It seems to be extremely common for deadbeat dads to hide the fact that they are deadbeats from their new girlfriends or prospective girlfriends and then go on to create more children they will neglect and ignore. And they do it by filling the new women’s heads with lies and sob stories about how “their evil exes won’t let them see their kids”.

So here’s how to find out real quick if a guy is a deadbeat dad in order to protect yourself from becoming his next victim: The first time he mentions having children that he doesn’t see, the very first words out of your mouth need to be “Have you petitioned the court for visitation and parental rights?” If any answer he gives you is anything but a prompt YES, then he’s a lying deadbeat and you need to drop him immediately.

Any father who truly loves his children would move Heaven and earth to see his kids. I have a few friends who are divorced single dads whose ex wives actually did try to keep them from their kids when they divorce got messy, but those dads immediately petitioned the court to establish custody or visitation arrangements. They didn’t just shrug their shoulders and sit on their hands and make excuses for why they couldn’t see their kids. I’m a mother myself, and if my ex had ever tried to keep my son from me, you better believe I would stop at NOTHING until I had access to my son. A father who claims to “love his kids more than anything” yet never sees them and makes excuses for why he doesn’t is a liar and a deadbeat who doesn’t give a shit about his kids. So whenever you hear one of these classic sob stories, now you know how to immediately respond to weed these losers out.

And one more thing: Don’t be stupid enough to think that a deadbeat dad will magically be there for YOUR child if you have one by him just because you’re somehow “different than the others” or “special”. Always remember this: A man who can abandon even ONE of his children can and will abandon ANY of them.