What do you bring to the table?

Rhbgrb · 2023-09-20T07:47:04+00:00

I admit I don't know what I bring. I'm older, and can't have children. What I bring is a desire to bring peace to a man, and understand the importance of men and what they have done for women and society as a whole. I had a father who literally worked until he died, and that's what men do for their families. The things I don't know, I'm willing to l learn.

The best thing a woman can bring to the table is the understanding that she needs to bring something to the table.

Do any of you red pill ladies know how to cook? Sad to admit I am trying to learn how to do it better.

ArkNemesis00 · 2023-09-20T13:54:45+00:00

I believe it's LateralThinker who will ask OPs this question: "what do you bring to the table that other women don't."

I've given it some brief thought, and I think it's my belief that my husband is the best man for me. That our marriage is the first priority of my life and that I want to help him be the best version of himself.

There are things I do and say that I only would because I hold these beliefs.

StrangestUnicorn · 2023-09-20T02:27:32+00:00

I AM THE TABLE!!

Euphoric-Chain-5155 · 2023-09-21T15:20:55+00:00

I can rattle off a few of the things my wife brought to the table that sets her apart:

-Not only can she cook, but she cooks well, enjoys it, and works to better at it

-She's a reader, and well-read enough that I've never lacked for stimulating conversations with her

-She worked to maintain her appearance when we first met (still does, but I took note early on). Additionally, when I first met her mother, she still looked good in her 50s, so I knew my wife would stay attractive if she made the effort

-She was financially sensible on her own, so I didn't have to worry about assuming the responsibilities for her finances in the future

There are a few other things, which like the things I listed, are all the standard recommendations you see on RPW. Looking back over the course of our relationship (the 16th anniversary of our first date is in a couple weeks), there is one trait that I think mattered more than anything, and is something I think other women should emulate:

She's said she never believed in the idea of "The One", as in there is one perfect partner out there ready-made for you. She believes (and I think this is a valid hypothesis) that there are many possible "Ones" out there for everyone. What set her apart from all the other possible "Ones" is that she's always been willing to become my perfect woman.

You are going to grow and change throughout your life. Some of that is going to be to external forces outside of your control, but it doesn't have to be the only thing that changes you. Everyone can choose to change, and making the choice to change into someone that will make your mate for life happier is a great way to ensure a long, happy marriage.

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2023-09-20T14:00:21+00:00

These are things I have been told:

Nurturing/supportive

Good cook

Not argumentative or manipulative

Postive about sex, etc.

Open/easy to talk with/ non-judgemental

ETA: and that I'm very calm/have a calming effect on people. I have been told that by many different people.

flower_power_g1rl · 2023-09-20T10:36:40+00:00

I have a positive attitude, I'm pretty and keep fit, I love to cook and clean for and please a good man, I'm mentally independent. I'm looking to have and create a wonderful romantic marriage which is a heaven for my man, and in turn for me, so I put in that work (and manifestation) to do so!

DunboyCastleInTheSky · 2023-09-20T16:45:37+00:00

Cooking, cleaning, event planning, the ability to have children, parenting knowledge from teaching/tutoring children, family-oriented, ambitious, outgoing, budgeting/frugality, kindness, and good looks. I honestly didn’t realize I had that to offer my husband but thankfully he noticed it while we dated.

ClarityByHilarity · 2023-09-20T20:08:49+00:00

I am a great mom and I keep our entire family running in the right direction smoothly. I monitor the ins and outs of our 4 kids, I’m an excellent cook, I love having sex with my husband. I’m up for it all the time and I’m absolutely his best friend.

We really like each other. On top of great chemistry, that we continue to nurture with dates and yearly one on one vacations, overnights when possible and just hanging out together. We love to cook and are total foodies but really we can just get into anything together. When you keep your relationship sexually healthy and you both feel you’re pulling your weight it’s so good for your relationship.

I also have a husband who’s not a total asshole and sees me clearly. He listens to me and hears me. He’s caring and kind, but a gentle leader. I’m a SAHM and he says I work more then him. So, it’s really easy to be crazy about him and keep him happy.

ToughCollection7460 · 2023-09-20T12:41:35+00:00

A couple things I’d consider I bring to the table:

Fertility and age: (this is out of anyone’s control, but still a positive contribution.) Both my husband and I want a family (starting to try next year 🙌🏻) so I would consider my fertility and age to both be things I bring to the table. I’m also grateful that i started dating with the intention of marriage as young as i did (23) and grateful i met him at 24.

Humility, kindness, loyalty, low aggression: I’ve worked really hard, especially over the last 10yrs, on checking my ego (especially when it comes to defensiveness) at the door so I would consider many of these personality attributes as things I bring to the table.

My natural desire to prioritize marriage and family: I have always had a natural desire to “settle down” and have a family with the love of my life. I naturally prioritize my husband, our marriage, our home and eventually our children. Basically, I naturally desired to be a wife and mother and that is a great blessing I bring to the table.

Adding my libido and sexual appetite. It is complimentary to my husband’s. Thankfully I don’t have to “work” at being in the mood and we’ve been relatively equal and compatible in the bedroom.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2023-09-20T17:55:32+00:00

My husband said he liked having sex with me, lol.

But in general, outside of bed, he praised me specifically for being accommodating, not trying to change him, and just making things easy. I also think he liked introducing the quiet little me to things like riding a motorcycle, training his difficult dog, skating, etc. Adding a dash of danger to my life!

It's good to consider your tangible SMV/RMV qualities, but this question also involves unspoken intangibles that just "feel right" to a man. I suspect that women who have trouble landing a guy despite doing everything right, in theory, are failing to tap into some intangible desire a man might not even be able to articulate but that feels good with a woman who just gets it .

Funny-Ambition8482 · 2023-09-22T21:49:57+00:00

Absolutely nothing.

In all seriousness, I've never heard a HVM ask this. I'm pretty and I'm a good wife. The men who get it, get it.

darkksuns · 2023-09-20T04:48:09+00:00

i like to think of it as my partner would be the table and i’m just there to decorate and make him the best he can be :) as in, i would be there to support him and look after him by caring and showing my appreciation, listening, cooking, cleaning, whatever it is he needs, but he is the key component to our relationship. (psa - i’m fairly new to the rpw community so any addition + advice to this is greatly appreciated!)

throwaway253025 · 2023-09-20T14:52:53+00:00

I am so glad my husband never asked me this before we got married. As we got to know each other, we both could see the value in each other without needing to ask direct questions like this.

It was clear after a month or two of spending time together (without dating anyone else on the side obviously), that he was an ambitious family man working his way up in the world, and I had the domestic skills and desire to raise children and be a good wife to him. I cooked meals for him, helped him clean his apartment (we didn’t live together until marriage), spent time with his family and friends, supported him at work events, did all of our favorite hobbies together, exercised together, went to church together, etc.

It was all organic and nothing felt rushed or unnatural about the process. We got engaged after ten months, but he said he knew after only one month that he wanted to marry me.

I’m only 31 and we got married in 2016, but it feels like the world (especially the dating world) has changed SO much since then. 😔

mayonnarse · 2023-09-21T06:01:51+00:00

I’ll be honest with you & not feed you bullshit like society wants me to. Low body count & femininity. The lower your body count, the lower your chances of divorce. There are so many studies done on this. When I say feminity, I mean kindness, modesty, loyalty, family-oriented, youth, empathy, nurturing, cooking, cleaning, sewing, knitting, planning, creativity, etc.

LateralThinker13 · 2023-09-21T15:13:15+00:00

I'll chime in to suggest a reframe of the question. It's my favorite question to ask the ladies of RPW, and sadly it almost never gets an answer (because it's too painful, I guess).

"What do you bring to the table, that he wants, and that other women don't?"

I frame it because asking the simple "What do you bring to the table" allows women to bring their delusional perceptions of their own desirability, value, and worth to the table and doesn't challenge their lack of understanding of SMV/RMV and men in general.

"That he wants" makes them think about what men actually want, not just what they're willing to give a man. And usually makes them realize that, besides sex, they don't KNOW what a man wants.

"And that other women don't" makes the average woman realize that they don't have anything to offer above and beyond other women. It makes the women whose answer to OP's question is "this" or "me", complete with a smug gesture to their own body, freeze up in fear. Because when all you offer a man is a willing hole, you soon realize that every woman has that. You have to offer more.

You have to offer more, of things he wants.

Men don't want your education, career, or degrees. At best they're indifferent to them. At worst, they get in the way/ take up your time/give you airs.

When you can answer MY question, well and fully, you can keep any good man you land.

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TheFoxOfApril · 2023-09-20T04:54:32+00:00

I'm a guy, but the question as asked, I think is misframed The question is fine, but I can be asked differently to not create the assumption of a pure transactional relationship.

I think the question should be broken up into many questions.

Like the type of things you would talk about on a date.

What are your passions? Then talk about them. What our your dreams? Do you want kids one day? Do you believe in anything? Do you have hobbies?

All these questions, become the many answers to your base question.

The questions and interest someone shows tells you that they can be attentive. If one of their hobbies were cooking or reading. You know you found someone who you can talk with about these things.

If you went on a date with them, sexually attraction, is assumed both ways. So you both have that for each other.

Finding out the other person's values through multiple question is a lot better then asking your question, as it's framed. Or at least as it sounds.

If I was asked what do I bring to the table. I would probably respond exactly like this.

I'm just a lurker, I like gaining different perspectives.

It's a good question, but it can be asked better.

Realistic_Pass · 2023-09-21T19:17:26+00:00

A beautiful smile.

SunshineSundress · 2023-09-20T05:48:11+00:00

Above all other things, I think my man appreciates me for my attitude and the enthusiasm I have for him the most. Those two things are what make me happy to do the things that make him feel loved, like getting home-cooked meals, having someone who feels lucky to follow his lead, and getting to come home to a soft place to land everyday. He’s able to confide in me and bond with me in a way that he’s expressed he’s never experienced EVER in his life, because he knows he can trust my intentions. Even after years together, I’m genuinely still so excited to actively engage with him.

The respect and desire I have for him is something he’s told me he cherishes a lot, and not to toot my own horn, but I believe it’s been a great force multiplier for his own self-assurance. He would have been a great man with or without me, but when you have someone who is unwaveringly in your corner, and who will back you no matter what, and who cannot keep her hands off of you, it gives you the ease and confidence to take risks and power through whatever life throws at you.

dntplywthm · 2023-09-20T15:38:41+00:00

Honestly, I’m answering this more for me than for you rn but maybe it will help? First, off I’m readily able and will handle myself and my needs financially. I have since I was 17. If a man wants to split expenses, we talk about it. I want to make sure it’s all fair though so it doesn’t get thrown in my face and I can take pride in my potentially partial independence. Second, despite my own mental health concerns I will try and support literally anything you want to do if it makes you happy. Get into shape? I’ll be in the gym with you. Woodwork? What can I do to inspire you? Self improvement? You have my full support. Thirdly, along with my mental health concerns I am always trying to better myself in multiple ways. I take stock on my side of shift often and do my best to keep my side fair and accountable. So with that, I grow. I’m not where I want to be but I’m not where I was. Very imperfect for sure and it becomes deeply discouraging at times but, I still keep pushing on.

lyclente · 2023-09-22T00:15:47+00:00

What about this group for?

LuckySpeed9292 · 2023-09-22T04:28:45+00:00

attractive, thin (18 bmi), long straight hair, emphasis on slim fitting clothes and earrings, 5’6
funny, a little spoiled, coquettish personality
Ivy League educated x2 both in STEM
work in finance, make over 7 figs per year (so does my fiancé)
speak 3 languages
cook healthy, organic, easy oven meals everyday
low body count, only long-term relationships
male-dominated industry and hobbies most bfs relate to
trying to get good at yoga and become super flexible

LivelyLychee · 2023-09-22T22:14:41+00:00

Additionally, when I first met her mother, she still looked good in her 50s, so I knew my wife would stay attractive if she made the effort.

Whenever I go down a “INEEDBOTOXANDFILLERSANDAFACELIFTANDLASETREATMENTSASAP” hole after spending too much time on social media or looking into those pesky 500% magnification mirrors, my man tells me to take a deep breath and go look at my mom, who still looks nice at 65+. He also noted how young she looked in her pictures when she was 30-45ish, and jokes that if those are my genes, he won’t need to pull a DiCaprio anytime soon 😅

RoseSung · 2023-09-20T03:29:03+00:00

Stop asking what women bring to the table. Only incels ask a woman what she brings to the table.

Extension_Shake2725 · 2023-09-21T15:49:10+00:00

What am I supposed to bring when you’re the one who asked me to sit down ??? Lol

Title	What do you bring to the table?
Author	HalwawithTea
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Date	September 19, 2023 4:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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