[Q4W] WHY? Why would I want a "relationship"?

AnarchoNAP · 2019-12-22T03:17:02+00:00

Why should YOU be in a relationship? Because you want to. If you don’t want to then don’t enter one.

But the weird thing is... I have no interest in sports ball. Don’t watch it. I couldn’t tell you what season it is. Can’t even list the teams in my state. So I just... go about my life without it. I don’t make threads asking people why I should watch sports ball because I in fact give zero fucks.

So the real question is why you’re even here (this thread not this sub) if you give zero fucks about relationships.

Willow-girl · 2019-12-22T06:50:06+00:00

If I were single, I'd be in a position similar to yours ...childfree, financially secure, no debt, able to have casual sex pretty much at the drop of a hat.

So why am I in a relationship? Because I met a person that I adore. I love the way his mind works. I love hanging out with him ... he makes me laugh. He's my favorite person in the entire world, so why wouldn't I want to be around him 24/7 (or as much as possible, given work, etc.)?

When you meet a person like that, the compromise becomes acceptable.

Aaren_Augustine · 2019-12-22T03:09:42+00:00

If there is a particular woman you like, you gain her as a relationship partner. Other than that, go knock yourself out being a mgtow.

philomexa · 2019-12-22T05:21:04+00:00

Go your own way, nobody cares.

Go your own way, nobody cares.

Go your own way, nobody cares.

boomcheese44 · 2019-12-22T04:48:36+00:00

You would want a relationship with the right woman. No logical answer will do it for someone that is asking this question. If she never shows up, you keep doing what you are doing. Its quite simple.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-12-22T03:11:23+00:00

who cares if you have a relationship? dont. no one but a girl who wants a relationship with you cares if you do. why would women here give a flying fuck if you have relationships

intersIn · 2019-12-22T04:44:20+00:00

You want to go your own way, then go your own way, but stop looking over your shoulder to see if anyone is following you.

pngmafia97 · 2019-12-22T03:16:52+00:00

Then don’t lol, power to you

WicGoingAnonymous · 2019-12-22T03:41:04+00:00

If you have to ask the question, then you don't have anything to gain.

So just don't do it?

Orange_Paisley · 2019-12-22T06:41:15+00:00

No offense but who cares? You don’t want a relationship? Relationship-worthy women will move on to better men. Women who are DTF will F.

CHAD_TDK · 2019-12-22T04:20:12+00:00

Who cares? Why are you asking PPD? If you want to ask why MEN might want relationships, people here might be able to answer. If you're asking why YOU want a relationship, how should any of us know?

Why should any woman want to have a relationship with YOU? What's so great about all the shit that you listed? What makes you better than no boyfriend at all?

InertBrian · 2019-12-22T04:27:43+00:00

I see relationships as a means for raising your children in a healthy environment. A child needs a mom & dad to understand gender dynamics

If you don’t want kids then there probably is no point in a relationship unless you want access to constant sex with a partner

Aaren_Augustine · 2019-12-22T03:31:40+00:00

You probably shouldn't. You will get nothing more out of a relationship than you are able to give. I personally want a relationship for partnership, someone to look after, someone to look forward to seeing me, someone to complain to when I've had a bad day, someone to tell when something exciting happens. Temporary people in life can briefly fill those needs but you always know they don't really care. I can spend my Christmas Eve with some other lonely person just waiting until they meet the right person but why bother. If you don't want genuine connection and companionship, it is not necessary. Senior homes are completely staffed with people who will take care of you when you are old.

2019-12-22T06:10:52+00:00

Then don’t.

If you’re content to live on your own and be limited to superficial interactions with random women then don’t be in a relationship.

Not everyone wants deep, meaningful connections and partners for life. If that’s not your jam, then don’t do it.

No ones forcing you so What’s the problem here?

2019-12-22T13:20:21+00:00

Generally the main benefit of a relationship is that you have a person who is there for you all the time, for whom you are the most important person in their life. That feeling of being the special one for another person is important to many people. If it's not important to you that's your choice - you sound as if you don't like being tied down to one person and that's perfectly ok.

CHAD_TDK · 2019-12-22T15:37:24+00:00

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2019-12-22T16:42:53+00:00

I think u nailed it in the head with the “guys with choices” part. That’s what motivates guys to jump into a relationship. I’ve def been there. Went from having nothing to dating a 9-10 and I was ALL IN. So the key, as far as I can see, is to give yourself the best chances to increase your options. And I really don’t see me wanting a long term relationship when there’s an abundance of women that u know you just have to walk up to and say “hi what’s your name”

DubsPackage · 2019-12-22T19:21:44+00:00

Because you enjoy their company enough and they add enough value to your life.

If that's not the case then you shouldn't do it.

LifterofThings · 2019-12-22T12:49:46+00:00

Don't. Nobody cares. This has been asked and answered a billion times.

2019-12-22T03:32:20+00:00

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Barneysparky · 2019-12-22T04:14:20+00:00

I question only why you are questioning yourself.

I look around my neighbourhood and social group. Some people are relationship people and some are not, that makes no difference to me.

I get that people try to push their own preferences on you. We see it here with the different types saying you'd be happier if you were more like me. That's, bullshit. You be you.

CHAD_TDK · 2019-12-22T06:33:42+00:00

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GennyX · 2019-12-22T07:37:45+00:00

You don’t want a relationship? Cool! Don’t have one.

goatismycopilot · 2019-12-22T13:53:18+00:00

I am confused about why you think the women of PPD would want to put time and effort into arguing you into doing something you don't want to do? Why are you trying to get validation for your mediocre life and choices?

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RandomAttackHelpMe · 2019-12-22T06:43:28+00:00

So, if I may offer my take on this, no, I'm not going to try and convince you to be in a relationship if you don't want too. It is your business and do what you want. I say as long as everyone is up front and clear and there is no surprises, I don't care anymore. It is not my problem.

Now, and this isn't a diss on you OP, I am technically on your side but with my own limits to certain things. See folks, this here is an example of the outcomes/scenarios/situations of everyone just being as independent and free as they can. I am by no means saying this is bad, quite the opposite, however this is part of a series of repeated patterns and complaints and observations I have seen in relation to this.

See, guy "improves" after what I am sure was a heart wrenching divorce, as those things tend to be. He has string of casual relations, not judging, but that's what it seems. He has various parties telling him, whether it be mother, aunt, sister(s), social acquaintances, friends, current or former partners etc., telling him he must commit, it is the right thing to do etc. I do not exactly disagree with those ideas, but I am not getting into that right now.

He "improves" and lists his attributes, good job, healthy, own place, travels, etc. He is by all means, a catch. Now, factor in the casual dating scene or hook up scene or however you want to put it. And without getting into it, most people do not want that. I am not telling anyone what to do, but very few people, men or women, could just be casual for so long or forever. But this is where things stand. He meets someone, perhaps she thinks he/what they have is special, it will lead to more, whether perhaps she is taking him for a ride or thinks if she just waits it out, he will change, whatever it may be. Even though he has clearly said he is only in it for casual reasons. However that plays out is anyone's guess.

Ok, back to the part about patterns and observations part. You seem people, men and women, who do want something serious/long term/committed etc. That's not the worst thing to me but some people aren't able to handle the reality of some things.

So, anyways, to wrap this all up, the fuck you think is going to happen when you tell everyone to be independent and not commit and tradition is lame etc? Or, OR!, you COULD commit with someone who is looking for the same, but ah, AH! They don't meet your "expectations".

ayeemmaperson · 2019-12-22T06:58:00+00:00

You shouldn't have to if you don't want to! But, just make sure you don't regret it later in life. If you're gonna be the type of man in his 40's who only wants women in their 20's, most good women with interesting personalities don't date older men for anything other than his money. Usually. So you might be alone or stuck with someone you don't really get on well with. And the longer you wait, the more women your own age will be eaten by the dating pool, and the harder it will be to find someone. And if you want kids, your fertility declines too. By 45 most men are shooting blanks and it can take up to 2 years to impregnate a woman with old, mutated, low quality stuffs that come with the same risks that an older woman may have.

So, just take a while to decide if you are totally okay with not having a partner and if you decide not to then fuck it. Single people can live happy lives and in my opinion it's less stressful. And I read a couple studies that men and women who stay single and don't have children age better. That's a plus. There are so many reasons to have a partner, and to not have a partner. Like, people in relationships are more likely to beat cancer.

I think you should read some benefits and downsides to having a relationships and see which side is more appealing. There's a lot of studies on it. But you could also get a woman with, you know, a job. Then you could still travel, not have to put up too much money on dates and even have MORE money because someone is sharing the financial burden with you. My fiance is way better off now that I'm in the picture. Many times he would have been severely fucked if he didn't have me to fall back on. Having a partner can be a good safety net during hard times. You never know what tragedies the future will bring. I'm obviously on the pro love side, but I see the allure of both.

King_Loser27 · 2019-12-22T04:55:07+00:00

If you were genuinely fulfilled with your life and living on your own terms, you wouldn't have asked.

A. Why should I give up my freedom? B. Why should I spend money on dates and relationship expenses (presents, activities, vacations, etc...)? C. Why should I either share my great apartment or have to get a new apartment?

You have to realise that every time you make a choice you are "settling" in some way. By choosing to not have a relationship, you are also compromising on certain things that you cannot get by being single. It's up to each person to understand the pros/cons of every choice and live the life they want to.

The pros of relationships: more frequent and arguably better sex (if you share similar libidos), less expensive dates, emotional support for your goals and through tough times, companionship and having a partner to experience fun things together, having children, building a life together where greater responsibility = greater meaning.

Why should I get myself into a relationship? What do I have to gain?

You shouldn't get into a relationship because you're too narcissistic and are obsessed with what you can get out of a partner instead of what you yourself can give. Don't worry, you'll probably grow out of it.

G77R23D · 2019-12-22T05:59:12+00:00

How old are you?

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LillthOfBabylon · 2019-12-22T14:44:39+00:00

This is precisely why no one takes MGTOW seriously.

People might think you want a relationship because you keep talking about relationships. The female population is NOT going to cry and beg you to “come back to the planation”.

At a mininum, you’d have to be a celebrity.

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Reisiluu · 2019-12-22T10:06:35+00:00

Because you find a woman so irresistible that you want to keep seeing her and don't want her to go out dates and have sex with other men. If you don't feel that way you shouldn't be in a relationship.

I just say that I am not relationship material

Based on the qualities you listed you are relationship material to women. You just don't want a relationship.

JezebeltheQueen5656 · 2019-12-22T19:47:19+00:00

why dont you tell us instead? why should we answer the q for you? i dont even recall women asking you to LTR them. what a narcissist you are, OP.

ontherailstoday · 2019-12-22T20:58:54+00:00

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ontherailstoday · 2019-12-23T09:31:15+00:00

Imagine yourself at age 75. If you still don;'t need an LTR then, well fine stay single.

Title	[Q4W] WHY? Why would I want a "relationship"?
Author	CHAD_TDK
Upvotes	3
Comments	130
Date	December 22, 2019 3:08 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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