Why do men factor a woman’s body into her overall attractiveness more than women factor in a man’s body ?

ISimpForKweens · 2021-04-21T17:21:09+00:00

Women care about male height. A guy who has an 8/10 face but a 5’4 body will be perceived as unattractive by most women. A man with an average face but a 6’2 body will be perceived as attractive by most women.

Guapscotch · 2021-04-21T16:56:04+00:00

You could attribute this to the popular notion that the majority of a woman's worth is tied directly to her appearance. How she looks, how she takes care of herself, the time she invests to make sure she looks in tip top shape.

With that being said, you could also consider the perspective that men have always been viewed as providers since time immemorial, so his looks do not really matter as much, and his value as a long term partner is most important when it comes to what he can provide for a woman. In most of the world, this is usually how it is. A woman looks good, and the man provides for the woman. Both sides understand this, and both sides are satisfied with the arrangement, ok, society continues.

In a modern context, if you view it under the lens of the western world and a new age of empowered women, I would argue the dynamic has changed. A woman's appearance is still important to a man. And a man providing for a woman is still important too, but as of the past few decades a woman can provide for herself now. Women to a degree don't really need to rely on men for anything anymore if she is on top of her game and made the best moves for her financial situation early on. The liberated powerful woman of modern day therefore can be more selective of her partners. This is when I would like to interject and say that in a modern context, appearance of a man is absolutely important.

The rules have changed imo. Women that have their shit together can afford to be extremely selective because they provide for themselves. As a man you have to be on your purpose. You have to give a shit about your appearance. You have to be performative at a very high level if you want an opportunity to be romantically involved with a woman of this caliber. Naturally, being physically fit comes with the territory. Just my two cents, one of the best things the modern man can do beyond making sure his financial situation is immaculate is putting on some muscle mass and defining his body. Women love a man that takes care of himself, no woman will deny that.

Pilling_it · 2021-04-21T16:37:50+00:00

Women are on average found more attractive than men by both men and women if that tells you anything.

Also, it depends for what they're seeking (women to men). There's various ways to be attractive for women, but for men, it's pretty much be tall, white, have a beard, full dark hair and jacked or go home.

Of course, you don't have to meet all of that, but that's way more set in stone, and no way around it.

Medicine_Adventurous · 2021-04-21T16:46:51+00:00

https://youtu.be/0avuIqeergQ

https://youtu.be/E42ruq_xLEM

These videos and countless chadfishing tinder experiments show that women definitely do care about a mans body. They care less, but they definitely do care and it does matter. Especially the younger a woman is the more likely she cares, older women are typically fat themselves and have matured so they tend to care less than they did in their 20’s.

Now having a hot body is pretty useless if the man has an ugly face. However, a woman can have an ugly face but men will swarm if she has a banging body.

Why? Because ass and tits are hypersexualized. Mens abs are considered attractive, but they aren’t even close to sexualized to the extent that a womans body is. It’s societal, most women find abs attractive or a bonus, but most of them won’t turn into drooling savages over it like men do to women’s bodied because men are horny and are taught from a young age that touching boobs and ass are the peak of their existence

reluctantly_red · 2021-04-21T18:29:58+00:00

OP is 100% wrong.

crookedsummer2019 · 2021-04-21T16:47:38+00:00

Yeah. There doesn’t seem to be a male version of the butterface.

SmurfESmurferson · 2021-04-21T16:38:17+00:00

Interestingly, it’s not just a man/woman split. There have been studies done that show that black people and white people have a hard time seeing age on each other’s faces because black people focus on the mouth area, while white people focus on the eye area

And it makes sense - black skin tends to show age in the nasolabial folds (as opposed to crow’s feet), while white people show age first in the eye area

EDIT - I’m guessing a big cause is that men are - even on levels they don’t realize - evaluating a woman’s reproductive fitness in a way women don’t need to do with men

JohnDoe9564 · 2021-04-21T16:48:20+00:00

Men get turned on more by visual stimuli than women.

Which is why we get horny just off a picture of a good ass, even if there's no face involved. Women need more

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-04-21T17:04:45+00:00

Visual is important, but you neglect how the man's body is "registered". It is not that the man's body is not, in fact the male's voice alone is a powerhouse for female sexual arousal because it displays high T. Yet most men love to be "quiet" in bed and wondering why women do not orgasm. Vocal stimulation has been directly linked to orgasm and higher insemination rates.

Sometimes touch, smell, and other "feelings" that all contribute to sex and sexuality. It is not the idea of looking at a man that is arousing, but movements, action, and the physical.

It is all about how his body feels and moves against yours. A muscular pair of arms feels good and can be arousing once they are around you, touching a hard muscular chest feels good when you are on top and need supporting balance, a muscular back feels good to touch, and broad shoulders feel good when you touch them missionary, all this contributes to sexual arousal (for me anyway) but are visually unstimulating on it's own.

Looking at a muscular man does nothing; I need to feel them. This is why women get touchy with muscles, and ask to feel while enjoying hugs and squeezing, cuddles, etc. Just looking at an erect penis does nothing, but this is a different story feeling it against your ass. Suddenly it is interesting. Men look good, but feel even better through direct stimulation and up-close and personal to examine sexually dimorphic distinctions.

What do you think other males in the animal Kingdom just stand there looking? They preform dances and a series of movements, because the male's body is best admired in action. A man fixing something is much more attractive to look at than a still life because you make a casual link between his muscles and utility, which is hot.

GGMcThroway · 2021-04-21T17:02:27+00:00

Because guys aren't raised to consider non-physical-attraction qualities in a potential partner nearly as much as girls are. They're not told to vet for good qualities (maybe due to the societal notion that all women always come with the capacity to do "women's work" built-in, maybe due the comparative lack of physical danger). They're not warned as much about abusive partners and red flags and abuse by women tends to be excused more often.

"Happy wife happy life" and all that.

John_Oakman · 2021-04-21T17:04:59+00:00

Come back with this question after a post scarcity economy is achieved and men/male provider traits becomes obsolete. I think the observations might then be different...

_lemazaki · 2021-04-21T17:41:31+00:00

Women do care. But they care a lot about others things too... then proportionally, the man's body has less weight on this scale.

Sid_Insidious · 2021-04-21T19:24:02+00:00

This used to be true but today women are just as picky about what they want (physically) in a partner as men are.

Barely-moral · 2021-04-21T16:38:13+00:00

Because women seem to be able to get other benefit from men besides the ones that are directly linked to his looks. A man that has money/status has that to offer to his partner and chances are that she will like that.

I can't say things are equal the other way around.

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cuddlemechloe · 2021-04-21T17:24:21+00:00

Women seem to not care about a man’s body as long as he isn’t fat or super skinny, and place a lot of importance on the face

Yep. That sounds about right. I don't know why, but yeah. I really like men's faces.

headchefboyardee · 2021-04-21T17:52:45+00:00

OP are you talking about men and women making these decisions in a 2021 context or as a constant over our species’ evolution?

geometersbane · 2021-04-21T18:15:38+00:00

because most women have a good personality and won't abuse you. that's not an assumption we can make for men.

sorebum405 · 2021-04-21T19:00:47+00:00

It's because women are not highly aroused by sexual visual stimuli the way men are.At best a guy who has muscular body may peak a woman's interest because of what that musculature represents,but it's not gonna get a woman sexual aroused and make her want to have sex with you.Here is my post on this subject.

4D-Alien · 2021-04-21T19:46:48+00:00

i would say how women care about a mans height, is how men care about a womens body.

Thetermibox · 2021-04-21T20:00:50+00:00

That's untrue. Women are just as shallow. Namely shoulders, height and jaw as indication of upper body strength, ability to reach food in high places, and ability to masticate. These are all traits designed to showcase a mans evolutionary superiority to be a protector and provider.

For men its boobs, hips, and eyes. Boobs indicate ability to breast feed youth, hips indicate which women can carry babies with less stress on the body and eyes that are bigger are more expressive and allows men to read her easier to nurture

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-04-21T20:23:35+00:00

Because we are more visual creatures, and there's a mix of biology/ society, big breats, hips and all that have biological implications

Goodthingstartssmall · 2021-04-21T22:38:23+00:00

This is due to following...

men default state is usually more thirsty (changes after post nur clarity)
Gen Y onwards is usually indoctrinated by media that women are so beautiful etc. in tandem with...
complete lack of general male appreciation in open media and only the bad cases are communicated

Kids growing up with these messages and through their most formative years. Of course the perception tends to be that women are more attractive even from straight women themselves.

Superfluous_Toast · 2021-04-22T01:32:49+00:00

Because that's the part we spend the most time looking at. Something something socialization something something facial expressions.

AbbreviationsHot1200 · 2021-04-22T05:11:36+00:00

Because women are fat af these days

Title	Why do men factor a woman’s body into her overall attractiveness more than women factor in a man’s body ?
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Date	April 21, 2021 4:33 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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