When did you start to bloom?

iedaiw · 2020-02-12T02:13:28+00:00

Now.

U are always blooming. Always improving. Live one day better than the last. One moment better than the past. Never look back.

Oxso94 · 2020-02-11T22:43:50+00:00

I’m about to turn 26 and it’s only been in the past year that women have started to show interest in me

kevixdark · 2020-02-12T06:11:20+00:00

You are not missing anything. Fixating on the pussy results won't get you far. That's for rookies. I didn't lose my virginity until 24. Grow and work on yourself. I just turned 33, I have no problem pulling younger and hotter girls than in my insecure early 20s.

If you want to expedite the process there are no shortcuts but your time spent on gaining self-confidence, self-awareness, and financial stability will assert those feelings of confidence.

Eventually you'll be in a mind state of, "well she's hot/sexy/beautiful, but what does she offer me besides looks?"

Remember. YOU ARE THE PRIZE.

KingRemu · 2020-02-11T21:45:40+00:00

I've been in LTR's since I was 17 but never really had any game. Few one night stands here and there. I found a book called The Tao of Badass a couple years ago which got me started on game. Then I found this sub about a year ago and it all finally clicked when I saw my friend (a natural) pull a girl from the dancefloor. He just went to her with a big smile on his face, took her hand and spun her around a couple times. I thought "fuck it" and did the same to her friend and then lead them to a table to chat. We both got laid that night and since then I've had A LOT more success with women. More one night stands and girls chasing me in a year than the past 12 years combined. I'm turning 30 in a couple months and I feel like I'm only now starting to peak. Don't worry, you got plenty of time.

OlympusSquared · 2020-02-12T02:38:54+00:00

27 for me. 26 was the driest year... Its sort of a weird age between college mentality and young adult mentality.

The one thing I can say is that mental health issues seems way more common these days then 8 years ago for people my age. Part of that is due to the the times, part I'm sure to aging.

Daytripsinsidecars · 2020-02-11T21:03:21+00:00

Women peak at 21 men peak at 31.

I know you’re tired of waiting. But at least you still have it to look forward too!

lostinth0ught · 2020-02-12T03:17:10+00:00

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2019ForestHillsDrive · 2020-02-12T05:06:19+00:00

Im 19 and at risk of jinxing myself i feel like im on the cusp of finally hitting my stride. For some context i spent my entire life being overweight and not taking care of myself up until senior year of high school, where I got insanely skinny. For the past year ive been bulking up and i think I’m at a pretty good place physically and attractively. Obviously I basically had no experience with girls for most of my life up until that point. Once I got skinny I knew i was a decently attractive guy and had some action here and there, lost my virginity, but for the most part I was focusing on having fun with my friends and getting into college. Once college rolled around I was super disappointed because i still got the same levels of action as I did in high school. Im a couple weeks into second semester right now and I still dont constantly have sex like most college guys but I definitely notice decent amounts of attention and interest from girls, I just really suck at taking the initiative and sealing the deal.

brandonmadeit · 2020-02-12T02:56:33+00:00

Just had my 30th bday, but I didn’t start getting into game until about 27-28. I just went full force day gaming, meeting women, getting numbers and having sex. I had just gotten out of a 3yr relationship, and every relationship prior to that basically fell into my lap. Which ultimately led me to looking elsewhere because I knew there was more out there. As men we are meant to be hunters and if never hunted so since then that’s what I did.

jwaters0122 · 2020-02-12T07:04:50+00:00

22.

14-20 were rough. Acne was cruel to me as well as living with bad parents. Didnt help that i didnt start working out til i was 20. I also have failed+learned in dating during all those years

Im 34 now, married+house+kids.

SkankingDevil · 2020-02-12T11:24:22+00:00

I'd say I started "budding" at 22, and now as a 28 year old, I'm the most desirable I've ever been. Built a lot of identity capital, and developed true self confidence. I'm at the point in my life, where it's actually me that is turning girls down, and not the other way around. Lots of painfully awkward growth experiences these last 6 years... But, my future Wife is worth it!!!

WIA20XX · 2020-02-11T22:46:21+00:00

If you're just doing normal dating, chicks start to respond to your attempts more when you are a few years out of college and you've got your shit together.

She is looking for something serious.

It's noticeable, provided you're out there meeting women. She is 25-26, and she has already dated the bad boys and hot guys.

1mp50v3m3ntp1ll · 2020-02-12T07:56:47+00:00

Once puberty was over and it left me tall. At around 20-22 which is when I also accepted my awkwardness and introversion. Instant confidence boost in accepting yourself.

I have women making the first move especially strangers in public places (like Barnes&Nobles or when I’m walking my dog) Something which I thought would be impossible as a 15 y/o.

I’m now 25 and working on my bachelors. I don’t plan to marry till 35+, or a little earlier if I meet a quality lady in line with my plans.

Tip: working out and the slow process of it will have you respecting yourself in ways that no church, cult, or any fucking drug ever could.

Its_scottyhall · 2020-02-12T05:00:50+00:00

I turn 40 this year and I don’t think I’m near my peak yet. Give it time. Things come together pretty well

PrsnPersuasion · 2020-02-12T03:24:35+00:00

When I discovered this sub ~5 years ago. My success has drastically plummeted over those years though... newbie gains?

BurnablesOnMondays · 2020-02-12T07:11:37+00:00

I'm getting way more attention from women now than at any point in my life. Still trying to push through mental blocks.

SimplyMerlin · 2020-02-11T22:46:57+00:00

29 [m]. Perfect timing in my opinion since women's sex drives are crazy high in their late 20's and early 30's plus they don't think it's as taboo to sleep with someone they just met.

dfhunter76 · 2020-02-12T00:02:36+00:00

It never gets easy, because if you mean it seriously, it means you are opening yourself, there is always the danger of being hurt. So each time again you put yourself in emotional danger. But that is okay, because x times out of ten it is a disappointment, or you do get hurt, but the other times are more than worth it.

animal-mother · 2020-02-12T06:33:43+00:00

"why dont you have a girlfriend?"

"Just lucky I guess."

AvianDB · 2020-02-12T05:37:36+00:00

22 so far, waiting still

The_fractal_effect · 2020-02-12T06:57:52+00:00

I had a lot of success 18 - 22, currently 24, and I feel like I hit sorta of a wall. I have a pretty decent job and I'm pretty social. The beer belly atm doesn't help but I'm working on it. I just in the weird limbo of where to meet women really.... But gotta keep pushing thru

beastboi27 · 2020-02-12T08:34:21+00:00

I thought I would bloom after losing 160lbs and girls would find me attractive..turns out shit is much more complicated then I thought it was going to be. I haven't been on a date in a very long time..I'm 32 now.

ImJustSo · 2020-02-12T12:25:50+00:00

Like others posting, I was also right around 30yo. That's around the time when three-way relationships became my new normal. Going out on dates and shit with two women, threesomes, etc.

First time I ever thought, "Shit, have I peaked yet? Am I at my final form?"

Went to a comedy show. Comedian sees me in the front row, "Hey, man. Love the shirt. Who are these two beautiful women? They your dates? Wait, are you really on a fuckin date with two women?! How the fuck.... How do you do that? Ladies, how'd he do that? Did he just walk up and be like tosses microphone onto the stool, like it's a big dick Hi, I'm big dick Joe?"

That's the first time I was like, oh yeah, my life's crazy huh? Then after the show, some other chick gave me her number outside. Another woman sees me with two women and she thinks, "Oh pick me too!" How crazy is that? Life's wild.

Up until I was 25-26 I was fat, had long heavy metal hair, wore XXXL shirts and size 48 pants.

Lifeismagic2 · 2020-02-12T12:44:42+00:00

started blooming at 19.. 40yr old bouquet of sexiness rode me to my 1st orgasm

truth-reconciliation · 2020-02-12T06:57:20+00:00

23-24, weight lifting gains started showing and paying off, beard started growing in healthy and fully. Learned all the best grooming techniques and styles of clothing that fit best for me. Women loooove me dude.

2020-02-12T07:26:43+00:00

The second you think it is easy you feel and out it is not. Anyone that is easy to pick up is not worth having in your life.

skld2ndassassin · 2020-02-12T08:15:43+00:00

Before you go outside grab your balls and go out into the world. Then when you meet a girl you hit her with trash big dick energy. Grab your dick place it on the table and say here I am bitch now suck it. I’m saying this just to hype you up in life. You probably just need to have genuine fun like the small stuff. Laugh at stupid shit even shit that seems “wrong” to laugh at it’s funny. That will keep a smile on your face making you more vibrant and attractive. Which should in turn make girls choose you, since your already in a good mood. Then you just walk up to her out of curiosity to ask her whats making her happy and giddy. Maybe you could share a laugh together sounds simpy, but I’ve been trying it out still new and fresh but nothing negative at the moment. I know this might put me in the friendzone. There is more to this than just friendzone and sounding simpy but I’ll write that out later.

skld2ndassassin · 2020-02-12T08:18:28+00:00

Also I play video games I just have that vibe in general now. Since I make friends easily online. Look at where you excel analyze why you do and see if you could apply it with girls. Takes time though.

deathray-toaster · 2020-02-12T11:40:41+00:00

Same

RapTVCalifornia · 2020-02-12T12:59:04+00:00

It’s okay my family is starting to think I’m gay because I’ve never brought a girl home.

The truth is that I haven’t dated very much and the girls I’ve dated weren’t very serious as to have them meet my family.

kalz44 · 2020-02-12T13:35:29+00:00

When I started committing to approaching girls. Things just figured themselves out.

siddharth3796 · 2020-02-12T14:23:26+00:00

Chill Man, it's never late, start loving yourself you'll develop a personality which would bring the best of you. Don't forget to take care of your body and face, women wants people who are good in some aspects, not god in everything.

2020-02-12T14:26:00+00:00

Never. I don't have a vagina.

disasterbloom · 2020-02-12T14:38:22+00:00

I didn't start to "bloom until I was 27

Tjodleik · 2020-02-12T15:16:33+00:00

I was 34 when I finally started gaining some traction with women. Now, at soon to be 44, it still isn't "easy," and I've had some major setbacks along the way, but I'm slowly making progress.

Awareness193 · 2020-02-12T17:18:09+00:00

Like everyone else is always suggesting, care for yourself and work for yourself and for others but not only for others.

But more than that, take care of your mind and your mind takes care of the rest.

Contentment comes within yourself, you can't find it anywhere outside so acknowledge difficult emotions and sit with it, don't chase after it and don't resist them and most importantly recognize when you're fueling those emotions with thoughts or an inner chatter or in any other way. We all have those habits, and that's important to know. It's just a strong habit that we are able to let go, even if it takes time and just a little bit of effort. But it's important to understand them and accept them before letting them go.

Just let everything be and don't force change in difficult moments and let your mind be free. Your job is to sit there and witness your mind and have a better perspective of it.

Will we sometimes forget the Idea and become distracted? Of course, we will. But as soon as we remember, here we are. Back on the side of the road again, just watching the traffic go by. Perfectly at ease in both body and mind.

Living in a storyline will not make you happy that's for sure. so give your mind some space to breathe

Of my perspective there's something that changed my live completely and that is meditating.

I know people who keep telling me how stupid that is, but on the other side, you'll recognize your better self after all those months of consistent training.

If you haven't tried meditating yet, I would recommend it from the bottom of my heart.

- I'm using headspace if you are curious and without any questions, every penny I invested in it was totally worth it.

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-02-12T18:35:47+00:00

I had a mini peak at 20/21. My year 22 was pretty disastrous for my improvement (massive weight gain, starting a corporate job I'm overqualified for and underpaid to do, getting in a relationship I was too naive to realize was healthy. Now midway through my 23rd year I'm starting to improve again. I think my real blooming will be 18 months down the like when the weight loss/muscle gain and other improvements I'm undergoing will be incredibly evident.

2020-02-12T19:06:59+00:00

Are you just waiting for your life to spontaneously transform at a certain age ?

cantstopmekunt · 2020-02-12T19:13:44+00:00

Still waiting and don’t really see it in the future lol maybe I’m a dud.

NightTerror6 · 2020-02-12T20:15:19+00:00

I finally dropped my oneitis 4 months ago, and I’ve been blooming ever since.

skld2ndassassin · 2020-02-12T23:40:25+00:00

But the beer belly seems to be your problem. So fix it and you’ll be good.

axelmartinez9 · 2020-02-13T03:12:32+00:00

I feel you i’m currently 18 (m) and I’ve hooked up with chicks at clubs and school girls. So I’m pretty good with my game In my opinion I like to be outgoing or that’s what I think. But I just can’t seem to find a girlfriend. And I know it’s the most generic thing to say that I want a girlfriend and shit. But I genuinely want one I want to feel loved by someone else in a partner way not like a friendship way. I want someone who I can talk to about anything and just be a partner in general. Be able to hangout with her consistently when my friends aren’t around or available. Im a very caring person and I feel like I would love that respective person a lot and care for them a lot. I just feel that I have to be patient and I’m also a virgin as well which is another reason why I would love a girlfriend as well. I would love some advice !

OXOzymandias · 2020-02-13T23:46:52+00:00

Honestly i dont like this question, it sounds like there a time when you gonna finnally enjoy your self, you just have to wait for that, hell no bro.

Look at me i had a gf at 16, before many of my buddies, but didnt fuck her, didnt want to btw.

4 year after and finally i have my first sexual experience.

Then nothing for the rest of the year, starvation bro, nothing nada, and i was trying, at 21 during the end of the winter semester i do 3 girls in row in less than 2 mounths, then nothing for the rest of the year LOL.

Now soon to be 22, i had 3 date this month, nothing came out of them, well i am not really bothered by that, i really feel that just iedaiw said it, you are always improving for me it was:

To be in love with somebody who love me-> to have some sexual activity-> looking for a LTR.

I dont want to keep chasing tbh.

Melodic-Scientist · 2020-02-14T06:50:06+00:00

Literally a month ago, im 18.

Principatus · 2020-02-12T06:44:30+00:00

I lost my virginity when I got married at 26, and for six years of marriage we had sex maybe 3-4 times a year. Then I left her and for the first year after I left her I had none, then the next year I had a little bit, maybe once a month. Very little sex.

Then I moved to Thailand to teach English a year ago, at age 34, I’m 35 now. On average, I have sex about once a day, and I’ve had sex with 32 different women since I got here. That’s unpaid of course: fwb, ons, gf etc.

I’ve been loving the playboy lifestyle but at the moment I’m torn between tinder hookups and my main girl who wants me to go exclusively with her.

My point is, relax. When I was your age I had had no sex at all. It was almost a decade later before I became regularly sexually active. But I’m here now, and I love it.

RealStreamchance · 2020-02-12T09:49:57+00:00

It started around freshman year high school

IrvineKafka · 2020-02-12T06:15:49+00:00

When I was born.

kevixdark · 2020-02-12T06:05:49+00:00

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Title	When did you start to bloom?
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Date	February 11, 2020 9:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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