Stupid question; Why is it often times easier to get laid just after getting a lay??

tdotcityboy · 2023-06-19T13:10:26+00:00

Your aura starts getting bigger

Eu8bckAr1 · 2023-06-19T12:09:56+00:00

Because you don’t look needy anymore.

Southcity94 · 2023-06-19T10:22:42+00:00

You re just less needy for validation and women sense that. Youre not dependend on her approval

Lit-Up · 2023-06-19T12:35:02+00:00

Momentum.

virishking · 2023-06-19T15:55:22+00:00

A lot of ridiculous answers here including about pheromones and sht, but the clear, true answer is confidence. You feel more sexually confident, you feel more *sexy and in tune with your own sexuality. That confidence reflects in your actions and demeanor in big ways as well as ways that you may not necessarily notice but which make all of the difference.

Ozy13 · 2023-06-19T14:17:57+00:00

Preselection attraction switch

The_Soton_Legend · 2023-06-19T10:22:38+00:00

Because you're more relaxed, not in hunt mode, and your body has just released a fuck tonne of pheromones which to women is like Axe Body Spray: Crack Edition.

Status_Attention6611 · 2023-06-19T11:08:07+00:00

When you get it, they smell it

all20081988 · 2023-06-19T15:07:44+00:00

Hahaha. That's a really great point.

I could say it's because we are more relaxed and stuff like that. But i think is more than this.

There is indeed some kind of MAGIC.

Because when you are in a good strike it's not just the girls who see you at the street that will be attracted to you. Maybe those girls could see something different in our behavior.

But now that girl you don't talk since before the pandemics will send you a message telling she misses you. There is no way she could know anything about your sex life.

I wish i had an answer for your question OP, but i don't.

The only thing I have to say is that you question is not stupid. It's just one of the biggest mysteries of humanity.

Cannibal_Feast · 2023-06-19T13:26:59+00:00

Mate choice copying

This phenomenon occurs in many other species as well

ajk42goo · 2023-06-19T13:17:10+00:00

Smelling of the morning lay makes the evening hunt so much easier.

mrbrown1980 · 2023-06-19T13:30:40+00:00

Because you’re not trying so hard.

Skyccord · 2023-06-19T12:09:51+00:00

You no longer have the lonely man/woman smell.

Some-Ad451 · 2023-06-19T13:39:15+00:00

I guess it's like they smell something on you and they are like someone from our team had that, I might as well try it.....idk?

JackSquirts · 2023-06-19T14:47:22+00:00

Less concerned with the outcome = subtle confidence and security.

cornflakes453 · 2023-06-19T14:56:22+00:00

You become confident. You don't act like a little boy going to his school for the first time. But, a senior in College

Dvsd888 · 2023-06-19T13:32:42+00:00

Beause the corpse is still on ya bed

Doctor-Rich · 2023-06-19T15:14:21+00:00

When it rains it pours

Alex-Zaander · 2023-06-19T11:15:45+00:00

Because you can use the tricks and antics to get another one in a confident way.

You can trust your ways

StriveForGreat1017 · 2023-06-19T15:47:36+00:00

So many others are going to same thing , but it’s the truth. It’s because you’re not as needy, and thirsty . Women can sense that you don’t need them

Redwolfdc · 2023-06-19T19:49:57+00:00

Because success builds your confidence which builds more success

NotMyBestEffort · 2023-06-19T12:55:21+00:00

You got that pussy juice on you.

NoCommunication5976 · 2023-06-19T13:55:31+00:00

because the degeneracy doesn’t shock you when you first walk into the club

MountainGoatSC · 2023-06-19T18:24:40+00:00

You're more confident and relaxed

IrishSkillet · 2023-06-19T19:13:44+00:00

I believe that’s where the term “Slump buster” came from. A lot of people might lower their standards to break a “slump”. Once that need is quenched…they might not being trying so hard or pressing to have sex.

Scob916 · 2023-06-19T20:29:58+00:00

When males are sexually active they release a hormone or pheromone (not sure) that attracts females unconsciously. Read it somewhere before because I was having the same question … and of like many other said, you look less needy and that automatically makes you more more attractive too

flooring_inspector · 2023-06-19T22:22:29+00:00

It’s the stinky salesman concept. You don’t smell like desperation, you smell like idgaf

halfheartedvalentine · 2023-06-20T00:50:43+00:00

I have a personal story that articulates this phenomenon. I went to a big party college. Lots of very attractive girls. I was good looking but had zero game and therefore never got any action all throughout my time there (no girlfriend, no dates, not even a kiss ever). Fast forward to my senior year, and I'm in a long distance relationship with an attractive girl from back home...personally my sex life was better than it ever had been. One weekend she backed out of plans to come up and instead of staying in, I decided to go to my fraternity party anyway. A girl was there who I didn't know well but always had a crush on... I really didn't pay any attention to her because I was in a relationship and seduction was not where my head was at. Well, the party was coming to an end, and the girl approached ME and asked if I wanted to Uber back to our dorm together. She followed me to my room and we played video games for a bit, and we had both been drinking ... very effortlessly without any agenda we ended up making out and our clothes were off pretty quickly and we hooked up and I regret to say it was pretty incredible. Very, very terrible story that I'm rightfully ashamed of, honestly. (I told her afterwords, without explaining why, that we shouldn't hook up again, and we never did. Unrelated to my act of infidelity, my long term relationship died a natural death a couple months later.).

But the point of this story is that I went through FOUR years of college, going to tons of parties, always hoping that I'd meet a cute girl and get laid, but never even getting a kiss. Then, when I finally got a girlfriend, I gave off such a non-needy aura at this party (I was honestly just there to have fun) that I attracted the best looking girl there without even trying at all. To this day, that girl remains the most attractive girl I've ever been with, and she's also the only girl I ever hooked up with without "trying" to. How bizarre is that?? It's both amazing and maddening. It's a total mindfuck to try and achieve this non-needy state without truly being non-needy...WAY easier said than done... but I'm fully convinced that tapping into that headspace is a major key to attraction.

kala-umba · 2023-06-19T15:18:58+00:00

Because you're back in the game! You are relaxed and not needy any more! But the funny thing is that my friends and me have the feeling that women smell it from afar because after you get laid randomly other women write or call you ;)

SnooHesitations4922 · 2023-06-19T15:44:36+00:00

Outcome independence.

obscureleader91 · 2023-06-19T18:04:12+00:00

Because you aren’t looking for it, and that confidence is attractive.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2023-06-19T18:33:23+00:00

Your more experienced and are getting better at it.

Your not that quite, awkward, shy, reserved person that you once were.

You got another notch under your belt.

Your becoming more refined.

gigachadkawasaki · 2023-06-19T18:40:40+00:00

Something, something external validation.

Redheadbabe22 · 2023-06-19T20:58:51+00:00

I’m a girl and I can definitely say this has been the case for me too. Not sure what it is, but yes I can agree there’s less of a hunt and people glow after sex.

bennie_thejet30 · 2023-06-20T04:18:30+00:00

When it rains it pours

chickenfacelift · 2023-06-19T13:00:50+00:00

scratches neck like an addict I need it

bocank · 2023-06-19T17:47:20+00:00

It's because you are happy and accomplished and your body language and attitude reflects that.

Mission-Fly-4371 · 2023-06-19T20:14:44+00:00

You get in the zone.

The_Real_Buck_Rogers · 2023-06-19T14:58:03+00:00

Usually you'll get laid off when the economy is in a downturn so the company can't afford as many employees. Naturally, it would be more likely to get laid off again even though it's a different job. I really hope you get your job back or at least find some of equal or better value. Best of luck good sir.

abhilives · 2023-06-19T14:32:19+00:00

Confidence

storagebox57 · 2023-06-19T14:46:39+00:00

Practice makes a man perfect

samreagan · 2023-06-19T16:36:02+00:00

confidence

Geep1778 · 2023-06-19T17:09:34+00:00

I really can’t tell you why as a fact but there’s a vibe you put out that women pick up on that tells them instinctively that you have good genetics that makes them want to boink you lol. You also carry yourself w more confidence because you just got laid and could care less about what’s in front of you that always has a women thinking why isn’t he acting like he usually does around me… and the stupid animal part in her says let’s fk him as an idea 😂

Googoligoo · 2023-06-19T19:25:59+00:00

Because the more sex the human body gets, the more that it is offered

DillonTheFatUglyMale · 2023-06-19T20:25:28+00:00

Smell

ThatDomInik · 2023-06-19T21:16:57+00:00

To all people saying that it is because you do not look needy anymore etc. For a person who has never been layed and is actually not really needy or something(from my perspective), what are some tips?

Firethrone93 · 2023-06-19T21:54:14+00:00

Confidence. That’s all it is. See when you got that first lay, it made you feel some type of way , even if you couldn’t physically feel it. Your demeanor changed discretely. I believe in the theory that bodies are constantly realizing chemical that interact with the chemicals of other. Think of it as a very specific slow dance. Most interactions start far before we even realize.

Starpanty · 2023-06-19T22:55:11+00:00

Because now you have unintentional confidence and us women can smell it on you and it’s intoxicating.

Weejammin · 2023-06-19T23:45:09+00:00

Realize it or not, you're probably walking around with some pep in your step, and not looking desperate when you see an attractive woman. They intuitively pick up on these things. Keep it going brother 💪

thisguy181 · 2023-06-20T00:17:26+00:00

Confidence

misscarter729 · 2023-06-20T00:56:55+00:00

Confidence is palpable folks. It’s an aphrodisiac. People don’t know if they want you necessarily or they want it but either way they want to be around it so if you have it they want to be around you. ~Also it’s the laws of the land … when you’re not looking or trying hard for something, it seems to fall in your lap bc you aren’t obsessing on it and therefore fucking it up in the process by overthinking being overbearing about it etc. Live and let live. What will be , will be . That type of shit. In life , yes a great deal of your “lot” , will be bc of direct cause and effect I.e. hard work and dedication and manual input but at a certain point even the hardest working people have to accept that what’s gonna happen is gonna happen and you have got to let go and let it be .

tyronnezx2022 · 2023-06-20T04:42:13+00:00

Because you dont give a f. That 💩 alone is a drug to females

dryo · 2023-06-20T05:44:15+00:00

Natural skill progression, women can smell other vaginas scent

AnimalLivid9899 · 2023-06-19T18:17:03+00:00

Women are biologically attracted to men who have more sex.

risethirtynine · 2023-06-19T15:58:15+00:00

Subtle implied social proof that you suddenly carry yourself with a little more noticeably?

ifish4bass273 · 2023-06-19T16:24:20+00:00

I wouldn’t know. I’ve never been laid

phuketawl · 2023-06-20T04:49:14+00:00

Girls can smell "thirst" from a mile away. It repels us. When you've gotten some, you aren't as thirsty.

lomelyo · 2023-06-19T23:45:17+00:00

He's describing sweat as a mechanism for sexual attraction when it doesn't work like that. There's no evidence of sweat having a sexual component to it.

Bendude16 · 2023-06-20T02:23:27+00:00

According to these comments if your an ugly ass dude girls will sense post sex aura on you and want you regardless of your other attributes? Dumb ass mofos on this sub. As a guy I have absolutely no intuition on whether another guy I see out and about recently had sex unless he’s with a girl then I think their prob fucking.

3000CalorieAss · 2023-06-20T02:34:04+00:00

It’s because of sex pheromones that have been released when you have sex. Other women smell these pheromones and it signals to them you’re a high value mate. This effect compounds the more and more sex you have.

Loose_Sun_1891 · 2023-06-19T17:59:41+00:00

Because we are pure animals and nothing else, but women are more dirty animals who all smell. You exposed them and their "cunning fake saint auras" aka "good nice sweet girls" while you seeing outside of the matrix

Mission_Passenger_46 · 2023-06-19T12:41:12+00:00

Idk I'm ugly af and have been approaching for years and self-improving for over a half decade now.

250+ brutal rejections getting called ugly pretty much sealed the deal for me and let me know.

Worried-Archer8575 · 2023-06-19T14:14:55+00:00

It is a rare event distribution ( poisson distribution)

JustNefariousness625 · 2023-06-19T15:01:59+00:00

Energy

macroxela · 2023-06-19T16:07:20+00:00

Because you can't get just one Lay...

gathee · 2023-06-19T16:09:54+00:00

This is so true..it's pheromone i suppose.

JakeMiller421 · 2023-06-19T16:54:19+00:00

Confidence and the chad aura that comes with it

narayangd · 2023-06-19T17:48:57+00:00

What's a lay?

mefascina30 · 2023-06-19T18:01:25+00:00

Your confidence has completely changed.

llanojen · 2023-06-19T20:37:04+00:00

Glow vibes

twat_muncher · 2023-06-19T21:31:45+00:00

It's the pussy competition everyone talks about here as social value. When one girl approves you the others likely follow suit. I have seen a meme recently where it was captioned "the day after you get a girlfriend" and it's 29 women starring at OP. Whether it's smell or confidence or whatever mechanic is communicating another girl fucked you, it gets across to the other lady. I had a girl cheat on me because some guy she was crushing on had another girl fuck him. My friends girl came on to me when I told them both that I met a girl online and went to her house (pre tinder).

burncushlikewood · 2023-06-19T21:33:32+00:00

It's called preselection, women are attracted to men who have been with other women, it's a social phenomenon

Wolf_of_Legend · 2023-06-19T22:13:54+00:00

Everyone is somewhat more attracted to people who have already been preselected by someone you find validation from.

In this case, sex from a person who has shown to be valued enough to take the chance and others were curious about are more likely to take a shot too.

ProFriendZoner · 2023-06-19T22:30:20+00:00

Because you don't give a shit whether you get it or not.

Juiceunderthetable · 2023-06-19T22:46:16+00:00

Hot hand fallacy

Sendmeloveletters · 2023-06-19T23:07:42+00:00

If you haven’t showered it’s even easier

Loose_Sun_1891 · 2023-06-19T23:21:15+00:00

If any man wants to experience this phenomenon go search for Quadible Integrity on YouTube and "alpha pheromones after sex" video, effects are almost instant. It's a like cheat code lol go just look on bunch comments evidences if you don't believe me

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Ups women, sorry not sorry

arrch90 · 2023-06-19T23:30:03+00:00

TtF3 x

Not_Without_My_Cat · 2023-06-19T23:50:55+00:00

I expect it is becuase your testosterone levels are elevated

Similar to why strippers get more tips while they are ovulating.

RoyalYogurtdispenser · 2023-06-20T01:44:15+00:00

Fomo, you might get locked in before they have a go at it

Xintus1765 · 2023-06-20T02:29:46+00:00

Because the scent of sex is still on you and females can smell it, it have to do with pheromones.

nocriA · 2023-06-20T03:48:28+00:00

like doing pullups, just reps baby

Ryo_DeN · 2023-06-20T05:15:46+00:00

Because you already get to known each other ?

stinkytofu415 · 2023-06-20T07:32:42+00:00

Damn

jimmieobrien · 2023-06-20T08:54:36+00:00

what's a "lay"?

PlanetXanex · 2023-06-20T14:24:19+00:00

Confidence.

alzirian314 · 2023-06-20T15:29:03+00:00

Because lacking the limitations and are less phased is something doesn't happen from the encounter.

This is what is meant by confidence and freedom from outcome. The more u can just be in a state like this without the sea beforehand the easier it all gets.

This is with life in general. Don't just apply this to pick up. The more confident u are and the less forced of an outcome u try to make the easier things will flow.

SprintsOnTheBeach · 2023-06-20T16:53:10+00:00

Glow, Confidence, lack of neediness. You probably walk with your head a bit higher. Your approach anxiety might be diminished. Your SMV feels higher and it shows.

OddSatisfaction6910 · 2023-06-20T17:59:16+00:00

After reading the comments, how does one start this snowball effect?

AccomplishedAd196 · 2023-06-20T21:31:10+00:00

Women like men who other women want because all women are in competition and want the guy who is the biggest prize. How do they know? Whatever women you've shown your dick to, all of her friends also know what your dick looks like, how long you lasted, and how well you did. If that gossip is bad, they avoid you. If it's good, you may lay her friends. That's how i got a whole friend group under my belt.

DoinIt989 · 2023-06-21T13:30:03+00:00

Women can smell the pheromones of another woman on you.

Title	Stupid question; Why is it often times easier to get laid just after getting a lay??
Author	Lordganeshas
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Date	June 19, 2023 10:09 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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