Wife Moved Out

johneyapocalypse · 2019-10-09T17:34:31+00:00

Congratulations.

You're not waiting for her answer, right (?) - since it's your fucking decision that matters.

bliceroquququq · 2019-10-09T18:19:47+00:00

Your last post said you told her that if she moved out, you were 100% done. She moved out.

tom-anonymous · 2019-10-09T18:44:59+00:00

The following is the only scenario that makes sense:

1.) Your wife stopped being attracted to you.

2.) This loss of attraction was most likely due to an encounter with another man she found more attractive than you. This encounter is probably innocent, but she found herself thinking about him. This caused her to question her relationship with you.

3.) The reason this other man was more attractive than you is because of one or more of the following: a.) He's better looking. b.) He's more fit c.) He's more confident d.) He's more exciting e.) He provides her more attention than you do/did.

4.) She's hoping she can pursue him further while you 2 are separated (if hasn't already).

5.) She not ready to fully swing branches because their relationship either hasn't happened yet, or outcome is uncertain.

6.) She want you to remain a stable branch she can swing back to in case it doesn't work out the way she wants it to.

Now you can sit there and wait for her, or you can be a man and move on. By move on I mean get to the gym and lift. Get strong and look good for no one other than yourself. Because at this point you are the only person you can rely on. You need to look the best you can so you can begin slaying pussy whenever you're ready.

At this point you should be thinking of yourself first. It sounds like your wife already has...

Edit: Tell her you will not wait. Tell her she's blown it. If anything she will be more attracted to you as a result for standing up for yourself.

Congratulations: At least she didn't try to cuck you in your own home. She left you first. I have more respect for a woman who gets the fuck out before she swings, however at the end of the day it doesn't matter.

effyouasshole · 2019-10-09T17:41:34+00:00

You didn't ask a single question, but here's some feedback on what you said:

At this point she wants space and doesn't want to give an answer on if or when she'll be back.

She'll only come back if she fails to find suitable branch to swing to. You're the backup.

She doesn't want to lose me and asked me not to see other people

Of course she doesn't want to lose her safety net.

and she is doing the same.

Lurl. I hope you don't actually believe that. She's on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Match right now, looking for an upgrade.

My next decision will be how long to wait before filing for divorce.

If you were smart, you'd hard-next her immediately and get to work on self-improvement. (You said "her kids", so I guess they have a different father, so you don't need to be involved anymore.)

There's nothing to salvage here. On the plus side, now you have a clean slate. Hit the sidebar and spend the next 2 years mastering RP theory and lifting your face off at the gym. After that, you'll wonder why you even cared about her in the first place.

RStonePT · 2019-10-09T18:51:19+00:00

Someone had to make the hard decision.

You must be glad it wasn't you

Westernhagen · 2019-10-09T18:35:37+00:00

My next decision will be how long to wait before filing for divorce.

Having looked at your post history, there is nothing to think about here.

How long does it take to drive to the lawyer's office? That's how long to wait.

savageinthebox · 2019-10-09T20:27:26+00:00

Bro she moved out, wtf? Get a lawyer, send her papers, get to work on being a man. This is beyond beta faggotry. Congratulate yourself on your new freedom, block her number and begin your life. She will have her legs in the air for Chad before you read this comment.

helaughsinhidden · 2019-10-09T18:32:14+00:00

She doesn't want to lose me

Uh, she moved out?! Acta non verba

she is doing the same

Beta orbiters will already be hitting her up when they notice you're pics aren't in her gallery and relationship status disappears. Just in case no other teams start calling her in while she is now a "restricted free agent", she wants to be able to resign, get her old locker, and keep the number on the jersey.

She complained that I'm pressuring her and giving her an ultimatum.

I don't know about you, but I hardly tolerate complaints from my wife and we share a bed and have sex on the regular. I wouldn't be hearing anything she says if she moved out of my bedroom, let alone the house. You need to behave as if you are moving on even if you still are a oneitis-simp at heart still.

My wife of 6.5 years and her two kids moved out

Just going to cut to the chase, is your third child yours from another relationship or one you have together? If it's not a child you have in common, you need to move on and don't look back. You broke down a couple times already, know this; she knew it would hurt, she could have taken other steps, she did it anyway, and she doesn't care.

Go to the gym. Full body movements. Bench press, squat, dead-lift, rows, over head press, chest flys, curls, and crunches like your life depends on it. This is all your fault, so get mad at yourself and abuse your body with lots and lots of iron while doing audio books at the same time from the sidebar. Break off the rear view mirror and stop looking back. Become the kind of man she sees in 6 months and gets sick to her stomach for walking out and replace her with someone fun, refreshing, submissive, and hot.

FlyingSexistPig · 2019-10-09T19:23:35+00:00

She's not doing the same. She's trying to branch swing to a better branch. She's going to see if there are better guys than you who will fuck her and give her money. If she can't find anyone else, she'll be back.

It's time for you to move on. What are your hobbies, the ones you've put on hold all these years, because you were spending time with her? Go do those.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2019-10-09T17:48:01+00:00

Hahahahaha. She “asked you not to see other women and she’s doing the same”

dll142 · 2019-10-09T20:26:03+00:00

Don't believe her when she says she's not seeing someone else. I would bet with an extremely high probability that's she's full of shit.

I'll say what I think I said to you before.... "VALUE YOURSELF!!"

There are tons and tons of really nice, hot, available women out there that, trust me, you'd be compatible with and like. Look, I get you're mourning a loss. That's fine. We all get that. If you're not ready to date yet, that's fine too. For what it's worth, you'd most likely be better off moving on and going and getting what you want.

Rifleshoot · 2019-10-09T17:59:00+00:00

Have some pride. Moving out, to me at least, is a red line in the sand. If she doesn't care enough to stay to try and fix things, dump her and move on. It stings, I'm sure, but you don't have kids together. You don't owe her anything. Take the opportunity you've been presented with and improve yourself and get a much higher quality woman than a single mother of two.

mrpmonk · 2019-10-09T17:38:07+00:00

Waiting is waist of time. I know it's tough, but be tougher. Remember you're the man, who hold on the rein of the relationship. She moved out and now you gotta take over. Be decisive, I know it's easier to say than done, but don't wait. Either take her back or start the divorce. Not to say you should seek a lawyer now, but put with pen and paper what is yours and what's hers and find your exit plan with lowest alimony possible. Or call a marriage council. I don't know, I don't have feelings for her, you do. Do something

nikfury69 · 2019-10-10T03:16:03+00:00

I'm typically an observer, but you've been granted an opportunity many men dream about.

A "do-over".

So consider this...

Put everything in storage.
Change the locks and lease out the house through a management company.
Get a studio apartment in the bar/college/party district.
Never give out the address. Forward all mail to a PO box.
Do the thing.

Disclaimor: Subject to local law, your mileage will vary, consult your lawyer, yada, etc.

And don't forget to mention you understand "the need for space" and express your "desire to visit the kids at her/your parents house, every other weekend".

Choose wisely...

Chump_No_More · 2019-10-10T03:26:11+00:00

She doesn't want to lose me and asked me not to see other people and she is doing the same.

Let me translate this for you...

"You stay and pine for me while I get railed by other men. Don't forget to send me all your hard earned each week, to support me and kids who aren't even yours, you fucking loser."

riverofpower · 2019-10-10T15:07:37+00:00

Been following these trainwreck posts since the start, get a grip man. In your previous post you said if she moves out you are 100% done, you set the boundaries, she crossed them, now enforce them. Don’t tolerate this kind of behavior and stop disrespecting yourself like this. I can imagine how hard it is and the sense of loss must be crippling, but the situation won’t improve by prolonging the inevitable.

[deleted] · 2019-10-09T19:36:11+00:00

So my question is, how do I get over her as fast as possible and kill the loss, sadness, and angry in it's tracks?

I'm lifting, staying busy with martial arts, etc. and prepping. Stay busy and figure out what you want.

SoyTanto · 2019-10-09T19:47:10+00:00

Nothing new man. We’ve all gone through it, to some extent. In a little time you won’t miss her or the life. In a little more time, it will all only be a memory.

Awakeningof17 · 2019-10-09T21:36:57+00:00

She wants space... she wants new dick while stringing you along as plan B in case it doesn't work out for her. Accept that she's fucking other dudes, I've just had to do the same. You can dwell on it and feel like shit, or better yourself and find some strange to fuck. When chad has pumped and dumped her and she realises she's fucked up, she will probably come crawling back. I shouldn't need to tell you what to do at this point. This is your opportunity for freedom. What will you do?

nantucketghost · 2019-10-09T23:09:48+00:00

My man, she made the decision for you already. She moved out.

She's not going to want you to see other people because she's going to find someone. When she does, she will tell you it's ok and time to move on for yourself. If she doesn't find anyone, she will come back after she can't find better (two kids? She's not going to find any alpha out there) and she will come back only then and you will always know that you were just the fall back to guy. She's off looking for better.

Take this time to reflect. Find out where you fucked up with manhood, and make those changes and find a girl that will have the hots for you and this old girl will have to live with how she is the one that screwed it all up.

File for divorce tomorrow. Start taking charge of this now.

JameisBong · 2019-10-09T23:42:45+00:00

You have to nuke this relationship, she's a single mommy and you were the cuck raising someone else's kids. I was in your shoes,it hurt like hell but i will never again deal with a single mom. Her kids weren't grateful and they've never reached out to me post divorce. They will forget you, mommy is already sucking and swallowing her next victim. If it doesn't work out with said victim,you get to taste another man's semen when she comes back. Single mommies are looking for help,not love. They can't afford to raise the kids on their own.

themerovingian01 · 2019-10-10T00:39:04+00:00

It's just grief. It'll pass. You're not grieving her, per se, It's the sense of loss from the conclusion of a relationship and person that provided meaning in your life.

It's very normal to feel sad when something bad is over. And is not, I repeat NOT, a sign that you should get back together. Read up on the grief cycle and learn from this and pay close attention to the feelings that you have. When it's all over you'll actually feel very good for having experienced it and you'll be stronger next time.

RoccoPinkman · 2019-10-10T07:20:09+00:00

She doesn’t want to lose me and asked me not to see other people and she will do the same

Even though this is in womanese I’ve translated it for you.

Translation: I’m going to/I’m already fucking other people. Your not allowed.

ArborioRice · 2019-10-09T17:39:56+00:00

At this point she wants space and doesn't want to give an answer on if or when she'll be back. She doesn't want to lose me and asked me not to see other people and she is doing the same.

Well, OP, what are you going to do about this?

HonestyOverCivility · 2019-10-09T21:20:18+00:00

and her two kids

Annnnnd that tells me everything I needed to know right there....just bail man. You fucked up from the very beginning. Go out and enjoy your life instead of being a cuckold for the benefit of a woman who will never love or desire you the way you want anyway

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2019-10-09T21:29:48+00:00

What are you possibly waiting for? She’s BPD, she’s got kids from another man that we all know you’ve financed, she’s actively looking for a better man, and holding you as emergency back up if it doesn’t pan out. Oh, and she called you on your bluff, which it obviously was because you haven’t started divorce yet.

What the hells so special about you? Seems you’re the one who’s afraid you can’t do any better.

z2a1-9 · 2019-10-09T21:51:13+00:00

Move on and start improving yourself. She's a gonner!!!

Praexology · 2019-10-09T22:19:28+00:00

Before I reply, do you have any kind of religious or moral background?

JCX_Pulse · 2019-10-09T23:21:42+00:00

At the end of the day this really only comes down to one thing: how much love and respect do you have for yourself?

Don’t worry about the relationship. The kids. Her. Think about what kind of person you are when you let someone, anyone, walk all over you and treat you like shit.

Where is your love? Respect? Confidence? Right now you have a choice to gain all those things for yourself by not letting someone steamroll you.

Or you can play the nice guy. The pushover, like you have all your life.

themerovingian01 · 2019-10-10T00:52:02+00:00

I don’t think anyone can say anything to actually inspire this guy...

that_italia_guy · 2019-10-10T02:40:14+00:00

Get a new girl

Frosteecat · 2019-10-10T03:13:25+00:00

Silence is golden. You seem to suffer from classic “analysis paralysis”. It seems best to get some space & shut the hamster circus down. When you feel clear, write down what your objective mind tells you to do and refer to this “contract” every time you get in you or your ex’s feelz. My .02

MeansToABenz · 2019-10-10T11:21:45+00:00

Man I am sorry for your loss. /s

RPWolf · 2019-10-10T12:34:30+00:00

My next decision will be how long to wait before filing for divorce.

How long does it take you to drive to your lawyers?

Captain_pants4 · 2019-10-11T04:16:56+00:00

Cuck

themerovingian01 · 2019-10-11T05:01:03+00:00

What are you waiting for? You could have an attorney and the process already in motion. Wtf are you waiting for?

bmrdriver · 2019-10-11T05:27:48+00:00

Someone who self describes just as a people person shouldn't buy a business. A successful business owner has to wear many hats.

OneTonWantonWonton · 2019-10-15T05:29:31+00:00

First understand that there's an 87% chance she's already dealing with someone else. That may help.

After that, focus on yourself doing what you like to do and go to the gym.

Thorondor_Rising · 2019-10-21T00:45:09+00:00

File for divorce. Shes literally shopping for cock while you sit around with your dick in your hand.

Title	Wife Moved Out
Author	themerovingian01
Upvotes	28
Comments	162
Date	October 9, 2019 5:30 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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