Do you think it is possible that in the future women will be the ones whom society will expect to be providers rather than men?

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2026-01-01T07:12:52+00:00

Unless there are big economic changes very few couples will have one partner at home.

My husband was a sahh for a while during covid, it was a blast.

I wish I earnt enough for him to stay home and be creative

toasterchild · 2026-01-01T01:14:41+00:00

You really know a bunch of women who aren't expected to work and provide for themselves these days?

I know very few families with a stay at home spouse and the ones i do know typically have enough kids that they can't afford daycare otherwise. It wasn't about the man playing provide, only about saving on child care.

Everyone for the most part is a provider now, even in higher income locations both spouses typically work and provide.

Flightlessbirbz · 2026-01-01T04:48:22+00:00

I don’t see women becoming sole “providers” because I don’t see men ever wanting to be primary caregivers and to have to solely depend on someone else for money. Women also generally do not view having control over another person as worth having to financially support that person.

And last but most importantly, it’s simply not economically feasible for most households to have only one provider anymore and I don’t see this changing. I expect the pattern of both partners having jobs and fewer people having kids to continue, at least until AI takes most people’s jobs. Then… who knows really.

Alternative-Dig-3814 · 2026-01-01T01:07:49+00:00

I don’t think women want to be providers, most want equality/equity. I think women who are really educated and successful know how big of a struggle it is to be a provider, especially mentally and they will not put themselves in this situation.

ladybird_00 · 2026-01-01T01:05:01+00:00

No, I don’t think the majority of women would opt for providing for a man as opposed to just staying single.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-01-01T01:12:27+00:00

Why do we need providers at all? In a relationship you are supposed to sit together in a row boat and both people row with the same speed and intensity.

I dont think anyone wants to be either. Can't we be equals? Both work, both take care of shit.

mashedturnip · 2026-01-01T02:04:31+00:00

Anything is possible

Do I think it’s likely ? No, power is too advantageous for men to give up

Disastrous_Agent9307 · 2026-01-01T03:41:34+00:00

I think society expects it already. It just doesn't expect sole providership and I doubt it ever will unless women aren't the ones having the babies.

ChaoticAmoebae · 2026-01-01T03:55:22+00:00

No, I don’t think that will ever be an expectation if society.

Lemon_gecko · 2026-01-01T05:57:05+00:00

Hmm, will you become arm candy then? Will you become submissive, supportive, nurturing, gentle, caring etc? Or is this just about "i'm still a man, alpha bla blah, but i need your money"

Makuta_Servaela · 2026-01-01T07:58:39+00:00

Of course not, until men are the ones that have to take time off for pregnancy and birth, and until formula can be as nutritionally excellent and custom as milk (formula is good, but milk directly from the breast is better, as the nipple can sense the baby's needs through its saliva and change the milk's content to match). Women will always have a slight disadvantage in the workforce there. Employers will pass them up for promotions, and women will have to sacrifice their work ethic for their kids.

What I do think will/should happen is that men and women being breadwinners will eventually be made more equal. Women's disadvantage will be null, because both men and women will be pushed less hard, since with more technology, we can get more work done with less human labour. And we will all provide what we're capable of providing, regardless of sex.

RelativeYak7 · 2026-01-01T00:59:42+00:00

It's more likely we will all lose our jobs due to AI and become plumbers and dog walkers. So, no I don't think women will become providers.

Financial_Leave4411 · 2026-01-01T10:41:44+00:00

Why be in a relationship with a man you provide for? The whole purpose of providing for yourself as a woman is to take the man out of the equation entirely.

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ResponsibilityAny217 · 2026-01-01T15:06:30+00:00

I think that's a good possiblity.

I don't know the effects that will have on society but here are some theories,

• On one hand some women would appreciate that dynamic more bc they beared the kids, Dad can be the primary parent and rear it. ( Lots of men make great parents). Wider male gender roles available and respected.

I think this will help build and strengthen father child relationships. The men would know and feel needed/valued for their contributions to the family.

• Also as women pursue money and secure money primarily for themselves then marry based on the same thing men marry for attraction, personality, nurturing and utility. ( I think we'll find how much role and gender are really intertwined).

• alot of women pursue money simply for the sake of money. Alot of men seem to pursue money for the sake of women/families. If men could get women and families without money or being providers I think some would. Women would pursue money regardless, especially since they spend most of it.

Possible cons. If men don't take on the provider role or the nurturing role they get eliminated from the family altogether or have a much looser connection to the family. They really won't feel needed and they feel isolated. Like they live in the outskirts of societies and their own families ( Like male elephants)

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2026-01-01T15:33:46+00:00

Old gender rules probably won’t flip, they’ll just become irrelevant.

Providing won’t be about being a man or a woman. It’ll be about who can at that point in the relationship. Careers change, people get laid off, go back to school, have kids, get sick. It shifts.

So instead of “men provide” or “women provide,” it’s just whoever’s in the position to do it. That’s already happening, and that’s how it should be.

Superb-Foundations · 2026-01-02T10:13:08+00:00

Honestly every year I see more and more women dating and marrying each other so yeah I guess so 🤷

Tylikcat · 2026-01-01T01:04:39+00:00

Why would one gender be pigeonholed that way?

Title	Do you think it is possible that in the future women will be the ones whom society will expect to be providers rather than men?
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Date	December 31, 2025 9:53 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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