that I was unmuted simply to hear why I was banned, and not to "mansplain." There was no discussion, let alone an educational, good faith discussion. They have absolutely no interest in hearing any facts to the contrary. They only look for confirmation bias. The cognitive dissonance is palpable. Anything a man says is reductively labeled as "mansplaining." Then I was muted.

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I don't really care tbh. I've been an active and contributing member of the r/comics community for years. I have great admiration for the artists there. I fully support every left wing, anti fascist, and pro LGBTQ+ artist and idea there. I'm a straight, cis, asian, nuerodivergent male. I believe in classical feminism; the efforts to create a world where all gender are 100% equal. (Edit: to clarify, I do not believe in the racist or TERF features of early feminism.) That none are above the other. And seeing this kind of hateful, sexist rhetoric from the leaders of a community I admired was just sad. I don't even want to be unbanned anymore.

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Radical feminism is a disease. All people regardless of gender are equal. Radical feminists believe in the myth of the patriarchy, when we actually live in an oligarchy. And they seek to build a world where women are above men. Not equal.

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I'm curious to know if they consider the largest empire in the world a patriarchy, when it was ruled by a woman. Or every other time it was ruled by a woman. A women who had the longest reign in the history of her nation, and ruled with considerable power. Was the Victorian era British Empire a patriarchy?