Mainstream Article: 12 Signs He's Cheating... Practically a Dread Game Blueprint.

TheRedPilsner · 2015-06-18T12:54:06+00:00

He takes a lot more trouble over his appearance, whether that means dressing better, a sudden heavy use of aftershave, or an infatuation with the gym and lifting weights.

The implication that married people are supposed to let themselves go is incredibly depressing. And to think people wonder why marriage rates are at an all-time low and dropping.

Sember · 2015-06-18T14:23:44+00:00

"Woman changes man into someone she is no longer interested in."

I think many women do this and it leads to skewed world views, once a man decides to be himself and do good for himself, he's cheating, who the fuck knows if a man is cheating cause he's going on fishing trips all of a sudden, or started taking care of himself, maybe he wasn't happy with his life and is trying to get his shit together.

monsieurhire2 · 2015-06-18T15:23:29+00:00

So . . . if you work to stay healthy, keep yourself presentable, have a life outside of your relationship, have a career, and treat your SO nice but without pedestalizing her, all of which are normal healthy behaviors that make one desirable, you're a no-good CHEATER?!?!?

Lolololololol....

Articles likes this are completely disingenuous.

There will be another one a few days later that says you should dump a guy for exhibiting the OPPOSITE behaviors.

It would go like this:

12 Signs you should dump your SO:

He doesn't exercise.
He makes you the center of his universe and "smothers you!"
He doesn't do nice things for you!
He does too many nice things for you!
He has no friends!
He's not "ambitious!"

. . . .

Therefore, dump him!

The whole point is to confuse the shit out of women and demoralize them.

1independentmale · 2015-06-18T15:12:44+00:00

Great submission and analysis. When I was married, a friend of mine setup a small home gym and started doing p90x. He was talking about it constantly and I found it intriguing, so I did a couple of workouts with him. Loved it, picked myself up some weights and the DVDs and started it myself.

Ex wife's hamster went wild with accusations of cheating. "I'm supposed to believe that out of nowhere you want to lift weights?!" Crazy fucking bitch.

Dread the shit out of them. Once she's convinced you're hers forever, all interest in you will be lost.

borderline_sociopath · 2015-06-18T14:58:24+00:00

Are they suddenly being overly nice? Allowing you to watch whatever you want on TV, buying you gifts, asking if you would like to go out to your favourite restaurant.

Maybe the opposite is true and they are constantly picking fault with you or accusing you of cheating.

What brilliant logic. "If he's doing this, he's cheating. If he's doing the opposite, he's cheating. Ya, totes cheating. I can't even."

raiseurT · 2015-06-18T16:38:26+00:00

Lol at feminist vocabulary, Getting a reccomended hour of daily physical activity in a culture where obesity and being sedentary are an epidemic = "Infatuation with lifting weights"

GainzdalfTheWhey · 2015-06-18T14:13:00+00:00

Wow this article is so bad that its good. It's textbook female crazy in mainstream.

moosevice_dot_com · 2015-06-18T14:34:55+00:00

Women subconsciously grease up their man once in a relationship so he doesn't have better options than to stay with her...

This article confirms TRP.

Elodrian · 2015-06-18T16:17:29+00:00

Your intuition is screaming at you that he’s having an affair. You may not be able to substantiate what your intuition is saying, but that doesn’t stop it being true. Your intuition doesn’t have an agenda. It doesn’t want you to hold onto this man at all costs. It just tells you the truth that it picks up from a thousand subtle clues.

How do you tell the difference between women's intuition and borderline personality disorder? That sounds like the set-up to a joke, but there is no punch line.

Manuel_S · 2015-06-18T15:34:11+00:00

Good stuff.

Just a comment, everybody:

DO IT SOFTLY
DO IT GRADUALLY
NEVER EVER EVER FUCKING TELL, NOR TRY TO HIDE. LET HER FIND OUT.
KEEP PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY AT ALL TIMES

When you start to implement things, do a smooth transition. Softly. If you do it well, she'll be at the same time kicking herself for suspecting you because there's no reason, and utterly convinced you got a harem of nubile young women.

Buckeye1234 · Thu Jun 18 14:40:44 2015 UTC

so if I improve, I am cheating, lol

dabrah1 · 2015-06-18T15:50:59+00:00

Most of the "signs hes cheating" articles are so vague that they can apply to almost any boyfriend or husband, in any relationship. This is clearly done intentionally to get women curious enough to read more/ similar articles- not to mention it keeps them in a constant state of dread.

Xuixien_TheEpic · 2015-06-18T16:13:10+00:00

I've read a lot of these "signs he's cheating" articles and the only thing they share as commonality is that everything is a sign he's cheating. It's like women just collectively arm themselves with material to start fights.

Tom_The_Human · 2015-06-18T17:31:42+00:00

Who is least invested holds the power. Always be less invested. Everything listed above will increase her investment in you. So if you are actually really interested in a chick, you better make sure you have this applied or it will go down in flames.

Whenever you think "I really like/love this girl! Maybe I can soften up the TRP..." remember: it is because you act how you do and are how you are that provides the conditions for her to be how she is and act how she acts.

TheQuestion78 · 2015-06-19T04:46:54+00:00

Who is least invested holds the power. Always be less invested. Everything listed above will increase her investment in you. So if you are actually really interested in a chick, you better make sure you have this applied or it will go down in flames.

And this is why self-improvement is always more important than gaining a woman's affection.

FarfromaHero40 · 2015-06-18T15:38:05+00:00

"Who is least invested holds the power. Always be less invested. Everything listed above will increase her investment in you. So if you are actually really interested in a chick, you better make sure you have this applied or it will go down in flames."

Precisely. Maintain alpha aloofness as much as the situation will allow. Game is about you chasing your best self and her chasing you because of it.

xcallide · 2015-06-18T16:15:20+00:00

This is a bad article. It's describing what women do, not men, when they cheat. It's part of the distortion TRP is trying to clear up, but for women: in the same way that men shouldn't hold women to men's standards, women shouldn't hold men to women's standards. For example, when a man acts aloof, he's typically just spacing out or thinking about some math problem he read online. When a woman acts aloof, she's typically mad about something or wants something to happen, but won't say it. Because she knows the reasons why she acts aloof, she incorrectly assumes that those are the same reasons why men act aloof. In the same way, men incorrectly assume women's reasons to act aloof. I hold the idea that men are more built to solve problems than identify problems. Meanwhile, women are more built to identify problems than to solve problems. That's probably why the standards are different: if a man assumes a woman is just spacing out, he will have more time to work on a problem; similarly, if a woman assumes a man is mad, that makes it so that if the man is truly mad, the problem is correctly identified. Women err on the side of "more problems" when identifying problems. Therefore, in a society comprised of only men, we'd see really cool gadgets, but impractical ones -- gadgets that are interesting to fellow nerds, but useless to the consumer. In a society comprised of only women, we would see tons of attitudes being thrown around, since things aren't getting done, and women are less prone to taking problem-solving responsibilities. But the problems that do eventually get solved are relevant ones. Either way, both societies are inefficient. One of the steps to become Red Pill is to accept that women and men are different. The author of this article is unfortunately not.

Moneyley · 2015-06-19T03:40:03+00:00

"He's lifting weights"

Yea he is bitch what about you? What are YOU doing to improve your health?

suloco · 2015-06-19T07:29:44+00:00

This shit here is just women projecting. It is how THEY imagine YOU would behave if you were cheating whereas it's really tells you a lot about their behavior.

ThreeLF · 2015-06-19T03:27:29+00:00

"Note you don't do this by being abusive/being nasty, you do this by being the ultimate guy"

FUCKING THIS! Needs to be stickied everywhere over this entire sub. This information can be easy to misconstrue, as we've seen by a lot of outsiders.

RedPill4LYF · 2015-06-18T15:36:22+00:00

A pattern begins to reveal itself to me as time goes on. All the mainstream rags print dating advice that is exactly counter to the reality of the trends of male behavior. These sources that women go to for dating advice are responsible for feeding them the bullshit that causes so many breakups and horrible relationship decisions.

Johnny10toes · 2015-06-18T14:07:15+00:00

There are a couple of things that I am bad at in here. Things that are not me but a reprogramming over a long time. One I use to be a huge flirt. I have a hard time with the dial on that one. It's 11 or 0. I know it's a fear that if I turn it on I'll wind up cheating and need to start doing it again. But without going to 11.

The second thing is friends. I'm not incapable of making friends, I just don't take the time. The guys I use to run with back in the day wouldn't make good friends now, I'm in a different place. Some are still into drugs and shit like that.

So I'm not really bad at them as much as I am good at it but don't do it.

RPAlternate42 · 2015-06-18T15:40:30+00:00

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slutnip · 2015-06-18T17:32:00+00:00

Funny, same thing applies to women as well

Is this written by a woman? of course it is. You guys are missing the "deflection" here, I will tell you from lots of experience, women are the worst cheaters on the planet, most guys i know at least have a moral compass about it

dw0r · 2015-06-18T21:59:07+00:00

The 12 signs ~~he's cheating~~ of being a shitty GF/wife that most women ignore

vandaalen · 2015-06-18T22:39:05+00:00

Good stuff. Archived for future referencing in asktrp.

leodoestheopposite · 2015-06-19T12:13:17+00:00

Personally I "liked" the ending best:

11 - Are they suddenly being overly nice? Allowing you to watch whatever you want on TV, buying you gifts, asking if you would like to go out to your favourite restaurant. For some, having an affair can make them act happier in their life... or guilt can make them try to make it up to you subconsciously

12 - Maybe the opposite is true and they are constantly picking fault with you or accusing you of cheating. When attraction fades in a relationship and there’s something going on the side, it’s easy to get irritable. The added burden of deceit doesn’t help. Plus, once someone has successfully cheated undetected they start to think if they could do it why cant you.

File under Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Honorable mention: 8. Your intuition is screaming at you that he’s having an affair. You may not be able to substantiate what your intuition is saying, but that doesn’t stop it being true. Your intuition doesn’t have an agenda. It doesn’t want you to hold onto this man at all costs. It just tells you the truth that it picks up from a thousand subtle clues.

Why be rational when the catch-all Female Intuition card can be played?

I strongly believe that it's incendiary articles like this that do a disservice to women first, and to their SO second. To be being part of TRP philosophy means being immune to this type of propaganda meant to rattle the cage in order to sell advertisement; I refrain from wasting time with people whose narrative follow these type of story telling.

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-06-19T16:31:12+00:00

This is basically a guide on what to do as a man if you think you're relationship in trouble. Spin little hamster, spin!

Sir_Shitlord_focker · 2015-06-18T20:15:42+00:00

I've said it before and I'll say it again: you do t need a phd in redpillology to fuck girls and over thinking it will ruin your game. Dread game is simply acting like you don't need her.

PencilNeckBrah · 2015-06-18T19:12:25+00:00

Well those are signs of cheating, which is the entire purpose of dread game - to make her jealous. If you are cheating on your wife, that is what you would be doing.

VictorEremitaK · 2015-06-18T21:11:00+00:00

You are not really honest in your critique.

All of a sudden, his working days are longer, maybe he even has to travel, so he’s away from you overnight, for a couple of days at a time, or even longer

He takes a lot more trouble (more than before) over his appearance, whether that means dressing better, a sudden heavy use of aftershave, or an infatuation with the gym and lifting weights.

They are talking about behaviour suddenly changing.

thetenman · 2015-06-18T18:32:06+00:00

Funny how a specific act and it's exact opposite are symptoms of the same problem. Hamstering at it's finest.

rKremlin · 2015-06-18T17:25:01+00:00

The issue is, how many guys can really pull all of that off? Especially the sex one. Have enough women wanting you so you can get lots of practice at sex. If you could do that then do you really need the rest of this? Yes and no.

inferno1234 · 2015-06-18T17:36:06+00:00

What am I supposed to take away from this article? It all just seems like clickbait viva magazine shit to be honest.

One thing I can see from; start improving yourself in any way and behaving like an actual man instead of a beta faggot while in an LTR and your wife will automatically assume you're cheating(which might benefit you, although I don't know if that's a given?).

So yeah, confirmation that dread game works I guess. Nice find in that respect but nothing groundbreaking.

2015-06-18T20:32:35+00:00

Final thought: Who is least invested holds the power.

You should add Rollo's relationship cardinal rule : In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.

http://therationalmale.com/2011/08/19/the-cardinal-rule-of-relationships/

useyourmouth · 2015-06-18T19:38:47+00:00

The other day I sent a "we need to talk" text to my wife. I was going to tell her about signing our sons up for little league.

A few days later, I overhear her complaining to her sister about my vague texting, and saying "OMG is he going to tell me he got someone else pregnant, or what?!"

Thanks trp.

Mainstream Article: 12 Signs He's Cheating... Practically a Dread Game Blueprint.

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