drug abuse gets you laid. Has anyone noticed this?

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-10-01T03:11:43+00:00

Probably attracting unstable / damaged women who seek emotionally volatile guys

You’d be surprised how many women feel uncomfortable in a healthy relationship without any drama - it’s sad but even my cousin is like this and she’s only recently been addressing it with counselling

chamberlain323 · 2022-10-01T03:33:57+00:00

Women don't like boring. And as messed up as an addiction is, it's appealing because it's not boring. And some of those guys can be decent even though they have an addiction and they would see them as a project or the one to save them because deep down women do like fixing guys.

zapadz · 2022-10-01T02:55:24+00:00

Possibly they meet the girls through the drug scene, but mainly it’s likely not that they are doing drugs but more that they have the type of personality to do drugs and not care which doesn’t demonstrate neediness which is attractive to women.

bigplaneboeing737 · 2022-10-01T05:14:06+00:00

I learned this in high school. The crustiest guy in school was the weed dealer. He banged every single hot chick in my graduating class.

TalkShit247 · 2022-10-01T03:15:13+00:00

yes pussy, weed and alcohol has always been a way of life for me ever since i was 21 & im 46 now

mjornir · 2022-10-01T02:58:16+00:00

A couple theories right off the bat

1) those women see those guys as a ‘project’ and so they fall for them and then try to take care of them. in other words, they attract codependents

2) drugs = fun, women want to be around someone who’s fun

3) drugs are often social and having a social circle makes it easier to make a potential partner

4) additionally, the lowered inhibitions within that social circle might make it easier for 2 potential partners to bond

5) drug use may indicate more risk-taking behavior which again projects as more fun and interesting than “straight and narrow”

I don’t fully believe in this stereotype but I think where it is true one of these 5 could be the reasons why, among other things

MentalCelOmega · 2022-10-01T03:17:27+00:00

Guess it is time to do drugmaxxing. Lol, the things we do to get unobtanium.

BravePigster · 2022-10-01T03:47:51+00:00

Here’s the thing though, the women they get with have the same issues they do, that’s why they’re together. You can get with anyone you want to as long as they’re within your range, doesn’t make them desirable.

MrDownhillRacer · 2022-10-01T04:23:53+00:00

People with low inhibitions who make impulsive decisions easily have sex with other people who have low inhibitions and make impulsive decisions. More news at 9:00.

Yeah, we all want to get laid more, but why on earth would anyone envy people with drug problems having sex with other people with drug problems? I wouldn't trade my life for theirs.

cobraCL · 2022-10-01T05:07:07+00:00

"Addictive personalities" are usually linked to poor impulse control and high risk behaviours.

Drug addicts are highly repulsive to some women and very attractive to others -

The latter being women who are equally self-sabotaging, equally chaotic and equally dysfunctional. If you put a number of individuals together with poor impulse control and high risk taking behaviors, it does sound likely that casual sex would happen.

I hung around a lot of drug users in my late teens to mid 20s, both the guys and girls were generally very promiscuous. Addicts like dopamine hits and the reward chems from limerance and causal sex are pretty high.

Informal-Passage-192 · 2022-10-01T07:02:46+00:00

You attract what you are.

Women who are damaged go for damaged men, because they notice patterns they are used to from their lives. They don’t go for healthy relationships because they think they don’t deserve it or because they feel something is off or simply because they get bored.

Plus drug abuse may or may not make you more courageous which your average millennial or gen x man lacks lol.

Stay away from drugs and develop yourself, bros.

crazygary7 · 2022-10-01T03:49:55+00:00

Special K and the raves. 90s.

pikecat · 2022-10-01T05:32:44+00:00

Misplaced cause and effect.

It's not the drug taking that gets you laid. It's personality traits that lead people to addiction also lead then to getting laid more.

It's also that drug users hang out with a crowd of people with low inhibition. If your doing drugs, your not going to be regulating your other pleasurable behaviours.

I got laid more when I started drinking more, because I was with a different crowd of people. Previously I was doing the straight and narrow.

SunDevilElite42 · 2022-10-01T10:24:50+00:00

Young American women love burnouts, one of the hottest women I ever knew was a bartender, her boyfriend was a drug addict who couldn’t keep a job down, skinny strung out looking dude, he would drop her off at work then drive her car around all night, she constantly bitched about how he doesn’t look for a job and is always bumming off her. She came into work one night looking awful, found out the dude was cheating on her while she was at work. I figured they broke up, lol nope, dude was back dropping her off at work a week later. Responsible and safe isn’t sexy, risky and unpredictable is. This is also why I think American born and raised women are some the most undatable women in the world

Quick_Watercress_932 · 2022-10-01T10:34:59+00:00

Having the nice guy mentality will basically be an instant red flag for any modern woman

Zhai · 2022-10-01T07:37:08+00:00

People who are prone to risky behavior attract other people prone to risky behavior to engage in risky behavior? What a revelation man.

Of course when you are open to more experiences you not put yourself out there more but are willing to have risky history. That's exciting for women. The other day I was winging my friend that climbs mountains, does Crossfit, doesn't drink and has a good job. But the girl was more interested in my ayahuasca ceremony in Equador.

You want to attract women? Be exciting, go do stupid shit. Be more than a checklist. Women only think that they need a checklist. Once they get it they get bored.

Okay_Time_For_Plan_B · 2022-10-01T09:55:35+00:00

In my opinion.

I believe society has become more and more attracted and obsessed with drugs or drug abuse.

I am a recovering drug addict and your right.

I could always hold down a job, I am a good person and support my habit off my own earned money. I don’t rob or steal (anymore / long story and has a history of its own) But I’ve been with women who only drink every so often . And are against drugs. But was okay with me doing them and even selling them. (If they had kids I wouldn’t even mention it or ask or hide it I would just simply not bring that shit to they’re house or around they’re kid)

But it was almost like it turned em on, or they was simply curious wanting to know more about it. (One chick was even related to one of the DTF - Drug task force / police in my town) And I trusted her and nothing bad ever came from it but she wanted me to show her how I weigh shit and bag it up and was kinda amazed at how much money I would make but I’m a honest and real down to earth type of guy and every time someone who’s not fully aware of that life style I tell them what’s up.

I was young and shoulda just stayed away from women who had kids and didn’t do shit but I kept both parts away and didn’t show up zombified .

But man….. got some crazy ass stories and shit.

Like

A lot of these chicks are simply just nymphos and yeah every guy likes to fuck all the time but I was at one point selling and doing speed . And the one chick who was also against drugs she didn’t smoke or drink. But loved when I would come over about 1 or 2 days no sleep, high as fuck cause then it’s like … 6-7 hours and a 90% chance for a big MAYBE. That I’ll even get off.

And she would just want to take her time and she would go down on me for (no joke) 2 hours just laying in bed watching TV.

Man when u don’t get off you fucking hurt the next day tho, And you feel like shit cause no sleep and the drugs.

But when you felt amazing you felt AMAZING.

Of course the pros and cons are

You have to take something to feel that way or just feel normal

Living a healthy lifestyle you feel amazing everyday and is a no brained the best and smartest choice out of the two.

Getting clean or trying to re build or work on your relationships with your family or kids. Will ALWAYS be the better choice. Stay safe folks. Don’t do drugs.

Positive-Ad-1859 · 2022-10-01T10:41:23+00:00

Women are attracted to scumbags

saasIndia · 2022-10-01T03:24:41+00:00

It will. It will be initialled great when you get into a relationship as well. I had a drug addict ex girlfriend and it get far worse. If you using to get laid please make sure you get out of it early

Chrisanova_NY · 2022-10-01T05:20:57+00:00

This CLASSICALLY feeds into women's need to "fix men".

They want that "bad boy challenge" that they can tame/fix.

Of course there's other scenarios, but that's mostly what it's all about.

North_Worth5795 · 2022-10-01T10:26:15+00:00

Women don’t like quitters 💪

Lucky-Mustard · 2022-10-01T11:01:17+00:00

While drugs can be bad in excess, they have some benefits. Life is more interesting and exciting. There is some danger involved, and we all love that. Many drug users have a strong frame cuz they dont give a fuck.

Meanwhile working 9-5 all the time , without doing somrthing exciting is boring af. So yea man... be whatever you want , but not boring.

Hister333 · 2022-10-01T04:20:11+00:00

Last girl that was interested in me left me because I refused to go downtown and buy her pills. Checks out.

TheCaribbeanRedditor · 2022-10-01T04:30:07+00:00

This isn't representative of most men, both addicts and clean
There will be some men with drug addiction problems who are very attractive to women- some because of the bad boy persona, others because of the type of crowd (women) they are around on a regular basis. Very few specifically because of the drugs- this just happens to be incidental.

PS - I have worked at a drug rehabilitation center for the past 5 years so I do have some extra insight.

Jdaddyk07 · 2022-10-01T05:27:02+00:00

People who party aren't as concerned with social norms so maybe behave in ways which strait-laced men won't. Thus attract women with these actions.

Yamochao · 2022-10-01T05:30:28+00:00

More severely lowers your standards than “gets you laid”, imo

Chavo9-5171 · 2022-10-01T06:33:26+00:00

Damage recognizes damage. Are these women high-value?

Haunting_Papaya_9575 · 2022-10-01T07:48:11+00:00

U will attract damaged women…especialy if ur into Coke…they love that shit

experiment_137 · 2022-10-01T09:33:02+00:00

More than this, having links with plugs is more effective imo. You'll be on the speed dial of girls who use drugs. Being a middleman is always much more beneficial

fishherder1 · 2022-10-01T10:59:19+00:00

It's NOT the drugs. After reading many comments here, I hope mine doesn't get lost because I feel I have some good insight on this topic.

I had two friends in my past who both got laid A SHIT TON, with really hot girls. The first was a drug addict since 15 years old and sold them as well. He was a tiny asian dude, around 5'7 fully grown, skinny af too. The second was a cop who never touched drugs his whole damn life. He was pretty attractive but not that much (not one of those huge military dudes). And he was disciplined.

What did they have in common? They were assholes, didn't give a fuck about women and gave off an extreme "bad boy" vibe.

The first guy had lots of problems, and yeah women probably wanted to "fix him" as well, but it was mainly his attitude of not giving a fuck about anything (other than drugs). The second guy was a huge asshole and would always get laid by just being super confident and not giving a fuck what he said to these women, and not being affected when something didn't go his way. And by having lots of cool cop stories (the "not boring, bad boy" aspect).

To sum up: yes there's an aspect to guys with a lot of problems that women "want to fix". However, it's a small part of it and you can achieve a similar or better result, perhaps with higher quality women, by working on yourself, your confidence, and being not boring in other ways. And definitely not being nice to women all the time, which will come off natural and not forced when you get to the point where your self worth isn't affected by women's reactions and perspectives of you.

Kitchen_Entertainer9 · 2022-10-01T11:21:16+00:00

They are just attracting the bad girls, trust me I been with a few. I wasn't a drug addict but I helped supply them with some at the time 😅

fatfrost · 2022-10-01T03:32:51+00:00

lol. Dude, that’s not love.

DemosBeans · 2022-10-01T03:07:42+00:00

Could just be because people who do drugs use dopamine to escape. So man or woman would use sex the same way. Look into gay drug/sex culture I’m sure you’ll see lot’s of that.

resutir · 2022-10-01T04:27:42+00:00

coming from a drug addict - yes

theres multiple factors to it. i would guess men who have addiction issues have some personality traits in common which help them with women. secondly we have an air of mystery and danger about us as cringe as it sounds and women love trying to “fix us”

another thing i thought of is if you remember highschool the druggy kids were pretty much on the same level as popular kids but still separate

Alittude · 2022-10-01T04:29:00+00:00

It’s called trauma bonding and is not something to envy

Cosmic_Note · 2022-10-01T04:29:37+00:00

This sub confuses me sometimes

seerslayer · 2022-10-01T11:10:22+00:00

The kind of people junkies attract, men or women, are not the kind of people you wanna poke your flesh flute in to. In fact, you wouldn't want much to do with them at all.

Kevs-442 · 2022-10-01T03:52:32+00:00

How do you think those girls are paying for their addiction??

RedDay94 · 2022-10-01T06:22:03+00:00

The button down Ol reliable conservative man is fuckin boring. That particular form of heteronormative neurosis is really unappealing to a lot of women because those same type of men were the ones repressing mom and grandma not that long ago.

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-01T02:56:44+00:00

kids will freak out if they learned that in the 90s illicit drugs and dance music was responsible for about 90% of all sex everywhere

guys who are drug addicted mess always have a partner?

do you want to know, or are you venting?

RedditSucksMonkeyAss · 2022-10-01T04:34:41+00:00

Trash women like these douches.

tylerdetata66 · 2022-10-01T03:50:00+00:00

your retarded😂

NightOwlNightWitch · 2022-10-01T03:48:59+00:00

Think one of the key words here is ex-military. Many women won’t touch them with a ten foot pole. Same as cops.

almostadaddy · 2022-10-01T04:25:27+00:00

All the military guys I know are married to amazing women. I don't know any junkies.

raatdigedi · 2022-10-01T03:52:28+00:00

Might be but it's not worth getting laid on the expense of your health

aeroaca9 · 2022-10-01T04:30:32+00:00

Women don’t like boring, and a drug user usually has access to drugs

cherylgr · 2022-10-01T04:43:49+00:00

That’s because they want a fix

Glenncinho · 2022-10-01T06:30:11+00:00

The thing with drugs is it puts you in the state of mind where you don’t care the outcome. Any drug I’ve done is the same (ehh maybe leave alcohol out of there).

when I’m faced off the shit with my favorite girl(s) lucy or Molly, nothing else matters but a good time. It’s a vibe, and EVERYONE picks up on it.

Ketamine, xanax, Coke, 2cb and poppers all the same

notathrowaway000271 · 2022-10-01T06:34:47+00:00

If you think you need drugs to get laid you’re not gonna get laid using drugs

Realistic-Order-3215 · 2022-10-01T07:16:01+00:00

Addicts have a common a goal. That goal is bond.

Gaydame · 2022-10-01T07:22:03+00:00

Damaged people attract damaged people.

I guarantee no one you describe here will have anything like a healthy relationship but a deeply codependant one.

And just because someone is ex military with a stable job, it doesn't mean they're not damaged too.

The reality is that if you're someone who had their shit together (who has worked through and resolved their childhood issues, who takes care of their appearance, who has goals and is able to take care of their own needs, who has a group of friends similarly with their shit together and strong boundaries to weed out unstable people) you'll find many women wanting to date you.

DyingMisfit · 2022-10-01T07:35:56+00:00

Standards.

Psychological-Ad4721 · 2022-10-01T07:36:55+00:00

I’m addicted to drugs and get no bitches

millhows · 2022-10-01T09:10:32+00:00

This is bullshit. You’re just going off some anecdotal nonsense. I’ve known plenty of individuals with drug issues and most of them are dealing with heavy shit and aren’t getting laid. I don’t think your claim is valid.

ozzzy83 · 2022-10-01T09:10:51+00:00

It is because girls love to fix such broken men, and if they succeed, they feel accomplished. On the other hand, some girls are with them because they are addicted too. The same as most girls prefer guys with tats.

epimpstyle · 2022-10-01T09:26:59+00:00

Interesting.... I have already read on reddit that being drunk is a solution, now it is a solution to be high... what's next ?

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-10-01T09:33:33+00:00

Its easy when you are Big in Japan.

This music aged quite well.

enderowski · 2022-10-01T09:34:27+00:00

opposite for me they get sexual problems after a while.

TrashAccountxxxxxx · 2022-10-01T09:45:10+00:00

Imo it’s because women like men who take risks and like it or not drug users are risk takers

CowgirlBebop575 · 2022-10-01T10:02:09+00:00

Getting high together is probably a good date. Plus some people can get false confidence and charm while high.

Pristine_Throat_8056 · 2022-10-01T11:25:47+00:00

i'm a teenager. i've started maturing into a more masculine mindset. discipline, leadership, focus, etc. i've noticed i always lose to a stoner or guy who is a heavy drug user. i don't take it personally as he'll probably be a bum in few years time. the reason i think women fall for these heavy users is either A, they use themselves. B, they have a terrible home life and want a guy like there shit father to date them. C, the aurora of him being the bad guy type and doing illegal and dodgy stuff. man, don't take it personally if she goes for a druggy, don't let her dictate your inner worry. stay focused on your dream, get your money, achieve your own freedom. then, you'll have all of the women you can imagine.

_McLovin_01 · 2022-10-01T11:31:59+00:00

Maybe the girls do drugs also 🤷🏻‍♂️

crave1214 · 2022-10-01T11:40:45+00:00

It's cause young people who do drugs are fun. Chicks like to have fun. Remember that song.

Title	drug abuse gets you laid. Has anyone noticed this?
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Date	October 1, 2022 2:46 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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