A refreshing poster from base

WickedClassy · 2017-06-29T18:06:08+00:00

I don't think anyone would argue that men (not male children) are sexually assulted less often than women, but that shouldn't mean that those incidents when it does happen should simply be ignored or disregarded. Although I'm not surprised that it does, considering the current culture in the US.

My neighbor's son is 21 now, but when he was 17, he was literally raped by a girl he thought was his best friend.

The victim was of average weight and height, but the girl who raped him was probably about 5'5" tall and easily weighed between 300 to 350 pounds.

The saddest part of the story is that the victim befriended this girl after witnessing some other guys giving her a hard time. He stuck up for her against the guys who were teasing her and then became her friend.

According to his parents (my neighbors), everyone knew this girl had a crush on him... except him. But they all thought it was just a little crush and nothing to worry about.

One night, the girl's mother was gone and she asked my neighbor's son if he'd come and watch movies with her so she didn't have to be alone. He went over and the girl had somehow gotten a bottle of alchohol and asked him to do shots with her.

That's the last part of the story that the boy remembered.

Fast forward to a couple months later and the girl tells the boy that's she's pregnant with his child. He was shocked because to his knowledge they'd never had sex or even kissed for that matter. The girl tells him that after they drank the bottle of whiskey, he was laying on the couch and she started to undo his pants. She admitted that he put his hand on hers like he was trying to stop her from undoing his zipper and then he mumbled something, but she said "I promise you'll like it" and since he didn't respond she kept going and "had sex with him".

He was super upset and told the girl that she shouldn't have done that to him and said he no longer wanted to talk to her. When he told his parents, they wanted to call the police, but he said he was embarrassed that "he'd let this happen" and begged them not to call the cops, so they didnt.

After that, the girl wouldn't leave him alone and after he repeatedly ignored her, she had the audacity to act like he was somehow wronging her. And once the baby was born (a girl), the rapist and her mother started running their mouths around town about how the boy, the victim, was a "deadbeat dad". But because the guy was so embarrassed, he never tried to defend himself or to tell people what really happened.

That situation definitely changed my perspective on this topic and it's really sad to me that this society is one where male victims feel unable to get justice.

MikeNew513 · 2017-06-29T16:35:04+00:00

Male on Male sexual assault has frighteningly become more common in the Armed Forces in the last twenty years. A SSGT in my BTN in the Marines got caught for it in 2005. He had something like 11 victims testify against him at his Court Martial.

marcooni1 · 2017-06-29T13:27:47+00:00

It is still unclear who rapes men. The poster doesn´t say it directly and first impression would be that other men are raping males

tapperyaus · 2017-06-29T15:03:47+00:00

That 1 in 6 figure is just as outlandish as women's rape statistic. Are there any sources for it?

besaolli · 2017-06-29T13:30:32+00:00

You said this is on "base;" I assume you mean a military base. Any idea if any such poster has been hung in a more public place? And if so, did it get any attention from the yes-all-men crowd?

2a3 · 2017-06-29T16:07:23+00:00

Lol my experience with SAPR is that men are at fault, even if both parties are drunk. The NCIS lady says she has no mercy towards us (ironically she was speaking so a group of only men.)

Besrod · 2017-06-29T15:03:29+00:00

I would say the military does well st acknowleding male rape as long as the SARC understands to brief it as well. I am a SARC and I make damn sure to include male rape in my training briefs.

romulusnr · 2017-06-29T15:18:45+00:00

I sense a subtext there that it's only by other men.

PTMegaman · 2017-06-29T18:09:29+00:00

Never thought I'd post a comment in this subreddit, but I'm working on animated shorts related to this poster and it popped up in my r/all so I feel compelled to respond with additional information.

Our work is for a branch of the U.S. Army called S.H.A.R.P. (Sexual Harassment and Assault Response and Prevention). I've been animating short training videos for about two years now. Over the course they've included some interesting tidbits of data, including that about 2/3 of sexual assault and harassment incidents in the army are male on male. Sexual assault isn't just physically attacking someone with the intent to have sex with them, it is filming a squadmate taking a shower without their knowledge, hazing a member of the unit by "pantsing" them infront of everyone, and, sadly some people need to be told this, placing an object in anyone's orifices without their consent is sexual assault.

The SARC (Sexual Assault Response Coordinator) is an active duty member who takes on the additional responsibility of being the first responder when an incident is reported, and coordinates with a VA (Victim Advocate), and an investigation is initiated.

I believe heavily in this project and though I know many active duty members bemoan SHARP training as death by powerpoint, many of their peers need this training. When you become a member of an armed service you are supposed to be held the highest standard of professionalism, responsibility for your actions, and learn to work with others as a team. Many enter fresh out of highschool and do not have this skillset or understand it's necessity. You are on a team doing dangerous work and that requires a lot of trust, responsibility, and care for and from all members of the unit. Assault or harassment at one members expense can damage their trust in their battle-buddy and affects unit efficiency and readiness.

Hopefully a few readers will find this enlightening, encouraging, and helpful. Working the last few years on these animations tackling real issues has been incredibly fulfilling.

melodiousmeow · 2017-06-29T22:01:58+00:00

Feminist here. Please don't hate. These posters need to be everywhere! Male sexual assault happens and society wants to pretend only women can be raped. It's not true. And then there are limited resources for men and such! I'm glad this was posted and needs to be more accessible for all!

Gliste · 2017-06-29T16:28:01+00:00

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RicardusAlpers · 2017-06-29T18:27:24+00:00

Sexual "assualt", written by "Goodfellow" - who put up that poster?

Matty303 · 2017-06-29T20:30:43+00:00

I agree with the spreading of this message, but I'm dubious that 1 in 6 men have been sexually assaulted. I know the idea that 1 in 4 women are sexually assaulted on college campuses is definitely not true, therefore it seems that this figure may be similarly invalid.

Jagd3 · 2017-06-29T21:26:24+00:00

I am sorry for your circumstances. Goodfellow sucks.

Oz70NYC · 2017-06-30T00:41:39+00:00

I don't know what branch you're in, but this USMC StSgt approves of that poster.

botbotbobot · 2017-06-30T03:53:26+00:00

Oh man, Goodfellow. Parked in such a worthless shithole. San Angelo is like the armpit of the asshole of the world.

Source: stationed there for AIT in like 2003.

pumpinglava · 2017-06-29T15:25:31+00:00

Isn't the 1/6 figure just as much bullshit as the 1/4 one for women? If I recall, they came from the same Mary Koss study.

TeddyTheBoss007 · 2017-06-29T17:43:11+00:00

I like the poster, but 1 in 6 is bullshit. Feminists claim 1 in 4 and that's fucking retarded as well. We have to hold ourselves to a higher standard than they hold themselves.

MasterGoshinki · 2017-06-29T18:56:38+00:00

yeah, the military is in a weird spot. on the one hand, it buys sjw nonsense, buuuut it will still say you can be racist against white people (for example).

wegie125 · 2017-06-30T04:01:57+00:00

Man I'm glad to see something like this, especially seeing all of the bad things that this subreddit highlights that happen to men

i-am-a-genius · 2017-06-30T04:32:26+00:00

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They gotta fucking misspell a word in the first sentence?

TracyMorganFreeman · 2017-06-30T19:12:39+00:00

80% of male rape victims are raped by women.

Are those violent rapes?

They might be using different stats, but at least it's good to acknowledge the problem exists.

deadarmy1986 · 2017-08-25T20:23:59+00:00

Totally behind this.....

Apart from the spelling mistake in the first bit.

Rethgil · 2017-06-29T21:01:07+00:00

All the people they list as potential people who might assault a man.

And NOT ONCE do they mention women.

firestorm64 · 2017-06-29T22:42:05+00:00

How is this any better than the anti-assault posters talking only about women, seema hypocritical to be upvoting this.

WhirlingDervishes · 2017-06-29T19:55:11+00:00

Lol no one has pointed out that "male victims represent 25%-35% of sexual abuse victims" means that 65-75% are women.

Rmc803 · 2017-06-29T18:03:25+00:00

Man on man rape is the 3rd leading cause of skinny jean wearing

R_Lupin · 2017-06-29T18:13:43+00:00

Those stats aren't accurate where I'm from, I don't know a single male that's ever been sexually assaulted or raped, it may happen somewhere but it's certainly not 1 in 6 here

_Username_Required_ · 2017-06-29T17:23:40+00:00

You're also in GF AFB?? Hmmmm.....

Camdennn · 2017-06-29T16:27:23+00:00

"Men are victims too"

thefrdeal · 2017-06-29T18:54:28+00:00

Wow a men's rights post that isn't bashing feminism? Amazing

safron42 · 2017-06-29T14:44:14+00:00

Good god. Not sure I believe this.

Title	A refreshing poster from base
Author	TearShitDown
Upvotes	4824
Comments	296
Date	June 29, 2017 12:34 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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