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[–][deleted] 60 points61 points62 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
A man who can hold his own is sexy af
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice179 points180 points181 points 5 years ago (49 children) | Copy Link
Remember ladies - marriage is expensive, children are expensive, a married life is expensive.
If he can't even give a rat's ass about paying for measly meals, you bet he is gonna make you pay for alllllll of the above, plus taking care of the house and clean after their crusty ass. NEVER believe a stingy scrote. EVER.
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie158 points159 points160 points 5 years ago* (43 children) | Copy Link
I have a lady co-worker with this issue. Every month, her husband adds up the monthly bills (mortgage, food, utilities, etc...) and hands her a bill for exactly 50% of everything. This guy is a banker and makes bank, while his wife has to work 2 and 3 jobs just to cover her 50%. When she got pregnant, she had to save up for her maternity leave, because he expected her to cover 50% of the bills even while on maternity leave with his child. She still has to cook and clean when she gets home from work at night, too.
I say nothing to her, because she married this guy and it's none of my business. She tells me I'm so lucky to have a husband that pays 100% of the bills with a smile and helps with the housework. No, it's not luck. It's called being choosy with who you decide to marry. It's called having standards and refusing to settle.
[–]DallasM19FDS Newbie109 points110 points111 points 5 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
This poor woman. This honestly sounds like financial abuse. Awful.
[–][deleted] 68 points69 points70 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
i screamed when i got to this part "he expected her to cover 50% of the bills even while on maternity leave with his child"
[–]TigreImpossibileFDS Apprentice47 points48 points49 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Right?!! Wtf. I hope a piano falls on him.
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't waste a good Steinway. Throw him off the Brooklyn Bridge instead.
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He can go sit on a cactus and spin.
[–]pascalinesFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I SCREAMED how have I never heard this before
[–]smaller_angFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
SAME
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie38 points39 points40 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I didn't know what to say when she told me this. But the look on my face to her...she understood. And she is still married to this miser. The things she told me...he lent her his credit card, sent her into Macys or some other place, told her to pick out a wedding ring and don't spend a lot of money. She spent $300 and that was his limit for her.
My wedding ring alone was $1400 when he bought it back in the day, and I picked out the stones (D and E diamonds) and setting, and they assembled it in front of us.
She buys all her own jewelry, too. She has lovely costume jewelry. Nothing real though 🙁
I did ask her why she was with him, why she married him knowing how he was. I never really got a straight answer from her. I'm assuming she married him because she felt he was the best she could find. Maybe he didn't turn into a 50/50 type until after he wed and bed her. The guy is a banker, and certain types of women are drawn to that. I just don't know why. The sheer stinginess would be enough for me to run for the hills on the first date.
[–]smaller_angFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think what draws some women to bankers is they can AFFORD to be generous to you. Being able to afford that and choosing not to makes him less eligible than a broke guy IMHO.
[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree. A guy not being able to give you much because he has a low paid job is much less aggravating than a rich guy who can afford but chooses not to. It says a lot about the character of the rich guy and how much they don't love or care for their significant other.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
That's horrible.
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie63 points64 points65 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
I know another woman in an even worse situation, where her husband is a hedge fund manager and makes A LOT of money. We're talking top 6 figures/year. He has a secret girlfriend in every city. When he wants to see one of them, he flies out and tells the wife he's out on business, and doesn't tell her where he is flying to. He pays only the mortgage and utilities. Every child expense is 100% on her. That means education, sports, dance lessons, food, kids clothing, etc..is all on her. He didn't want kids, but she did, so she has to pay all their costs. Forget maternity leave; she's back at work soon after giving birth, because she needs the money. I learned all this from the live-in help they had.
He's a POS. She went from a size 4 to a size 6 after several kids, and this scrote said her ass was fat and shamed her, so she started dieting back to a size 2 or 4.
I feel so sorry for her. Her kids are wonderful. They are kind, respectful and helpful to senior citizens. She raised them well. She's always helping the less fortunate with her time and money. And no, she'll never divorce him, because she's Catholic.
I just don't understand why women put up with this behavior from their men. I will never understand why women just don't up and leave these scumbags.
[–]getrippeddiemirinFDS Newbie30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
she has to pay all their costs.
Because she wanted children? They’re not fucking cats
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was shocked to learn this. He helped to make those kids, he should be supporting them. But she has to pay their expenses because she wanted kids.
[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The guy also had sex with her without condom (and probably knowing she wasn't on birth control). Wtf is this? This makes me so angry and it's not even with me nor do I know these people. Poor children and wife dealing with this scrote who couldn't give 2 shits about them.
[–]TigreImpossibileFDS Apprentice23 points24 points25 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How is any of this love? Why do women think they need men like this? I mean you can go to a sperm bank, make your life simple. What joy did he bring to her life? He sounds utterly contemptuous and this sounds like a dry, contractual business arrangement.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Oh no. Size 6 is fat now? These guys are into small and frail. I think this is all an offshoot of pedophilia.
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He should go on a diet first, he has a chubby belly!
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Prepare for standards, and make it double!"
Seriously
[–]PahapanFDS Disciple28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He didn't want kids, but she did, so she has to pay all their costs.
Any man who'll finish inside a woman should be 100% HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR THE RESULTING CHILDREN. What is this world coming to?
[–]readyornot27FDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don’t understand why/how people who are so wildly incompatible end up together. What did they see in each other?
Oh my God. Can you get her to watch She Devil somehow in case it inspires her? She needs to watch She Devil.
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I still wonder why she continue to stay with that trash despite having to work 2-3 jobs, and even willingly have children with him. I just don't get it.
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
Because overall, women are conditioned, are socialized to want marriage and kids. Because, as my sibling said, "It's what yo do!" So may women would rather stay with a bad man in a bad marriage than leave the POS and strike out on their own. It's been drilled into them that they need a man and kids.
I know other women with very good jobs and benefits who support men who refuse to work, instead choosing to live off their wives. These guys do minimal housework and no cooking. One had kids to keep her husband (she didn't want kids at all), and now has to support her kids and a manchild. And every time I asked them why they had kids with these guys, or stay with them, their answer is they're terrified to be alone or don't want to break up their family.
I'd rather live alone than live with a bad man. I'm perfectly capable of entertaining myself, supporting myself and being happy in my own mind. I understand that divorce can be hard, but it's a lot harder to stay in a bad relationship for years and years and accept shitty behavior from some scroty, lazy, miserly manchild who thinks he's entitled to her labor and salary.
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
they're terrified to be alone
That's the thing - I don't get why so many women are terrified of being alone - like what so scary about being by yourself that you just rather walking on eggshells all your life, or worse being beaten to pulp everyday? Did they ever try to live alone for an extended period of time - if they do, what's so terrifying about that? I have been alone for as long as my adult life so I just can't wrap my brain around what these women are terrified about, living like me. Like I understand, it gets lonely once in a while but nothing a window shopping or movie watching can't fix.
[–]slightlyolderthanyouFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think so many women are afraid to loose face as well.. It's still inprinted in us that if we end up alone, or unmarried by a certain age, that we are spinsters who have not been "chosen". In other words, we are conditioned to be pick-me's. But, divorced older women, at least those in my family, have chosen to live life alone after their marriage ended, and seem very happy doing so. I would definitely choose that life over livibg with an old, grumpy POS.
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
But, divorced older women, at least those in my family, have chosen to live life alone after their marriage ended, and seem very happy doing so. I would definitely choose that life over livibg with an old, grumpy POS.
Right? I know at least 3 forever alone women and they have such a peaceful life and happily taking care of their parents, or do their business, or buy a cozy house. Those who married toxic POS? They are the Karens and toxic, screaming-at-your-face older women who are just soo negative and hateful. I really, really don't get why women willingly submit to this torture just for what, saving face? The society won't care about you, they'll talk shit when you are there but promptly forgot about you once you are out of their sight. It is just foolish to give any weight to their opinions.
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
he expected her to cover 50% of the bills even while on maternity leave with his child
No.
[–]Davina33FDS Apprentice8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow that scrote doesn't even deserve a child, or her! It's always a bad idea to have children with stingy men. They don't deserve anything.
[–]heavenlyfeminineThrowaway Account6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel sorry for her 😓
[–]acidlove719FDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
what the hell....I've never even imagined that such a petty person would exist. Love your response
[–]Buckley92FDS Apprentice7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Why don't you tell her to get a backbone and stand up to the guy? It kind of is your business if someone's being abused.
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist138 points139 points140 points 5 years ago* (18 children) | Copy Link
It's true and you should say it.
I just showed this to my mother who is in her seventies and she said "Doesn't that mean he has low testosterone?" 🤣😂🤣😂🤣
This is completely true. If you're somewhere and some gunmen start shooting the 50/50 dude is going to jump behind you and let you take that bullet. He will not be out there protecting you because he doesn't see you as something worth protecting.
[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Apprentice72 points73 points74 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
My LV Ex once hid behind me when he thought someone was breaking into our house. No joke...
[–]Amy3e13FDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Same here, except he (also LV) hid behind me when an angry homeless man approached us.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a similar situation. My ex just pretended nothing was happening, like a coward. I had to ward the homeless guy off with a death stare.
[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Apprentice17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Unreal...
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Apprentice9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😞
[–]OrchidLionFDS Newbie70 points71 points72 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is what Im gonna say to any male that offers 50/50 or meet half way.
"Halfway?! Do you have low T?" and then unmatch. Males with high T behave like real men and are chivalrous towards women. Thats the standard.
[–]RiteWriterFDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right? When they are asking to split the bill and I pay my half (and never see them again)... “When was the last time you saw a doctor? you might have low T.” Very concerned face. Ok byyyye.
[–]cheesymacaroonyFDS Apprentice34 points35 points36 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Excessive masturbation ( PORNSICK) leads to a drop in T and an increase in estrogen. It also releases prolactin which leads to manboobs.
[–]throwawaydoll0Throwaway Account4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I didn't know this! Now my ex's lack of T and growth of manboobs makes sense 🤔
[–]FDSxMuffinVSratFDS Newbie122 points123 points124 points 5 years ago (45 children) | Copy Link
So this might be totally primitive of me, but let me see if you ladies relate.
When I find myself considering whether I'm attracted to someone, one of the many things that goes through my head is whether they'd win in a fight against another random guy. Skinny, short, and insecure dudes do not make the cut.
But even then, if a guy has a weak personality, like if he doesn't have his own opinions, or if he seems Uber ready to fight and start shit for no reason like a little chewawa, I won't see him seriously as a potential partner.
It's far from the only thing that contributes to attraction but I just feel like I have to trust that he'd stand up for me if he had to, and balance that with not being an idiot and starting stuff for no reason.
[–]JumpstartmytittyFDS Newbie74 points75 points76 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can relate. I'm the same way. Feeling 'safe' around a guy definitely makes me more attracted to them.
[–]ErikaNaumannFDS Newbie99 points100 points101 points 5 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link
I have a problem with this. You see I am an amateur kickboxer. I win fights. I win titles. Last year I had a fight broadcasted on national television. I am also 5'9 (although only 55 kg). A lot of my friends are also fighters, or trainers.
To be attracted to a guy, I need to feel like he could fight better than me, and save my ass in a complicated situation. But I'm usually 10x more athletic and nimble than they are, plus taller. On top of that I have my own business, car, house etc. It is extremely hard to find a man that is not intimidated by me, or a man that I find attractive.
Can you imagine 5'9 me, looking down at a small scrote that doesn't even go to the gym, doesn't have a decent job, demanding that we pay 50/50? Guuuuurl 🧐
[–]tellmesomething11FDS Apprentice29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So true. For me, I live by Times Square in NYC (which is super coveted for some reason, I’m not from NY and just like the area because of the subway access) and I live alone with my daughters.
It’s really hard for me to get excited about a man who either lives with roommates or family. Who doesn’t have it together. Who doesn’t have 1k in savings. Who asks me for money until they get paid. No. I just can’t do it. I can’t remember the last time I asked someone for money. It’s been years.....the last time might have been me forgetting my wallet and asking for five bucks at work, which was promptly repaid the next day.
So it’s really hard for me to get excited...trying to deal with men who have never saved 10k, 5k, 3k.....1k....do you have at least 500 in your accounts? 100? Ugh.
[–]throwRAwhatisthisFDS Newbie38 points39 points40 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You are a total badass and I love it! Maybe we should start doing FDS level up motivational profiles, not unlike Leslie Knope’s wall of powerful women. I think we all could use examples of ladies to look up to.
[–]ErikaNaumannFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awww thank you ❤️
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes we need this!
[–]rendervelvetFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Love this idea!!
[–]FDSxMuffinVSratFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I'm not super into height on guys. Taller is generally better.
But if I was 5"9 ugh I get you. I would not date someone shorter.
[–]ErikaNaumannFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Actually I do date shorter. My ex was 5'4. Height is not an issue for me, they are the ones insecure about it.
[–]FDSxMuffinVSratFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dating shorter gives you more options for sure. But nothing is less attractive than insecurity =\
[–]Davina33FDS Apprentice11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago* (13 children) | Copy Link
You are a queen! I want to be like you. Instead I'm 5ft with limp noodle alarms. I have hyperthyroidism which has caused my muscles to waste. I would love to be stronger!
[–]ErikaNaumannFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
A sad scrote just sent me this. They are angry that they can't be us and they can't have us
[–]MulkvisteeFDS Apprentice26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
The best part is that he doesn't realize the sting of that tired zinger is entirely his by virtue of him being such a sniveling dork he took the time to dm it.
If he actually watched professional fights (UFC anyway) he'd know the women's cards are fucking 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥and have been a draw for quite sometime. They're tactical and downright mean compared to the shit talking hug-fest that are the men's fights.
[–]ErikaNaumannFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
Well I have 6 followers (I assume mad scrotes stalking me online), and I am constantly mass reported. I get SOOOO many dms from scrotes, it's hilarious. Usually they go like "but how are men supposed to do this, then?" and "why won't you date men like me? (short, poor, non-athletic, etc)", or straight out dudes asking me for my info, wanting to chat, dates and ACTUALLY sending me offers. My DMs are the place to be at if you want to have a laugh, I tell you!
This one was extra hilarious, so I decided to share.
For the lil scrote (I know you are going to read, because you are probably one of my anonymous followers LOL): Try harder little scrote. The fact that my city gave me a sports award in a gigantic ceremony (also televised), and my name and face were on the local radio and newspapers everywhere, and that my success brought in sponsors and local financial support for my club, proves people REALLY care about successful women in sport. I am sorry you are not successful enough for people to care about you. Just try harder at life, little one, and maybe one day you will be like me.
[–]MulkvisteeFDS Apprentice4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It's always fun to share the tears! You're a bonafide badass, congrats on your achievements! I know it's not easy to condition yourself to that level and the training is an insane commitment. I did ballet professionally for years, I definitely appreciate what you put into your sport both physically and mentally. Which adds another level of humor to these dopes messaging you 😂 These fanbois couldn't scratch your confidence with their favoritest wolverine claw toys let alone what passes for wit to them.
[–]ErikaNaumannFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Wow you did ballet professionally? That's incredible. I believe ballet is the marriage between peak performance and art. It is extremely hard and competitive.
I absolutely adore going to the ballet and before corona I used to go once a year. Take my bow, ballerina.
And yes, the scrotes throwing snippets at me it's hilarious. I literally spend most of my free time training and hitting and being hit by top tier men. And these scrotes think their small dick energy is something 😂
[–]MulkvisteeFDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah it was crazy hectic with all the pre professional training, it almost didn't happen more than a few times. I had to audition an embarrassing amount of times for the company I wanted into, so I'll take that bow with a giant smile and a thank you lol!
We've definitely got a mutual admiration thing going on, I love martial arts! Can't do it, but I absolutely feel a kinship with fighters. Not the same thing at all but my mom was a very competitive fencer and I totally wanted to be her when I was little! Being fluent in the language of pain and physical achievement gets respect from me, and it's often beautiful to watch as well! Seeing a fighters personality in how they fight is fascinating too. Naturally the women are more nuanced and real in this, most of the men are doing their fight representative personality like they do in the early days of a relationship 😂 Rose Namajunes though? Chills.
You'd think small dick energy keyboard warrior scrotes would get it though considering the wank training regimen they're on. I'm sure abusing a half mast baby carrot until it dry heaves ghost loads takes massive amounts of effort and discipline rofl. Best of luck to you in your training and fights; sending all of my internet mojo your way for no connective tissue injuries (the woooorst!) and keeping those post training bags of peas cold!
[–]ErikaNaumannFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
ROSE IS ALSO MY FAV FIGHTER OMG 😍
And yes. Tendon and ligaments are the worse. I have a recurrent issue in one of my Achilles, the physiotherapist has been my best friend for years. And I see the bag of frozen peas knows no boundaries 🤣 I thought it was a martial arts trick lol
I loved your description of their sad wanks hahaha. Poor lil scrotes, they can't be us and they can't have us. Sucks to be them 💅
[–]Davina33FDS Apprentice7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
WTF? Why are these sad sacks so busy watching what we are saying? I don't browse MGTOW and inbox the losers there. He is just a jealous loser. This would fit well in the r/FDSSuperfans sub. That twat only speaks for himself.
[–]ErikaNaumannFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm usually mass reported by my fans, so I almost never am able to create posts. I can mostly only comment. They work really hard to silence us 🤷🏼♀️
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist39 points40 points41 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yes I've had relationships with men in the past who failed to do their duty by me protecting me and I lost all respect for them and subsequently all attraction. I can carry my own, such as I am physically, but I want a man to back me up and be a man. I don't want to partner with someone who's a little bitch.
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[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Even men who refuse to verbally stand up to their asshole friends for me.
[–]420snailmodeFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
me, a little bitch: 🥺
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They're probably reporting my comment now as "targeted harassment against me".
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same - it is all about having the strength to protect the ones their love, but without the ego. Guys who randomly start fights have fragile ego, and they often will be physically abusive to you. HVM will protect and stand up for their ladies and loved ones if necessary, but doesn't see the need to broadcast that to the world.
A strong guy who can protect you and the family, but keep that ability to themselves and only show it when it matters are soooooooo attractive.
[–]CB4lifeFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I hear ya on the personality part. So many threads in relationships Reddits talk about the significant other not setting boundaries with their own family (especially in cases where family are mean to the wife and the husband doesn’t tell them to stop). If someone has a personality where they are walked all over and can’t set healthy boundaries with others it really makes me question them as a partner. If someone is being outright mean to me, my partner should not be ok with that.
[–]th3n3w3ston3FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ehhh, if he's into martial arts, I'll give skinny and short a pass. I know a lot of skinny, short guys who are scrappy. Insecurity gets a big HELL NO though.
[–]FDSxMuffinVSratFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah that's just for me personally, but even you agree that it's something to be compensated for with martial arts, or for me even going to the gym a lot.
I've dated a short guy before and he was really built. For me it still wasn't the same as dating someone tall though.
[–]th3n3w3ston3FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's just that I've learned that build doesn't necessarily mean much. It's the mind set that matters.
It is nice when a guy can lift things though. :D
[–]PahapanFDS Disciple8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When I got with my NVM ex my sister didn't approve because she saw him for what he was, but I remember actually telling her something like, "It pleases the cavewoman inside of me to know that he could beat someone up." It definitely is a sort of primal attraction. I was out with him one day and an obnoxious customer I know from work (the type of person who can't take social cues) tried to approach me to talk and my ex shut him down immediately. So many other men would have just sat there awkwardly and allowed this random weirdo to inflict himself upon me.
He's a Rambo type, for anyone who's read Lundy Bancroft's Why Does He Do That? I was attracted to him because I felt safe around him (at first, anyway), but I didn't realize that the fact that he was known as being aggressive is a huge red flag because it pointed to anger problems and lack of self control. Those are super dangerous qualities in conjunction with fighting know-how and a bold, doesn't take any shit personality.
[–]FDSxMuffinVSratFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes absolutely. It's about finding someone who is balanced - a strong man, but not someone aggressive.
[–]Interesting_Source16FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is one reason I don’t date old men. I look at them and think, “How the hell is your frail behind going to protect me when something goes down?” Like, by the time he reaches for his cane, they done took off with the jewels 💎😂
[–]Audreykittycat1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don’t relate at all tbh. I just try to find out if a guy is funny or not.
[–]FDSxMuffinVSratFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep people have different standards. That's ok
[–]cellard00r18FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow I’ve done the same thing !
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[–]saydeesaltFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I like the original. I’m the one shooting because I pay my own damn bills and the other girls are going 50/50 behind the couch with a LVM
[+]averyboringbunnymomFDS Newbie-11 points-10 points-9 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
exactly! I don’t know why it’s a bad thing to be able to hold your own as a woman.... If a guy offers to pay the bill I’m like “Honey, no, I got my own damn money”
[–]saydeesaltFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Haha I do like when a man pays for dates and I’ll never live with someone before marriage again so I’ve got a house to myself until then 😂 and I have a few guns 😬 I just like the original meme because it makes me feel badass that I can take care of myself 😊
[–]tellmesomething11FDS Apprentice10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
No. Just no. He can spend his money and you can put your into your retirement. Unless your maxing out your retirement each year at 16k, you cannot afford to pay or do 50/50. If you are maxing out, let him pay and match his payment to a charity. Since you have your own money 🤣🤣🙄
I’m independent and can “hold my own” with or without a man, but he’s still paying for dinner.
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[–]penelopekittyFDS STRATEGY COACH14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read the handbook
[–]tellmesomething11FDS Apprentice8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
First, it’s not FDS. The reasons why men should pay are noted. No one is saying you can’t buy food🙄 I began to answer your questions but it doesn’t appear that you’ve read the handbook so what’s the point🤷🏽♀️
[–]DallasM19FDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I just want everyone to know that user sammysander just send me some concerning messages calling us all financial abusers.
[–]HolaHulaHolaFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That's the same user that sent me a PM.
[–]DallasM19FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ugh, sorry to hear. Hes clearly triggered. I messaged mods awhile ago to advise of the user name. We don't need incels targeting us in our inboxes calling us names for being part of a support group.
He told me that all of us aren't 50 50 but 100/0. I guess none of us are single and pay our own way through life 🤣
[–]DallasM19FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Mods ^ ewww he's harassing other members too
[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
🤣🤣🤣
[–]cellard00r18FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m dead this is accurate
[–]myousernameRuthless Strategist11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How does this post have over 150 comments and like barely 50 upvotes? It is definitely being brigaded by low status men.
Boo fucking hoo 😂
Even back when I was a pickme, men almost always offered to pay and I gladly accepted. The only men who asked to split the bill were weak, miserly, penny-pinching bean counters with poor social skills. And guess what, they never got a second date.
Why would I choose a worthless man like that when there are countless men literally competing for the opportunity to buy me dinner?
The market decides the price, boys. Y'all are just salty you can't compete.
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You answered your own question. Girlfriend vs a roommate.
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[–]AyemHerselfRuthless Strategist0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you were "genuinely curious," you would've looked through the handbook instead of demanding a lengthy explanation like everyone else looking to "debate."
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