Every girl I meet has at least 5 guys they're talking to and have even more behind them. How exactly do I stand out from the crowd and how can I expect them to stay loyal?

TooMuchJibberish · 2022-05-03T16:24:26+00:00

Do nothing, there isn't much you can do to change their minds. If they want to monkey branch, they will monkey branch. Simple as that

VeliVoy · 2022-05-03T16:26:41+00:00

mjornir · 2022-05-03T17:30:31+00:00

You build a strong enough connection with one that she doesn’t want to leave you. There are plenty of women out there who are smart enough not to throw away a good relationship for a passing desire.

Jay-Ames · 2022-05-03T18:42:33+00:00

Listen to Chris Brown. They won't be loyal. Even when you are dating her exclusively she will still have backup boyfriends. Not saying she is cheating. They are just there in case if you mess up or you break up. Most women will deny this but it is absolutely true.

Stand out from the crowd by being the best you can be by focussing on making your life great instead of proving you are best boyfriend. She wants to be part of your life, not the other way around.

You will attract succes and women in your life when you do that. That's when your value goes up.

This will probably get downvoted by many sensitive people but i am speaking 100% truth here.

Silver-Variation8903 · 2022-05-03T16:40:46+00:00

Gonna give you some legit advice here to separate yourself from others.

MAKE HER FEEL EMOTION.

Men are logical women are emotional. If you continuously make your woman feel things emotionally, she will be attached to you. Unfortunately the best way to keep a girl attached is not only good emotion, but negative emotion too. Making your girl have chaotic emotion can make her very attached to you.

Nullroute127 · 2022-05-03T21:40:16+00:00

The good news is it actually isn't that hard to stand out beyond the average guy.

If you're not overweight/obese - You're ahead of 70% of men in US.

If you've got a job, ambition, and are working on yourself. This segues into not being needy, centered, confident. You're beyond the average man.

If you're emotionally stable (don't get butthurt, can pass shit tests, etc.) you're rather rare.

If you can create sexual tension, develop attraction, and do so INTENTIONALLY - You're in a SMALL minority of men.

These factors combined together make you unstoppable.

slumpttx · 2022-05-03T20:09:54+00:00

Become the best version you can possibly be. Workout, get a nice haircut, start to wear nice clothes. Only 10% of guys are doing this correctly and they’re the ones getting all the 🐱.

Do you really deserve a good looking women if you have nothing to offer? Value, looks, knowledge etc.

Otherwise you’ll get the bottom 10% of women and that’s what you’ll have to stick with

DiscombobulatedDome · 2022-05-03T17:08:47+00:00

Nothing other than being your true self. Get into shape, dress in fitted clothing and have hobbies, work hard. If they value all these traits then they’ll stay loyal. If she cheats, she was never yours. It was just your turn. Move on.

MistyMaisel · 2022-05-03T17:23:49+00:00

First, don't confuse talking to with interest/attraction. I talk to lots of people because I enjoy talking. It isn't as big of a crowd as you think it is. The most likely scenarios are that she isn't interested in you and you have to change that, she's interested in you and one other guy, or she's only interested in you. It's pretty rare for girls to have that many guys they're really interested in.

In terms of standing out: Be kind and generous. Treat them like people you also happen to probably want sex with. Most guys never manage either of these.

Staying loyal is something people either are or aren't. The number of men chasing your skirt doesn't decide how loyal you are. How loyal a person you are does. We have constant offers and attention from other guys and spend most of our lives ignoring this attention. We're pretty good at ignoring men. It's doubly easy to do when you've got a good man.

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2022-05-03T21:08:17+00:00

there was a girl I was dating for a while, non-exclusively. after it really ended, she had a boyfriend 3 months after. I figure it takes 2-3 months of dating before you really get exclusive with someone. I think we all know what happened here. She was monkey-branching. It completely aligned with her character. Also, I don't feel weird about it. I wanted out of this BS.

BweezyM · 2022-05-03T17:08:49+00:00

I’m pretty over this shit tbh. There is just way too many hoops to jump through with dating & im not about to compete against 5-6 other dudes or whatever it is bc I know what I bring to the table. It feels like modern dating is just what it is at this point. Best bet is to grind make your money and let them chase you.

PHVEDO · 2022-05-03T17:56:10+00:00

BE HOTTER.

Yep... thats it if u r more attractive than the competition there is no competition. If u r not hot... too bad you might just be wasting your time. Its luck at that point

DatKarismaKing · 2022-05-03T21:58:04+00:00

find the right girl. don't settle. take your time. be picky to the point of being permanently single if you don't find your ideal girl.

PuroPincheGains · 2022-05-03T23:49:12+00:00

You can do one simple thing, and that's to not be needy. Don't hold her back. Don't rush into something serious. Don't act like her bf after a couple of dates. Don't be jealous or tell her not to do things. She's honestly guaranteed to have to deal with needy whiny boys all of the time. If you can be different than that, and carry yourself like someone who has an abundance of options, you'll stand out. Now I can do all of that, so the question remains, how do you stand out from the dudes that know this? Well look in the mirror and think about the things, inside and out, that might make you desirable and build on them. Be the best you that you can be. Only you can determine how you stand out.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-05-03T17:13:07+00:00

By not trying to impress her or even try to get her. Just make moves and take what you want.

Pedalcrunch · 2022-05-03T16:41:54+00:00

yeah just stop talking to them, too much competition, they'll go with the hottest guy or the guy who spends a load of money on them.

Rastaman143 · 2022-05-03T19:28:47+00:00

That’s the neat part, you don’t

user009818 · 2022-05-03T19:32:56+00:00

u can't really force girls to not have hoes, it's honestly a mindset thing and you can't just

1 2 3 Ur way to it...

You have to realize this is the nature of women, being unusually kind and idolizing won't get you anywhere. Once you realize there's nothing you can do about it any just accepting it then you'll be chill with it . The concept is if you don't care they'll chase . You have to stand out in ur own way 🤷‍♂️

2022-05-03T20:56:12+00:00

Just be the best you can and only give time to those who earn it

undecided-name · 2022-05-03T21:42:26+00:00

That's where the fuck yes or no rule comes in. If you are fuck yes about her and if she is fuck yes about you, go for it, any other combination of yes, meh, no, whatever from either part is a no. You won't get laid as much as possible this way, but man will you be much happier and have much more options, if you constantly go out and meet women

EOD_Bad_Karma · 2022-05-03T21:44:11+00:00

Stop acting like every 'girl' you meet is 'the one'.

Every woman I meet is just another person. If they are hot, cool, they are nice to look at, but I have other women on my own roster as well. Stop trying to get with every single woman you meet.

If you find out they have a long list of guys waiting on them? Compliment them: "Hell yeah, sounds like you keep busy! Any cute ones in particular?"
- Listen to them, see what they are attracted to. If you can't compete with them, don't. Do your own thing, live up to your own strengths.

If you don't have any strengths, then you need to work on yourself more. If you don't have confidence, that's the first thing you should work on. Gain confidence in yourself and what you can do.

I myself am maybe slightly above average in looks and below average in height, but I can listen well and I can make interesting conversation. I do very well for myself.
- Always play to your strengths.

alternativelaw_ · 2022-05-03T22:02:17+00:00

Women are the gate keepers. There is no amount of talking you can do to convince a woman to get with you. Take it easy, be respectful, work on your confidence and let them come to you.

Shanbaceball · 2022-05-03T22:34:35+00:00

Honestly i found in my 20s i was really insecure and needed alot of validation i think this is common with girls this age you can see it on instragram posting selfy after selfy

Its a very selfish age

bandsupjay · 2022-05-03T22:51:05+00:00

How do u even know how many guys shes talking to son? If you wanna stand out, be yourself and dont give a fuck.

youcheekydelinquent · 2022-05-03T23:35:16+00:00

Every one has ten and it started before the internet lol

Financial-Review-470 · 2022-05-03T23:38:32+00:00

What stands out to me is a guy who doesn't bring up anything sexual at all or keeps trying to slyly move the conversation in that direction when we just want to get to know you and not think you only want to get into our pants.

Golden_Phoenix283 · 2022-05-04T00:04:19+00:00

Be consistent. Be a good person. And try to be better than the rest if you really like her. Women aren't settling for half ass bare minimum shit anymore. There's someone for everyone so no need to take it too personal.

yourlittleman01 · 2022-05-03T17:20:19+00:00

They don't stay loyal LUL, welcome to the nature :))

sansblonde · 2022-05-03T17:50:50+00:00

Don’t act like a fu*k boi. Be someone worthy of loyalty. Treat her like an actual person, not a fleshlight. As soon as a guy dehumanizes me I’m out looking for the next. 95% of men treat us like objects. You want loyalty? Be different. Consider that we have goals, strengths, needs and desires.

Side note to other comments suggesting treating women poorly: Any woman who likes you more when you treat her like shit isn’t a strong person. Why would you want women like that? Personally, I want a strong minded individual who challenges me to grow. A door mat of a person liking me just makes me feel pathetic.

kiramdahanett · 2022-05-03T15:56:32+00:00

The only key to outstand & maintain a girl is to treat her like garbage

Snakehead004 · 2022-05-03T16:19:53+00:00

Be better than the other guys.

Most people don't have a very high IQ or EQ. You can control and change your EQ. Just don't listen to top comment and be an ass. Lots of ass holes out there, that won't make you stand out and won't help with any quality person.

almondyeyes · 2022-05-03T21:22:19+00:00

I’m loyal, and I am talking with ONE guy and he is absolutely gorgeous, ( to me he is) he stands out for me with the use of his words and communication skills, compliments, and does not over analyze. He is secure and I have my freedom, also I will not speak to more than one guy at a time.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-05-03T21:45:16+00:00

You can’t. It’s a rigged game.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-05-04T02:04:28+00:00

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Every girl I meet has at least 5 guys they're talking to and have even more behind them. How exactly do I stand out from the crowd....

Everyone has their personal taste. If you get a group of men or women into a room and ask them who their "10s" are, you won't get consensus. One person's 10 will be another person's 7 or 6.

So it doesn't matter how many guys are talking to a girl: if someone is focused on a serious relationship, they'll just choose one and focus on them.

And there's no way to predict what someone's taste is before you interact with them.

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how can I expect them to stay loyal?

Not everyone will. Not everyone is looking for a serious relationship.

But if they are, then they will stay loyal.

If they are incapable or unwilling to commit to a relationship (if that's what you're after), then there will be red flags and you can eliminate them from consideration.

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They're just have too many options, & I wanna know how do you stand out from the crowd?

You don't need to. Take care of your confidence if it's low. Otherwise you will turn off women who might otherwise be into you.

Other than that, you just interact with women and interested parties will be doing half the work. If she's interested, she'll block out the guys she's not interested in. Simple as that.

Maleficent_Sky8774 · 2022-05-03T17:56:27+00:00

embrace poly

RememberToEatDinner · 2022-05-03T17:47:16+00:00

Get really good at giving orgasms.

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-05-03T17:57:49+00:00

Through your behavior you create the circumstance in which she is pursuing you

Obviously she needs to have a certain level of interest in you. You cannot convert a woman with 0% attraction. Which is where "numbers game" comes in. You don't choose who is attracted to you but you can make the most opportunities to meet them

Kronuk · 2022-05-03T19:27:37+00:00

Make her feel good. Be high value and non-needy. Also don't give a shit if she talks to other guys and you will already set yourself apart. Attract and pipe her down better than the others. If you don't care about any other guy or consider them competition they won't be. Obviously if she becomes your girlfriend and sees guys still then drop that girl and don't give a shit either way about the outcome.

2022-05-03T20:14:55+00:00

If she's keeping orbiters in case of a "downshift" what makes you think she won't "upshift" the moment someone better pops up?

I don't think you're in the game for something serious so, just to get some poon, be the best, look the best, wear the best, show the best, drive the best and yadda yadda. Hit and then move on.

Alonso81687 · 2022-05-03T20:40:09+00:00

Have a huge pee pee

Alonso81687 · 2022-05-03T20:40:15+00:00

Have a huge pee pee

SKIMMMA · 2022-05-03T21:09:57+00:00

Personality, fitness, and money.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-05-03T22:23:26+00:00

You also have many options, even if it don't seem like it. The difference is women get too much free attention thanks to the blessing and the curse of the internet, so they become numb to it and sometimes annoyed, and then have no choice but to filter their options. So instead of giving attention, command it with old testament masculinity by walking and talking like a man and dressing to impress, then play like they can't just have you, act uninterested (even if u are) because the second u show too much interest, that p_$$* gonna dry up.

BeginningMatter9180 · 2022-05-03T22:25:10+00:00

Talk to at least 5 girls at the same time until you see long term potential in any one of them (and she sees in you too).

lostAndN0tFound · 2022-05-03T22:32:31+00:00

Don’t limit your options either. If they are in talking phase with multiple guys, as you said, let’s say 5. Then you also keep those many options open . Devote your time accordingly. Let’s imagine you had 5 options and you are texting calling whatever, you must be spending x time with 5 women. Each woman gets x/5 of your time. if currently you don’t have those many options then you don’t reduce the denominator. Let’s say you have 2 options, then don’t devote x/2 to each of them. Treat them with x/5 time only for both of them. The remaining 3x/5 time focus on yourself.

This is for women who are playing you and just trynna have fun and treat you like an option and you are okay doing the same. If you genuinely like someone then none of this apply.

originalgainster · 2022-05-03T22:33:24+00:00

How exactly do I stand out from the crowd

The best thing you can do is to be yourself, and be true to yourself and others.

how can I expect them to stay loyal?

You can't.

Shanbaceball · 2022-05-03T22:33:27+00:00

Ya thats no surprise

ApprehensiveHalf2802 · 2022-05-03T22:39:29+00:00

You got to have a great purpose, you shouldn’t care about who else is texting her. But if your purpose is only that girl, you are screwed

jbiroliro · 2022-05-03T23:20:44+00:00

The more you think about seduction, the worse you get at it

bigtittylover001 · 2022-05-04T00:43:37+00:00

I think you're taking it too deep. First get to know the girl and see if you two are compatible then take it from there. If she decides to start a relationship with you, and has values then you got nothing to worry about. It's just common sense girls have multiple options. Even ugly women have options.

h1mera · 2022-05-04T06:47:15+00:00

You fuck this girl so it does not matter to how many other guys she is talking to.

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