Someone told me that not forgiving your ex is like you swallowing poison and waiting for her to die. That pretty much set me on the path of forgiving her. I do realize most of you in this subreddit are not even close to being there. And that's ok, for your unforgiveness can fuel your recovery. I just wanted to let most of you know that the anger, frustration, not forgiving and all those negative feelings is normal. Don't try to suppress them. But, in the long term, don't vacation in them. Eventually, let them go and move on with your life and new reality. It's hard to do but not impossible. It's a marathon and not a sprint.