friend is cheating

stumpdawg · 2022-02-22T13:42:51+00:00

Lemmie guess... highschool?

Physical-Valuable-77 · 2022-02-22T13:42:20+00:00

Ask her out. Who gives a fuck what he thinks?

Shadow__Account · 2022-02-22T15:54:18+00:00

Lol you both sound like douches

charmbrood · 2022-02-22T13:57:55+00:00

Why would you even want to be friends with a douche bag

R_46_D · 2022-02-22T17:16:03+00:00

Just forget about her man. She's already sleeping with your friend and you want in on that? There's many other girls to go around. And man your friend is messed up. I won't tell you to cut off ties with him but you better not stay too close to him. He's bad news.

Snakehead004 · 2022-02-22T14:32:41+00:00

Why are you posting? Why are you friends with someone like this??? Just ask ehr out, fuck him! Or better yet, "unintentionally" let her know he has a gf. Maybe invite them ALL out to an event without letting them know 😈

garryy_ · 2022-02-22T16:48:00+00:00

hes in the wrong for cheating. youre in the wrong for your first thought to be “lemme get laid” instead of “let me help this girl in a shitty relationship”

geardluffy · 2022-02-22T15:30:48+00:00

Dude just ask her out. This kind of guy is someone I absolutely hate, has no issues cheating yet gets mad when it happens to them. He’s also acting like some territorial alpha lion. If you value health, you really need to get away from this guy, he’s not a good friend. If he can treat you and others like this, what other kinds of ways does he mistreat you?

ThatGuy_Nick9 · 2022-02-22T14:00:56+00:00

Lol too much creatine! Fuck that guy, he’s a tool. At least say hey to her

JohntheAnabaptist · 2022-02-22T15:16:34+00:00

Why do you want to be friends with this guy? If he can cheat on his girlfriend to her face, he has no moral character. You need to figure yourself out

SoA_MC · 2022-02-22T16:40:52+00:00

"she likes my instagram posts"

Firstly that doesn’t mean shit. Secondly if you can go out with this girl, as in, you can physically ask her out, then do it. Fuck what your friend says. Just tell him she’s available which she is.

Sounds like you and your friend are both insecure as fuck btw. That’s the only way I can see you being so perturbed by this kind of immaturity.

steegyy · 2022-02-22T17:11:15+00:00

He can only dibs one girl at a time. Just an unwritten rule imo. He sounds like a greedy bitch. If his dibs is on the new girl then go hook up w his gf.

eckzotic · 2022-02-22T17:28:43+00:00

Wtf am i reading.. your friend is wrong for cheating on his girl and you’re a fucked up friend for wanting to steal his girl. Regardless of whether he’s cheating on her or not, that’s your friend’s girl. It’s none of your business what they’re doing, there’s plenty of hot women everywhere stop focusing on this one girl. Your friend will get what’s coming don’t worry about it, but don’t try to meddle in their relationship

lowkey136 · 2022-02-22T17:20:45+00:00

Reading some of your comments you say you don't want to lose a friend or tell him what to do. This guy is not your friend nor a good person. He is cheating on his SO and telling you what to do. Honestly why do you even want to hang with this guy? You're young enough where finding new and better friends is easy. This is a fuck around and find out situation. Take the girl out and the situation may just handle itself. He could self destruct and in doing so outing himself to his girlfriend. By not doing anything you are making yourself out to be a bad guy in this situation which you say you do not want to be. The SO will be much happier losing this POS, the "hot" side piece won't be a home wrecker, and you may get the girl in the end. Unfortunately people need to learn lessons the hard way and maybe this will cause him to do much needed self reflection. Yeah it's going to suck if you lose someone you consider a friend but OP you need to ask yourself, what kind of friend is he?

ChrispyK · 2022-02-22T17:38:12+00:00

"I can excuse cheating, but I draw the line at not being able to date my friend's SO."

Do you hear yourself right now? I feel like I'm taking crazy pills.

First off, the company you keep is a reflection of who you are. Are you the kind of person who can excuse cheating in your own relationships? If your girl was cheating on you, would you want one of her friends to tell you, or should they prioritize their friendship with your cheating SO?

Secondly, she's not your girl. She doesn't owe you anything, and it sounds like you're only considering telling her about this because it means you'll get a shot with her. You fucking sociopath.

Tell her about the cheating because it's the right fucking thing to do, and expect nothing in return. She's a big girl, she will make her own decisions about who to date. Also, surround yourself with a better class of people. You have to either make cheating a dealbreaker in your relationships (friends included), or resign yourself to dealing with cheaters until you do.

DiabloBratz · 2022-02-22T17:58:26+00:00

You sound like a cuck lowkey

Frdoco11 · 2022-02-22T14:48:08+00:00

Sack up, Duke..

Calamity__Bane · 2022-02-22T14:17:30+00:00

Lol, give him an ultimatum. Tell him to get the fuck off your back or you’ll tell his gf he’s getting some on the side. Normally I don’t advocate doing that, but if he wants to play hardball then play hardball.

surferguy999 · 2022-02-22T15:27:01+00:00

Find new friends and find another girl to focus on.

I would leave this girl alone, it's going to cause nothing but trouble. There's thousands of other girls, find another one.

canofcanasta · 2022-02-22T14:53:36+00:00

Sounds like a terrible friend. Ask out who you want, don’t be a coward.

LilBleeder · 2022-02-22T14:57:26+00:00

Fuck him. He has NO power over you. Go for it. Let him cry about it. Tell him that if he tries to cockblock you again, you’ll rat him out to his SO.

Andrew54321 · 2022-02-22T15:03:05+00:00

Fuck his side piece

theStoicist · 2022-02-22T15:51:02+00:00

lol dude i feel you. you're stuck cause you don't want to lose the friendship. but the dude thinks he can manipulate and control you. I would say play along, but go ask her out. Youre a man and you have needs too. If he gets angry, shrug it off. He knows he is acting out and you allowing him makes him feel entitled to her. Take your shot, you'll regret it if you don't.

Connect_Cold7377 · 2022-02-22T16:45:40+00:00

Time to get new friends

TimelyDab · 2022-02-22T17:02:09+00:00

Fuck this guy who cares what he thinks he's not your friend and he sounds like an asshole. Get with this girl and if he starts shit out him to his SO

Kiltmanenator · 2022-02-22T17:48:27+00:00

Forget the friend.

Fuck the girl.

REMEMBER she facilitated cheating, and don't commit to her.

jackzander · 2022-02-22T17:51:31+00:00

Your friend sounds juvenile as fuck. A child. A little baby who doesn't understand how to act or how to treat others.

Call him out on his bullshit. He'll cry and complain, but that's what children do.

princelydeeds · 2022-02-22T18:17:28+00:00

There are 4 billion women on the planet, you can't find any other chick to talk to?

Kind of pitiful, IMHO...

You have a scarcity mindset.

Applaud your friends success...

Purplegetraenk · 2022-02-22T18:58:59+00:00

Stop acting like a bitch and mind your own business you fake friend

Vril_SA_PL · 2022-02-22T19:12:09+00:00

Depends on what you want

Do you want his friendship?

Personally for me... Fuck him... a cheating MF!

Then on top of that he is trying to claim moral high ground cuz he is in a relationship with her.

Fuck him...

Do deceny justice. Tell her the Truth

But expect both friendships to be ruined...

Tough choice but I would rather live with myself and held myself to my ideal behaviour then be friends with such a person. You don't want to have a such friend... he'll bring you drama later on.

Sucks about the girl though

Win some you lose some. Through no fault of your own

Who knows maybe a couple years later you might meet up and hook up

All the best, regardless which choice you make

Marcoscondit · 2022-02-22T15:45:10+00:00

Don’t bs you don’t like it because you like her and he’s over there getting more girls while you can’t get one. What I’ve noticed is when a guy is butthurt about another guy cheating on a girl he hates it’s because he wants that girl but can’t have her

norcalj · 2022-02-22T15:57:28+00:00

If the ONLY reason you are critical of him cheating is because the 2nd chick is “hot” then you are a certified hater. if she was butt ugly u wouldnt be trippin then you a sucka. go ahead and live with being bitch ass. you better marry her for all this sucka ass activity you doing

Number1sun · 2022-02-22T18:49:35+00:00

Imbecile rant

Jayman1565 · 2022-02-22T14:10:33+00:00

Even in your ideal world: in which you maintain your friendship & date this girl. Is that how you want to start a serious relationship?.

How your relationship starts is normally a strong indicator to how it will end.

In regards to the moral implications, right & wrong is subjective and entirely dependant on the individuals values.

Obviously some things are straight wrong but it comes down too two things: Will you be able to look at yourself in the mirror? & What do you really want?, Not What Your Libido.

Hope this helps, like most things there's no right or wrong answer.

Creepyunclexd · 2022-02-22T14:14:50+00:00

I was just like your friend when i was in school. My best friend told my girlfriend that i was cheating and i hated him after that.

Marcoscondit · 2022-02-22T15:47:17+00:00

Why would you wanna fuck a girl that your friend fucked . I’d never do that that’s gross 🤮

Impulsive666 · 2022-02-22T16:56:50+00:00

You should totally white knight him: Make a lengthy insta post and lay it all out there. For good measurement I‘d recommend tagging him, his side project and his SO.

epikfal · 2022-02-22T15:21:56+00:00

“All is fair in love and war” fuck your friend, do what you want bro.

ChoppedBelAir · 2022-02-22T15:22:00+00:00

Ask her out. She's the one who chooses, anyways. What's he going to do about it, cry?

LightKnight2 · 2022-02-22T15:53:55+00:00

Can’t ruin my mans chance at true love 💀

FlavoredButtHair · 2022-02-22T15:56:07+00:00

Might be time to just find new friends.

2022-02-22T15:59:04+00:00

Establish dominance, have sex with both girls

Make sure his jaw ends up behind his skull when he starts talking shit

Reichka · 2022-02-22T16:28:42+00:00

Dude this guy isn't your friend.

comacove · 2022-02-22T16:31:19+00:00

is this an Onion article?

Charge36 · 2022-02-22T16:35:23+00:00

Your friend sounds like an asshole. If he's getting his feathers ruffled about a girl he's cheating with then fuck him.

drgreen987 · 2022-02-22T16:45:11+00:00

Tell em to sit his ass down as he cant claim a girl when is in a relationship. all is fair in the war of love

Nofapthrowaway2003 · 2022-02-22T16:50:43+00:00

Steal both of his girls, fuck cheaters and fuck him. Sigma style

DisturbEDx02 · 2022-02-22T17:39:55+00:00

Guy sounds like a fucking loser. Stop being his friend and ask her out. Don’t let other people control your life

Tiko853 · 2022-02-22T17:45:03+00:00

I think the right thing to do is grab proof, and show his SO that he is cheating on her. Sorry but I’m of the school of thought that says if I was cheated on, I would want to know. By not telling me, you aren’t saving me from any pain. You aren’t doing me a favour. Your just hiding the truth that someone deserves to know.

I especially would because this guy basically started the beef with you by cock blocking you to the new girl, while simultaneously expecting you to keep his cheating a secret. He thinks he can have both girls, and subdue you. In reality he deserves neither, and doesn’t deserve you as a friend either.

Tldr;the right thing to do is tell and show his SO that he is cheating, and then if you do like the new girl, move in and take the opportunity. It’s not only the right thing to do on every way possible, it would let you move in

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-02-22T17:48:23+00:00

Just leave it bro. Go after some other girls.

Chanlabing007 · 2022-02-22T18:14:55+00:00

Ask the girl to a double date with your friend and his SO

TheThinkingMansPenis · 2022-02-22T18:56:36+00:00

Your "friend" is a giant douche and not really your friend. F' him. Tell the girl she's his side chick. Win at life.

Kronuk · 2022-02-22T18:57:24+00:00

Get another girl, or go out with this girl. You're your own person, how many other choices will you let him make for you. Just realize the consequences of your own actions.

Turlast · 2022-02-22T19:05:38+00:00

This does not sound like a good situation to be in. You shouldn't be even thinking about pursuing this girl, but your friend sounds like a control freak. Tell him he can't dictate shyt you're doing and also leave this messy ass situation alone. It's not worth it.

AnalJuiceYUM · 2022-02-22T19:20:04+00:00

Is this the only hot girl in the world? You have a strange mentality here. How about minding your business regarding someone else’s relationship. Unless there’s some abusive stuff happening, mind your business. As to him “limiting you,” lol strangest thing I’ve ever heard. If this dude isn’t your friend then stop talking to him. Make new friends

wish_i_were_a_saiyan · 2022-02-22T19:43:56+00:00

He's obviously not doing the right thing. And sooner or later he's gonna be out, implies someone will take the girl out. Why not you?

If he were that good a friend to be called your friend, he would have thought about you as you are thinking about him.

maplemario · 2022-02-22T19:50:11+00:00

Dude I'm gonna go against the grain here, these are two separate thoughts entirely. You act like this guy is your homie. Let me help you figure out how to address these two issues without fucking up your friendship or being a colossal dick.

1 - You don't approve of what your friend is doing. That's cool. The most stable way to handle this is to keep giving him shit for it but be funny about it, so he gets the point but you don't cause an all out escalation. Going out of your way to tell someone you don't approve of something they're doing is something you need to tread carefully with and really do it right.

2 - You don't fuck with a girl your homie is fucking with unless you ask him about it and he's cool with it. Period. He is clearly not cool with it. Ok, it's for a stupid reason. Either stop being friends with him and THEN go hit on her, or man up and go for other girls instead.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-02-23T04:52:27+00:00

1

..... he "claimed" her for himself and doesnt "allow" me to to go out with her.

Of course, you cannot own a person and this guy cannot make you do anything.

The real issue is perhaps that you don't want to risk whatever connection or friendship you have with this guy?

2

I followed her on instagram and she followed me back and keeps liking my posts. She added me to her close friends on instagram and she definitely wants to go out with me.

Yesterday he messaged why I followed her, that he is shocked by what I did that I cant follow her

You perhaps are well within your rights too Tell your friend that he might want to sort out his personal life.

3

She is also completely unaware my friend is in a relationship.

There's no harm in this coming up in passing while you're talking to this girl.

Assuming that she knows you know him, you could just mention in passing that you were hanging out with him when his girlfriend did something, etc

You may also reconsider whether this is the kind of person you really want to be friends with.

Seems like a lot of immature drama for someone who has graduated high school already. Being around this guy will only drag you down.

Title	friend is cheating
Author	Occultgay124
Upvotes	64
Comments	135
Date	February 22, 2022 1:40 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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