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FDS HUMORpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:13 PM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:07 PM
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REMINDER 👑pinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:07 AM
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QUEEN SUPREMEpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 11:43 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:24 AM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:50 PM
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DISCUSSIONpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:33 PM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:29 AM
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REMINDER 👑pinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 06:03 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 06:40 PM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 05:02 PM
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DISCUSSIONpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:07 PM
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LIES MEN TELLpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 06:56 PM
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RANTpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:38 PM
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RANTpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:44 PM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:49 PM
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DISCUSSIONpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:18 PM
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NAH, SISpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:33 PM
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DISCUSSIONpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:53 AM
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LEVEL UPpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 06:54 PM
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DISCUSSIONpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 11:53 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:13 PM
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#JustLVMThingspinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 08:20 AM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 01:29 AM
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DISCUSSIONpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:56 PM
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RANTpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:17 PM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:35 PM
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LEVEL UPpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:50 AM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:32 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:37 PM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:29 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:42 PM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 12:53 PM
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RANTpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:23 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!pinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:44 PM
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RANTpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:56 PM
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RANTpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:51 PM
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DISCUSSIONpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:34 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:17 AM
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DISCUSSIONpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 03:32 PM
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STRATEGYpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:38 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEpinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:31 PM
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pinkyberries/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 11:21 PM
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Men KNOW fds is true. This is why they hate it. We expose their schemes and tricks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 12:51 PM
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Men think they age like wine. Nah, any attractive human being who was attractive in their 20s will be attractive in their 30s and 40s if they take care of themselves (work out, skin care, eat healthy). If you're ugly in your 20s you won't suddenly become hot in your 30s, unless the un-attractiveness was due to weight or a facial feature that got surgically fixed (and even then, if you did it in your 20s you would look better compared to now). Women are less likely to "hit the wall" as they are c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:47 PM
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Tell that to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 11:31 AM
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Then he will get into a relationship with you just to have sex and might dump you afterwards. Just say you don't feel comfortable having sex/doing sexual stuff yet, don't give him a time-frame or "after commitment", just make sure you don't sleep with him before getting commitment. If he asks just say "I'm not comfortable yet" and if he pushes then it's time for you to leave. Just be very affectionate in public but not behind closed doors, otherwise he will label you as a "tease" and either disl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:29 AM
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Golden Rule: If you have any doubt that he's going to commit to you, he's not going to commit to you. This one is VERY true, even when i was not sleeping with a man or doing any sexual activity with him, he still didn't commit to me because he wanted to keep his options open. I never had the "what are we?" conversation with anyone because even in my pickmeisha days, if someone did not commit to me after 3 months (which is a long time) - i would simply leave. I live in a very sexist country so se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:48 AM
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When i would split halves with my ex and my friend would tell me about how men pay for her on dates and i would boil with jealousy, i didn't even try to "preach" to her about equality and other liberal feminist bs. She wasn't doing that on purpose as i was the one who asked her about her dating life and who pays. If i believed in paying halves that much i wouldn't feel jealousy, this is how i knew i was settling for less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:44 AM
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This is why you make them pay and give them no sexual benefits until commitment. Many men think of us as free-trials, not as "equal" partners as bluepilled feminists try to make it seem. When you offer to split halves with a man he won't think "Great! an equal partner!" but instead he will think "Cool. less money for me to spend on p*ssy".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:11 AM
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Men are so fast to call you a gold digger like umm sir if i was a gold digger you'd think i'd date a 22 year old student with debt/26 year old who just started his career and lives at his parents' or a successful man in his late 30s that owns a company? They do it so women expect nothing and excuse it with their paranoia "She just wants free meals so i will split the bill to see if she'll stay!! no second date? she was def a gold digger, i dodged a bullet!!!" then go on dating sites when they're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:14 PM
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Thank god i was in middle school...never happened during HS or work though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:36 PM
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Let's say you say a snarky comment and he pays, why would you go on a second date with a man you had to manipulate/force to treat you? it will be the same in the future. Men who split the bill are either broke, paranoid or plate-spinners and you want none. If he pays and you don't go on a second date it will give him more excuses to say WoMeN jUsT wAnT a FrEe MeAl!!!If you ever meet a mutual friend that apparently you had, he will speak badly of you. Don't give anyone a reason to badmouth you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 11:06 AM
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Same i always do 2 if i don't like the guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 11:00 AM
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Lol when i was in middle school some guy who was 2 years older than me (he was a freshman in HS, he also had a crush on my beautiful friend at the time and i looked like an uglier version of her so he hit me up) told me he will see me today so i pretended to be sick so i can stay at home and he didn't text me the whole day and we didn't meet up. Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:50 AM
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Because the woman they actually like already went to sleep...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:49 AM
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Men respect the "bro code" and won't date their friend's exes. I've seen many women jump on their friend's ex and f*ck him or f*ck their bestie's boyfriend and even still be friends with men who hurt their close friends and all just for validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:40 PM
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Lower self esteem comes from the fact that men treat badly women who are below a 7/10 in HS (and in general). If you were less attractive in HS and became attractive after it still stays with you even if now you're a 10/10. My parents and family always did their best to make me feel beautiful and validated but the boys in my class did a good job making me feel ugly by only paying attention to my pretty friend while ignoring me and the other friends. Hence why so many women don't befriend "visibl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:35 PM
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This is not even a lie lmao my ex did it to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:05 PM
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Not to blame her or anything but this is why you do not go on a date if he did not contact you in the evening (1 day before the date) to text or on the morning of the date. If he did and still "fell asleep" he's an a-hole and she did good by not giving him a second chance. A guy "fell asleep" before my date too and i waited for him to come and he legit wore pajamas and i regretted not going home...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:30 PM
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If they post often...it's so unattractive when a man posts every week and i don't mean share a FB post about the koalas or retweet something funny on twitter. I mean instagram. If he posts a lot of pictures of himself/stories then he's most likely following naked/half naked IG girls who live on the other side of the world. I prefer a man with no IG or that has an IG with 5-7 pictures with the last one being from an year ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:28 AM
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If it was the other way around then guys would be like "Go for it king!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 11:44 AM
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My uncle proposed to his wife within 7-8 months and they will be together for 6 years soon. Before that, he had a girlfriend for 7 years with no proposal in sight, she was very beautiful and well educated but a big pickmeisha, after 7 years of no proposal she left and got married to someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:00 PM
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He's probably crying because he didn't want to get married to her lmfaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:54 PM
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Because free constant sex, laundry and cooking. It was comfortable for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:52 PM
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I thought people only did it in HS and middle school lmfaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:50 PM
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Men put ideas in womens head then call them crazy for it. Example: "You're wife material" "Where have you been all my life?! haha" then act like you're crazy when you expect a relationship after sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:42 PM
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My ex would bring up stuff that we resolved and stuff that i did 7-8 months ago each time we have a new argument about him lying/breaking my trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 12:09 PM
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FDS advocates against dating someone you're not attracted to. Clearly, you were not that attracted to him which is okay but for the future - don't date men you don't see future with/see them as "settling".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:01 PM
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Had to send a follow up "I had a good time and would like to see you again" text within 2 hours Personally, i find this too strict, i would give 24 hours for them to text me or at least 12 because 2 hours seems too short but if it works for you then it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:56 PM
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Ended a relationship with a LVM who always went behind my back and also gaslit me nearly daily when i called him out for stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:43 PM
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He's mentioning stuff that happened 2-3 years ago, if he was so unsure he should've broken up back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:13 PM
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Same. My ex hated social media then joined FB, IG and twitter. He asked me not to tag him and told me he won't set a relationship with me on FB. He told me im overacting and called me crazy for asking him to post 1 picture of us and set a relationship on FB, nothing else. I wasn't the other girl as i knew his family and friends in real life but it just made me feel very unwanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 02:07 PM
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Men: women should pick better. Women: *join FDS* I won't tolerate any type of abuse, narcissism and these are my new standards! Men: women are so picky nowdays....i miss the 40s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 01:54 PM
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Men can only tell makeup look from no makeup look if she wears an eyeliner or a non pink/nude eyeshadow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 08:00 PM
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You are 100% right, i don't understand redpill logic either. Women with kids are less "wanted" in the dating world unless you are over 40 and dating someone who is over 40 because most people have a child by 45 and were married once in their life. So monkeybranching does not work. Nearly no woman has kids with a man she does not plan on staying with unless she is very very pro-life religious. You see women staying with their husband whom they no longer love just for the sake of the kids so why d…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 10:57 AM
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The paying for dates is not to sleep with FDS women but for FDS women to vet the greedy, broke, fuckboys who waste their time and plate spinners. If there is any other way to avoid them (not completely, but mostly) i'd love to know because you won't know they are greedy or broke until you date him when you could've vetted him on the first or second date. A fuckboy would string you along even if you won't be having sex, if you don't expect dates you won't be taken out on dates. If you expected a …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 10:24 AM
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Liberal feminism supports porn and sex work, pink pilled feminism does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 10:14 AM
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I never understood the pickme obsession of saying "Wish i was born in the 40s" like why? to not have any rights? to get beat and r*ped by your husband? Or the red pilled men saying back in the day was better...well, there are cultures where back in the day is nowadays for them but they still won't get picked since they hate to provide. They want to be the alpha male and the dominant yet expects his wife to work too, wtf?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:47 PM
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It means sucker for mediocre p*ssy...something like that. It's the new "white knight"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:44 PM
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Ever since men learned the term "simp" they won't stop using it. Men really hate seeing other men being kind towards women that they made up a term to dis-encourage them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:00 PM
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Exactly! They don't mind taking advantage of women or misleading them and putting ideas in their head because "that's how the world works, deal with it!" but the second we expect them to pay for our meal as a part of courting they get upset? Men be like "I won't pay for a stranger's food" yet wouldn't mind exchanging fluids with that so called "stranger" later at his place. Hypocrites. That's why they're so upset that FDS exists since women suddenly demand to be respected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 01:52 PM
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Maybe he got hurt by Regina George too!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 06:47 PM
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This is wayyyy too true...LVM get so upset if you ask them for a birthday/Christmas gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:55 PM
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If you ever ask these men for anything they pull the "I thought you're not like other girls/not a gold digger" so if you never try to prove anything and he says that just say "I never said i wasn't" and giggle a bit. That way he can see you're not serious about your response (aka you're not a gold digger) but also won't try to prove you're not one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:57 PM
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Exactly. If she wanted to list why they don't match she could've listed it in 3 simple sentences, not a whole ass paragraph. It's useless asking why do ugly men have the courage to ask pretty women, it's like asking why does the sun shine or why wolves howl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:38 PM
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I don't even approach a normal guy in every day life who seems slightly more attractive than me Sounds like an insecurity, plenty of guys approach women who are out of their league. Why won't you do the same? Being humble gets you nowhere in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 11:36 AM
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The fact she goes around in circles saying "He didn't even travel" or "We have nothing in common" while just him being 20 years older than her is enough for her to reject her, no need for the other 10 reasons she listed, 1 is enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:33 AM
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It has 10% purple pilled women, 2% blue pilled men/women and the rest are red pilled or black pilled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:32 AM
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Exactly. I used to try my best to prove that i am not a gold digger and not like "other girls" who only use them...these men drained me emotionally and god dare if i ask him to buy me anything (even a milkshake or a pair of socks as a small gift) because then im a gold digger. Now, i couldn't care less if someone calls me a gold digger, i would just respond "And?" and they either get quiet or attack me since they expected me to get defensive and try my best to prove that i am not. I know i'm not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:31 AM
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Thank you!! In the candy shop part she said not to give yourself to him immediately and not tease him but she didn't word if we are supposed to wait after commitment. I know FDS supports waiting after commitment and i am 100% with it but what about the book?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:06 AM
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So many married men let themselves go soon after the marriage...they gain weight and get lazy yet expect their wife to compete with a fit 20 year old that never gave birth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:20 PM
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​ When you're younger you're riding that 'yeah, he's right, I /am/ mature for my age' high, and it's only when you get older that you take a step back and realize... Holy shit. THIS!! I can count at least 6 men who preyed upon me from 14 to 18!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:11 PM
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I don't know my stand on onlyfans..on one hand i am against sex work as it makes men sexualize us even more on social media (e.x: men in the comments saying X model/actress should be on BLACKED) and twitter labels anyone who refuses to date a sex worker as "insecure" and on the other hand i like seeing men going broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:08 PM
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If a guy uses snapchat he is either a fuckboy, in high school or a pervert. There's no other excuse. I deleted my snapchat years ago exactly for that reason. I suggest all women to either 1. delete snapchat or 2. make a private new snapchat and only add your close friends to it and when guy ask if you have a snapchat say no. If he ever confronts you about it say "I never use it..last time i opened it was a month ago"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:06 PM
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She def did not like me, i was of a different ethnicity and religion than them. I'm a minority in my country and a daughter of legal immigrants and it bothered her though she was not religious at all! She always threw stereotypes asking if my parents work in X jobs (bad immigrant jobs, of course) though my parents are educated and both went to university. She was devastated to hear that my immigrant mom works in the same job as her and that my mom gets paid more than her. But she was very contro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:06 AM
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I hate the fact it made me laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 08:03 PM
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So i should bring it up after a few days of texting/first date or after 4-5 dates? Theoretically of course, i already got a man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:02 PM
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If she has 0 pictures of her body then you can assume what type of body she has.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 05:42 PM
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If he's such a chad...why is he on reddit messaging women with no profile pictures? lol!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:47 PM
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Yeah so let's assume a 5 girl is chasing a chad, they have sex maybe once or twice then he dumps her and she feels used, not accomplished. In a good scenario he will keep her around just for sex and eventually she will either ask for commitment and he will ghost her or he will get tired of her and replace her. It's human nature to like attractive people, regardless of gender. Eventually she wishes up and dates her looksmatch/slightly above or below her looksmatch and they have a family. Sex is n…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 02:32 PM
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Because they aren't looking for a relationship but for a hookup so they don't care about what you do for living or they hate women with passions and dreams, they want you to have 0 stuff to do so you can nag them and give them attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 12:19 PM
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Exactly, when i was 16 i already knew how to cook basic stuff (pancakes, different variations of eggs, pasta, rice, different variations of chicken) and when i was 18 i knew how to cook properly and even ethnic food. My parents taught me and my siblings how to cook regardless of gender! how do some men take pride in "not knowing how to cook"?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:46 AM
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No, just an addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:47 AM
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It's her life not yours so if she wants to ruin it let her. It's not your responsibility. Just let her know you are not supportive of her choice and shut her down when she rants and not willing to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 07:01 PM
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It was less about the sandwiches and more about cooking, he didn't like ethnic food that much so i cooked basic stuff like fried chicken, pasta, rice, etc. I even asked his mom for the recipe but she wouldn't give it to me since she disliked me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:36 PM
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I heard many guys say "Date a fat/chubby girl they are always insecure and will please you in bed to pay up for their weight" like uhm what? wtf?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:21 PM
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I cooked for my ex all the time and made him sandwiches for work (he worked in retail)...he always complained about how his mom is a better cook so eventually i stopped making him food and he complained about how i no longer care about him and how he misses my food.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:19 PM
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Some 25 year old man told me he can't cook and that his mom always cooks for him, he's also unemployed with no degree (not sure he even has HS diploma..when i asked he said "i think i do" what do you mean you think? everyone knows if they graduated HS or not so i assume he didn't). He got upset when i refused to go on a beach date and also expected me to come his way (he lives 2 hours away from me by train), hell nah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 06:17 PM
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I'm always curious about guys who live alone and can't cook...do they just eat instant noodles, always have a pickmeisha gf or just order takeout all the time? How do they live??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:51 PM
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Well that explains a lot! It def did give me the vibes of the book being at least 15-25 years old but the book is truly amazing regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:45 PM
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They act as if the pots and pans are built especially for the woman's mind and that's why they don't know how to deal with cooking but truth is they are lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:36 PM
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I feel like these men do it on purpose just so you won't ever ask again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:35 PM
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Or the men who say "not all men"...they get so defensive so quick. When did we ever say it was all men? we NEVER did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:34 PM
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And men say women are tripping...OK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:33 PM
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You do not attract abusive men but many abusive men are attracted to a specific type of girls and if you fall within that category (e.x: single parent, absent father figure, party girl, insecure girl) he will come towards you. It got nothing to do with you but with mentally ill/abusive men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:31 PM
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You should always think of how many years you could have wasted instead of how many years you wasted, it helps. Second of all...i assume you like Christopher, do you see yourself dating him in the future? hope he is not using you as a rebound to get over his ex and i hope you did not went sexual with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:29 PM
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Men expect you to sleep with them on the first date then get upset when you do and wonder "how many men did she do it with?" and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:12 PM
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If he makes you repeat the same paragraph over and over again leave him. Actions speak louder than words, you explained to him that a,b,c bothers you and he's not changing it? he does not care enough for it to stay in his head or simply doesn't care about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:11 PM
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And the most important: no men who cancel our feelings and say we overact! So many men say "Well maybe it just happened to you because X reason" but going on here made me realize how much i relate to most of the womens stories and comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:22 PM
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If the girl is upset they just find a new one to lie to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:44 PM
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I remember some guy told me that a girl told him that her vagina tastes like candy (m&m to be exact)...like why? why are you lying and giving men false expectations when they encounter other women? Just keep your mouth shut instead of lying, it harms other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 11:12 PM
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OFC they do, they watch the news and say "Stupid woman!! goes alone into the woods!" but then invite us to go hiking and don't understand why we refuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:27 PM
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South, West and East asian come from oppressive cultures but these men only obsess over the east asian women, not the south or west women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:24 PM
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I feel like white men who obsessively date east asian girls always exclude south asian girls and those type of men are either weebs/koreaboos or want a "submissive" woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:21 PM
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Every guy be like "What? you don't trust me?" but if you get sexually assaulted/harassed the same type of guys ask you "Why did you go to his house alone?! you're not careful!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:07 PM
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Nearly *every* guy invited me to his place and i NEVER went, not even once. I only went to my exes house after being exclusive or went to a friend's (male) house with friends, i never went alone if it was a guy's house. One of the guys i rejected asked if i'm scared he will r*pe me, not even joking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:06 PM
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My pickme cousin's boyfriend is a professional chef...you know how many times he cooked for her? 0. Not even once. He works at a very luxurious ethnic restaurant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:03 PM
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"I can't wait to cook for you" is such a bait since the bar is so low that any guy that can make a greek salad and an omelet is a "chef" since so many guys can't cook for sh*t! It attracts pickmeishas who are into "being equal" and paying halves. Truly what it means is "I will invite you to my place, you'll have to do the groceries/buy the wine so either way i spend 0$ and get to try and f*ck you yet sound very romantic!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:00 PM
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Any type of "artistic" dude (poet, singer, yoga, dancer) and those who like traveling to 3rd world countries they always end up "not believing in marriage" and not want kids/only want kids after 45 and hit up girls at least 15 years younger than them and NEVER commit. The most commitment you'll get is an open relationship. Stay away from them like fire, especially if you do want commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:57 PM
52

Yep...mostly they will ask you to bring groceries/wine so you'll end up paying if you "cook together".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:55 PM
57

"Let's go hiking" nah i'll go hiking with my boyfriend after a few months, not with a man i went on 3 dates with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:55 PM
32

When you agree to go to a man's house they assume you want to sleep with them though THEY presented it as an innocent date like "let's cook together".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:54 PM
38

Some guy asked me on a beach date...nah. If it's a day beach date - he wants to see me in a bikini. If it's a night beach date - it's too risky and he just wants to make his moves when no one sees. No thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:53 PM
88

Exactly, men be like "why do women go for frat dudes who break their heart and treat them badly when they can go for nerdy dudes who do exactly the same but are less attractive??"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:58 PM
62

Women tend to underestimate their attractiveness and men tend to overestimate their attractiveness. Just like the incel scenario, a 3/10 man thinks he is a 5 so he approaches a 7/10 girl (but in his mind she is a 5.5), she is not interested and repulsed by him so she rejects him and dates a 8/10 man instead so he goes on reddit to type "All women love chads!!" when truly it is not a girl going above her league but a cute girl dating a cute boy. I've dealt with that before, a 2/10 guy (yes, he wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 08:34 PM
43

If you need to ask strangers online if he did instead of yourself - he did assault you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:48 PM
1

It makes sure me and redpilled men will not go on more than 1 date (or even date at all as they don't go out to eat as dates), it repulses greedy men and paranoid men ("she just wants a free meal!!") and broke men. It brings commitment faster as people appreciate and take more seriously stuff they've spent money on or invested money into. It's a fact. Men will not see a girl for 5-7 months without commitment if they have to pay each time they take her out, it's better to commit. I don't know why…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 02:15 PM
7

Exactly! If the man wants to be the dominant in the relationship why won't he provide? they want to have the cake and eat it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:22 PM
2

FDS here: I do agree with men paying for all dates but there is something that i don't agree with. If a man chooses not to pay for the date, don't try to convince him otherwise or do mind games like saying "Oh, you don't have enough money?" or "Are you broke?" or "I forgot my credit card" just pay your part, get up and leave. No following dates or texts, drop it. Also, it says that if you realized you won't be seeing that person anymore then ghost him but i disagree, i see why women would ghost …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 04:05 PM
2

I like beta men, just not desperate ones. I have always dated beta men and never slept with an "alpha" guy though all the "betas" i dated were attractive, i don't find anything exciting about trying to achieve a guy's attention by having sex with him while 5 other girls do the same and only one will win the "commitment" if anything. I prefer to go for quiet men with a blue collar job. Sure, i had shitty exes but they were all beta, just low effort betas.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:49 PM
1

2 years is reasonable if you are over 30 and want kids. Not when you're below 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 03:41 PM
39

I don't know what i feel towards my ex, each time i think about him i feel anger. I don't want to see him or look through his profile, i feel like i hate him yet hate myself for letting him do me wrong like that. I am upset with myself for letting myself being mistreated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:29 PM
16

Yep! And to this day he makes fake email accounts just to email me. Not even joking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:08 PM
17

With my last ex he forced me to pay for the condoms AND my birth control. When i refused he just wouldn't have sex with me (he has a very low sex drive and i do orgasm from PIV sex) so i had no choice but to pay for both. He would "punish" me by not sleeping with me for 2-3 weeks each time i would bring up the condoms or birth control price as i found it unfair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:33 PM
10

SAME. I think my ex will tell his new gf not to text me because he'll be scared that i'll tell her what truly happened between us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:18 PM
10

EVERYONE are visual creatures, guys only tend to say that about themselves to justify looking at other girls in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:52 AM
18

Guys tend to be so unrealistic with their dreams always trying to be soundcloud rappers or artists! My ex had such unrealistic dreams of being a lawyer in NYC while having no visa or a green-card whatsoever (no US citizenship nor family in the US) by the time he's 25 but he needs to re-do his HS exams as the grades are not high enough, not even for our local university or college. I still pretended to support it though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:49 AM
15

Exactly. I prefer to be scammed by 100$ rather than sleeping with a man that will ghost me or string me along for months and never commit to me. I can earn that money back but i can't unf*ck that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:47 AM
53

Or movies with the "cool girl".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:39 AM
15

SAME! When someone calls me a gold digger i just say "And what about it?" and mostly they get quiet or show their true colors, one of the 2 happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:03 PM
13

Because bigger breasts mean "food" in their brain, biologically. If the man is poor he will reach for that source of "food" and if he has a lot of money he won't feel the need. https://www.discovermagazine.com/the-sciences/ncbi-rofl-why-poor-hungry-men-prefer-bigger-breasts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:51 PM
12

This is why you don't date men your age, date men 2-5 years older (not 8-10 years older!) so when they choose they "don't want to be married" at 30, you'll be 26-28 and still got time to look for someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:12 PM
7

I went on a few dates with a very unattractive man and 2 teenage girls and a woman were whispering about it when he held my hand. I felt like i am going 200 leagues below me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:59 PM
20

They tested it somewhere in Asia (i don't remember what country) and the poorer the men were the bigger size they chose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:39 PM
38

The bar is so f*cking low that as long as a man has a job, no addictions and doesn't beat you or cheat on you then you're "lucky".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:36 PM
1

Not true. What will be a 7 in the US won't be a 7 in Sweden and won't be a 7 in Spain. Beauty standards differ, if someone prefers white women he will automatically see an asian woman or a black woman as less though the white woman and the WOC are 7. Reddit sees a girl with a slightly long nose and say it lowers 2 points when truly it lowers 0.5 since her face is perfectly symmetrical and a halo except for that. What reddit men find a 5 is a 6.5 plain girl aka no visible falios, just a girl who …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 05:12 PM
5

He just needed the smallest excuse to remove you from his life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 11:31 AM
4

If a guy aims for a relationship in his range (he's a 5 so he will date a 5.5 and not a 8) then he will get one within maybe 1-3 months? If a woman aims for a relationship it's harder, you need to guess which one is lying just to get sex because average and below average men rarely get to hookup unless they string along a girl. Sure, it's easier for women to get sex but less than 15% of women do not hookup frequently (i don't mean women who had 1-2 hookups, i mean women who nearly always hookup)…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 11:22 AM
1

18-19 years olds take less effort and maintenance than a 30 years old. The older you are the wiser you are and the more red flags you see.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 11:17 AM
3

No, reddit sees her as a 5.5 but truly she's a 7 so it's reasonable for her to date an 8. Same goes to men, if he's a 7 it's reasonable for him to date a 8. You just compare the 7 to celebrities who are clearly better looking because a 7 in hollywood (where everyone have access to surgeries and the best skincare) is not a 7 in real life. a 7 in the US is not a 7 in Sweden, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 11:16 AM
35

2 hours?! TL;DR please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:51 PM
108

Ah, yes, men who turn WOC into their own f*cked up fetish. He just wants to see black women get abused and used...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:49 PM
29

I love it when my boyfriend flirts with me sexually (after we had sex during the relationship, of course) but not all the time. When someone always makes stupid sex jokes it just shows immaturity... I feel like this post mostly talks about men who you've only been talking to for a few days and didn't meet up to men who you've went on a few dates with and still no commitment. No commitment? no sexual talk. Simple. Even after commitment i am very careful with whats being said for the first 3 month…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:47 PM
34

When he told Diamond her names sounds like a hooker's name....not funny at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:43 PM
3

100% agreed. 3/10 guys will think that they are a 5 and aim for a girl who is a 7/10 and see her as a 5.5-6/10 and call her "plain" when truly she is above average and even cute looking and complain about "women only want chads" when she dates a 8/10 man that IS her looksmatch. Stop aiming for women out of your reach and if you still do, don't complain when they don't pick you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 11:00 PM
3

As a woman, i have 5-6 friends who are also women and we are in our early 20s. Half of them dated much older men (7-15 years older) when they were slightly younger (17-20) and they regret it deeply. The other half who never dated much older men...well, they're very pretty and attract men all the time so they never felt the need to be validated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 10:49 PM
4

It's like a 15 year old who gets excited that her 20 y/o boyfriend who has a license and a car and a job though his car is older than him and wrecked and he didn't go to college and works at mcdonald's. To a 15 year old it's cool but to girls his age? a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 10:33 PM
8

If a guy is 34 and the woman is 32, she will expect marriage sooner or late, maybe within 1-2 years? a woman who is 24 won't. He can take his time with her. Most of the women who are in their late teens and early 20s (18-23) who date men in their 30s are very insecure, have body image issues or mental health issues or come from very poor families. Sometimes they might be good looking (though most are slightly below average to average) but that's because they did not peak in hs and most likely go…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 10:28 PM
4

It is true that women like older men but like 3-6 years older, not 15 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 10:20 PM
3

"I will marry you" *dating for 8 years without any engagement in sight*!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:11 PM
138

Guys that always somehow turn the conversation sexual are so irritating...biggest turn off of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:59 PM
10

If you respond with anything other than "Thank you" or "I forgive you" then he's like "Omg but it was so long ago!! it's in the past now!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:56 PM
26

I feel like a lot of men have HPV and just pass it since they don't get checked...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:08 PM
58

They spit into the well they drank from. They HATE women who have casual sex frequently, somehow having fwbs or 1-3 hookups is "forgivable" (as long as you don't talk about it or the amount, ofc) but if you mostly have casual sex? they will hate you. They will only see you as a hole so they suck up to you to make you feel comfortable enough to have sex yet ghost you 2 days later becuase you're not "wife material" enough for them...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:06 PM
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If you live in a small country then the risk is even bigger, it's one of the reasons i never hooked up or had fwbs in my life. I don't want anyone to be able to say anything about me, i'd take a "gold digger" and "frigid high standards" every day over a "slut" or a "whore". Guys will pass your phone number and info to their friends to see if they can take a "turn" on you and in the close future (2-5 years) you might start a new job, go to a friend's wedding or just a party and meet someone who's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:19 PM
32

And then they say "Women don't like men with a very high N count" yes, because it means he slept around a lot and unless he is a 10/10 that earns a big salary - he used or lied to at least 2-3 of them as we know that less than 15% of women practice hookups with strangers. Did he just land on all 15%? nah, he lied to them promising a relationship. It makes me think that i will be up next in line and that our sex will mean nothing to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:14 AM
3

3 times with one, 5 times with another. Soooo sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:08 AM
60

Some reddit dude is probably practicing creative writing to see what story will catch more...lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:15 PM
77

Joe Goldberg has joined the chat...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:09 PM
66

Or when their wife gives them a list of groceries to buy so they buy a different company or a different grocery...oh she wrote that she needs a zucchini? i'll buy a cucumber and say i was mistaken so she won't ever ask me to buy the groceries. lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:08 PM
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Pretend you're okay with porn and stuff before committing to them so you know it before you sleep with them. Don't randomly say "btw i lied i hate the porn industry" just cut them off and say you are not on the same page. Just like many men pretend to be okay with a high N count to get women to talk about their true count...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:20 PM
161

I will never date a man who went to a hooker or an escort. Those men are filth in my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:22 PM
44

And then the girl has to jump through loops to "prove" that she's not a gold digger...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:03 AM
44

And then they want women to be honest about their N count? They're really doing it to themselves then surprised why their girlfriend/fiance/wife said 2-4 instead of 20.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:01 AM
10

This is why we see couples where the woman is 16 and he is 21 and where the woman is 21 and he is 34... As we age we become more wise with life experience and call them on their bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:52 PM
5

So many (incel/pervert) men say that women are the prettiest when they are 16....when i was 16 i was so unattractive though i was well dressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:51 PM
8

This is why you don't have kids with men you are not married to. Hope she tells his wife about this...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:47 PM
3

When they say they want women to date short men they don't mean a 5'8 woman with a 5'7 man or a 5'4 woman with a 5'6 man...they mean a 5' woman with a 5'7-5'8 man. They are mad that the short-very short women don't want short men. They don't care about average, taller than average or tall women since they don't want to date us. They want to date very short women just to feel "manly" since a 5'8 won't feel manly surrounded by 5'11 men but when we want to feel feminine and small we are vile and sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:08 PM
8

THIS. My friends said i'm weird for not sending nudes. Their nudes have been leaked or they are in constant fear that they would be leaked. One went as far as deleting all social media since there's no point in leaking if you don't have social media, not famous and he does not know where you work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 02:05 PM
13

And when they find out you did have sex with ugly men before they are disgusted...they want to be an exception. They want an "entrance ticket" to the fountain only "chads" can have so they can feel a part of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:11 PM
6

It's a fact that many women would settle for less attractive men for relationships and marriage as long as they are treated good by them. It just proves that those incels are just shitty af...lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:10 PM
5

My requirements are very basic; must be employed, not smoke at all and not heavily drink, must be a undergraduate/postgraduate student or already with a BA or MA degree and know how to take care of himself aka cook, laundry and clean so i won't feel like i am dating a child. Preferences are completely different...i do prefer tall men (5'11-6') but if i happen to fall in love with a 5'10 then so be it. I do prefer men who don't have tattoos but if he has any it does not mean i wouldn't date him. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:09 PM
14

Very true. During my last relationship, in the last half an year i got mistreated and each time i got to know a male friend who happened to be my type - my ex upgraded and was suddenly very nice and when the threat would "go away" he would go back to being shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 02:02 PM
106

Women-only groups ask for advice and how to respond to a text/situation...men groups degrade women and try to exploit/lead them on and give tips on how to use them while giving them nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 01:59 PM
67

In my country they had this group for about an year now....i know that if i ever sent my ex nudes they would be on there by now, he was very stingy and vengeful and i am so happy that when he asked for nudes i told him "If you want to see me naked you'd come here" since he lived 10-15 minutes away by bus. 5 minutes by car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 01:58 PM
20

He did not forget about it...he just didn't care enough since you would stay regardless. Speaking from experience..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 01:51 PM
18

He knew you're not happy for 3 years and didn't do a thing about it or you didn't say anything...? If he knew it then he did not love you or did not care enough and took you for granted. If you didn't voice your concerns until now and he is willing to change then it's fixable, make sure he actually takes you out after the quarantine. I left a 2 year relationship due to FDS (i was a lurker before making an account) and i met my current boyfriend shortly after and i am so thankful that i have left…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 12:12 PM
10

You mean he's not attractive and not taking you on dates or he is taking you on dates? If the problem is weight and he's working to lose it then it's no biggie, or clothing style - it's fixable if he's willing to. If you're simply not attracted to his looks in any way then don't date him...you're wasting your and his time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:34 AM
17

It is true that most women will NOT get a HVM but the more women use FDS the more men have to upgrade. I prefer to stay unmarried forever than settle for something i do not want. I already found my HVM and though he has 2 small disadvantages, the rest is exactly what i am looking for. Of course he is not perfect, the question is what he does to fix his disadvantages (for example he often forgets to buy groceries that i tell him to so he writes it all down on a note and takes it with him).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:17 AM
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HVM is not a perfect man. No one is perfect. HVM is a man with more qualities rather than disadvantages and the disadvantages are not as "bad". For example he is forgetful at times so he has a calendar and a reminder. HVM have flaws but they try their best to fix them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:14 AM
324

This is why we don't send nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:04 AM
7

With a BIG penis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:47 AM
3

I'm 5'4, the amount of men who claim i must be wrong about my height and that i am 5'7-5'8 is huge. My dad is a 6'3 and i get to his shoulder/slightly above his shoulder. My boyfriend is a 6'2 and i get just slightly over his shoulder and he's towering me. I remember i met a truly 6' man once and he was towering over me. All the men i've met lied about their height saying they're 5'10-6' when truly they were 2-3 inches shorter than they said they are. One went as far and lied about 5.5 inches th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:39 AM
10

THIS. My ex was probably like 5'8.5-5'9 and claimed he is 5'11. His 5'6 friend who was slightly taller than me (5'4) claimed he is 5'8.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:34 AM
12

YES. I am 5'4 and i got told that i must be at least 5'7-5'8.5 by men who claimed to be 5'9-5'11.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:32 AM
19

They complain about women not dating 5'6-5'8 men yet when we do...they bash us and make fun of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:31 AM
11

Love is not enough to sustain a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 09:32 PM
9

I got my nose done because i got told i'm not pretty enough to act like i act or have standards. My nose was my main facial falio though no one ever said anything about it. I just knew that it's what makes me less pretty. In my country small noses and light colored eyes are praised since they are not common at all and 2 of my (very) beautiful friends had both. I felt invisible next to them. Ever since i got it done my face got more symmetrical (went from a 5.2 to a 7 and 7.5 with makeup) and i f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 09:22 PM
64

If he had to lie he knows he is doing something wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:48 PM
26

Exactly. If a man does a prenup he's "smart" but if a woman does it she is "greedy" and "plans on leaving". Double standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:10 PM
104

"I get used by females for sex" nah, issa lie I PROMISE YOU. I never heard of anyone who was used by women for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 02:33 PM
35

They think it's enough just because she does not voice her opinion on it. If she dares to say she is unsatisfied she gets called a gold digger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:21 PM
20

We're so psychotic for not letting men step on us or use us. CRAZY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:36 PM
12

Oh so like...how most men treat women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:35 PM
22

Dating history = "Did you have a serious relationship before? how long did it last?" not "How many men did you f*ck".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:33 PM
6

I was always wondering. How does going to the bathroom help you leave? In every restaurant i've been the windows are to small to leave through them/bathroom has no windows and the bathroom is ALWAYS at the end of the restaurant means if you would like to leave - you would pass the table your date sits at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:00 AM
27

The only reason he lets her live rent-free is because she cannot pay yet he wants her to be sexually available 24/7. If she had the money he would ask her to pay too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:56 AM
20

Exactly. I would do everything to prove i am not a gold-digger. Now i don't mind being called one, i would ALWAYS pick being called a gold-digger than being called a "free pussy" or a "free trial".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:55 AM
56

He's using her for her youth, sex and money. I bet she occasionally pays for him and expects the same yet doesn't get it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:53 AM
56

This! My bestie's boyfriend NEVER paid for her and he is 7 years older. He has money and lives with a roommate, she lives with her parents. My boyfriend pays for everything, i never paid ONCE. He spoils me a lot and always buys me gifts and flowers yet i don't ask. I don't need to ask. On a double date, my bestie paid for her and his meal and my boyfriend paid for mine and his and my bestie started a fight with her boyfriend for it and he wanted to break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:52 AM
16

Lol why the f*ck would she date a 31 year old as a 22 year old if he does not pay? he is taking her youth and getting to f*ck yet she gets nothing. Ew. My ex took me on a date and asked me to give him money so he can pretend to pay for me since in my country people give bad looks and stare at men who don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:47 AM
6

Just like me! I don't fall that easily but it def does not take a lot to make me like a person but the second the person shows disrespect i start liking him less and less and it does not take long, maybe 2 weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:42 AM
7

Don't date religious men if you're not religious. It's a waste of your time. Don't date men of a different religion either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:22 PM
97

I heard 12-13 year olds saying they're asexual, lol. Like oh? you're not interested in sex and talking about it makes you uncomfortable...like every normal 12-13 year old??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:19 PM
19

"My gransparents are in the hospital"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:50 AM
49

If he says "everyone leave me" trust him, he is giving you a warning sign so take it and leave. Don't text him "I'll stay!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:40 PM
14

They don't "ask" yet expect you to do so without them asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:10 PM
8

Same. I don't mind dating meat eaters but i won't cook any animal products for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:46 AM
14

We should stop marrying men who don't know how to cook. Parasites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:45 AM
32

2 days ago me and my best friend talked about sexual history and she was so surprised that i don't do BDSM stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:02 PM
15

THIS. I stay away from picky eaters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:00 PM
13

I will refuse to date men who smoke weed, cigarettes and drink a lot of alcohol. Same goes to men with mental health issues that affect them a lot. I am not going to be anyone's therapist. I will care for my boyfriend through rough times but i will not get into a relationship with a mentally ill person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:44 PM
16

men will ask you "Why did you trust him?" if you get assaulted in your tinder date's house. And men will also ask you "You don't trust me?" and say "not all men!" when trying to get you to come to their place ALONE. Double edged sword.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:41 PM
23

They think we ask for too much because apparently respect, safety and helping around the house is A LOT to ask from a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:37 PM
11

This. If something happens to me i want to be able to trust my partner. Otherwise he's good for nothing to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:35 PM
3

I thought i'm out here dating "older men" because i date men 2-5 years older than me. LMAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 01:26 PM
172

And those unemployed men can't text more than 3 words...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 10:56 PM
9

I never used OLD but i'll still do it: Attractive Well written bio without slang that states what they're looking for and height in their bio (height in bio is optional, adds points tho!) Pescatarian/Vegetarian/Vegan Normal selfies that don't indicate that he's the partying type and one mirror selfie with a shirt on Photos with his family/animals that aren't a dog (let's be honest, everyone love dogs so it doesn't count!) No indications on being a woman-hater/men's right activist/sexist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:44 PM
32

Same!! This was me 2 and a half years ago!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:28 PM
115

Girls who call their bf king...wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:27 PM
50

My ex asked me to cut off a male friend because "he wants you, how can you not see it?" that guy lives in a different continent. Then my ex went behind my back and took his so called "female friends" out to eat from his money and flirt with them, yet expressed sadness each time he had to pay for my meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 08:24 PM
2

Exactly. Never met a tall man with a small dick...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 06:07 PM
3

How they been online dating for 2 years and she didn't know how tall he is? I'd assume they're both 5'6.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 06:00 PM
20

YES. He went mental and then he started dating a girl who looks similar to me and when she canceled their meetups twice (due to her sick family member) in a row after 7 months of committed relationship he ghosted her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:04 PM
4

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:02 PM
43

Why would anyone want to text someone that hurt them after you broke contact? Sure, i tried staying friends with exes after we broke up but not after we cut contact. I never wanted to text an ex after we cut contact, never had that need in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:15 PM
14

if you have chosen the wrong girls to trust, they could be leading you down the wrong path. This. I have 2 best friends, one is very FDS and supportive and i could not ask for a better friend. I always come to her for advice ever since i found FDS. Other is the biggest pickmeisha i ever met. Before that she was slightly FDS (a man always has to pay, don't sleep with a man immediately, etc) and ever since she started dating a 9 who is a true LVM she changed all her opinions. I used to always ask …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:12 PM
41

Independent woman = a feminist who will shave and wax as they please and will always split the bill/pay for them while they are getting her nothing for christmas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:43 PM
47

My ex always talked about this middle eastern model that had a beauty blog. Always saying how pretty she is...etc. Made me so uncomfortable, if someone does it to me he's gone from my life. I never compared any man i dated to other men or made these jokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:39 PM
92

Wear makeup to bed??? GURL your skin cells would cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:38 PM
30

Exactly. "So what if he doesn't take care of the kids...at least he's not physically abusive/drunk/unemployed."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:36 PM
140

It's like slavery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:35 PM
35

Never pinpoint your state or country or your age. Just say your age range (mid 20s, late 30s, etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:04 PM
12

Don't have a child with a man you're not married to unless you are ready to be a single mom. Do not rely on someone who cannot even sign papers that give you legal protection. Don't believe the "I don't have enough money for a wedding" excuse, everyone can have a small wedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:39 PM
16

He didn't even marry her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 05:32 PM
39

Were you married/did he promise marriage? A man who put no effort before will put no effort later, having a child won't suddenly make him a good caring father. He has to be one before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:54 PM
91

After vanishing i promise you he will pop up in an year or two saying he had to take time to think and now he's ready to f*ck again. They know what they're doing, i hate when people say men are stupid/clueless. They're not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:54 PM
22

They think it's unfair that chad has what they don't but this is how life works, no one ever said dating was fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:45 PM
58

When men meet your standards they agree with them. When they don't meet them - they call you demanding. Never had a tall man say my preference towards tall men is ridiculous, unless he has a short bestie/cousin that doesn't get to f*ck as much as he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:44 PM
15

It's like men applying for jobs though they don't meet the requirements and just hope for the best, women only apply if they meet all/almost all the requirements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 01:19 PM
18

Like it's uber f*cks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:57 PM
11

When i was with my ex, he would never pay for groceries when we would cook together...one time he bought milk and he mentioned that time at least 5 times in arguments about him barely paying for dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:07 AM
7

Exactly. But if she made more everyone would say she is the a**hole and that "splitting is empowering and she should pay more!".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:05 AM
64

Exactly. Those celebs are fit and do skincare, wear sunscreen and have personal stylists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:32 AM
53

The only way they will get younger women is if they become sugar daddies or pay these women somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 10:31 AM
23

Yes. I liked a guy from my previous work and we texted but no plans to meet up...he was vulgar and sometimes sexual and too-touchy at work and i did not like that. He gave me a very very bad gut feeling and breadcrumbed me. Eventually he turned out to be not mentally-stable and sent flowers to my house, stalked me though i quit my job, called me from payphones and different numbers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 10:50 PM
1

Get well soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 10:45 PM
3

I see many beautiful women on the street, it does not mean i am attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 07:02 PM
0

Nope. If i'm tired i won't be having sex and my partner is very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 07:02 PM
7

Many dead bedroom couples start when the woman has a baby and the husband does not help and if he does - 10% of the work. She's exhausted and tired.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 01:38 PM
7

I've seen many couples where the girl is very pretty and the guy is slightly below average. Can't say the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 01:37 PM
10

Most ugly mens problem is that they are 3-4 and see themselves as a 5.5-6 and the girl who is a 7.5 and dates a 8 man they see as a 6, so they think she is going above her league and does not consider them even though "she's in the same league as me!" but truly the 7.5-8.5 man she dates IS her looksmatch. Society pressures women to settle for less "just give him a chance! he's a good guy! so what if he's not really your type?" and that's why many women date men who they're not 100% attracted to.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 01:35 PM
4

He's spinning plates with DMs! ;-(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:54 PM
11

He's spinning plates with DMs! ;-(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:53 PM
5

GURL YES. He messaged me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:53 PM
23

I got lucky and only had 5 dates with him...he was telling me what to wear and who to talk to and we weren't even exclusive? lol? At least the free dinners were nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 12:59 PM
45

Loneliness made me give a 2.5-3/10 guy a chance. LMAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 12:53 PM
39

Exactly. Men think that only women with triple digits say "men are trash"...they ARE trash. Never heard of a girl who lied to a man just to get sex...they counter it with money but honestly i rather lose 50$ than feel like i gave away a sacred thing to someone who didn't deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:06 PM
82

Men: I lied to an underage girl to get sex and i ruined her first sex experience *Gets applauded* Women: I didn't have sex with a guy though he paid for my meal "Omg a gold-digger..such a h0e. B*tch!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 09:03 PM
31

I don't have reddit on my phone. I only have the basic social media and i don't post anything on either. TikTok is for kids...snapchat is for highschoolers and f*ckboys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 05:52 PM
18

I always feel bad for the lesbian and bisexual women who get on Tinder/Okcupid and get a message from a beautiful girl just to find out that message is her asking for a threesome aka "be used by my boyfriend who doesn't give a f*ck about you, please!" as if there is something in it for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 03:23 PM
86

This subreddit is just popular incel opinions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:51 AM
106

"For the average woman" he means looks. If your look average then apparently you don't deserve the same respect as a good looking woman. A woman can be average looking and be a HVW and have a successful career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:50 AM
31

This. My ex wanted me to stay with him and give him emotional support while receiving none. Lied to me over 5 times (that i found out).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 08:01 PM
120

I love any character Emma Roberts plays. Especially in AHS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 07:44 PM
16

She wants to rant, not to be saved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 07:39 PM
1

All my exes were good looking, none were below a 7. Still made them wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 07:16 PM
2

Of course not, but i won't kiss a guy on the first date as i don't know him that well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 06:22 PM
7

If they do find a chaste women who is in the 23-30 age range, she is very likely to be very religious/traditional and very likely to be not interested in anything kinky at all. And even if they do find her, why would she date them unless they actually have something to offer? So many of them fantasize about East European/Asian brides but don't understand that those women will get your citizenship and divorce or actually expect you to be the main provider. It's almost like a guarantee.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 10:55 PM
28

I never had casual sex, not interested in having it either. I make everyone wait and many men left because of it but i wasn't upset, i just realized they aren't into it for the long-term. Any man who stayed had a few years relationship with me, none were under an year. It got nothing to do with attraction, this way i significantly lower my chance of ever getting pumped and dumped in my life, i've seen what it does to my fellow girlfriends and i never wish that upon anyone. I thought redpilled me…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 10:43 PM
4

This is why i quite don't get their mindset. Let's assume a redpilled man is looking for a girlfriend/wife and he is an atheist from a western-world country, if she has sex with him on the 1-3 first dates, she is most likely doing it with the rest. I thought they prefer women with a very low body count/virgin? this is not how you get one. This tactic only makes sense if they don't care about body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 10:37 PM
19

And pickmeishas will still try to fix him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:21 PM
5

Same with my bestie, she's a pick me and "one of the boys" and "makeup is gross".Her boyfriend is playing her, made her wait almost an year for commitment while acting like a couple for the whole time and when she would complain about him flirting with other women he would say "We're not even dating! chill!". Once she achieved commitment he didn't change and still hasn't paid for a single thing. Men only refuse commitment if they don't like you enough or so they can control you yet still have si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:08 PM
2

A guy seeing other women when you are not exclusive is okay but only if these women are not his ex or female friends because you shouldn't date a guy who still has contact with his ex or a guy that will keep being friends with a girl he tried to make it work with because "we were friends before that!" You should see at least 2 men at the same time before exclusiveness, if one of them is gone then you still have the other one. He lied about his ex because he knows it is unacceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:01 PM
8

Some guy asked me to commit on date 1 on a text after the date...i laughed and blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 03:00 PM
3

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:57 PM
5

Sometimes they're trying to lowball you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:56 PM
23

Women shouldn't accept more than 1 date a week (with the same person, ofc. You can have 3 dates in one week with 3 diff people that's alright). Men think beautiful women don't get to be pickme and that beautiful women don't need a strategy...such a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 02:54 PM
46

"I'm not a tour guide" will use it from now on, good one! Personally if they offer coffee/drinking i say i don't do those, if they upgrade and come up with a better plan like a dinner date then it's good, if they complain/attack i unmatch. If they offer a walk/coming over this is the lowest of the low, there's no room for "negotiation". They just see you as uber f*cks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:47 AM
26

"Let me use you as a rebound as i imagine you are HER while i f*ck you" very tempting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 07:44 AM
117

Nearly every guy tried to convince me to sleep with them on dates, regardless if they paid or not (most didn't). The second i would say no they would call me a prude, "virgin mary" and claim i am stuck in the past as i refuse to talk about sexual topics with men are not my partners, let alone sleep with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:19 AM
10

They want her to submit in a "modern" pickmeisha way but be a virgin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 11:16 AM
31

They want a virgin who f*cks like a pornstar but fail to understand that this woman will most likely have religious beliefs (that mostly does not match theirs, most of these incels are atheists) and she will not want to do anal or anything kinky. And let's not forget that if they divorce, the man thinks he divorces the children too so in their perfect world the mother would either be gone from the kids lives or the kids and the mother are both gone and no need to pay for. They want to eat the ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:48 AM
22

Men treat dating sites like it's uber f*cks. Ordering sex to their place and refusing to ever cover the taxi/gas cost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:39 AM
349

Men be like "I won't pay for a stranger's food!" but will happily exchange all types of body fluids with her. They want to have everything yet give nothing in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 10:23 AM
53

For women average means average, not attractive. For men average means Hannah Murray, Jamie chung, Alisha Boe and Blake Lively. ​
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:34 AM
53

So if you don't have a fake tan or injections you're average? OK. Count me average then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:24 AM
39

"I forgive him because he cried" lol my ex cried too when i found out his lies and his border-cheating activities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 08:21 AM
9

If you can do well without him too then you're fine. Don't be too dependent on anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 08:21 PM
8

GURL hope he gets meds with those 120$ lmao he clearly needs them!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 08:20 PM
34

I believe women from such countries should be granted any citizenship of their choice so they can move and live in any country they want...only once their women are gone they will appreciate what they had!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:37 PM
28

I disagree with dating Indian or Muslim men if his parents don't acknowledge you/don't like you. They rarely go against their family and will just marry a nice Indian/Muslim girl of their culture to make their parents happy. Make sure their family knows of your existence, met you and actually likes you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:37 PM
30

They want to eat the cake and have it too! Free bangmaid that will carry his children yet if he decides to get rid of her she won't be able to ask for anything...this is their dream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:34 PM
53

So many men claim that we should be scared because we will be replaced by sex-dolls and synthetic wombs while so many men stay extra office hours just not to see/care for their kids and most of them can't even change a diaper. Married men and men in relationships are happier than single men. Men are only 'happy' single because they get to have casual sex and that's only if they're a 8/10 or above, anyone below has to lie in order to get casual sex or not get it at all. Men need women while women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 07:33 PM
5

I am slightly socially-anxious and i do well. It def depends on how severe the mental illness is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:00 PM
17

My ex was legit a manchild. I had to do the cooking (and he would complain that his mom's is better), cleaning and fold his clothes...never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 04:41 PM
37

I remember a post in MGTOW about an year ago about how women spend most of the money....no shit. Ya'll incels expect your wives to do the groceries and buy baby food and diapers, right? obviously it will cost a lot of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:15 PM
12

I suggest reading "the gift of fear". It's a good book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 10:45 PM
4

Bet he goes around saying his ex is crazy and unstable. Men LOOOOVE to leave out the part where they hurt you so badly you couldn't take it anymore and act as if it's one sided.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:14 PM
21

Exactly! No girl ever leaves a 5 year relationship 'randomly' and disappears. Same goes to men who are divorced....wonder what was their wife's last straw because no woman is going to have a child with a man she plans on leaving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:12 PM
5

My ex told our mutual friend that i cheated on him....i never did. He made me cut off female friends as i had 0 male friends to begin with. Yet he went behind my back doing shady stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:11 PM
12

Same! When me and my ex broke up (i found out he went behind my back and took his female 'friends' on dates and had sexual/'romantic' conversations with them and trashed me to them multiple times) he tried to hold me and stopped me from leaving so i slapped him and left. He goes around telling people i was physically abusive, this is the only time (and first) i ever raised my hand on any person in my life. No regrets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:10 PM
32

Exactly, we're done writing paragraphs and begging them to recognize their mistakes, ghost and block ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:07 PM
4

Exactly, if he got the chance to he WOULD. I never ever uploaded a half naked (even bikini) photos because i am wary of these type of men, ion want them in my DMs begging for coochie crumbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 05:02 PM
7

The perfect boyfriend (in terms of social media use) would have a Facebook with coworkers, high-school friends, friends and family and post you every 2 months or so. No instagram or barely active without following any girls that he does not know in real life aka no 'influencers' or half naked girls. No posting means cheater, obsessive posting means the relationship is bad or too clingy. For some it works, for me it doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:59 PM
2

He HAD social media until he moved to a different state. You is not a real show, it is pretty obvious. Mans thinking that he puts a cap on and becomes invisible lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:54 PM
26

It's usually the same guys who tell you what to wear and who to talk to! Comes in the same package!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:46 PM
223

And they try to gaslight you and make you think it's you being "insecure" and "overprotective" and "I don't even know this girl" but trust me, he would fuck her if he got the chance to. He's in her DMs begging for a response. Date men who are not on social media or barely active. Worked for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:56 PM
17

Dates should not be longer than 2 hours. It makes you attach and daydream about the person while for the man it makes easier to decide if he wants to date you, breadcrumb you or ghost you. Leave some info and stories for the rest of the dates. Coffee dates are just as bad as drinking dates. The idea of drinking date is to loosen up your boundaries under the disguise of "You can leave whenever if something happens". You can do it in dinner dates too, if the person doesn't look like the picture fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:33 PM
44

AGREED. Never ask a man on a date, if he tries to meet up with you then you can say "You can take me out" and if it's not enough of a hint then he's not for you, drop the man. Never go on second or third dates with men who don't pay. Should've politely paid your part on the first date (would not advise saying anything, after all you don't know the person and they can get back at ya especially if it's a small town/same college or university. Rumors are toxic.) and left and ghost him with no expla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:21 PM
59

I HATE men like him. HATE them. They think they get to decide if they count the r*pist in or not. Absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:23 PM
5

That's for sure. They were all above 6' and i would say 2 are even 6'2.5-6'3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:52 PM
10

I would assume she's about 5'3-5'5 so that means he would be 5'9-5'10? If he's 6' then the rest of the men must be 6'6 or something LOL. When she wears heels he would be an inch and a half taller than her as it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:38 PM
103

Amber and Jessica are the biggest pickmeishas. Jessica was clearly not attracted to Mark because of his height (reasonable though, same) and she wanted Barnett and kept denying it to herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:51 PM
44

Why go on a dating site anyway? what if your boyfriend told you that he went on a dating site to do this? Focus on your HVM, not the LVM on dating sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:48 PM
3

Agreed!! Better support local small restaurants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:55 PM
3

My ex-LVM loved to string along his 2 female friends and take them on dates and call me crazy and say im tripping and that it was just a friendly hangout...of course. If it was so friendly why did he have to lie to me about it? ;-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 01:45 PM
109

Wait is 4 hours long? he should've reserved. Why did you go with him to taco bell too? should've told him at starbucks "Oh it's late i should get going" or any other excuse (preferably the lamest one so he will understand) and leave. There is no indication if a man will pay..but you should always ask what does he do in life before seeing him imo. Just not get into detail, you can do that on the date. He didn't pay because he is paranoid ("whaaa girls want my lunch money"), egoistic ("im the priz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:29 PM
8

First message he basically want to sleep with you and excuses it with "attraction". Second message he wants to establish 'commitment' of you to him without committing to you in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:20 PM
2

Was he of a different ethnic background or a religion?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:51 PM
2

How do you know he will marry you? He might not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:51 PM
3

My ex and i broke up over his family not supporting our relationship and i was very not welcome at his house because i was from a different religion and ethnic background. I stayed and thought we can work this out....we couldn't. F*ck him, he was a sh*tty person anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:47 PM
3

"Who is that?" "Oh that's the crazy ex-girlfriend who couldn't just leave him alone on his wedding day." This. He only introduced her to his parents last year aka 4 years of dating...INSANE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:40 PM
6

My ex (atheist) was from a different ethnic background and a different religion, his dad didn't mind me (atheist) but his mom (very traditional) hated me, asked me for my n count and talked badly of me and it affected our relationship as he had a weak backbone even towards his female friends when they talked shit about me. We wanted to go on a vacation to Europe and she cut his passport in half so he won't fly with me yet allowed his younger brother who was 16 to go to Europe alone with friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:37 PM
5

This is why you should NEVER date someone who is from a religious family that's outside of your religion. She decided to stay and date him aka give him free p*ssy before he marries a virgin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:27 PM
31

With my ex (he lived 5-7 minutes away by car) he limited our relationship to meeting up once a week because meeting up more than that gave him "anxiety". Even simple meetups like coming over or going to the park. He canceled a lot of them for friends and his sidehoes so sometimes i would not see him for 3 weeks to 2 months so when i would surprise visit him he would softly kick me out or tell me he has to go to work/family and it would ALWAYS get canceled when i would get home and see him online…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:10 PM
17

IKR! they put the blame on you and make you feel guilty. Those type def need therapy. They want to believe they're never in fault and that you're trippin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:40 PM
14

GURL i just sent it to my best friends and we played it like a bingo in our groupchat! each had to mark the flags her ex gave her LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:38 PM
7

My country is safe to walk at night, i never felt threatened but i did get followed maybe once or twice in my life though i walk alone every day. Kidnapping is not a big thing in my country and definitely not kidnapping women or sex-trafficking. But you are very likely (in my country) to be taken advantage of on a date if you go out for drinks with him, it does happen a lot and it did happen to a friend of mine (she got out safely) but i do know girls who were less fortunate...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:00 PM
1

Same...they never stick to their plans and they don't show up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:38 PM
221

I remember when i was 18 my mom told me not to walk alone at night and i told her "It's okay, i'm more likely to be harmed by an ex-boyfriend rather than a stranger" and she got quiet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:35 PM
33

I hate when men try to change the girl they're dating, if you're not attracted then don't date her, simple!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:32 PM
16

After 3-5 days i expect him to ask me out, if he does then we keep texting daily (not 24/7) until the day of the date with him initiating the convos, of course. If he doesn't ask me out by the 7th day i ghost. If he asks too soon (on the day you started talking/day after) he is spinning plates and impatient, plays the number games and is NOT interested in getting to know you, even a little by text. I'm tired of men asking "When can i see you?" on the 3rd text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 10:30 PM
7

I always dress well and dress classy (skirts, dresses on a daily basis) and i got told by men that i overdress and they think i do it for them. Many men ranted to me about me being pescatarian (vegetarian that eats sea food) and tell me the disadvantages in it as if i asked. I don't drink coffee, i prefer tea and hot chocolate and i got called childish and boring, same goes to alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 05:35 PM
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They're just showing us that they're right. They're scared that every woman will become FDS and they will have to spend more than 5$ per date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 05:26 PM
1

When you know you’re pretty, you know another man is around the corner so you don’t feel the need to tolerate shit from losers. Very true, i've been at both sides. When i was on the uglier side i was very desperate for any bit of attention to feed my insecurities and tell myself i'm worth it and i got treated badly - breadcrumbed, ghosted, ignored, not even a second option. When i looksmaxxed (surgery, isotretinoin, changed haircolor and eyelash extensions) i started getting treated better by me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:44 PM
77

Why is high maintenance even offensive?? i rather be called high maintenance every day rather than be called easy or a sl*t!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:27 AM
31

GURL what did they say??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:23 AM
16

So tired of seeing her tweets, can one of us find out when her birthday is and gift her 10 sessions with a professional therapist? she needs one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:11 AM
7

I got called the crazy ex-girlfriend many times. I own it now, like yeah i'm crazy! and?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:58 PM
25

YES!! a guy chased me for a while and when he understood he won't get sex he blocked me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:49 PM
131

The fact he wrote in caps that she is not his girlfriend since he knows that if she was then people would treat the post differently but since she isn't she doesn't 'deserve' to be treated like a human being...that's why many guys refuse commitment, so they can keep pulling this shit without being called out for it or shamed for it. I know that if he was the one who spent money on groceries he would still invite her, it's not his money so he couldn't care less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:05 PM
24

I talked to this type of guy for months...waste of my time. Came back 4-5 times and only when i would ignore him for a week. Abandonment issues and commitment issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 10:27 PM
6

I met my boyfriend through gaming. He's not the type of gamer with 2 monitors, rainbow keyboard and a 3000$ computer, he just occasionally games maybe once every 2 weeks? i play on the weekends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 05:14 PM
34

I watch anime, so does my boyfriend and we're even watching the winter ones that are up right now. Animes have a plot (unless it's hentai/ecchi/yuri) and are def not 20 minutes of bouncing boobs. Any addiction is dangerous, cigarettes, netflix, weed, alcohol, chocolate, food, anime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:38 PM
218

Don't date guys who still have some contact with their ex, they either still love her and use you as a rebound/to make her jealous or never loved her in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:34 PM
164

Pickmes date vile men thinking they can turn them into the kind loving boyfriend. So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 01:44 PM
2

GURL i did. I am posting this because i see some women wondering about why coffee dates are bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 02:15 PM
6

Men are only sorry when you find out. My ex was seeing 2 other "friends" behind my back and buying them food...when i found out he called me crazy, paranoid and insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:43 AM
12

This HAS cost me, with male-friends and romantic interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:40 AM
2

I'm 5'4 and the amount of men that said they are 5'6-5'8 and are actually 5'3-5'5 is insane. I always get told i'm 5'7.5 and that i must be wrong....nope, you're just short and added 2 extra inches. My boyfriend is 6'2 and i get slightly over his shoulder when i stand next to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:31 AM
16

Men nowdays treat Tinder as an uber f*cks, like a sex delivery. They even expect you to pay your own uber when you go to his house....ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:22 AM
5

And the fact he gaslit her saying she's checking him....wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:42 PM
1

Block him. He wants it to hurt you and he feeds on it, act like you couldn't care less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:35 PM
21

Girl you're asking for the bare minimum. Set higher standards, dinner dates are important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:13 PM
43

That's because women around them excuse that kind of a behavior, their mom, sister, auntie, ex-girlfriend and female friends. I told my pickme best-friend when i dated my ex that he told me that he used to kill small animals (birds, hedgehogs, bunnies) when he was younger like 15-16 and she said "He was young, he didn't know any better and didn't understand that" GURL the age of consent in many countries is 15-16, so back then he could be responsible enough to consent and not get someone knocked…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:43 PM
8

I had something like this happen to me too! i was talking to a guy who said he is 5'10.5 and he turned out to be 5'6 in real life...he even admitted it. If a guy below 6' tells me his height i automatically remove 1.5-2 inches too. Especially if he's closer to the 6' like 5'10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:52 PM
3

What does it even mean??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:13 PM
18

Because they're close to "passing". The closer the man is to 6' but not a 6' the more bitter he is and the more likely he is to lie about his height. Men below 5'7 just deal with the fact they're short (or rant about it) while the average men are mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:11 PM
85

You chatted with him for too long, the texting for a week afterwards was a waste of your time. You should've said "I don't do those, you can take me out to dinner" or something like that, it gives him an opportunity and if he doesn't take it then unmatch and block. No good-luck messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:06 PM
40

Why are men so mad over women liking tall men? grow up. Literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:57 PM
20

I didn't fit my friend's standards (preferences) and i was okay with it, didn't mind it. We were just talking about our preferences. So i mentioned i prefer men 5'11 and taller and he went nuts because he's 5'7...on the other hand all my tall friends don't care about my height preferences. It really be those who don't match your standards that get mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:56 PM
42

Mansplaining attraction and relationships 101
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:45 PM
23

Small dicks suck, literally. ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:35 PM
14

The video is so good. saving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:25 PM
19

You shouldn't tell her to cut her off, most of us have pickme friends. They can be amazing friends but disagree on FDS principles, just don't bring up the subject at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:21 PM
26

You shouldn't feel like you have to defend yourself, just don't talk to them about it, they are not ready for FDS. You can say it weeds out the fuckboys and the greedy though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:20 PM
6

The whole subreddit is based on "women bad men good" and it is passed as unpopular lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:28 AM
58

Drowning in low value cheater dick. True story ;-(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:49 PM
1

I never date men with big noses as i find it very unattractive but i do date tall men with big hands and they all had a big or above average dick. Big hands = big dick Not always but more likely...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:46 PM
76

Some mgtow man messaged me saying it's consequences, if you want to held women accountable press charges, not hit them back, lol. They just want to find reasons to beat us like a kid in kindergarten saying "she started!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:24 PM
6

They say they're not ready for commitment but truly they're not ready to give up their other options and the other women they sleep with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:12 PM
3

GURL we might be from the same country omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:07 PM
33

If a man hits a woman he is filth, don't care what anyone else says. Yes, no one should hit one another and women should not hit men, so many men hit their wives and girlfriends and all their friends stay quiet. A woman slaps a man that cheated on her and everyone go mental and tell him to hit her back. Any woman who thinks it's okay for a man to hit a woman back is the biggest pickmeisha ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:01 PM
212

So many girls try to pass themselves as 'hoes' when truly they are just like us in the past. Wanted commitment and did almost everything to get it and got played. How many women can actually have sex with their crush and not feel attached or lose feelings?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:22 PM
15

Ask her not to talk about it/talk about it less because she clearly does not what your opinion, she just wants to rant. Just say "It upsets me and hurts me to hear about it and he's not going to change and you won't change your ways so i prefer not to hear about it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:19 PM
10

You should tell her "How people treat you is more important than how much you love them" but i would not suggest dropping her. Don't give her any relationship advice until they are broken up or had a bad fight and don't say anything about him, he is not your problem. Don't ask her for advices, don't tell her your successful dating stories ("someone paid for a date" and "my boyfriend got me flowers"). I have the same friend, she is amazing, funny and smart and her boyfriend is 8 years older than …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:18 PM
17

Degrading sex isn't about being HV or not, it's about a trauma (mostly) and less about the fun. Don't let men convince you to try it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:32 PM
21

My first crush requested my private IG (we haven't talked in 6-7 years!) , i blocked him. He was so disrespectful towards women like wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:29 PM
12

I blocked him everywhere!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 04:10 PM
79

Girl that's your ex, you broke up for a reason. Don't try to fix what cannot be fixed, you knew he was always like that and won't change. Don't text him back, ghost him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 03:00 PM
57

So many red-pilled and LVM on reddit say "Pretty women don't need a strategy to date" well my beautiful girlfriends got used by fuckboys or led on. Every women needs FDS since every other subreddit focuses on men's benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:52 PM
34

Exactly. So many red-pilled men don't understand the value of emotional support and think all we can offer is p*ssy. Men are happier in relationships and marriages rather than women, it's a fact. A lonely man is usually a depressed/sad man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:47 PM
26

Omg i went on a few dates with a guy and when we met back to my place (not for sexual stuff, i was on my period) and it wasn't even late, it was maybe 8PM. He started unzipping his pants and said "Don't you think i deserve something in return?" and i said "What do you mean?" and i was genuinely confused so he said "Well...i paid for all 4 dates...i think it will be fair if i get something back" and i kicked him out lmao. Man's delusional! Ever since i don't invite men to my place unless we are i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:45 PM
190

I was breadcrumbed by a guy, one day we'd meet up and it was wonderful and fun. Other day we'd text all day...third day was silence and ignoring me for 2-3 days. When i told myself if it happens again tomorrow i'll block him, he offered to meet again and i happily bite. Then repeat! I blocked him and he came begging and i simply told him to fuck off. Biggest LVM i ever met, not even joking. If someone is hot and cold with you, block him. He's either confused about what he wants, has 4 other opti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:41 PM
2

Girl even if you don't answer on monday and i hope you won't. Please update if he did text on monday. I'm curious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:36 AM
4

Same. I know those type of men and i interacted with them, they only text you when they're bored to see you running back to them to boost their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:34 AM
3

Yes but only after he will make up his mind about wanting you or not. In the meantime, if you'll date it'll be 'cheating' so he basically trapped you or tried to. Next time a man asks to be exclusive this fast you decline and politely and say "Umm i don't know you that well yet"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 10:31 AM
6

He wanted to be exclusive because that means you will not sleep/date anyone while he decides if he's serious about you or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:19 PM
11

Lol i got told something similar and we never met too. He never planned to meet me. I hate men who use women as their emotional little pet on text but never plan to meet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:38 PM
23

GIRL LMAO, bet his roommate is happy that he cleaned the apartment at least!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 06:38 PM
10

Very true! This is one of the ways you can tell between a HVM and LVM. HVM care for themselves, their health and their sexuality!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:58 PM
56

I read a post on fb about how some guy took off the condom mid sex with the girl then she got pregnant and he started crying and saying she just wants his child support and to get rich by that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:44 PM
116

Exactly! Why do people keep acting like adult men are stupid and have the mind of a 5 year old? they know what they're doing, hold them accountable for their actions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:57 AM
75

So many men that live an hour away and expect you to travel TO THEM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:56 AM
17

Exactly! That's why i'll never download tinder. Most of the men there feel entitled to sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:55 AM
1

Because they know what they do is wrong but they want to get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 11:28 AM
32

Dating a liar is the worst. You start assume he lies about the smallest stuff and always ask for proof. My ex could've texted me "good morning" and i'd go outside just to check if it's actually morning. Biggest liar i ever met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:45 PM
5

My boyfriend sent me flowers on valentine's and a note despite being 3,000km away. I'm seeing him in less than a week and he brings many gifts with him. He is caring, kind, always thinks of my favor instead of being egoistic. He likes to treat me to a dinner or some nice dress that i liked and decided to surprise me. He says seeing me smile makes him happy, he is not scared to open his social media in front of me, he does not tilt his phone. We've been together for almost 3 months by now. So far…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:41 PM
1

Well he could've told her that. He was just bothered by the fact she sent it and now people know/assume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:36 PM
15

I dated a man from a different culture, ethnicity and religion (my family is Christian, i am an atheist and so was he but his family was slightly religious and not Christian yet very cultural) and after 2 years of dating he admitted he never intended on marrying me and plans to marry a girl from his religion so his family will approve. His parents and friends knew about me, i went to his place and his parents were very rude, made comments about how i am probably sleeping with many men and NEVER …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:31 PM
8

That's why i set my bio to what it is now. It stopped most of them ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:15 PM
4

I’m around 5’4, which is average for a girl. But most people THINK I’m like 5’7. I am 5'4 and people think i'm 5'7 because i have long legs and because they're 5'6 thinking they are 5'8.5! I wear 3-4 inch heels and i am taller than most guys already. Guys tend to assume 5'1 is average for a female or sumn. I never had a problem with my height and i still don't but apparently guys do. I get called short in Europe and attracting North-West European men yet tall in my country, my country's average …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:08 PM
5

They immediately ask your weight like it matters. 140lbs as 5'8 and as 5'2 looks different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:01 PM
6

I used to not care about height until i dated a 5'9.5 with a short man syndrome cause all his friends were 5'11-6'1 and some girl rejected him because she was 5'10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:56 PM
13

They prefer white/east asian girls and think it's normal and "acceptable" yet women preferring someone taller than them is the end of the world? they're crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:55 PM
7

I dated a short man and he was super controlling. Tried to tell me what to wear, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 01:51 PM
95

Eww sitting in the uber's car seat with your bare p*ssy! wtf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:36 PM
25

That's because so many men have a shit personality that we're flexible when the guy has a good personality. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:15 PM
27

They expect their woman to be below 100lbs, tiny waist with a flat stomach, hourglass body shape and big perky tits that don't sag despite being DDs but complain when we ask for a guy who's taller than us. WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:01 PM
44

I don't hate short men, i'm simply not attracted therefore i will not date them. To them it's the same thing. They're mad at women for having 1-2 physical preferences yet they have a whole list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:52 PM
5

I had a nose ring and when i took it out suddenly men stopped approaching me on the street with sexual offers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:38 PM
2

Serious anger issues, tells people lies about me (she cheated, she left me for someone else) yet tries to text me every month. Anxious, Manipulative, Gaslighting, Depressed, liar, dated other girls behind my back and tried to pass them off as his friends, called me crazy and psycho, told his friends lies about me, only wanted me for emotional support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:49 PM
6

GURL don't give him the benefit of the doubt. He said what he said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:36 PM
14

I got called insecure by an ex because i refused to let his pickmeisha female friends talk me down and call me a bitchy witch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:23 PM
30

Love how men use honesty as an excuse to be assholes. Some guy told me i look nothing like my picture (i look exactly like my picture but with acne scars which i also told him of and told him that i don't have a clear skin).When i asked why he said "Well...your skin is very nice on the picture and in real life it's...not as good. I'm just being honest." while he has acne under his beard that grows in patches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:19 PM
347

These women don't realize that their husbands fetishize those type of girls (goth, emo) and not actually want to date them. Men fetishize everything, ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:45 PM
3

I am 5'4 and men tried convincing me that i am 5'8 and very tall for a woman just because the 6' in their bio turned to be 5'8 in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:32 PM
3

It doesn't even feel good at 20-30, you're being used and ignoring your gut feeling all along while crying to your friends about how that guy ignores you and ghosts you. That's a pickmeisha's dating life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:31 PM
6

The gift will be from the family, not him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:46 PM
6

I got called demanding, crazy and psycho. Demanding because i expect men to pay on dates and expected a gift on my birthday. Crazy because i told my ex tilting his phone away makes him look like he's hiding something and i was right. He was seeing girls behind my back. Psycho because i would do the mirror behavior. How they treat me is how they will get treated and people get soooo mad when you start giving them the same energy they've been giving you the entire time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:11 PM
186

Wish i found FDS when i wasted months on a guy who was hot n cold, i would get ghosted and ignored for 3-8 days then he would come back as if nothing happened. He ignored me every day yet read the messages within minutes so i assumed he's not always on his phone (bad attempt to convince myself, deep in my heart i knew damn well i get ignored). When we met up he was on his phone the whole 'date' and even texted his ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:22 PM
7

Lol i was the "evil ex" so many times because i simply refused to let them step all over me or deal with their bs and lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:53 PM
25

Exactly! if you tell a woman about a guy she will be honest with you and give you the facts even if the truth hurts. If you tell the a man about a guy he will pass you off as crazy, overacting and need to give him another chance. That's their bromance, so at least one of them gets to f*ck. He does not think of you, he thinks of the guy's favor first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:49 PM
26

And also keeps telling them about your relationship, even the most intimate stuff between you. They will always be biased towards him and see you as the witch that is mistreating him and giving him a hard time instead of letting him step all over you. They will even talk of you badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:47 PM
19

Exactly, and he will use everything you told him against you. They don't actually want to support you, they want to have more info about you that they can use against.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:45 PM
33

My ex was mad at me for expecting him to pay, once i was gone from his life and blocked him everywhere he told our mutual friend (which is also a close friend of mine) that he misses the emotional support i gave him and that he feels so alone and cannot talk to anyone about his problems. Can't relate though, i talk to my girlfriends about stuff that bothers me. It's his fault for not having meaningful connections with his male friends and only talk about gaming and anime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:44 PM
31

"I raised my son to be an incapable adult who won't survive without a caretaker to take my place. Will you be that caretaker?" I went on like 5-6 dates with a man and when he told his parents about me they asked if i can cook, do the laundry, clean AND work full time so i won't be a "parasite" like umm excuse me lady YOUR SON is the parasite if he expects all of it, not me. This man was 22-23 not knowing how to cook because his mom refuses to let him in the kitchen as it's a "woman's work".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:41 PM
7

Many LVM go like "YeAh BuT aLcOhOl Is A dRuG tOo!" as if we ever said we're interested in alcoholics, lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:37 PM
7

Most men who smoke weed will spend 1/3 of their paycheck on it and then complain about being broke. I stay away from men who smoke (weed and cigarettes) like fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:35 PM
43

This is what society teaches us - to be grateful for the most basic manners (paying, opening the door for you, actually reserving a place at a restaurant), ya'll think they'll split the pregnancy too? lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:34 PM
89

When guys complain about women not liking nice guys it's a big red flag to me. Women like nice guys, you're just not as nice as you think you are. A 'nice' guy will open the door for you then get mad when you don't get on your knees and instantly suck his dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:31 PM
24

Exactly, i never seen a tall guy being so bothered about height unless it's a tall LVM being upset that his 5'7 best friend doesn't get to f*ck as much as he does. He doesn't mind dating a 5'10 or a 5'2 while short men obsess over 5' women then get upset when their son turns out to be 5'3 instead of 6'1 when no one in their family is anywhere close to 6' and so the circle repeats. Short men also lie about their height a lot, i met at least 3 men who claimed to be 5'9-5'11 when in reality all of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:28 PM
173

Why do women even engage in casual sex with strangers? it is not empowering, it just puts your safety and health at risk and the guy might even try his kinks on you (choking you out of nowhere, peeing on you or anything degrading) because he doesn't care about you or your needs. Many women don't even orgasm from PIV sex and i doubt many strangers are willing to go down on her after they came yet she was left unsatisfied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:21 PM
33

Dear pickmeishas, most of us have been in your place in the past so we understand why you do what you do and why you see potential in your low effort boyfriend/husband/fwb but he will not rise to meet your standards. You can do better, i promise you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:18 PM
93

You'll be surprised what beautiful women do just to get their ugly bf's approval :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:13 AM
19

Exactly, last valentine's i had to beg my ex for flowers so he gave me 1 rose after nagging him for 2 weeks. The upgrade!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:18 AM
330

Cannot believe anal, threesomes and BDSM are now 'normal' and expected by many men. Disgusting. Worst is, if you've done it before (anal, threesomes) with an ex and you tell that to your current then he might expect you to perform the same thing for him or "you don't love him enough".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:45 PM
93

If you notice all the men who are into BDSM are porn sick and the women are usually traumatized or were abused as a child/teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:41 PM
87

My bf lives very far so he couldn't be here on valentines...still sent me flowers and a note and he's coming over next week with many gifts. Some of ya'll (especially pickmeisha lurkers) don't even get a "Happy Valentine's!" text from your man who lives 10 minutes away, let alone flowers or to take you out to eat. #BlockHim2020 because you deserve so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:59 PM
30

GURL he's racist. That's how guys with an aryan fetish talk!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 08:14 PM
374

"I can't" more like "I don't want to"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:55 PM
37

And they still don't accept her and see her as a 'slut'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:47 PM
54

GURL i got taken to Mcdonald's and the guy pretended to forget his wallet....there WAS a second date. I cannot believe myself. He wanted the third date to be at his place and i said no so he blocked me and we never talked again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 02:20 PM
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Only bad dates i had were the ones i compromised for and told myself "He's not my type but personality is what matters!" :-(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:25 PM
36

Exactly! most situations are women that like a guy a lot and want even the worst type of attention and affection aka sexual attention since they clearly won't get his attention in any other way. Girls, don't sell yourself short and become his toy while he looks for the one he's truly interested in. If he doesn't like you then he shouldn't know what you look like naked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:50 PM
26

FWB situation can only benefit women if the guy still takes them out to eat and pays and still cares of them aside from sexual stuff, otherwise you're setting yourself for a heartbreak while gaining nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:48 PM
3

I used to not understand why is FDS against coffee dates as coffee dates in my country mean going to a cafe, order coffee and food (def not just coffee) and then the bill comes and you see if he pays or not so i didn't understand how is it different from going out to dinner and only then i realized that our coffee dates are basically going to eat lunch and not a 'coffee date' that's described on FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:42 PM
54

Very true, happened to me with 2 men with one of them being my ex and the other one wasted my time for months while refusing commitment (i asked him to become official like 3 times, ah, old me). Each time i showed signs of moving on they would reach on a platform i forgot to block them on and say they're sorry and i fell for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:41 PM
46

Literally run! I used to talk to a guy who was somewhat attractive and tall and very fit and he said "You're a 6.5 but if you showed more skin in your pictures you might be an 8, let me see" and he always talked about hot girls that come to his work like chill...you work at Starbucks dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:19 PM
37

It starts with pressuring you into anal, then going to a stripclub with friends and then a threesome FFM. It never stops until he cheats because nothing is ever enough for these type of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:38 PM
43

She just wants to rant, she does not want any advice. That's the worst part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:37 PM
13

Most men's ego is so fragile that they cant stand the idea of us not cumming from them simply putting their 'magical' dick in and that we need more effort than their pencil penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:35 PM
25

Hope you unmatched/blocked him after that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:34 PM
51

That's what she gets for marrying a guy who probably took her on a coffee date as their first date. They're not used to spending money on their girlfriends/wives, any guy who bought his girlfriend gifts and paid each time they went to dinner would see that 1000$ is not a big amount of money for a dress. On another note, coffee dates are the worst. It's like a job interview where you realized you don't want to work at the place aka don't want to see him ever again and he realized you're overquali…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 03:17 PM
204

Many women do everything for their son because their husband refuses to help and their son grows and thinks it's normal that women do ALL the housework, pick up their husband's dirty underwear and care for the children and on top of that also work full time while their husband earns 5% more than them and calls it 50/50 and equality and then their son expects the same of his wife. They also end up living at their parents place at 28 while playing fifa and eating paprika flavored lays chips and go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:31 AM
5

I don't know about this one, i mean i see where you come from but my best friend let it happen for 8-9 months dating while he says he doesn't want to date other people yet he would not commit to her.She was seeing 2 other guys aswell, one was the lowest of the low LVM that leaked his ex's nudes and their sex tape and the other one was a super sweet guy who always paid, expected nothing sexual in return and wanted to lock it down with her. The first guy expected sex after casual dating for 4-5 mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:49 AM
39

Good vibes only = I don't have enough braincells to deal with your 'drama' aka wanting commitment and i expect you to put out on the very first date so i can ghost you afterwards and come back 2 months later with some lame excuse, you'll let me f*ck again and i'll ghost you again and repeat. For these type of men 'bad vibes' means commitment, relationship, not putting up with the bs and lies and actually expecting investment and effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:35 AM
78

"You're not even that pretty to be treated how you want to be treated" Told by a guy who's legit a 2/10, not even joking. "I'm the best man you'll ever find, you won't find anyone like ME" Thank god, that's the point!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:32 AM
35

Each time i see a couple with a half West half East European child - the EE part is always the mom. EE men really are the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:30 AM
27

Why would you have a child while your marriage is breaking? The marriage was doomed to begin with, a child won't save it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:25 AM
14

Exactly, if i ever choose to have a fwb in my life i would still expect to be taken out to eat and him paying. Why do men think that the netflix&chill fwb actually works with anyone other than pickmeishas?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:38 PM
3

I absolutely love Halsey, she's very feminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:34 PM
9

Exactly. Some guy i went on like 3-4 dates with and broke it off because i refused to put out tried to message my friend and flirt with her and she blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:32 PM
25

Very true, wtf is the "personality matters the most" lie? they both matter, why do people pretend like looks matter less? ya'll wanna have ugly kids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:28 PM
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so even if you’re in a relationship, the moment they get attention from somebody else you just totally lose them. This. I gave a 4/10 chubby guy a chance and the moment he got attention from other girls he started acting like i was the ugly one and i had to literally beg for his attention. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:27 PM
35

They refuse to pay for our meal because we're a stranger to them but they'll happily exchange body fluids with us. WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 04:24 PM
25

My ex would freak out when i would pick up his phone just to use google maps and would rant to me about 'privacy' yet go through my phone many times...i didn't mind though. I don't talk to guys so he would go through my conversations with my girlfriends to see if i'm cheating/talking about him. He would always flip the phone around when we would hang out so if messages pop up i wouldn't see them and he would even take his phone with him to the bathroom and toilet. It was so weird because he only…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 02:29 AM
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Honestly the wall exists in men's minds so they can have a reason being 35 dating a 19 year old and lying to her that she's mature for her age. On another note, women are less likely to hit the wall than men. Women are expected to be tidy and all made-up and stay at the same weight they were when they were 21 despite the fact they have 3 kids now, society is more harsh on women and expects them to care for themselves more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:15 PM
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LMAO so true though! If the relationship bring more pain than joy it's not a "hard time" it's just not worth it. Leave him today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:13 PM
29

Artists really don't tend to be HVM...they're always into open relationships and non-monogamy and try to get you hooked too. They're always expecting you to stand by their side forever and only want kids at the age of 45 if at all and they're always anti-marriage and like to talk how marriage kills men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:12 PM
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LOL i was like that as well! Kept trying with my ex and it was on and off when truly it should've stayed off. Waste of my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:09 PM
30

Almost every guy is sex hungry, even HVM. They're all deprived but the difference between a LVM and a HVM is how they react when you say "I'm not ready/don't want to have sex" because if he tries to pressure you into sex, shame you into sex or still keeps asking/trying then he is low value. You shouldn't go to his house when you're not even officially a couple to begin with, even if other people are there you shouldn't. It makes him feel comfortable inviting you again since you already been to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 04:08 PM
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"Sleep with him on the first date to see if you're compatible" or basically in other words "I'm trying to get my manhood some pussy so if i don't get it, at least they will". They give you advises they wouldn't give their sister, daughter or mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:38 AM
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Every time a man messages me complaining about how i expect a guy to pay on the first date i ask "Well, that's a way to weed out the cheap, fuckboys and low effort men. If you have another suggestion i'd love to know" and they NEVER answer, they know FDS works and they know it weed outs the LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:36 AM
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GIRL they think the number is 1, if it's higher they go nuts even if theirs is quadruple yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:34 AM
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But if a guy wrote this the comments would be praising him, ah, the difference!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:33 AM
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LOL is his surgery in 20 minutes or something that he's waiting? His surgery is probably in 8 days or so and that's just an excuse, i hate the whole "spoil him 2020" trend. So dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:31 AM
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And the more partners she has, the more she'll compare him to previous partners. I never compared my sexual partners but my sexual partners did ask me to compare them to others and asked if their dick was bigger, who gave a better head, etc. It's so weird how insecure some men are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:05 AM
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So many men think that this sub is anti-men. No, it's anti-low effort men. Every time a woman reads a post here it reminds her of a man she used to know, sometimes it's someone she used to talk to and sometimes it's her bestie's ex but it ALWAYS reminds her of a man she once knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:05 PM
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Men like virgin women because then they can't know that he's bad and has a tiny penis. Also, why do men keep acting like virgin women don't know what sex is and act like she's a child? it's so disrespectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:00 PM
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My friend's friend is slightly religious (not to the point of saving virginity till marriage but still) and she dated a guy for 1 year. On their 1 year anniversary she decided to have sex with him and he was her first and he knew it. She woke up to an empty bed and he blocked her everywhere possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:58 PM
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they claim to love blond hair , because these features are extremely rare so only a few women can have them, and when they meet a blond woman they will tell her that Asian and ethnic women are cuter. This. And when they meet a WOC they tell her white european/pale east asian girls are the best. They just want us to feel worthless with a standard we can never achieve. Almost none of us marry the first person we had sex with and neither do the guys, why not leave it back in 1920? Most guys who say…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:55 PM
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Wonder how long it took the husband to convince his poor spirit-broken wife to have a threesome with another woman. My heart goes out to the wife who probably had her husband nag her about it for 2 years until she agreed just to try and 'save' the marriage by basically agreeing to him cheating and my heart goes out to the woman writing this post who doesn't understand that they are not friends at all and that she's just a sexual tool to the husband and the wife probably hates her already. If you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:50 PM
5

New boyfriend, we've been together (aka ever since he asked for commitment) for 2 months now. I know him for about 4 months and a half. I'm going to get him 2 button up long sleeved shirts and a jeans jacket and a cute note. Some people might say it's too much for valentine's but i didn't get him a Christmas gift nor a birthday gift since he had his birthday when we were together for about a week yet he did get me a Christmas gifts and always pays for dinners and occasionally buys me small gifts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:26 PM
9

Does it only work in the US?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:16 PM
3

Exactly! My boyfriend takes me to nice places and buys me gifts all the time, he likes to spoil me and he likes to see me happy and smiling. Each time me and my ex went out to eat, he never reserved and i had to reserve, plan and order and he would complain all the way to the restaurant and ask if we can just go to McDonald's instead :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:46 PM
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FDS works. I'm in a loving respecting relationship with a HVM all thanks to FDS. Otherwise i would've gone back to my ex for the 4th time or met a new LVM and gave him a chance because "everyone deserve a chance".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 02:58 PM
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When i was 16-17 i met a guy who was 26. I knew the age gap is alarming but i was willing to give the relationship a chance as long as we take it very slow and not rush into stuff. Well, he did try to rush into stuff (especially sexual) without even giving commitment or taking me on dates. He was very average looking and a little overweight (it was very visible), no good paying job and smoking lots of weed and eating unhealthy, complaining about his ex (she was 2 years older than him, wanted to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:24 AM
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Focus on having fun, don't stress about whenever he likes you or not. Ask yourself, is he worthy? do i like him? No drinking on a date (you need to be sober), no offering to pay/splitting the bill. No continuing the date to the late night hours (1-2AM) and not go home with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:51 PM
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He doesn't have to cancel his plans either. If you start canceling your plans it will make him get used to it. Why did you tell him you flirt at work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:35 PM
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"What do you bring to the table?" I am the table, what do you bring to me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:04 PM
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Finally. My bestie's friend hooked up with a guy and he set a camera on the shelf and she found out half an year later from a facebook message asking "Is this you?" with the video. Apparently he shared it in sex groups on an app with many members that also share local girls they had sex with. She was devastated and ever since she does not have casual sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:47 PM
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If he always takes hours to respond then yes. If it just happened for a day or two it's okay, it happens, it happened to me too that i forgot to respond to someone's text. But i do not believe that guys are never on their phone...it's the same guys that will take 5-7 hours to respond and you can never have a consistent conversation with them for longer than 2 messages yet when you meet they will be on their phone 24/7. Also you can see them posting on their IG story while ignoring you...it's ter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:53 PM
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Or was never married to her... I remember i was friends with a LVM that tried to date me and his sister is 24 years old. She has 2 children with a man who is 28 and they have been dating for 6 years and he refuses to marry her because it's such a "big commitment" and "it's only papers anyway" as if kids aren't big enough of commitment. If it's only papers then just do it, marry her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:33 PM
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It is! Back then women went for the "alpha" that can hunt because hunting means food and protection. Now that hunt is money since money means food and protection. Simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:24 PM
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LVM want to split everything until it comes to house chores and taking care of the kids because "that a woman's job". They want to eat the cake yet keep it full and pickmeishas who split the bill help these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:23 PM
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Women get raped, assaulted, mentally abused, gaslit by previous partners and what not yet expected to remain mentally healthy with a blank sheet. Men get hurt by their kindergarten girlfriend when they're 5 and they're forever abusing women because of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:21 PM
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Do any of you even share your Reddit usernames? i don't tell my friends that i use Reddit or my username. I just share FDS opinions without saying FDS or mentioning Reddit. Whats up with their revenge fantasy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:58 AM
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I suggest you all follow that twitter page, such good tweets. Every time i think of texting an ex/someone from my past i read those tweets and then i decide not to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:38 AM
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There's no 10 for them. They will always complain
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:10 AM
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It really be the ones that got nothing to dig and earn mcdonalds salary that are scared gold diggers will take away their dollar bills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:08 AM
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Why do guys think it'll work? i had a guy invite me over 5 times and i always said no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:06 AM
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And they'll still cheat in a heartbeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:43 PM
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It's enough to take a peek at the sugar life style subreddits to see that they have 0 interest in broke men and men that earn an average salary and those men try to leech off the sugarbabies and lie to them in order to get sex. It's disgusting. They want NOTHING to do with these men and these men still go after them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:39 PM
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With my ex, i always felt like there is a girl in his life...he kept being on his phone and hid it from me even when i wasn't looking. With my new man i am calm and it feels natural, doesn't hide his phone and takes me to nice places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:57 PM
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The comments on here make me so upset, women go through hell with breakups, divorces and low effort men and get told to "get over it" yet still expected to be mentally healthy to date while men get a free pass at refusing commitment because their kindergarten girlfriend kissed another dude when he was 5 y/o.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:37 PM
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Lol same. He did nothing in the relationship but make me feel bad, gaslit me too and made me feel crazy for asking to see his phone because he was always texting. I was right about what i saw, him making fun of me to his trashy female friends that hated me to death because they both liked him. After we broke up he started taking me places, giving me gifts, stuff he never did in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:32 PM
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I bought my ex gifts worth 250 dollars when i was younger (19) and i worked very hard for it and i even made cute letters and a cute box with memories and pictures of us and the location where we first kissed. When my birthday was around the corner and he was big talk...talking about what he would buy me and what cute notes he would write...nothing. He took me to the mall and told me to choose something that isn't expensive and then ruined my birthday by being on his phone texting his hoes in fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:29 PM
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Then I stayed after I found out he was still seeing the same girl! GURL i think we were seeing the same person! my ex didn't cheat but he let his trashy female friends talk badly of me and even joined them...calling me bitchy, controlling (because i wanted him to celebrate New Years with me instead of babysitting his *14* year old little brother because his rich parents are too cheap to get a babysitter for 3 hours) and told them about our sexual life. I told him to cut them off 6-7 times and it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:24 PM
7

I wrote a long 2 pages colorful letter to a man almost a decade older than me when i was underage (we worked together) and the letter included a confession that i like him and see our lives together and he said we can't be together (he led me on for months) because of our age but we can still f*ck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:15 PM
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Each time i dated (or even befriended) men from Europe through gaming they somehow assumed i'm trying to steal their citizenship (I'm from the Middle East), nah bro you too ugly for me to date in the first place. Honestly, the ones i dated didn't care if i 'steal' their citizenships or not but their families were bothered by it. A friend from a West-European country wanted to visit me and his parents were asking what have i done in my life (achievement-wise) in order to date him. I did not inten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:35 PM
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Men think 7/10 is average and when they see a skinny brunette girl with an okay face walking home with a hot guy they think it's a girl going above her league...nah it's a cute girl going home with a cute boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:00 PM
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You can try and flip the script and see if he plays to your rules but he most likely won't and will just leave so be ready for that. When you set high standards people either: Rise to your standards Try to lower your standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:43 PM
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And then men be like "What do women have to offer?!" Divorced men and single men are more likely to be miserable and commit suicide rather than married men and men with girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:42 PM
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To me and to my boyfriend the baseline of our relationship is not sex but to get to know each other first. Maybe stop basing relationships around your dick? that'll help them last longer. If a man does not want to wait for me he doesn't have to, but if he wants to get to f*ck me someday then he will wait. I don't care for the biological excuse to that, i don't want to ever experience that feeling and doubt myself and my sanity and waiting 3-4 months and sometimes even half an year worked out for…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 04:22 PM
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It's enough to peep at the sugar-life subreddits to see that they want nothing to do with average income men and the average (and below average) income men try to deceive them and lie to them in order to sleep with these women. These women only seek rich and wealthy men, not broke tinder boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:16 PM
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Right?? like chill bro you don't have what she wants. Never heard of gold-diggers who go after broke men, they just want to feel that in some sense (even if it's financial) they are wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:51 PM
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5'11? yes, big yes. 5'8? no. I wear 2.5 inches heels and we look the same height, it's so unattractive to me. I'm dating a 6'2 and no one tries to steal him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 10:37 PM
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True, but women who actively seek a relationship should not act surprised when he ghosts her after she has sex with him on the first date. I don't make exceptions for anyone, sometimes the 3 months rule turns to 4 and 5 months. It's just that at 3 months i can say that i know the person well and after 2 weeks i don't. I get it, sometimes you click and you just want to do it with him but personally i like building sexual tension since i believe having sex with a partner you like a lot and know we…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 04:54 PM
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Very sorry for all the men in the comments who cannot experience a genuine relationship without anything sexual. I enjoy forming memories that aren't built on sex, just enjoying the other person's company is enough. I prefer to sleep with a man after 3-4 months knowing that i can fall asleep in his arms and wake up in the morning and he will still be there and like me the same exact amount. I don't need to get pumped and dumped to get to the conclusion of making men wait, i heard enough from fem…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 04:49 PM
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I met so many men that pretended to be good and kind and waiting 3 months showed their true colors, usually within 1 month and a half. Exceptions should not be made if you have your own rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 04:43 PM
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Right?? if you're mad at her for not sleeping with you after 1-3 dates cut her off, you're doing her a favor. The trash takes itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:40 PM
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They're mad that we won't accept them forcing themselves and their fetishes upon us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:39 PM
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They're so mad that IT WORKS. I always made my exes wait and all my romantic interests wait because i have seen my girlfriends get pumped and dumped and how much it hurts and makes you question your own worth. I don't need to experience a pump and dump to know that there is a very high possibility of it happening after the 1-3 first dates if i sleep with the man. I've seen how it hurt my friends and it hurt me seeing them like that, my heart goes out for any girl that experienced it. It got fuck…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 04:37 PM
5

GIRL my new boyfriend got me a cute Christmas gift while my best friend (dating the biggest LVM fuckboy) was buying snacks so when he comes over they have snacks and food, the food he brought from work since he's 26 working as a waiter and a highschool dropout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:43 AM
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GIRL same! call me a pigeon because i was breadcrumbed like hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 12:41 AM
3

What if he pulls out his dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:38 PM
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Right? i found a HVM 3 months ago and i'm so happy dating him, he matches all my expectations (so far) and my preferences looks-wise. He got me a Christmas present (i had to beg my ex for one and never got one because he was from a different religion so he "doesn't celebrate" and that's why he didn't get me one, poor excuse) and he takes me to nice places (and pays, always) and we make nice memories without doing anything sexual, my other exes always wanted to stay home and watch anime or footba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:35 PM
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So many men who could easily be a 5.5 if they had a good hygiene, a good haircut and hit the gym 4-5 times a week and eat healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:30 PM
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50k?? girl 50$ only not 50k!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 04:18 PM
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To all the mad comments and mad lurkers: FDS works, it's a fact. The second i started using the FDS method all the fuckboys disappeared from my life, all those long-time-texters-no-meetup faded away and the LVM got ghosted. I suddenly meet HVM in places i didn't know they exist. Those men want to put in effort and those men don't spin plates and go on 4 dates a week with 4 different women. What do i bring to the table? myself. If he wants to date me he needs to put in effort, otherwise he can sk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:48 PM
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First of all that is a popular opinion, wayyy too popular. Go fight for equality somewhere else, not in the dating life. There so much to fight fore (rape culture, racism, wage gap) and ya'll choose to fight for paying on dates? dating was never fair towards anyone, not even in nature mating. Not all males get to mate, what do i bring to the table? well, if he wants to date me then he needs to put effort. If he thinks i bring nothing or not worth dating he can skip me and go date someone else, i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:42 PM
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GURL same! i was equality all the way, now i just assume that women that split the bill 50/50 think badly of themselves, like they're not worth the effort! These women need to fight for equality somewhere else (wage gap between men and women, fight against rape culture, etc) rather than fight for paying for dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:37 PM
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He's 24, i never mentioned his age so i don't see why you'd assume that he's 32. He only had 1 ex (and another one in middle school for 2 months but i doubt it counts) and he dated that ex for 4 years. What i meant is that he is no longer in contact with his ex, they broke up a little more than an year ago. I see so many men that still keep contact with their ex or how their ex is their 'best friend' and that's insane. He doesn't even have her on social media and not in his phone contact, no whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:32 PM
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I met him online (not on a dating app), honestly i met many men online but they were mostly LVM and fuckboys. I remember i met this LVM once and he lived somewhat far...like many driving hours? he told me to come to him and i said "No, if you want to see me you come to me" and he said "You can come stay at my place for a few days but not for free of course, i'll do it cheap for you like 50$ a night" and i was shocked, free bang maid that pays HIM? wtf! is he an airbnb or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:30 PM
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Because men use word plays. All the "Let's see where this goes" when after the first date he already knows where he wants it to go and "I'll settle when i find the one" clearly knowing you're not the one yet not hesitate to use you. How many women on dating apps looking for hookups compared to men? it's more relevant towards men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:17 PM
10

TRUE. I experienced it myself, he was dating 5 other women but got upset when i refused to answer if there's other men i'm interested in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 12:24 AM
54

I got so many "Happy new year" and "Hope you doing good" from unsaved numbers like damn who are you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:50 PM
51

So true! so many beautiful women with shrek looking men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:38 PM
8

Lol i get the "You look like a good girl" boy stfu before i'll show you my katana skills!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:38 PM
5

I was breaking out when i was stressing and dealing with my ex and i was breaking out when i was dealing with some LVM fuckboy who ghosted me 4 (yes! 4!) times and i kept letting him go back to me and stroke his ego. When i dropped both my ex and the fuckboy (diff times ofc) my skin cleared up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:28 PM
21

If they keep offering or trying to convince/shame you after you've said no....they are LVM. If a man is going to ask me at the end of each one of our dates to come to his place it will make me not want to see him because i'll be tired of always saying no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:20 PM
1

Jewish in the US or UK?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:24 PM
3

All the Eastern-European men i talked to never asked me or any other girl on a proper dinner date...just bar dates and walk in the park dates. So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:21 PM
11

I am a 7 and the lowest i'd date is 6 since it's above average and can be considered attractive but men who are solid 3 and 4 keep acting as if we're on the same level like?? I had men who are 2/10 say "Honestly you're acting too mighty for a 7" lmaoo men really think they're entitled to women who are at least 7.5/10 if not above when they're 3 at best, got no money, no education and live with their parents. They hate to date their looksmatch and keep aiming for 9/10 women and then act surprised…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:11 PM
2

Yes, men who ask weight simply try to give us 'equality'. Why would someone ask me weight? i can be 5'1 and weigh 140lbs and i can be 5'8 and weigh 140lbs, both are 140lbs but look very different. Besides, if i have a body picture then he can already know if he's attracted or not regardless of weight. I weigh less than my friend but she looks a bit thinner though she's 2 inches shorter. Also, height cannot be seen on pictures (unlike weight) at all and many women including me are not attracted t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 09:07 PM
12

Deadass i felt like some crazy stalker. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:56 PM
5

I'm from South-West Asia from a traditional country (would not say religious, i prefer not to specify what country). I do not belong to the religion as my parents are both Christian so i feel like many men see me as eye candy, someone to f*ck but never bring to their parents as i am from a different religion and sometimes they immediately assume that i'm a whore/slut/easy because i don't belong to their religion. I dated locals and the first thing they ask me is "what's your religion?" and i'm s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:51 PM
7

GURL this meme came for my throat fr. So true, 16 year old me was all over this guy when truly he was 5 at best and NEVER took me on a single date. He gave no commitment and kept trying to pressure me into sex and was obsessively talking about virginity!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:16 PM
54

I used to crush on someone and i would check his social media often and he didn't even have me added! wtf was i thinking? what am i, Joe Goldberg?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:14 PM
38

Exactly, these LVM don't even want a relationship they just want sex and they LIE just to make their dating pool twice as big. How many women engage in sex with strangers often? 10% or less. Not speaking of women with a fwb or women who had hookups in the past, speaking of women who do it often with different partners each time and do it currently for a long period of time. These 10% rarely settle for your average Joe and below. Out of 100-200 first dates he will get to f*ck one or two if he's n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 04:07 PM
15

She just wants a higher standard of living and to get his citizenship, he knows it so he's trying to trap her with 3-4 kids. Hope she snatches away his citizenship and runs away loool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:08 PM
53

I swear they're all white supremacists that hate on other races. Open r/mgtow and r/shortcels and you'll see how they bash brown and black women daily and call them unwanted and "low sexual market value". So disgusting, it's terrifying to think that i could sit next to someone with similar thoughts when i take the train/tram. I wish we could somehow recognize them so we can avoid them in real life too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:03 PM
65

They want female validation and interaction so badly that they message us :-(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:58 PM
22

who puts locks on the fridge and kitchen cupboards so his wife doesn't gain weight Lmaooo i'm wheezing!! men are so surprised when their wife gains 20lbs like she doesn't carry a child and about to give birth to a new human-being!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:56 PM
16

GURL if she'll go to r/relationships with that story they will burn her on a stake and call her a gold digger, ungrateful and a b*tch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:47 PM
16

he couldn't put 50$ aside every month for an year to buy you a ring? sounds like he kept delaying it until the last second and only then bought a ring...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:44 PM
21

If he all he can afford to spend is 60$ why marry him, especially if OP is not young (i'm assuming)? My ex got me 100$ jewelry after we dated for like 3 months and we were in our late teens. He just put money aside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:42 PM
30

He just described his fantasy, if he's so successful and rich why does he sit behind his screen and type that bullshit to pink-pilled feminists instead of focusing on his virgin wife? by statistics, more than 40% of the girls in Russia have lost their virginity by the age of 15. Those who don't lose it and are over 19 most likely save it for rich western men to marry them so they can get a EU/US citizenship and then divorce him quickly. If they are not rich, successful or have a 'superior' citiz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:35 PM
104

Ask an incel what a good woman is and watch him describe a slave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:28 PM
2

Most of the women had a nightstand or casual sex, i'm speaking of women who do it often and not with the same 1 or 2 people in a fwb situation but different partners each time. About 10% of women engage in such sexual activity. Speaking on a daily basis, 50% of the women would not have sex outside of a relationship. It does not mean they never hooked up or had a fwb, it simply means that as of their current situation they prefer not to do so even if they did it once, twice or 10 times in the pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 05:08 PM
27

The height difference warms my heart <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:01 PM
6

Women only want one thing and it is fucking disgusting: not to be manipulated or promised a relationship just to get sex. I've seen so many guys who say they'll settle down and get in a relationship when they meet 'the one' so basically means using other women while looking for someone you're more attracted to instead of just being honest. They make her think she will be the one sooner or later when truly they don't want anything to do with her (that isn't getting their dick wet, of course!). Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 02:14 PM
2

I love wearing heels and be 5'6-5'7.5! i feel powerful and way more beautiful but when i see the height of most men it makes me wanna be 5'3 :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:40 AM
7

Half of the men i went out with split the bill with me! i felt disrespected and wanted to leave. Whatever good time i had ended the second they asked to split the bill!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:23 AM
20

You're a stranger when he buys you food but not a stranger to invite you to his house to f*ck? ok!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:20 AM
29

women for following the laws of nature (and actually doing our species a favor by weeding out bad genes). They're mad because we won't give short, balding, stupid, low effort, ugly men our time of the day. No regrets! love rejecting men who don't deserve me <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:12 AM
28

They're mad because their genes are bad and no one would want their DNA lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:10 AM
28

The higher a man's body counts, the more likely he's had to use manipulation, or even rape to get there. Not the same for women. This, all the men that i dated and had a very low bodycount (below 5, most had it at 1) were never manipulative. Not even once. On the other side, nearly all the men (except for 2 who were amazing people but it just didn't work out, their body count wasn't even high tbh) were manipulative, sexually demanding and cannot understand a no. Also very disrespectful towards t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:08 AM
7

GURL is that Johnny Sins? lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:04 AM
41

They LOVE "Sexually liberated" girls until it's their own daughter, mother or sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 03:03 AM
31

Lol i did it to someone and hasn't heard from him in 2 months, after 2 months and a half he texted me asking to catch up and i blocked him. Stop texting them and see how many dead plants you've been watering!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:54 AM
20

Please say sike!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:52 AM
40

No bikini pictures or anything too flashy or big-cleavage pictures, it will attract all the creeps sadly. You don't message first at all! Put 2 face pictures, 1 body picture and maybe a picture of you and your dog/cat/any pet or a picture doing something you like doing (drawing, sports, etc). 4 pictures should be enough to know what you look like. Use recent pictures and not snapchat filters or facetuned ones. You unmatch/block if If they text you for 3-4 days without asking you out on a date. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:48 AM
4

I know it is, they're all should rot behind bars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:21 AM
3

They recorded the consensual sex but not the rape, they raped her after they finished recording.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:41 PM
24

Ayia Napa is a very very dangerous place for young women, they rape-drug you and then rape you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 06:31 PM
48

Both Cyprus and Israel have a very bad rotten rape culture. She was forced into signing it up and she was threatened by the police while these rapists went back to their homeland and celebrated in the airport while calling her a whore, a slut and cheap. She agreed to have sex with only one of them and he lied about his name, age and ethnicity. He is 15 and said he's 21. They leaked the sex tape on every porn site...you can probably find the video on Pornhub or something which is very sad because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:31 PM
7

That's not what i wrote. Clearly. Many short pickmeishas shame tall and short women for not wanting a short guy which is okay. Not everyone have to like short guys and not everyone have to give everyone a chance. You think men give everyone a chance?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:16 PM
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Exactly! shortest man i ever met was 5'4 tbh. I can be 5'8 and weigh 130lbs and i can be 5'2 and weigh 130lbs, it will look different. Maybe he wants my BMI too? haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:04 PM
1

I see what you're saying but i like wearing heels and still have a 3 inches difference at least :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:02 PM
3

I know, i'm talking about the pickmeishas who shame taller women and short women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 12:00 PM
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Because men LIE! they always add 2 inches to his height, i was okay with dating 5'10 until i found out that every 5'10 turns out to be 5'7. So unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 11:57 AM
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True, as 5'4 i would NEVER date a 5'7 or 5'8, i'm not short, just average. But short women definitely have more options. I like wearing heels and i still want to have a 3 inches (at least) height difference when i do. I figure out if a man is tall or short by how he reacts to my height, every man above 5'11-6' calls me tiny/short while 5'7-5'9 men say "Oh you're not short/you're kinda tall".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 11:54 AM
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That's because they are Ashkenazi Jews (European originated jews from Poland, Russia, Germany). If you meet a Mizrahi Jew he will most likely be 5'6-5'7. I'm 1/8 Jewish. Ever met an Israeli tourist? they are not very tall, maybe 5'7.5 or 5'8 at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:57 AM
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I'm 5'4 and i'm scared short men would still try to date me (5'7-5'8) since they're still 2-3 inches taller than me...also whats up with men asking "how much do you weigh?" when i ask them how tall they are? lmao. Height is not something you can see on pictures but body pictures can indicate if i'm skinny or not. My close friend is 5'7 and she loves heels, she's so beautiful wearing them! she met a guy on tinder who was somewhat a 7.5 out of 10 and they talked, they had different religious opini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:48 AM
1

So true! Went with a man who said he was 5'10, turned out to be 5'6.5!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:40 AM
18

They claimed they both weren't ready for marriage and i see why, he started dating her when she was 18 or 19 and married when she was 26, he's 3 years older than her so it's reasonable. 25 and below is kind of young to be married, 26 too but i see it as more reasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:10 PM
10

I never put a height requirement but i wonder what do i do if we already moved to texting and i ask his height before meeting and he turns out to be short? do i block? do i say something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:56 PM
7

Charming, makes me smile and laugh a lot, kind and polite, family man who loves his family (but still knows not to be obsessed with them) and likes animals. Love these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:38 PM
16

I get shamed for being 5'4 and dating a man who's 6'2.5! Why do pickmeishas feel bad for the short men but not for their own gender?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:34 PM
23

No LVM has all three: A bed border. 2 pillows or more who are not flat. Clean sheets that he changes weekly and well put and don't look like they're crawling for their lives and trying to escape from his cum tinted mattress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:29 PM
133

Wanna show it to all the guys who tried to only meet up at 10PM or later /drag the date till 1AM-2AM but i have them all blocked :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:50 PM
196

Women f*ck after 1-3 dates = "Slut" and "Whore" Women f*ck right when they get into the relationship = "I realized i don't want a relationship, it's not you it's me" and more lame excuses because he finally got what he wanted. Women f*ck after 3-6 months into a relationship = "Prude" and "Nun" They want us to be virgins yet f*ck like porn stars, they want us to be prude and high value towards any guy but make an exception for them and f*ck them on the first date, they want us to be skinny yet ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:45 PM
77

If a man truly likes a woman he will wait months, years, as long as it takes her to feel comfortable and safe, he wants to build a relationship with her. He likes being around her, he likes taking her out to eat, cooking together, introduce her to his family and friends, he's proud to have her even without having sex. If a man does not like a woman he just keeps thinking to himself "When will we fuck so i can ghost her" or "Her coochie ain't worth it".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:44 PM
17

Lol same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:41 PM
7

He should've played Ted Bundy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:36 PM
32

casual sex isnt for average men Yes! so many posts about how tinder is was not a success regardless of what pictures they put and how they added 2 inches to their height and still got no matches, it just didn't happen! Hot men don't have to lie about their height or say that they want a LTR just to make their hookup pool bigger like average men do. Dating is unfair, deal with it. Dear 5'8 average looking male lurker, get a sex toy and stop using and bothering women who only want a relationship w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:25 PM
23

Honestly i need to have a physical attraction to the person and not just to their job or how successful they are. The man has to be above average looking so i can find him physically attractive and has to be tall, those are the basics for me (looks-wise).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:22 PM
32

It always be the 5'7-5'8 boys!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:21 PM
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I see why but he can lie to you and say he deleted it when he didn't, what if his phone gets hacked or someone steals his phone? you can never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:15 PM
26

I was talking to a male friend who lives in the UK and he said he used to have tinder and i asked "Well, how did it go for you? failed like all the rest? :)" and he said it didn't work out really well and i jokingly said "Haha well maybe you didn't pay for dates" and he said he only took them to walks in parks, not even wannabe romantic to say "picnic in the park/beach" and be a cheap romantic. Just a walk in the park, i asked him "Did someone really agree to that? i'm surprised. I would simply …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:14 PM
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If the man signals early on that he's not paying, and you don't feel like doing the water-sipping staredown, leave & delete/block. GURLLL i went on a date with a guy who was asking "do you want me to order you anything else?" or "do you want me to get us a dessert?" or "if you're not full i'll order you something else, it's okay" with a smile and then split the bill like HUH? why would you say it then? i blocked and deleted him when i got home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:25 PM
21

I want men to pay to make it harder for them to spin plates, if he dated 5 more women he cannot afford me. Simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:21 PM
32

They all wanna be feminist until it comes to splitting responsibilities in the household, all of the sudden they don't know how to do the laundry or cook and we have to do it for them while also paying for the bills, of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:20 PM
106

I read a post about how a guy went on a date with a chubby woman, slept with her and only after he slept with her he 'magically' found out he's not attracted to her and just blocked her everywhere. He didn't even think she deserves a break up message, just block and ghost. Men are so disrespectful towards the women who shared their intimacy with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:14 PM
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Straight up not true, out of 20 dates a man will go on maybe 1 will do it just to get a free meal and it will be pretty visible, she will be on her phone, not pay attention to what he says or the topic. That's an excuse they made up because they don't get sex on the first date and it upsets them. They don't see us as people but as a financial investment and ask themselves what are the chances of getting sex tonight and if it's worth paying for. Less than 10% of women engage in sex with strangers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:09 PM
17

Then they should ask themselves why it fails, maybe they're racist? sexist? bad breath? bad hygiene? All they do is blame women as if they're entitled to sex on the first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:06 PM
31

So true, if they can't give us a special dance or show us a special colorful feather like in the nature then the least they can do is pay for our meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:04 PM
64

They're soooo scared of gold diggers like sweetheart what makes you think gold diggers like broke men? you don't have what she wants 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:03 PM
19

a close female friend OR close relationship with a sister or female cousin is a good sign Why? so he can gaslight you? "she's also a female and said its OK to ignore your texts when i go out with friends and it's OK to flirt with other girls when i'm drunk so you're in the wrong". That's what you'll get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:59 PM
18

All the male friends i ever had tried to date me or get sex. I am occasionally talking to 2 male friends who live in different continents and they never showed any interest in me. We send each other texts every 3 weeks, like each other's pictures on social media and check in on each other, nothing more. No flirts, no selfies sent to each other. Any "close" friendship is basically the guy liking his best friend but she has a boyfriend or not interested in him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:57 PM
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I don't sleep with men if there's no commitment. I don't care if he sleeps with other women if we're not official but i won't be one of them, like another FDS member said "I won't be joining his harem". If you ever slept with a guy and then he randomly got into a relationship out of the blue that's why. Women sexually satisfy themselves by using sex toys, men sexually satisfy themselves by using other women and giving them false hopes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:47 PM
53

Letting the date go on for many hours till the late hours of the night, a date should not be longer than 2 hours, leave him some stuff to talk about for the second date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:37 PM
5

Honestly no doubt she's a queen. For real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 09:07 PM
34

Apparently the one guy she hooked up with also lied about his name, age and ethnicity, he said his name was Sam and that he's 21 (he's 15) and didn't say he was Israeli. These men also leaked the video and uploaded it anywhere possible, leaked her personal info and called her a whore and a slut in every possible article that was ever made. Even though revenge porn is illegal in Israel, no one ever did anything about it. I also read another article that said that local women in Israel raised a fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:53 PM
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Doesn't talk to other women of low quality THAT. That hit hard! My ex always gaslit me and said i'm insecure because i didn't let him talk to 1 girl who was speaking badly of me! wtf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:42 PM
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Cool girl doesn't really exist in real life They do but men hold her accountable for hookups just like they hold other women, she's not any different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 08:40 PM
62

After 6 years? girl he's not saying it because he doesn't love you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 06:34 PM
22

Yeah lol like pls say sike!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 06:33 PM
71

Generally speaking, Israel has a very bad and rotten rape-culture and if you google up "rape in Israel" you'll find out that most of the rapes are gang rapes where the rapists are mostly underage or in their very early 20s and about 60% of the victims are underage and 90% of the rape cases in Israel are closed with no further inspection. It is also said in one of the articles that when they came back to the Ben Gurion Airport in Tel-Aviv they celebrated as if they are invincible and sang along "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:14 PM
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If im online dating (okcupid, tinder) then i mention in my bio that i'm looking for a LTR and nothing else. If i swiped right on him or responded to his message then he is my type lookswise. I don't tell him what i look for in a guy personality-wise, i'll find out myself if he's what i'm looking for on a date (if he doesn't pay or very rude to the waitress) or maybe even earlier through texts (if he's turning the conversation sexual).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:06 PM
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A guy did that to me too! i definitely thought it was rapey and desperate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:07 PM
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Honestly i see it hard being friends with someone who rejected you, especially when they tell you about THEIR romantic interest. It hurts. I see OP's point tbh. Been there :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:55 PM
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I feel like you shouldn't have text him that much and the "Idk lol" was useless. You should've just said "I like coffee or be taken out on a nice dinner :)" if he takes it then good, if he doesn't then unmatch. No need to tell him "giving you my boundaries" or "if you can handle adult communication" they sure can, they just not always want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:49 PM
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I'm the only one who's less worried about them finding my social media but more worried about my phone number written in toilets in pubs and clubs or on pornhub or any other hooker site? Like let's say they find my IG account, what they gonna do? stare at pictures of me in Bali until i die or until i text them back? lmao. They can have fun with my social media, it's all secretive anyway. Let's say they do contact my friends...what they gonna text them? i never sent this man anything (no nudes, n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:46 PM
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It's up to you, i wouldn't have sex with no condom no matter what and i am on BC for hormone regulation and period regulation (otherwise i'll get my period every 35 days). I do let them know that i am on birth control (after we're exclusive, of course) and that it has nothing to do with me having sex and i'll always do it with a condom. If it bothers them they can walk away :) You ask him to get tested before you start getting sexual and actually see his paper. If you want to have sex with no co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:41 PM
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Big no, what if you divorce at the age of 50? you never had a career, you don't get child support as your kids are over 18. You get no money or a career. It was efficient back in the 50s when divorces would never happen because women would be too ashamed to do so...if you have a creer and money you don't need to forgive your cheating husband. That's for the best. Many men can control and financially abuse women, don't trust them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:04 PM
3

A man will call you shallow if he doesn't fit your preferences or standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:51 PM
3

My family is christian and when i dated a man outside of my religion (we're both atheist so i didn't care) he didn't get me anything for christmas because he 'doesn't celebrate it' lmaoo! Poorest excuse ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:26 PM
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I also thought about the 8 years before they got engaged but you're forgetting he is 3 years older than her and she got engaged at 26 and not at 30. 26 is very young to be married imo, she didn't feel rushed and neither did he because of the age difference. That's why i stopped dating men my age and started dating men 3-5 years older than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:23 PM
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Not true at all. If they turn into LVM because they 'put a ring on it' then they were LVM pretending to be HVM to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:08 PM
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Honestly true, i liked a guy a few years ago who is a HVM and he was a few years older than me but i was underage back then so he simply told me "Honestly you're a great person but you're too young for me, i wish you all luck" and eventually we stopped texting after a week or two. He sent me a few messages but i never responded. A different scenario which happened when i was 17 and the man that i liked a lot was almost 9 years older than me - he asked me to come over to his place to hookup and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:05 PM
11

No they just post pictures of them in a bikini and these men thirst over them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:31 AM
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Porn is addicting, but Instagram girls? how is that an addiction? it just means he does not value you if he keeps looking at other women. Porn is harmful just like any addiction but Instagram girls is not an addiction, never was and never will be. He just doesn't value you or like you. Why marry at the age of 20? your 20s should be fun, you should travel and study instead of taking care of a man who has no self control and gives up to his poor addictions and keeps looking at barely legal teens a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:35 PM
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All my exes had very little social media and never posted much (no Instagram or Instagram with no pictures, no Facebook or Facebook with not much posts but just pictures with family, etc) and to me it's a big plus. I'm not very active on any social platform. The one guy who i did go out with a few times and had semi-active social media and very active on Facebook he was a douche and had many DMs from other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:17 PM
35

He also wrote "night" instead of good night, the lowest of the lowest. To me it screams "I don't care enough to wish you something nice" or "I'm mad".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:00 PM
17

Because he knows that she was not actually rude...it's like the 'crazy ex' they're not truly crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:59 PM
23

I do have the heart to do it but i feel for my own safety first. You don't know the person you're going with and a person suggesting a vacation without knowing you is a big red flag. You might as well get trafficked or get assaulted/die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:55 PM
29

If he does it he's either: ashamed of you dating other women Stay away from men like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:08 PM
69

But every woman has a bad experience with men, if it's an abusive ex or a rapist. Mental abuse and gas-lightning, cheating. A man gets rejected by a woman once or cheated on in middle school and he treats women badly forever and excuses it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:00 PM
28

True, the men who get rejected the most are those who become women-hating incels that wish us bad stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:57 PM
72

Girllll a vacation with a random stranger? no thanks! I prefer to stay alive and not be somehow assaulted :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:52 PM
19

So true. Men love playing the victim when it comes to standards, rape culture and sexual preferences and boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:37 PM
31

They really do have androids with cracked screens lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:32 PM
38

So many men bully their girlfriends into saying yes or put pressure on them. If a man does not respect your no he does not value your 'yes'. Stay away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:56 PM
76

They want unprotected sex so badly yet hate to deal with the consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:04 PM
47

Yessss! 100 times yes! I wanted to make a post about how men who hate animals (or cats, more specifically) are a red flag. I have a cat and she's so cute and soft, getting along with a cat takes time. The cat needs to get used to you and see what's in it for them to be around you. All the men i've dated and disliked cats or strongly preferred dogs were egoistic and arrogant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:34 PM
8

Honestly i'm done with this conversation, i don't know what you're trying to get by commenting here because you're clearly only looking for trouble, go get a job since you're so bored. Yes, i game. Yes, i mainly talk to Europeans as they are the closest in my timezone. I don't know about American men. Most of them either make darker women a fetish or don't like them at all. I've been gaming for years and i barely met any European men who were okay with dating a Hispanic girl (unless she's thick …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:06 PM
4

GIRL you're so racist yourself. Southwest asia is the middle east. You clearly hate everyone don't you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:51 PM
11

I'm from Southwest Asia, lmfao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:46 PM
13

Absolutely obsessed. Get well soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:40 PM
-6

Lmaooo you really out here calling me ugly and fat, i really do hope you find peace sweetie, you really seem to need it~♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:38 PM
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I said i like tall men so he said i should give a chance to shorter men, he said he likes pale skinny women so i offered he gives a chance to chubbier women and darker women and of course he refused because he "Doesn't get attracted". I see why most of your comments are downvoted so much, you spread so much hate in other subreddits. I truly hope you find inner peace instead of trying to create pointless fights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:06 PM
17

Let's be honest if he was tall he wouldn't give a f*ck about short men. He just feels bad for himself getting rejected all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:02 PM
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Because as little girls we grew up with the thoughts that if we're not pretty no one will love us or marry us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:56 PM
17

I never met a woman who prefers 6'5 and above and if they do it's most likely because they're tall too. I'm ok with 5'11 and taller but some men lie about their height...how 5'10 in chat turns out to be 5'7 in real life if not shorter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:52 PM
7

Well that's your opinion, i'm not really short so i like tall men. Nothing wrong with liking average height men or short men, it's just not my thing personally. The whole point is that men have way more preferences when it comes to looks and they can't always pull up the "WeLl FaT wOmEn CaN hIt ThE gYm!!" since they refuse to date flat chested women, tall women, women of color, women with brown eyes or dark hair, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:50 PM
4

Because many white men refuse to date women of color for various reasons as the comments stated. They only see women of color as eye candy but never a girl to introduce to their parents :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:47 PM
12

Gurllll don't bother, men don't care about our feels or needs. All they think of is "fat don't make my peepee hard so it's not good"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:10 PM
14

i'm 5'4 and i feel very tall, i like my men 5'11 and taller preferably 6'. I love tall men :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:04 PM
76

Lol exactly! he called me shallow like boy see if i care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:14 PM
36

Why men think OLD is hard: she won't f*ck me on the first date >:-( Why women think OLD is hard: creepy men, bizarre sexual suggestions from men, couples asking to join their open relationship and have a threesome, flaky men, men who lie about why they really on Tinder/OkCupid and do word plays to get us in bed, men who ghost right before the date/right after, men hiding their flaws (balding, bad hairline, bad jaw, beard), men who try to make you insecure or lower your confidence, men who don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:16 PM
12

That's why i always google up the movie time in the specific cinema. And why would you go to a movie on a second date? you're still trying to get to know him... Btw, LVM can only keep up to the 5th date maximum, after that they will show their true selves but it usually happens in the first 3 dates thankfully. Stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 10:05 PM
6

How to improve yourself can be found at r/Vindicta, they have good tips. If you're on a budget then r/EatCheapAndHealthy would fit you. You can also google up random recipes on the internet, if you follow them correctly then it will most likely be a success. Styling your hair is important but if you curl it or straighten it too much it will be burnt and lifeless. Give your hair some rest sometimes. If your nails break easily then get acrylics or keep them short, depends on what you like more and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:29 PM
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If a man is on his phone all the time when you're together Then he's not interested, regardless if he texts you back fast enough or not. Being on the phone while you're together is very rude, it means he doesn't appreciate your time together!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 03:15 PM
140

Exactly, men don't play hard to get. If he wanted you he would be at your door, not the other way around. Stop fooling yourself, upgrade to a better man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:29 PM
9

I have a friend who's not the best looking (not ugly, just average) and she draws people to her because she's very funny and fun to be around. I used to have a friend who would draw people to her because she's a 8-9/10 and no personality, she would just laugh at people's jokes even if it wasn't funny. She was just comfortable to be around and very beautiful. If you're not a 7.5+/10 or have a special trait (very funny, very smart, a leader type of person, positive and fun to be around) people wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:26 PM
64

Why is he 31 and in a band? 😭😭 Girl stay away from all those artistic types, they're no good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:22 PM
67

We ain't doing it anymore, 2020 we start treating people the same way they treat us. Mirror behavior. Don't like it? upgrade and treat us better, otherwise you get treated the same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 01:54 PM
24

Girl same! i found this subreddit through a woman-hating subreddit and they complained about FDS. Love it here. Love reading each one of your stories and tips, it helped me a lot!♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:35 AM
11

Lol these men get sooo creative with their word plays! Sad to say i fell for some bullshit too and he stopped talking to me when i said i'm only looking for LTR!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:32 AM
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Exactly, if it bothers them so much then they better suggest a new method to weed out fuckboys because netflix&chill dates or go-dutch dates won't do it. It bothers them that they know we're right and that's how we weed out those reddit men too. They're sad because we won't let them use us :-(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:28 AM
7

I'm kind of curious how dating is in India, does the guy pay on a date? do they even go on an actual date or just to the park? does the girl always refuse to date men if she's young? do older men 25-30 usually date underage women? how is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:05 AM
151

Literally a rapist. Wtf is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:50 PM
115

Come see me Nah, you come see me. Does the egg swim to the sperm? hell no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:01 PM
83

Honestly both genders could look good at the age of 50, women are just more likely to take care of themselves (skin care, work out daily, eat healthy) while men just drink beer and eat fries without realizing their metabolism changed ever since they turned 25. Women get more criticized for their looks as they get older while men are literally couch potatoes with big beer bellies and expect a 21 year old college student to date them while providing nothing (no hot looks, no money)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 07:46 PM
69

So true, if he's not rich (financial support) or very good looking the lady has 0 reasons to be his side piece and let's be honest...most of the men who beg for poly are average minus with nothing to offer. He keeps dreaming about all the p*ssy he's going to get yet gets none.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:54 PM
15

Then they wonder why they never get a second date and why they have no success on tinder/okcupid and why they get ghosted. Lmao. All of them are clearly not looking for LTR but a FWB/hookup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:32 PM
16

Ew and the guy who called it "getting my dick wet" so disgusting! at least have some respect for the women you sleep with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:28 PM
10

I'm 5'4 and feel like i tower over other women too and it's average height! It sucks. Especially when my short 5'-5'1 friends lie and say they're 1-2 inches taller than they actually are...it makes me feel like i'm 5'7! it makes me question myself like am i really 5'4 or was the doctor wrong all these years?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:23 PM
21

If he's really that broke why he goes on dates? If i had no money i wouldn't go anywhere but to work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:17 PM
14

There are so many men who are scared to talk to a woman because her nudes got leaked or her ex posted revenge porn. If they will talk to her it's only because they think she'll send them nudes too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:05 AM
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Honestly so true, the answer they want to hear is 1 or 0. If he's very very feminist then 1 and a half. Don't tell anyone how many men you've been with, even if it's third of the amount of women he slept with - he will judge you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:48 PM
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You let him put in the effort first. You don't put anything in (including feelings) unless he does so. They aren't willing to put in the effort because they know pickmeishas will still date them regardless so why pay on dates or take you out to nice places when he can invite his pickmeisha over for netflix and chill? it's free and he gets sex without commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 09:54 PM
25

It's exactly what i described in one of my posts. Went on a date with a 3/10 man who looked super incel-ish, he was short 5'6, chubby, yellow crooked teeth, hooded eyes, thin lips, very round face with bad bone structure, manboobs, wide long nose, neckbeard and beard growing in patches. I asked him to describe his dreamgirl and he said pale, preferably a virgin, blue/green eyes, long blonde hair and a defined hourglass body that weight about 100-115lbs, shoe size 35-36EU (childlike), very short …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:06 PM
8

"At least i'm not fucking for free!" only goes after women who do hookups. If someone says it to you, you just simply respond with "Am i supposed to charge my boyfriend for that?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 12:22 PM
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Privacy = not obsessively post about each other or tell everyone everything that happens in your relationship but people do know and aware that you're in a relationship. His parents and family know you, his friends know you and your friends know him. He posts about you on social media every once in a while to keep it updated and show that he's still dating you. Secrecy = no one knows you're in a relationship except for him, you and 1 or 2 of your friends (and you told them to keep it a secret to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 11:53 AM
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Even when asked, why the f*ck would anyone ask that? crazy men. And i would never marry someone if i knew i can't trust them with such a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:49 PM
13

Good idea. I feel like it can be a test to see his reaction, if he reacts badly dump him, he is deeply rooted in rape culture. The second a man uses something i told him against me i walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 03:31 PM
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My friend told the guy she was seeing that she was assaulted and he also told her "I don't think it was that bad"!! Who the f*ck raised them? a robot? because some men clearly lack empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:49 PM
17

I feel like you should tell them but no details and only after 6 months to 1 year commitment. a HVM will not use anything you tell him against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:47 PM
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I feel like you should tell your partner if you're still influenced by it (panic attacks, anxiety, PTSD, etc) but not go into any details and only tell your partner after you've been officially dating for 6 months to 1 year. A big mistake i used to do is text men for months before meeting them and it created kind of a closure so i would share my life traumas with them and sometimes it was used against me. If someone (even your partner of years) uses it against you - run. Some men see sexual-abus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 12:14 PM
5

True, especially if you're young (18-30) because then texting reflexes their effort before meeting up. Most of the people who were flaky in text were flaky in real life too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 12:04 PM
7

Exactly! i will never fuck a man i don't know. He can try to choke me or do any other BDSM act and think i'm into it or not stop when i'm asking him to stop. It's a big risk to take!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 12:25 AM
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I know but i feel like this specific video was very true and even i fell for it without noticing. All the 5 signs. Many millennial women fall for texting because of how often social media is used nowdays, i text men for about a week and i expect the man to ask me out within 2-3 days. After 4-5 days i grow impatient and consider ghosting. I admit it. I love texting and i don't mind texting sometimes as long as there's plans made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 07:47 PM
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I had a text relationship with a man for 1 month and he kept dropping hints about how he wants to meet up and take me out to eat but never proceeded to ask me out or take me anywhere. He showed all the signs above! slow texting, ghosting, mainly texting me between 2-4AM. Only time he wanted to meet was when he said he'll pick me up at 7 to go eat and i waited outside for 42 minutes like an idiot and then texted him "Where are you?" and he said he's home and asked me to come over instead and i sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 04:19 PM
9

I know right, that's when men say "she's just a friend" like huh i see what kind of 'friends' you're having.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:57 PM
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Fan-fictions should be banned and deleted. Here's why: It divides between the actual group members (BTS, One Direction, etc.) and causes the 'shipped couple' to distance themselves from each other to stop the 'shipping' and ruins their friendship (Harry and Louis from One Direction admitted it ruined theirs). Each time they're together people edit their photos and make them very sexual through photoshop. It's sickening! It gives young girls unrealistic expectations and makes them 'ready' to date…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:37 PM
25

Don't date gamers. That simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:26 PM
19

They are the LVM we talk about! They got no job or a degree and no hobbies so they got nothing else to do. They be messaging us stupid stuff and think to themselves "Ha! that'll show them!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:15 PM
13

Same. I check the post history first and only if they don't post in women-hating subs i read the message. If it's a hate message i block. I get a lot of "Hey" messages with no context from new users (made their account less than 24 hours ago, etc) and i block with no response. I am not interested in getting to know men on Reddit. I only welcome female messages/questions and females that lurk the sub. If it's a new user i immediately assume it is an incel messaging me (regardless of what his text…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:09 PM
4

I looked up the first two and was so disturbed! wtf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:47 PM
2

Exactly! if you live with your boyfriend without engagement and a date set you basically live with a roommate that fucks you. That's it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:44 PM
8

They expect us to trust them and say "Not all men" but when we do get assaulted they blame it on us and ask why we went to a stranger's house...OK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 04:40 PM
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Ah, yes. One of the "I'm looking for a relationship" that only says it just to have a bigger dating-pool while actually wanting a hookup/FWB type of man. Love when the trash takes itself out <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:00 PM
17

Personally i wouldn't date a trans man and if someone lies to me about it i would def consider it catfishing...i mean if you know i would stop seeing you because of it then why force it? find someone who will get attracted to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:56 PM
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Lol your therapist has no idea, female therapists are better imo. Second of all he's a male with the understanding of dating as a male and all their dating tips benefit men ONLY. FDS benefits women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:50 PM
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When someone tells me that i simply say "What makes you think that?" with a smile :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:46 PM
25

I feel like many men start OLD just to take the piss and make fun of women and then many men wonder why they get ghosted or why we never respond to their "Hey you're cute can i take you out sometime?" copy paste bullshit. So many "I got a girlfriend/wife and i'm looking for friends/hookups" accounts. I never seen women make those type of accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:28 PM
5

He tried to kiss me again and told me "Loosen up a bit!" and i told him i'm sick and went home and blocked him. Another man tried to forcefully kiss me after a date and i ran away! wtf is up with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:25 PM
7

She refuses to leave because she says "I worked hard to get him, so many women liked him and he picked me!!" but truth is he only started dating her because she lied that she's a virgin and refused to sleep with him for 10 months and he puts 0 effort into the relationship. They've been dating for half an year and he took her out on a date 0 times (they always meet up at his place) and never paid for anything. Nearly broke up with her when she asked him to get her a milkshake! He is greedy, egois…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 08:02 PM
12

Yes! it was an IG story. I talked to her and she said "uhh it was just a joke" but he did hit her before and he is verbally abusive towards her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 06:42 PM
10

Same, never held my hand or hugged me and tried to forcefully kiss me! wtf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:52 PM
11

Lol i pass out whenever i get a blood test and i am scared of needles and i still get checked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:40 PM
15

Same. Most good relationships aren't obsessively posting about each other. I would post me and my ex every 3 months or upload a story of us eating out every month or two (even though we ate out every weekend) while my best friend's boyfriend is posting about her every 4-7 days and he is abusive towards her. He's a big fuckboy and only agreed to date her when she refused to sleep with him for 10 months so he gave into commitment. Even in his posts he says "I love you so much i want to punch you i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:27 PM
10

I know right!!🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:15 PM
12

“does he have a pencil in his pocket?” I'm crying out of laugh 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 12:43 PM
8

As if they don't shatter ours. "You're too fat/old/cellulite/small chest" and we go under the knife to fix it and to appeal to them or the next partner. I would never pity fuck anyone or want to be pity fucked, it's a gross feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 12:41 PM
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For real, so many women consider different plastic surgeries (rhinoplasty and breast augmentation being very common) yet men expect us to just...settle down for their 3-4 inch penis? ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 12:35 PM
14

IKR! how do you get attracted to that? it's like a child's!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:27 PM
18

Girl that's why i be asking for a whole photo-shoot!! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:59 PM
25

Hahaha i feel so vile for laughing. Good excuse though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:57 PM
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Of course, i don't send nudes/sext and i let the guy know that so he wouldn't have false expectations but i did ask my man for a dick pic because i wanted to know what i'll be dealing with. My friend asked a guy she was seeing for a dick pic and he sent her one and she said it looked okay and he said it was 6 inches and a bit and it def looked like it. She didn't send anything back. Fast forward one month, they get into the bedroom and he takes off his pants and it was completely different. Look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:46 PM
12

I wait 1-2 months until commitment (casual dating) and if he does not ask to be official then i stop seeing them. No sexual relations before commitment. If i do get commitment then i wait 3 months to 6 months and then i have sex with the person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:30 PM
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Men often compare it to women being flat chested but...do we have sex with our tits? no. But they do have sex with their dick. Tbh i'd leave, i don't get attracted to small penises and i do orgasm through penetration so penetration-sex is pretty important to me (with foreplay ofc). It's a deal-breaker (one of many) to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:23 PM
6

Lol i went on dates with men that couldn't afford to pay my 20$ meal and they were the ones that asked me out! wtf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 05:44 PM
6

Dating men and women is so different and you should set different expectations but you do you. Goodluck dating men, you'll need it LMAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:15 PM
23

Lol my ex nearly cheated on me (met with other women that hate me to the core behind my back, didn't sleep with them. Refuses to tell me what happened between them as it's 'private') and told me he will kill himself if i don't go back to him but when we were on a 2 months 'break' i was flirting with a guy and never met up and nothing happened between us other than flirting and my ex called me a cheater. I told him i will go back to him only if he cuts these women off and shows me every possible …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 12:29 PM
3

Great tip, but what if the check comes after you've both finished eating and drinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:51 PM
25

Sweetie this is not the sub for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:26 PM
7

Sending you a PM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:57 PM
16

I know right?? i had snapchat until i turned 18 and then i deleted it when every guy that added me on it was just asking for nudes. If someone wants to talk to me they can use Whatsapp or IG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:56 PM
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Thank you. But for real it was so degrading and i immediately realized i want nothing to do with them or anywhere near them. I live in a big city so people tend to date around so each pays for himself and it's so upsetting because more than half of the dinner dates i've been to, the guy split the bill and all of them but one texted me afterwards and wanted to see me again and i simply don't understand it because when a man splits the bill i take it as a rejection and move on onto the next one. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:40 PM
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Don't worry i blocked him but i feel like many men in my country try to make women feel bad for expecting the man to pay. I thought we had a good time but didn't exactly have the same interests so i wanted to go for another date or two to see if we can work out our differences but when he didn't pay i realized it's a big no. Before i blocked him he sent me a message asking if he can see me tomorrow too and i didn't respond. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:36 PM
10

In my country most of the men split the bill unless they know they're getting sex for sure. I haven't been on many dinner dates but in more than 50% of the dates the guy didn't pay for my meal. I never heard of 2 separate bills. Never seen anyone do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:31 PM
25

Same, honestly. I will never date a man who: Drinks a lot or does any kind of drugs (yes, even weed. i refuse to date potheads) Very active on social media and not for the right purposes Compares me to other women or comments on other women's booty pics/bikini pics Has a female 'best friend' or 80% (or more) of his friends are female. Red flag. Does not have a degree in a 'boring' subject (aka not a doctor/lawyer/accountant/architect or any other good 'boring' job) Wants to be an artist/poet/sin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:24 PM
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I refuse to date men without 'boring' jobs ('boring' jobs like: doctor, lawyer, accountant, architect, bio-technologist, you name it). I would never date a man who wants to be a singer, poet or an artist, they are the types who wouldn't get kids until they're 40 because they simply cannot afford them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:16 PM
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Use Snapchat Lol i know right. So alarming. He's either a child or a cheater/fuckboy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:14 PM
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Let's say you had a first date with someone and you didn't get along really well for whatever reason (e.x: lack of mutual hobbies or interests) but he was still respectful - send him a text saying you're not on the same page and that's all. If he tries to convince you otherwise or gets aggressive you block him. Anyone that gets aggressive after a rejection message or tries to convince you otherwise - you block him. If you're on a first date and he was not respectful and very rude - you don't sen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:10 PM
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Lol!! take a screenshot and send it to his girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:05 PM
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Well, i feel like it's better to hookup with the same man for 2 years rather than hookup with 20 different men in 2 years. Your n count does not go higher. Personally i would never randomly hookup or get a FWB because it's just not for me. I get attached.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:00 PM
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Girl i know! i don't like paying and i see guys who split half as greedy and it makes me want to go home asap. Regardless of his looks or how good the date went. But it happened to me a few times that the guy split the check (obviously i block them if they do it) and it was very uncomfortable when he asked "You're not going to pay for yourself?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:54 PM
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I did it and the guy said "aren't you going to pay for yourself?" and i got embarrassed and paid but i blocked him afterwards. Another time when i didn't reach for my wallet he gave his card to the waitress and said "For my meal. Thank you. I guess the lady will take a bit longer to take out her card." and it made me uncomfortable and i left the restaurant after paying without looking at him. What do i do then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:51 PM
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Lol i had men feel squeamish about 40$-50$ dates and split the bill. They all had good earning jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:12 AM
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They weren't my boyfriends. I went on a first date with both of them. When i was 14 he was 15, when i was 16 he was 20 (pdf file).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 09:03 PM
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Same. Why mention random men to cause jealousy? it's so pointless and disgusting. I would've blocked too because i would think he's after that girl and i'm just warming up the bench for her. If he asks you "Do you date other men?" and you do then say yes and be honest about it but don't bring it up from your side and don't bring up men you don't date. It's pointless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 06:10 PM
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I was jealous of a very beautiful friend and kind of always wanted to prove that i'm better than her so it made me act like a pickmeisha in front of the men who were interested in her and...they still picked her. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 06:04 PM
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Lol that guy was the same. On my birthday and on Christmas and ghost me for a month on valentine's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:59 PM
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Something similar happened to me 2 years ago. The guy started as great, had a law degree, nice and caring. After 2-3 months he refused to become official and said he's not ready for a relationship because i refused to sleep with him or come over to his place. He canceled 3 or 4 dates on the last minute and ghosted me twice, once 2 days before my birthday and came back a few days after just so he wouldn't have to buy me a gift, another time ghosted me for a month then tried to come back into my l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 03:45 PM
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Girl i was 14 and another time i got taken to Mcdonald's i was 16. I didn't know any better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 03:05 PM
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Honestly every day i thank the universe for letting me be born in a first world country. I'm sorry for women who are born in those dehumanizing 'developing' sexist countries. My heart goes out to each one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:59 PM
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Thank god i don't eat meat so i have an excuse. Lmao. Nah but for real, what are these men thinking when they take us to KFC or Mcdonald's? because i've been taken to Mcdonald's before and it didn't even feel like a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:56 PM
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I would post the screenshots but not sure how to get them if i blocked the person. Here are the people: http://prntscr.com/qb1zaa
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:47 AM
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Exactly! Men claim to hate gold diggers so badly yet entertain the women they couldn't get when they were broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:40 AM
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The height difference, i'm lovin' it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:40 PM
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He wants to feel manly since he's a manlet. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:21 PM
8

Nah, i watched more than 100 Animes. Sadly i mean Anime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:19 PM
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Honestly, that guy was on Reddit too (NSFW Reddit, European girls and East Asian girls). It was so disgusting, he admitted he messaged women that posted their nudes/lewds on those subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:36 PM
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To the incels (manlets) lurking through my post, go ahead. I gave one of yours a chance, it was very funny and amusing (the free food was lit, thank you), it was something to laugh about with my girlfriends. Next time if you lie about your height make sure it's believable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:33 PM
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He obviously knows he's unattractive and short, he was a tourist from a different country and when i mentioned his height he said he didn't notice it until i said so which is obviously a lie because the average height in his country is tall (Nordic country).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:29 PM
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Yes!! i was shocked because he has German roots too!! wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:18 PM
24

So true, it gives them unrealistic expectations and makes them think girls should be submissive and obedient like the anime characters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:18 PM
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Lol! did we date the same person? My ex suggested a break and i began flirting (didn't even meet up) with 1 guy and my ex went nuts and accused me of cheating on him but it was okay for him to meet up with other women behind my back when we were together? ok lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:02 AM
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I went on 3 dates with someone and it didn't work out, i didn't feel attracted at all. He was a solid 3 and had every unattractive feature possible (very bad bone structure, very short, chubby, etc), but i still gave him a chance and his parents asked what's my value and how am i any good to him like excuse me...have you seen your son? lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 09:58 AM
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Honestly i bet he's a MGTOW. I read about how they offer women to 'join' their plans, if it's a movie or shopping and then they don't have to pay for the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 09:50 AM
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LVM exist in any work field. They could be a cashier, retail worker, lawyer, policeman and a doctor. Anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 09:17 PM
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That's because they got nothing else to offer (no money, uneducated, unattractive, short), and even the penis they offer is the same quality as a floor dildo in the middle of New York.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 09:07 PM
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Lol i swear, men complain about how they're on tinder/okcupid for 3 years and nothing ever came out of it except for maybe 2 first dates that didn't lead anywhere. That's because they are average/little above average and only look for hookups or nothing serious and also because they try to match with women who aren't interested in hooking up and sometimes lie about their intentions (e.x "Yeah i want a relationship too") and when they split the check or ask her to come over after the date the wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:56 PM
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Use a mirror strategy, how he treats you is how you treat him. Being ruthless is only needed at the first stages so you can weed out the LVM and f*ckboys. Be respectful to him and respond to his messages, even if they are just a video of a cat. Compliment him and let him know that you appreciate the stuff he does for you (for example if he carried your groceries to your apartment or built you an ikea desk).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:40 PM
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Honestly my old self thought i deserve nothing good because i'm not pretty enough and i should be thankful those men even ask me to come 'hang out' at their place. I was thankful for every bit of attention i got while 98% of it was negative or sexual. New me thinks i deserve everything regardless of what i look like and men act accordingly to my standards, those who don't - get into the block list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:36 PM
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Men don't realize that at least 90% of those PMs are "Send nudes" or "Are you interested in a sugar daddy? (or any other form of prostitution)" For real, those men don't even read about what the woman is looking for. I could write in my Okcupid "Not into outdoor stuff" and still receive "Do you want to go out camping?" messages and same about saying i'm only looking for a LTR and nothing else and still get a "So what are you looking for?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:32 PM
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I wish. She blocked me everywhere and we don't have mutual friends i could message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 11:15 PM
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Ask him to choose the restaurant so you can understand what he likes (and see if he's a picky 'hating vegetables ' eater), if you want to eat a specific food let him know that but don't pick the restaurant. If he asks to go dutch just say "Oh, i thought we had a pretty good date" and laugh. If he takes you on a coffee date he will expect you to pay for yourself. No doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:05 PM
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Men act like not crying for 5 years is a badge of honor yet cum within 30 seconds. What a shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:33 PM
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Honestly, how many men you think would split a check with a VS model or ask that VS model on netflix&chill instead of asking her to a fancy restaurant? nearly zero. If he does not pay/ask you out on an appropriate date he is not that interested (could be for many reasons, don't blame yourself). I used to blame myself for not being pretty enough/skinny enough and think this is why i didn't get asked on appropriate dates, truth is these men were losers. It's like they were sensing my insecurities …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 01:01 PM
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I feel like it depends on what type of date you get asked to If you get asked on a bar/coffee date, don't ghost yet. Give him a 'chance' by telling him you feel like it would be easier to get to know each other on a dinner date, if he does not take that 'chance' to invite you to dinner or if he rants/insists on taking you to that bar/coffee date, ghost. A HVM will rise to your standards instead of trying to lower them. He is looking for low maintenance and is mainly low effort, this is a LVM. If…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:48 PM
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Ice cream? does he think you're 15?? i'm done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:17 PM
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So true, don't ghost at first. Let him know your standards are higher, he will either rise to meet them or try to lower yours. You only give him one chance to get it right and ask you out to dinner, if he starts ranting or trying to convince you to go on a cheap date then ghost and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:14 PM
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I disagree, i'm also not very active on social media but i'm very against posting whenever you become exclusive. If you do it with every guy you become exclusive with and break up with 5 of them within 1 month it will indicate that you slept with all of them, even if you didn't. Do it only after 3-4 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:10 PM
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I was casually dating a guy for 3 months and he introduced me (to his friends & family) as his female friend...that's when i knew it was over. We were never official as he said we will only be official if we'll sleep together but i knew it was a lie and that he will pull up the "I'm not ready for a relationship" so it never got to more than a kiss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 12:08 PM
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I used to think "he just doesn't know how to show his feelings, i should help him and understand" but when i stopped seeing him, he started flirting with my friend and he knew very well how to show his feelings, just not to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:59 PM
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He will most likely say no LMAO. I swear all they do is fantasize about all the p*ssy they're going to lose if they get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 04:10 PM
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If he selected "not sure" unmatch and move on, i don't see a reason to waste time on stalking a person to see if he's in a relationship, your time is more important than finding out who he dates. Should've sent his bumble profile to his girlfriend and have a laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 01:24 PM
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Lol true, and then he breaks up with her and marries his co-worker within 3 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 01:20 PM
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I went on a first date with a man who wasn't exactly my type but i was kind of sad after a break up and wanted to feel validated. I thought because i'm above his league he would treat me good but hell i was wrong. He was in the military and was kind of aggressive and touchy. He asked to kiss me and i told him i don't feel comfortable with it and i defiantly don't kiss on first dates, he said "Okay, i respect that" and 20 minutes later when i was about to leave he grabbed me and tried to kiss me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 01:05 PM
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If they're looking for a "down to earth" girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 02:31 AM
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Honestly when they ask "what are you looking for?" it just means "what lie do i have to tell you in order to sleep with you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 11:16 PM
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Thank you!♥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:30 PM
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When i was in my teens i dated men who were in their mid twenties. I was underage and they knew it and still went for me. I felt like i'm so special and unique because they chose me since they could date women their age. They were all either pedophiles or losers with no degree, highschool dropouts that smoke weed and freeloaders who live with their parents. What woman would date them exactly? lol. These men would take me to McDonald's because they couldn't afford to go to restaurants with the li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:21 PM
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I was in a 2 year LTR and in the last 2 months of the relationship he was always on his phone texting someone, i was surprised because he was never on his phone before. At first he said he was texting his mom and i gave him the benefit of the doubt when i knew deep in my heart that it is not his mom, he never texted his mom. He would call her. One day i got sick of it and snatched his phone from his hand, he was texting a girl that hated me and he let her speak badly of me. I exit the chat and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:32 PM
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So true, there are so many women that only want casual sex and they still go for the ones that don't. They get off by 'achieving' sex without commitment from someone who wants commitment, it's like a video-game quest to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:22 PM
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LOL same, both of my exes paid for everything for years. Never even let me buy them ice cream or pay for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 11:12 AM
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Well, i like my men taller than me (5'11 and above) and i find it very hard to find men that won't date me because i'm different/exotic/one time experience but date me because they truly like me because my parents legally migrated from a different continent to the one i was born in and i look different compared to locals. I intend on going back to the continent they came from, but to a better country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 10:26 AM
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I told a guy who asked me on a coffee date that i don't drink coffee and i rather dine out, he simply responded "Well you can get tea or hot chocolate" so i ghosted him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:55 PM
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Lol so true, so many guys are built like an ice cream cone it's insane. Never skip leg day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:33 PM
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Same, i intend on immigrating once i'll graduate uni with a master degree. The men in my country are far from being my type since the average height is about 5'7.5, i live in a big city but they're either not my type or short or "not looking for anything serious". My best friend was talking to this guy she matched with on tinder who seemed good so far, his ears looked a little weird but other than that he was somewhat attractive and fit, she's 5'7 and likes to wear heels. A few hours before they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:28 PM
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I swear when old men enter the gym they stand still for 5 minutes deciding which one of the girls is getting stared down today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:19 PM
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What men think impress is: lie about the amount of money/assets they have and claim women always chase them and hope she only finds out it was a lie after he get into her panties. What impress actually is: be there on time, holding the door for you, being nice to the staff and the waitress, not cut you mid sentences and actually listen to what you have to say, not only talk about himself, being polite, not talking about other women, pay for the date to show appreciation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:11 PM
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Wow same. I went to the movies with a guy i studied with, we were good friends and i thought i'd give him a chance. He paid for my ticket because i bought him a birthday gift 3 months prior and when we stopped being friends he asked if he could get the money back for the ticket because nothing ever came out of it. I laughed in his face and kept walking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:06 PM
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GIRL i was in a cheap but a good quality restaurant with my friend, the most expensive meal was 16$ and the couple next to us asked to split the bill (They been dating for 3 months, i was eavesdropping🤣), the girl seemed somewhat upset when he asked to split the bill, their total was about 23$. Me and my friend looked at each other like http://prntscr.com/q50huu and the man noticed and went quiet. Lmao. Reminds me of a date i went on, the date went good but when the bill came he wanted to split …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 12:09 PM
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Girly been entertaining men with her own wallet. I'm done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:09 AM
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Just say "Well that means you're not sure about having a relationship, we're not on the same page. I'm not going to wait until you decide if i'm the one or not, you should've known by now if you want to date me or not" if you've been casually dating for 4-6 weeks and then he says that. If he says it on a first date don't say anything, just text him afterwards that you don't feel like you're on the same page without much explanations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:07 AM
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I used to go on a lot of dates when i was 16, with older men. They had jobs and i didn't yet they never offered to pay and always eagerly split the bill, after that they always asked me to come to their place, i knew what they were up to so i always said no and i never saw them ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:58 AM
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That basically means "I would pay if i know i'm getting something in return, like a blowjob"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:45 AM
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Lol i went on a few dates with a guy, didn't feel any chemistry because he was just too short for me, i already kind of bent over and lowered my height-standards because i prefer men who are 5'11 & taller and he said he was 5'10, we meet up and he's nearly the same height as me, maybe an inch and a half taller and i wore flat shoes. I'm 5'4. Do men really think that we don't notice? I told him it's not going to work and he pressured me into saying the reason, i said that he's too short for me an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 03:31 PM
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Relatable, i wouldn't date anyone more than 1 year younger than me but i would date men 3-5 years older than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:25 PM
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Well, if you're looking for a relationship or marriage a younger guy is not the solution unless you're over 30. You will be 28 and he will be 24 not even looking to marry while you're ready to settle down, men marry who's around them while they're ready to settle down and it's usually not the girl they dated for 6 years but the co-worker they got to know 3 months ago. If you'll be his fwb he will brag to his teenage friends and tell them how he fucks this HVM, he will most likely not have money …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:23 PM
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I feel like men who still talk to their ex is a red flag, they're most likely not 100% over her and still want her in their lives. I don't talk to men i've dated or been in a relationship with, why should he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:16 PM
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One of the reasons i broke up with my last boyfriend is being mama's boy. She never liked me and never tried to talk to me, kept making comments about how i don't belong in their family (I'm from a different race/religion). I realized it's a big deal when we wanted to go on a vacation together for the first time in Europe and she took away his passport and said "You're not going with her, i don't know her that well", he's a grown adult (Not a teen) and it bothered me that he just accepted it as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:00 PM
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I feel like it's only relevant if you're over 30, i doubt a 23 year old woman would want to date a guy who's 18-19.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 04:38 PM
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I hear so many stories of how women meet this 'amazing' guy who drives 5-6 hours just to see them and because of the so called 'effort' he put in, they have sex with him and he ends up ghosting these women even if they texted for months. A man will drive for 3 whole days if sex is guaranteed. Don't fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:27 AM
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I used to talk to a guy who was always talking about sex and he told me how he f*cked a pizza delivery girl without knowing her...I doubt anyone would risk their job for a mediocre micro penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:24 AM
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To me DDLG is just pedophilia-lite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 08:34 PM
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It was just a kiss, i know it hurts and you might feel regret, one day you will look back and wonder why you were beating yourself over him. Your inner peace is far more important than sending that long message, you should've canceled the date you set with some excuse or just be honest and say "I don't think this is going to work between us" and go radio silent & block if needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:59 PM
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I hate men who try to convince their wives/girlfriends/fwb to try it. I said no so it's a no. They just don't value your "yes" and disrespect your "no". I wax my body fully and i love it, i only do it for myself and myself only. I never thought of human hair to be disgusting or unattractive, it does not bother me when other women don't do it. I just like the feeling of smooth skin on myself. Btw, i expected my men not to be hairy down there too. It goes both ways. If one girl likes broccoli it d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:50 PM
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It doesn't matter if you were drunk or didn't say hi and ask how are they first, if they blocked you they never cared for you. I know it's harsh but it's the truth. And it may not be about looks or achievements or goals, he likes something in her and maybe you don't have, you have something else. Most likely something even better, that's why you were never a good fit to begin with, he was looking for something different and you mistaken him for the right person and he just wanted one thing so he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:25 PM
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Exactly, rough life is never an excuse to be an asshole or a bad person. If you had a rough life i suggest you go to therapy and take care of yourself, put your mental health first, the healing process is very important. Otherwise you might hurt others even when not meant to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:16 PM
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If they blocked you they were never your friends, those are vile people. Don't stop yourself from going to that bar, if you do they will know that they've won. Keep going and pretend not to recognize them, if they talk to you just say "Sorry, do i know you?" make them feel ashamed. They're in the wrong, not you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:11 PM
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You should have never texted him that you feel stupid! be confident in yourself, fake it till you make it. If he doesn't text neither should you, he already knows it's over. You are more powerful than you think and eventually you will look back and ask yourself "why was i even bothering? he's a loser" You will find a loving partner that will treat you right with respect, that guy is just an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:06 PM
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Same, i wasn't exposed to pornography at a young age and i know porn isn't real, i wax for myself. Not only when i'm in a relationship or seeing someone, i do it for myself even in the winter and when i'm single, i did grow them for a while but it was very uncomfortable for me during my period so i wax.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 04:02 PM
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I know right! she should've texted him "Who is this? i don't have you saved" or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 01:41 AM
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Wow i know right! me and my friend were talking and i was explaining to her how and why she should avoid men who don't pay for dates and she said "but what if he can't afford to pay?" so i responded with "then he cannot afford you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 12:36 PM
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I let them be 5-10 minutes late, if i don't get a call after 15 minutes (not a text, a call) then i just leave and go somewhere else. 2 men have been late to our date and both didn't bother to call or even text, both were 40 minutes late and i waited for both, FDS me would never. Both of the dates were complete sh*t and disrespectful btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 12:24 PM
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Same, i never offered to pay even before FDS, they still split the check. When i see a man split the check i immediately assume he didn't like me that much/didn't feel a connection and i don't get upset. We're adults, not everyone are going to like you and that's okay, but when they offer to come to their place afterwards or text me "I had such a great time, looking forward to see you again" that's when i get confused and realize we're definitely not on the same page. I feel like most men know t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 04:15 PM
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I wouldn't, usually she would be on his side if you have an argument with him and just like the other comments said - he will try to get a female perspective and if she says he's right then he will start acting like you're crazy and overacting about stuff that she, in her relationship - would not tolerate. She would always say that he's the right one, even when he isn't. Speaking from experience, i dated a guy with a female best friend and eventually he gave her my phone number so she can text m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 02:45 PM
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He didn't lie, he didn't go into detail. -My ex, after meeting up with a girl who was interested in him while we dated and i was on a vacation in a different continent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 05:43 PM
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I know right! I've been saying that! To me, if they're in a relationship and have a child he could easily walk away or break up with her over minor things and marriage assures that he would think TWICE before cheating/leaving. I'm not saying it assures, but let's be honest, some men would be great fathers in a relationship and some men would be bad fathers in marriage but most men will think twice if they are married, if the marriage doesn't stop him then nothing would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 11:24 AM
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I'm a pescatarian (vegetarian that eats sea food) and i never got judged for it, guys often find it cute and caring that i refuse to eat meat, i wouldn't mind going to steak & burger restaurant as long as i have something to eat, and something that isn't a starter or a side dish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 11:19 AM
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As i mentioned in the post, this post is not talking about people who have a specific diet or different allergies, it goes to those who openly hate different varieties of food for no actual reason, like hating all the vegetables. And about religious restriction, personally i am not religious so i doubt i would date someone who is. I feel like we would have a big difference in our world views and i know most people would try to avoid someone who is religious when they aren't and that religious pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 11:14 AM
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It happens because guys want to feel special, so if you sleep with him early he immediately assumes you do that with everyone even if it was your first time. Another reason is guys need the chase, human nature is to respect less something you got easily. You would treat the second handed car you bought on an auction after working for 8 months better than you would treat the car your parents gave you. Most people realize what they lost only after they lose it, that's why some of them come back an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 11:02 AM
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Bar dates are a big NO because then its easier & cheaper to waste your time and the alcohol helps 'ease' you into sexual activities, so when men ask you on drinking dates they might not have the purest intentions. On the other hand, drinking one drink in a restaurant is totally okay and acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:38 AM
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LMAO it is known that all the fuckboys eat their dinner at 3pm so they prefer you'll come over to chill at their place instead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:35 AM
2

Same, i eat everything but cilantro. I love parsley, dill and basil which is weird since they're kind of similar and if someone doesn't like parsley/clinatro they will most likely dislike the other ones too. I absolutely love all vegetables and fruits and i love SUPER spicy food. When i go on a date to a steak/burger restaurant and the guy asks to remove all the vegetables from his dish i start getting suspicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:30 AM
14

Same!! I love to cook, i love spices, herbs, sauces, different cuisines and if someone doesn't then i would feel like we don't have that much in common to go further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:18 AM
11

I'm 5'4 and so many men who are my height or a tiny bit shorter claim they're 5'7-5'10, at first i thought i'm going crazy and i somehow miscalculated my height and i'm actually taller, maybe 5'6? but no, i went to the doctor 3 times in 2 months and i am 5'4, not even close to 5'5. They're just lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 11:28 PM
7

‘hey I can’t see this going anywhere but are you up for having some fun tonight?’ GIRL they would never be upfront and honest, especially knowing you're looking for something serious. It 'ruins' their chance to use/lead you on. I feel like to them - If a girl is looking for something serious and they manage to convince her to have a nightstand or fwb they 'won' the challenge :/ I'm so sorry this happened to you, please don't feel bad, he's just a shitty person :( I went on a date with an older g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 11:22 PM
98

"My exes were all crazy" he yells I'm crying out of laugh omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 08:00 PM
17

And finally, never allow a man to put you down based on you place of origin This. I am not a latina but my parents legally migrated to the country i was born in. Men often find me exotic, different and often not think of me as a 'marriage material' but as a girl to 'try' and 'have fun' with and often disrespect me/my culture. It makes me sick to my stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:40 PM
10

Relatable, stop texting them first and see how many dead plants have you been watering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:34 PM
69

Oh my god, this happened to my friend!! She went on a few dates with a guy who kept going on how he wants a relationship and commitment. After the second date they made it official, she had sex with him on the 4th or 5th date within 1 week of dating after he pressured her and said that sex is what makes a relationship official, he flaked. Ignored her for 3 days and eventually texted her "I thought about this and i realized i'm not interested in a relationship" and blocked her. Even if you are in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:31 PM
19

Worst lesson was that we're responsible for fixing men and that's why we should tolerate his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:04 PM
6

At least it's a price, whenever its 30$ or 100$, its still a price. Those 'pick me' girls been paying half half and letting those men waste their time FOR FREE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 04:49 PM
7

When i was 12 i dated a 18 year old online, we met on social media. He had plans to meet up and refused to meet up in a public place, he insisted it'll be at his place. I got bad vibes and refused so i told him "my mom said no" even though i didn't ask her, he kept going about how i shouldn't tell my mom and how I'm childish if i let my mom tell me what to do. cheap manipulation. I didn't care, blocked and moved on. half an year later he sent a dick pic to my friend (who was also 12, and he knew…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 12:19 PM
15

Even when older men date a 18 year old that's scary and predatory because if the legal age was younger they would date a younger one, 18 is just the youngest the law allows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 02:58 PM
8

Very true, but until that we have no other choice but to not share pictures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 11:03 PM
51

You give an ugly guy a chance and he starts acting like you're the ugly one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:15 PM
204

Relatable, but for real, you queens should stop sending nudes. If they want to see a nude they can just google it, they get turned on by the stuff they make you do. sending nudes is a big risk and could easily ruin your life and career, doesn't matter for how long you've been dating it could always turn around, and what if someone steals/hacks his phone? you can never be fully protected from it unless you just don't send them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:09 PM
30

I was never a 'pick me' girl but i defiantly liked someone who didn't want a relationship and led me on for months and i thought i'll somehow manage to make him like me/want a relationship with me. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:16 PM
3

I've been taking birth control for a few years and i didn't have any side effects (yes, i got off birth control for a few months to check if i feel any better/different, it felt the same), i'm only taking it for myself because it regulates my period and makes my face more clear (my skin is prone to acne), i would never take it for someone else though. i still ask my boyfriend to use a condom. to me, birth control is an additional method and not used instead of a condom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 07:19 PM
13

oh my god yes. a hundred times YES! some guy who led me on for months and ghosted me eventually sent me a paragraph saying he's sorry and i didn't even react, i just told him "get therapy" and blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 09:50 PM
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