Is this a weird first date?

RednaxB · 2019-08-22T16:32:16+00:00

IKEA and chill

CaciqueBoss · 2019-08-22T16:58:44+00:00

If not a hook up it's free labor!

throwaway487921 · 2019-08-22T14:45:14+00:00

What kind of furniture? Also a lot of the girls I know love IKEA so your girl probably enjoy doing this. Maybe cook/order food afterwards?

smoothmax · 2019-08-22T15:38:11+00:00

No it's fucking awesome. You're a genius.

I wouldn't waste a lot of time building furniture though. You wanna pour the wine and get her on the couch "reviewing the instructions" and never get around to building anything. So have the wine chilled and the instructions already out on the coffee table.

neverod-doreven · 2019-08-22T15:27:15+00:00

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summon_lurker · 2019-08-22T17:49:45+00:00

Where can I find a chick that will redo my roof and chill? Or work on the deck and chill?

LillyPad97 · 2019-08-22T14:56:51+00:00

It is a kinda weird first date but I'm also a girl who loves assembling IKEA furniture. Also, just from experience, some of the best first dates are the weirdest.

NewtypeJ · 2019-08-22T15:36:16+00:00

Or putting furniture together means sex, like when I say “come over and Netflix and ice cream”

Jacob_961 · 2019-08-22T15:41:17+00:00

Do the furniture thing. Order some food, have some drinks and make a move. She likes you and is making it easier for you. Don't overthink it. She wants you.

BFG_MP · 2019-08-22T15:46:45+00:00

Go with it!!!! This is perfect cause you are getting that annoying furniture built, AND going on a date. Being at your place is a plus too. Worst case scenario. Your furniture is built.

2019-08-23T01:15:23+00:00

I wouldn't say "weird", I'd say "unusual" or "different". Lol.

I'll be honest, if a cute girl invited me to build her IKEA furniture I'd totally be happy to. I love assembling furniture.

However, make sure to have a plan B (like cooking, movie, food, etc) because she most likely will not want to build furniture for you the whole time. It'll just be a great ice breaker for the first while.

Good luck man dude.

PegleggedPiegon · 2019-08-22T16:03:09+00:00

If you guys have great chemistry, it truly doesn’t matter where, or what you guys are doing, you’ll just vibe. One thing leads to another, sex happens.

mandoa_sky · 2019-08-22T14:48:17+00:00

some people love putting ikea furniture together (i'm one of them), so to them it just sounds like a fun activity.

awaytaway2 · 2019-08-22T16:47:49+00:00

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notarobot4932 · 2019-08-22T17:10:07+00:00

NO. Let her help and then smash if the mood's right.

treatsndentalsticks · 2019-08-22T17:24:00+00:00

Take her to IKEA next and bang here there.

AlexValmontDotCom · 2019-08-23T09:38:25+00:00

First off, no it's not weird. A date could be literally ANY activity that 2 (or more lol) people do together.

What's more important is the context. A girl will always unconsciously "listen" for that. Let me explain:

The conteNt of the date is putting together the furniture, however the conteXt is that this is a 2 person team and everyone in it will be assigned a role. If she's a feminine girl, and most girls are, she will respond well if she sees that you take on the role of the leader and lead this 2 person team effectively. This will create polarity and thus, attraction.

Leading means that you are gonna be the first to read the instructions and prompt her on what she needs to do to help you assemble the furniture. A leader is always the hardest working person in the room. Also, you tell her, she complies. Note that you don't have to be a savage doing that, you can be super chill, find your own style of leadership.

If the conteXt is right, the conteNt doesn't matter, and neither will you have to put a lot of thought into how to seduce her (should I order food? etc), if you act cool she'll be trying to seduce you. That's where you wanna be coming from as a man IMO.

So to sum up, it doesn't matter what you do, but rather how you do it. If she agrees to put together the furniture with you, this is a way for her to get to know you, and how you roll in a situation like that because from this, she will unconsciously deduce everything else and generally if she'll be having a good time with you.

How we do ONE thing is how we do EVERYTHING. Get it?

From her perspective, if you're a leader in furniture assembly, you'll probably be a boss in life and an ace in bed. And that means fun times for her.

Oh and yea, all of this is completely unconscious.

Cheers,

Alex

teatimewithbatman1 · 2019-08-22T16:54:56+00:00

As a Male, out of curiosity. Is sex a first thought for most guys? Like do going on dates and wanting sex go hand in hand

2019-08-22T17:58:26+00:00

Dude why would it be weird. If it would have been weird for her she would have ghosted you. This date is actually awesome, just try not to get angry on the ikea blueprints :d... have fun it will be awesome. Not sure if you'll build the furniture thougb

JRthePUMP · 2019-08-22T18:07:56+00:00

Ally-oop

zest1978 · 2019-08-22T18:11:08+00:00

What??? Assemble the furniture. !!!! Don’t expect a hook up and don’t cook. order take out. Dates can be anything you do together. She just wants to hang with you. Enjoy that

hunterpua · 2019-08-22T18:46:18+00:00

Its completely fine man.

In fact if you guys actually end up building furniture it will also build her attraction for you.

But here's why you shouldn't expect to do a lot of furniture assembly...

She is coming to your house for the very first time that she sees you.

She is willingly putting herself in a situation where she will be alone with you.

And you guys met on Tinder.

That means she has already acknowledged that she is attracted to you to some extent and she is looking for a hook up or some sort of relationship.

Its most likely the former because of how fast she's moving by coming to your house immediately.

So in her mind coming to your house could very well be an excuse to come over for sex.

So take the hint and if she touches you often and always enters your personal space then drop the screwdriver and the instruction manual and make a move.

Voyaller · 2019-08-22T19:53:46+00:00

Or don't build anything and do the same for your next match.

3 months later OP is still moving. 🤣

fuckingfeduplmao · 2019-08-22T20:39:01+00:00

Erm okay but I’d actually really enjoy this as a first date idea. That sounds really fun! Crack on

2019-08-23T06:54:51+00:00

Women make me so mad. Ive had tinder for 4 years and cant even get a match.

Looks and money are all that matters to women. I hate it I hate it I hate it.

alvinyakitori7 · 2019-08-22T15:09:26+00:00

That's interesting, but you can make it work! You should bring up the suggestion of grabbing food beforehand, and then proceed to build the furniture.

Yaboifuckboi · 2019-08-22T23:25:30+00:00

In one year when I’m out of active duty and off to college you already know I’m going to have this date idea thank you my man! Just because it works out since I know a bunch of girls back home and what better way to see if they want to come over, catch up, and help me get settled in.

PLUS she will see my life is together, appreciate them gainz cause big lifts and long rucks, and I’ll have the pre military jump on the game of course like I think girls do 10x talking just because they are so apt to hear about the military and shit. Dude this is the perfect idea though I have been enlightened.

Apdofakerggong · 2019-08-22T17:38:27+00:00

I think this is really really cool dude. I kinda did the same thing on the 1st date with my ex gf, she came for a weekend to my city and 3 weeks later we were a couple. Enjoy the weekend with this girl!!

hillsofzomia · 2019-08-22T17:50:52+00:00

No, do ot. You should stand by what you said. At least you've got something to do and no awkward pauses and stuff. I once helped a girl moved in on a first dat. I helped clean and move stuff. Later we chilled out in the barden, made a fire. Don't worry, dates, even first dates don't have to be the same boring thing every time. I mean seriously, i hope you'll go through it. After all, you're supposed to do what you say and say what you mean, right.

2019-08-22T18:04:29+00:00

Nah dude this can be great just have fun with it. Don’t stress my man. Throw on some music or background Netflix, maybe afterwards good or a walk or something. Should be good

QawL · 2019-08-22T18:07:46+00:00

Build the furniture literally (look it up beforehand) and test it for the stability

GrumpyRPGReviews · 2019-08-22T18:24:22+00:00

You should leave at least some furniture for her help with, otherwise it would oddly rude and inviting her over on false pretense.

Graefinator · 2019-08-22T18:34:11+00:00

I mean if you flirted with her and there were some sexual overtones then you would easily know what the deal is. If that isn't the vibe yet and you want some action with her I'm sure there would be tons of opportunities to make some crude/sexual jokes while building furniture to test the waters.

Worst case scenario, she helps you build furniture in your new apartment. Hopefully she doesn't suck as a human being otherwise.

But as others have said if she has agreed to come to your place for a first date it would be pretty hard to screw it up and not get a hookup if that's what you're after. Hooking up is 100% on her radar and should be on yours too.

themanbat · 2019-08-22T18:38:43+00:00

Dude you've already won. Enjoy it.

-lighght- · 2019-08-22T18:41:30+00:00

That's not weird. Good idea homie

2019-08-22T18:48:38+00:00

Nahh this is the coolest date. One of my first with my ex was helping me get my old basement set up. Hung the big tv, some shelving, knick knacks in their places, etc.

Then we went and got dinner and brought it back and watched a movie in the completed media room. It was actually pretty great lol.

samderaes · 2019-08-22T18:50:52+00:00

Maybe she thinks you're kidding and smooth at the same time. I did the same pick-up line once, she knew I was kidding, came over and we had a nice time. We ended up testing the furniture, which was solid.

l3onnow · 2019-08-22T19:23:00+00:00

Sitting in the car at the water by the docks, conversing having a nice talk then all of a sudden you look over and his member is out 😬 now that's a weird date

vevolution · 2019-08-22T19:47:18+00:00

That's an original first date, if nothing else. Build the furniture together, then have her help you break it in.

FrasierandNiles · 2019-08-22T19:52:06+00:00

Dude, I have done this. The date helped me build my bed. And on second date she helped rock it. Go for it. Grab beers, put on music, talk about each other and build the furniture.

THE_Aft_io9_Giz · 2019-08-22T20:20:17+00:00

Make sure to have the tools or boxes in your bedroom!

THE_Aft_io9_Giz · 2019-08-22T20:21:05+00:00

Then," building furniture" becomes your code phrase for crazy sexy time!

BravoPUA · 2019-08-22T20:58:18+00:00

I always have women help me move.

Cleaning. Packing/unpacking. Painting.

They love it!!

Teapot_Dragon · 2019-08-22T21:04:56+00:00

It's weird but not bad. I mean I fucked a tinder girl after she helped me make my bed once and that was just sheets, imagine what she'd do to you after literally making your bed or a couch.

2019-08-22T21:11:20+00:00

Just do it bro. Have fun with it, hang out, and hook up if it's flowin' like that

jackzander · 2019-08-22T21:43:07+00:00

Honestly she'll get pretty sprung if you just follow the instructions and don't botch the assembly.

yolokms_69 · 2019-08-22T22:03:41+00:00

It'll be fun and original so why df not

EarthWarping · 2019-08-22T22:06:38+00:00

Shaiger · 2019-08-22T22:13:18+00:00

Please write a follow up on this :)

2019-08-22T22:21:43+00:00

Its only wierd if you make it wierd. Its only romantic if you make it romantic. Its only fun if you make it fun. Etc. Who cares if its not normal, have a good time with it. Make some moves ya diggg. Take her out after who knows

Nickbane23 · 2019-08-22T22:51:39+00:00

Brother! that sounds perfect. Grab a bottle of wine for after you finish and you’re in.

ctheodore · 2019-08-22T22:53:16+00:00

I'll need an update on this

KindnessWins · 2019-08-22T23:00:25+00:00

I think this is perfect now I wanna try it lol.

mindystar · 2019-08-22T23:10:58+00:00

Typically the most memorable dates are the ones that include some sort of activity rather than just a coffee date or a dinner. I feel that doing something even if it’s helping build furniture is actually kind of cool because it will relieve anxiety from the both of you by making you two focus on a task and therefore allowing the both of you to talk in between to break the ice. As a female I would probably go over and help someone, I feel like it’s a good way to get to know a person and in a way form bond even if it’s friendship. Not to mention it’s attractive to watch guys build things so there’s that too.

2019-08-23T04:41:51+00:00

A friend of mine had a girl come over to clean his room as a first date.

KrullTheWarriorKing · 2019-08-23T05:19:52+00:00

It's whatever you want it to be. Keep calm. STOP overthinking. Let things happen.

auxdub · 2019-08-23T08:07:35+00:00

Get some beers, start drinking and building the furniture, escalate. I bet this will be one of the most original dates the girl has been in a while. Go for it.

Sithlorde77 · 2019-08-23T08:42:56+00:00

Mira_Kanec · 2019-08-23T09:58:46+00:00

RemindMe! 4 Days

almostfappedbruh · 2019-08-23T10:15:45+00:00

Lmao you got her a wedding ring bro?😭

climaxingwalrus · 2019-08-22T16:52:34+00:00

Assembling furniture is great. Some people actually like to do it (not me) and if the date goes bad, then you'll still have put together furniture. Win win

wonderaw · 2019-08-22T17:09:07+00:00

hmmm it's strange but she could be genuinely nice ? Idk I might have offered the same and be fine with sex afterwards... Maybe have a few beers while setting up the furniture too ?
You could try it out and if it's not working just 'give up' then do other stuff but might be fun who knows where all the weird ikea pieces go ?

FrogOnLillyPad · 2019-08-22T17:19:50+00:00

Unless it something incredibly small and simple,DONT DO IT!!!!!! assembling flatpack/ikea furniture tests relationships to their absolute breaking point so unless you two are basically soulmates one or both of you are going to get incredibly stress and it going to be terrible. And yes I'm speaking from first hand experience lol, your better off cooking.

Yaboifuckboi · 2019-08-22T23:16:36+00:00

Bro she doesn’t have a single fucking interest in the damn furniture she just wants to meet you, you offered an easy thing, and she took it!

Also bro you’re doing shit hot don’t worry. Just invite her over and just kinda have fun with your set up. Then ask if she wants to try your other furniture pieces and Yeet yourself on the couch or bed and see if she wants to watch a movie or go for a walk. If you’re actually interested in talking to her I’d do the walk though for sure or hey if the movie isn’t a fuck then go for a walk

If I had one more piece of advice if you’re going to do something set your mind to it and just do it. It goes for dating and girls A lot. If you say I’m fucking this girl and never talking to her again then just do it you’ll accomplish that goal if you have a driven mindset

2019-08-22T23:31:12+00:00

I'm talking to a girl since yesterday, I got her to agree to go put with me tonight. We both love the 1920s so we said fuck it, were dressing up from that era and going to a random restaurant for drinks! It's the fact that it's not a normal first date that makes it fun bro. Enjoy yourself this weekend!

koala_tea_thyme · 2019-08-22T23:33:24+00:00

So I have a sort of similar experience. A few weeks into dating, my boyfriend was over at my apartment. I'd ordered a new futon just before we started going out, consisting of a separate frame and mattress. But when I unboxed the frame I realized I'd made a terrible mistake. This was the most complicated, convoluted instruction manual for any piece of furniture I've ever ordered. So I just had the frame sitting there not-put-together for a month. He comes over and decides we will tackle this together. Dear god, I never could have done this on my own. I would have died with the frame still laying there in pieces. It took several days and several rounds of taking pieces apart and putting them back together because the instructions were so difficult to follow. We still reflect on this experience often. 10/10 would recommend as a bonding experience. 0/10 would do again.

MrMemper · 2019-08-23T01:03:27+00:00

It’s fine. Just make sure you have your logistics in order (condoms, toys, beer/wine/liquor/weed). Have upbeat music for the activity and some ideas on what food to order.

RiskyRewarder · 2019-08-23T02:07:37+00:00

Not weird, she wants your dick

2019-08-23T03:27:47+00:00

Normal. fun. have some food there but nothing over the top. Solid chance you don’t make any furniture

freethebeesknees · 2019-08-23T03:41:25+00:00

I personally would jam on the idea of a first date doing a Lego build. I think it would be a good judge of someone's patience, spacial skills and most importantly coolness. Lol.

pearlsongold · 2019-08-23T06:00:26+00:00

This date idea makes me want to download tinder again -female

Title	Is this a weird first date?
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Date	August 22, 2019 2:27 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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