[deleted by user]

letmereaddamnit · 2021-10-12T21:28:47+00:00

So rather than feel like a 1/10 you'll feel like a 2/10!

Napalm_in_the_mornin · 2021-10-12T22:22:04+00:00

Or you can do both? I can set up a few midweek dates (planned, cheap- hikes or beach or just a drink, high probably of some success) AND leave Friday and Saturday for normal social activities.

Many girls just aren’t at the bars/clubs getting turnt every weekend

electsense · 2021-10-12T22:16:28+00:00

where ape are meeting

PandAlex · 2021-10-12T21:14:54+00:00

I've been having great success so I think I should continue.

viknasti · 2021-10-12T23:08:59+00:00

I'm in the midst of a wonderful relationship with an amazing lady I met on Bumble in 2019. I hope this happens for you, and others, as well

huskypotato69 · 2021-10-12T22:10:09+00:00

been on and off them since college, 4 years now, the cycle goes like this, i put my pics, i get 0 dates, realize that im not that good looking, then cursing and blaming the app for it and uninstalling it.also most of women there seek instagram followers only.atleast in my country most of them just want more followers so they use it as a marketing tool for their insta

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-10-12T21:13:29+00:00

1) only the case if you're an unattractive and/or uninteresting person

2) this is true

3) more common on tinder than bumble or hinge, but not really an issue. Just ignore them.

4) only true if you can't get results. If you've got a good look and profile however, it's very low effort compared to what you can get out of it.

5) never pay for the apps, it's unnecessary

6) that's true. Ideally you should be focusing on in-person game and only using dating apps in your spare time to supplement it.

7) see #4

2021-10-12T22:47:24+00:00

"...... other desperate apes." Your implying that all men on dating apps own GME and we own the stock! Tits Jacked, DRS, 🚀🚀🚀🚀

maplemario · 2021-10-13T00:19:58+00:00

Where banan

caIImebigpoppa · 2021-10-12T21:09:29+00:00

[permanently deleted]

devnasty009 · 2021-10-13T01:07:09+00:00

I quit bc of reason #1 that you listed. I don’t even feel like a human on there it’s awful.

IntrovertDatingCoach · 2021-10-12T22:10:37+00:00

With all due respect to your dating app experience: none of these are facts. Peep game:

It's demoralizing if you're taking it personally when you don't get the responses you want from the people you swipe on and don't get dates. However, your reaction to those things is up to you.
True, but not by much - 39% of online app users are able to get dates; furthermore, 1 in 6 marriages start from online dating, and the divorce rate for those couples is significantly LOWER than people who meet someone in public (3.9 percent)
Fake accounts only account for around 10% of all profiles on dating apps. That said, it's not a good idea to be giving out info that is too personal online in general, whether it's to a fake person or not. You save those details for when you've gotten to know someone better via an offline date
Not if you know what you're doing. Most people don't know how to set up a profile correctly or how to interact in a way that builds attraction. Once you know those things, online dating becomes quite easy.
See #4
Not true - dating apps act like a simulator where you get to try out a bunch of different messages and profile set-ups to see what's most effective. Heck, I've found after I perfected online dating, those various openers I had practiced a bunch of times online actually HELPED me open conversations better when meeting women in public.
You're not lumped in - if anything, you'll be able to stand out from 97% of men on there who don't know what they're doing. I had so many women go on dates with me and tell me how my pictures, bio, and conversation stood out from what everyone else was doing... and the best part? It's not even hard to do!

So yeah - I'm all for meeting women in person, but I think having the skillset to meet them online (or any other avenue) is important. Reality check: some of the women you'd meet on dating apps can be quality women that you'd never run into in public, so they definitely help widen the scope of what's available to you.

Keanuisawesome69 · 2021-10-13T07:34:42+00:00

Op is a 🤡🎪

2021-10-13T04:10:05+00:00

I disagree.

I've had A LOT of disappoinments, but this year, I slept with two different women and made out with another within a 2.5 month period of using it...

Best run so far...

I've given up at least 5 times prior... Got in better shape... Learned what and what not to do on dates, etc.

Plus. I don't have a way of meeting single women.... Most women I meet in real life are taken....

Actually. Nevermind. If you guys don't use online dating, more for me!!!!!

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-10-13T05:16:35+00:00

ape want cunt

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-10-13T13:59:05+00:00

I've heard most dating apps are total sausage fests anyway. I tried a few but the only women who DM'd me were either hookers or scammers. I got sick and tired of wasting my time and trying to weed through scammers.

Grallmab · 2021-10-13T00:14:48+00:00

I would say anyone, even successful users, should limit there use just so that you're in the mindset of cultivating social skills and a good social circle. Limit by how much? Up to you to decide

ponysniper2 · 2021-10-13T02:12:20+00:00

They were popping during the pandemic quarantine tbh, but now it's real life again so get back to it losers

MetaphysicPhilosophy · 2021-10-13T02:35:36+00:00

I go off and on dating apps. A lot of girls ghost me, so I like in person better

Whooomans · 2021-10-13T04:30:40+00:00

I disagree.. however its best to not rely on them but use them in addition to what you said. Gives you more opportunity to meet someone.

Also you wont get lumped in with desperate apes if you take the time to make your profile standout, just as if you would make yourself stand out from the rest of the desperate apes in public.

fvckCrosshairs · 2021-10-13T05:35:41+00:00

the apps are great to have on the side or when having a dry spell but shouldn't be your main source ever, most girls I know use it for validation and to just chat when they're bored.

l1ght- · 2021-10-13T10:40:50+00:00

For those that inherently disagree with this, I’d just say that yes, there’s a time & place for dating apps. But if you’re spending more than an hour or two a week (most of you are spending way more,) then you need to cut that shit down

zenmastaflash · 2021-10-13T10:46:04+00:00

I agree with the overall mentality here. In my personal experience, it became gamified and I lost interest in meeting women and found myself just swiping endlessly; there was no real self improvement.

I also feel like dating apps, as well as pornography, led to unrealistic expectations that were never truly met. I’d meet a woman and she’d look different from her photos and it was over for me.

I think it is natural for people to choose the most flattering image of themselves, but choosing dates based on their curated images left me demoralized and lonely for the better part of a decade of OLD.

I quit OLD last winter and almost immediately the quality and quantity of my interactions improved, if only because I no longer had the crutch of chatting with marches, so I was encouraged/forced to go out into the world to meet women.

This provided a necessary nudge for me, and I will never go back.

ShyShredder · 2021-10-13T10:56:11+00:00

In my experience it has been pretty much a waste of time. The feedback in real life about me has been pretty much only positive, I get looks from girls all the time, smiles, eye contact, and have been told multiple times that I look good. But on dating apps I get a few matches, then they run out and nothing for a long long time. Or the matches I get have been pretty shitty, rarely do they text back, and when they eventually did, those conversations went really bad. (I checked their profile, looked for something to point out and then asked her about it) Although it could simply be that my profile was shitty, since I am not too photogenic and it surely shows. (Like I learned how to actually smile with teeth a few months ago, I have never done that before) Anyway, I found that instead of trying to fix a profile I decided to fix myself first. Approaching is not a thing yet but I am definitely working up the courage to do it some time. We'll see.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-10-13T20:33:15+00:00

Anyone who is having shit luck on dating apps id advise to talk to 10 strangers online and then 10 in peraon. You'll see how you feel before you even get to 10 in person. You may not have much success but youll feel much more comfortable in your own skin and to me, thats really why i even look at this section. A lot of men need work on feeling more comfortable for being who we are. Full stop.

Sultmaker_9000 · 2021-10-12T22:26:37+00:00

You can use dating apps as long as you have game and not using it as a way to avoid cold approach. I've had at least 20 women in bed first date 4 hrs and very much under that. I'm not throwing that away.

MauPow · 2021-10-12T22:54:33+00:00

i just stopped trying altogether

gmahogany · 2021-10-12T23:42:18+00:00

It’s not demoralizing if you don’t make it
Yeah, but odds are best using both
Don’t be stupid
Don’t spend all day swiping
True. Hinge is the only one where free works just as well as paid IMO
Why are you saying it’s one or the other? But yes there is a false feeling of productivity sitting on your couch swiping when you could be outside
Yeah, true.

GravyOTS · 2021-10-12T21:10:15+00:00

Unfortunately, the people I'm going to meet are not nearly as attractive as the pictures on tinder. Which makes tinder the more attractive challenge to tackle. We could write a book about how our entire world broke down fundamentally when introduced with online dating.

Synth_Lord · 2021-10-12T22:30:50+00:00

[permanently deleted]

lpploj · 2021-10-12T22:24:56+00:00

What even is the point of this? It just sounds like you’re insecure as a result of perceptibly low success on the apps and want the people you WISH or THINK you’d match with in real life to get off the apps so that you can meet them, and have a better chance with them, IRL.

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2021-10-12T21:55:01+00:00

Super agree will all 7 points.

2021-10-13T00:30:11+00:00

I rather be an ape over at r/wallstreetbets than an ape on r/tinder

adomede · 2021-10-13T03:56:23+00:00

Trust me you’re better off going out in public to meet women… girls on dating apps just want more followers, your money, or guys that are extremely attractive

FalconVita · 2021-10-13T05:19:22+00:00

You just don't know how to use it.

hitmanwitda23 · 2021-10-13T05:29:04+00:00

i made an account on blk and got 99+ likes in less in 24 hrs and it’s bout 2 weeks later i’m STILL bout to delete this shit 😂 the woman on there it seems impossible to get any where with & i’m not even looking for pussy i’m just lookin for people to hang out with, boring women that have can’t hold conversations, won’t message you first & have no interest in getting to know you, (even tho they liked your profile???), lmao from somebody who gets traffic on these apps it’s a complete waste of time and energy and the vast majority on there prolly have no intention of talking to you more for than 3 days

staynelaley · 2021-10-13T11:07:33+00:00

I say use both! It only feels terrible if this is your only method.

The upsides of apps:

-see more people who you may not have ever met in your friend group or at the store or club

-helps your conversation skills over text, which is important nowadays.

-can get you more potential dates if done right

-you’re probably more likely to actually meet someone who is your type and has specific things in common as opposed to simply choosing based off what is physically close to you.

Downside:

-meeting someone irl and catching that spark in person is so much better. There are people I’ve met in person who I’ve been attracted to but if I saw them on an app, I would have swiped left. Their personality, voice, mannerisms, and our chemistry played more of a role. Which is a reason you should maybe include a video in your profile if you can.

-honestly, if you aren’t attractive, you’re going to have a hard time. It’s not nice to hear, but if that’s the case you’re better off just honing your social skills. Its not hopeless for you if this is the case. But you really need to work on confidence and social skills. There was a guy i was hooking up with for a bit who isn’t conventionally attractive at all, but he gets cute girls bc he’s very outgoing, confident, dominant, funny and fun to be around.

-it does create a false sense of options and makes you think the grass is greener on the other side.

As far as fake accounts, it’s certainly possible. But I see a lot of genuine people on there too. Some people might just be inactive but still showing up.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-13T04:26:36+00:00

The reason why dating apps don't work for you and 99% of the other guys in this sub is only because you don't know how to use them correctly

If you don't know how to win, you lose.

justaregularguyearth · 2021-10-13T05:17:11+00:00

I agree. You are at the mercy of the dating apps algorithm, it’s not even fair. They boost you so that you pay for the membership and then they stop the boost until you actually buy one. Dating apps would be better if they didn’t suppress profiles based on “attractiveness” because ultimately it’s in the eye of the beholder, but if the beholder can’t even see your profile what’s the point?

PlantainLow8715 · 2021-10-13T05:34:56+00:00

It's alot of hoe ass niggas say anything to a bitch just to get the pussy. I be saying you sell out sorry ass nigga. Feel bad for them but then I don't 🌧️👌.

2021-10-13T00:58:44+00:00

You single? If so, not really in a position to be giving advice.

Bergatario · 2021-10-12T23:51:31+00:00

I met my current wife on OK Cupid.

No_Ask_132 · 2021-10-13T01:06:25+00:00

Can’t paint the canvas with a broad brush. Dating apps can be useful if you use it properly and have good pictures.

2021-10-13T03:03:00+00:00

Tinder isn't worth it, Hinge on the other hand is actually a good app and is not riddled with fake accounts

PuroPincheGains · 2021-10-13T03:58:08+00:00

No thanks. I've been very successful in the apps.

Connect_Boss6316 · 2021-10-13T06:27:16+00:00

"Don't use dating apps."

"Actually, they're pretty good, so carry on using them."

Make your mind up dude.

2021-10-13T07:58:59+00:00

Lack of proper mindset
Why not do both?
Not on Hinge
Lack of proper mindset
Nobody is forcing you to pay
Yes you are. Social skills behind a screen are just as important during a pandemic
Scarcity mindset. Girls are desperate too

SerNerdtheThird · 2021-10-13T11:03:37+00:00

Girlfriend of a year I met on tinder. Use both.

Dwaynedibley24601 · 2021-10-13T12:05:55+00:00

Not while you are banging a 10
Odds are lower in public because interactions are fewer, online numbers are on your side.
There are fake accounts and you can pick em out in 2 seconds and move on.
Once you get a match it tests your social skills harder than ever. since you can't rely on facial expression, physicality, etc... it's all charm.
Why would I pay? Do people pay?
Once you get a match it tests your social skills harder than ever. since you cant rely on facial expression, physicality, etc.. it's all charm.
You are lumped in with the apes regardless...I have been with my partner a long time and the apes still come after them... something as a man you have to deal with. There is always some ape trying to storm the castle.

This just seems defeatist... swipe right on the next cute fatty and get yourself a slump buster, thank me later.

2021-10-13T12:31:40+00:00

Tmw your a shy af introvert

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-10-13T21:39:55+00:00

I do well with apps. To each their own I guess.

YakubTheCreat0r · 2021-10-13T21:44:34+00:00

Some of us do very well on dating apps. Also you can practice your skills when going out on dates through the apps.

Title	[deleted by user]
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	346
Comments	104
Date	October 12, 2021 8:49 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/q6vdjo/deleted_by_user/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/deleted-by-user.1274427 https://theredarchive.com/post/1274427

Comments