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Right before I finally left my ex I was chugging stress relief tea and spending so much money on anxiety vitamins and supplements. I cut out caffeine entirely and was still waking up at 6 am in a panic. I was convinced I had an anxiety disorder- definitely had nothing to do with slowly figuring out he was cheating on me and being correct! I haven't used any of that stuff since we split
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:33 AM
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Sounds like me when I told my ex I wasn't comfortable with him bar hopping with two single young female "fans" while I was out of town- and he couldn't promise me he wouldn't "hang out" with them again. He later told me he lied and it was a date and I was totally right lololol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:21 AM
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Never trust a man who seeks out a lot of female company and tries to get feminism points. Nothing but cheating comes from that. It may not be immediately but in 15 years you bet your ass it will. It's depressing but I'm pretty sure all men eventually cheat given enough time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:59 AM
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I loooooved this hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:44 AM
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Then men make fun of women who say "I have a boyfriend" immediately when it's actually one of our only defenses. And they also shit on us if we waste their time and DONT say it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:39 AM
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My butthole is clenching at the thought of this because eye contact is usually what makes men talk to me or come over to me. I avoid it at all costs. You could brandish a knife at a man and he'd take the attention as a sign of interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:37 AM
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I always think this way too but if you're mean or rude to men they can just flip out and murder you or follow you home or slash your tires :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:35 AM
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Yes sis. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:29 AM
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Even if I hadn't already done this to the guy I was seeing- my friends demanded to know his full name and googled him for me. Google your friends men too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:30 AM
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It definitely changes the way you think about yourself and men all day long. I hated it and did not feel empowered to go grocery shopping and see an old man and wonder what his fetish was. I hated feeling like I had to be sexy every single day just in case someone wanted to video call- at literally any hour because they could be from any country. It was super invasive. The last straw for me was homewrecking fetishes. I refused those. It was so depressing. And the stuff I mostly did, roleplay (no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:19 AM
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I love that last part. So perfect. "Closes more doors than it opens" really sums up how little it's worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:13 AM
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Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:12 AM
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Holy shit. Thanks for typing this out. I didn't realize there were women like this. What you're doing to distance yourself is the "grey rock" technique children of narcs have to use...if you don't already know it look it up! Good job protecting yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:43 AM
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That's my boyfriend who cheated on me. He had begged for me back, we got back together, dating cuddling and having sex, but he cheated on me and told the other girl his relationship was "complicated". I found out and dumped him. He cried and said he wanted to marry me and he would wait for me. 1 week later back with the girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:39 AM
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Whooooo!! Hell yes! Those words can make the hottest man lose all attractiveness anyways. You would've gone home with him to his bed on the floor with 1 single stained sheet and lasted maybe a month before you got sick and embarrassed of him. You saved yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:31 PM
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Next step we need to raise our sons like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:16 PM
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My new boyfriend bought me a $90 necklace for Christmas and recently a dress I liked. Only been dating 3 months. Don't settle for less 💅🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:32 PM
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This is a pretty American standard too. In Europe or Japan you're considered a fool or a simpleton of you go around smiling at everyone freely and being open/ friendly like a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:15 PM
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Tears are just like empty words. Only believe a man's actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:36 PM
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My ex who begged for me back asked me to marry him and said he'd wait as long as it took....then just dating the girl he cheated on me with 2 weeks later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:35 PM
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There's a couple subs called r/justnoSO and also r/justnoMIL that have a way different energy. Posting in one of these and all the replies I got helped me see how horrible my situation was and gave me the courage to move the fuck out of the apartment we shared. I got like, 100 replies and they were all unanimous and I did not fight it lol. So glad I did because now I'm dating my dream guy. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:36 PM
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Unfortunately it's not like Instagram or YouTube, you wouldn't be having any "fun while making a lil cash" it's more like months of nonstop 24/7 work and self advertisement, actually spending money on props/wigs/lingerie to be competitive, only to maybe possibly grow a modest following where you still make less money "per hour" than if you just became a waitress and you're allowed to go home and stop at the end of the day. Sex workers never seem to count the "hours" they spend off the job applyi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:14 AM
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The hilarious part of this is that he didn't want to do it because he was TERRIFIED. Men are so fucking scared of things they don't know. They're horrified of looking incompetent or making a fool out of themselves. My ex was exactly like this. He'd get irate and angry when I told him to try things for the first time. When I had to teach him things. He'd freak out about attempting something he wasn't good at. Men aren't actually lazy- they're fearful and can not handle failure or embarrassment an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:36 AM
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My ex was terrified of bugs. Roaches spiders ants anything. I had to kill them all. He never would've survived a night stranded in the woods let alone an apocalypse. Super unattractive. Sorry that I like the gender norm of a man being able to step on a roach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:48 AM
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Exactly. There is no regulation. No benefits. Not even a consistent agreed upon rate for a sex worker to make for any given service- and always some newbie desperate clueless girl undercharging and undervaluing herself, challenging the fair rates other SWs charge. There's not really any union. Everyone is competing viciously against everyone else. It's a fucking mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:51 PM
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Yeah no they won't they'll still try to cheat on you or leave you for a hotter woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:20 PM
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If it's not for sex it will be to use you as free therapy
/r/askFDS05/01/21 03:29 AM
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Get a dog. Starts a ladies night. Boom, not alone.
/r/askFDS04/01/21 01:27 PM
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It's been months and I still think about how my ex would wear monstrous clothing combos like lavender and army green, or faded pilled clothes after I personally handpicked and bought him many cool wardrobe pieces and ensembles. Never went outside so his skin was the color of a fainted anemic ghost. Never brushed his teeth or went to a dentist so many of them had rotted in his skull literally. Don't date a project or potential. Unlike a child you cannot glow a man up or dress him up. He won't lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:19 AM
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Mmmm that's why I loved myself enough to move 2 years of possessions and furniture out in 1 day when my ex treated me like shit after a hospital stay. I got a storage unit, a car full of banker boxes, couple of friends and a bigass truck, put all that shit on my credit card and we showed up and cleaned it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:09 AM
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You lost me at "lives 4 hours away." Unless you were deep friends for years in school this is a recipe for disaster. All that distance gives him time and opportunity to cheat for one. I dated a guy who was in med school and acted this exact same- so charming in person but barely texted for days or weeks or would even hit me up months later. I kept giving him his "med school" excuse in my head. It's not genuine. The romantic feelings like sounds like utter bullshit- you can't feel romance for som…
/r/askFDS02/01/21 09:30 PM
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Nah for my ACNE. RIP :'(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:06 PM
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I like how men complain endlessly about not getting a woman for regular sex, they get one, and still decide porn is better than sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:10 PM
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If this was a male veteran and a woman tried to set off fireworks suddenly men would care. Why do they all use "walking on eggshells" to describe basic courtesy? My ex said the same thing when I told him not to call other women hot in front of me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:06 PM
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Okay I bought myself a blue light machine... not pretty at all... need to up my game to myself lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:52 PM
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Hope he enjoys his shit house with his bed on the floor, 1 thin sheet, 1 pancake pillow, mismatched stained towels and no food in the fridge- I'm sure so many girls will wanna stay when they go home with him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:59 PM
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What the fuck, get rid of this man immediately. Don't tolerate him. I don't care how many times he was there for you he doesn't get to treat you this way and take up your mental and emotional energy. He's all take no give. You blocked him before so listen to your past self. You can be friends with men but never ever this particular man buh byyyyeee
/r/askFDS29/12/20 05:39 AM
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Lmao my ex told me his previous wife (who married and had a happy family soon after) cheated on him and that's why they divorced. Come to find out years later "cheating"was actually that he encouraged her to sleep with other men as his fetish and when she genuinely liked one of the guys (because women don't just fuck anything) he freaked out. Absolutely could not handle it and he considered it cheating. Dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:33 PM
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The phone number in the phone thing is wild. If she does anything to put your home or possessions at risk you can kick her out. But she sounds weird enough to make your male friend eventually doubt and get rid of her himself it might just take time. Just be an ear for him and offer opinions only if he brings anything up, but as always don't be a man's personal therapist for free. Otherwise just don't invite her over again. I mean how important is getting along with this man's girlfriends? Sounds…
/r/askFDS27/12/20 02:21 PM
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I was having so much fun with my new man this thought totally slipped my mind. No texts from any exes either. Blessed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:10 PM
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Lmaaaoooo it's so true I have a neuroscience degree and my ex has..... an AA in music theory or some shit. He once asked me what your diaphragm is. I cried way too much over him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:00 PM
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I'm afraid I might come across as this type of person because outside of the first week of dating- I don't give a shit about most people and their personal life? I like to talk about SUBJECTS. About interesting things like science art culture or news. I did not grow up expressing myself. I'm very bad at it and will bring up a random historical fact before I ask someone else a deeply personal question. If their personal life or hobbies happen to be interesting in themselves, great but usually not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:27 PM
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Jesus fucking Christ... and they think women are evil for dating men for their money. This is so much worse. You can always make money back. You can't get back fake love, bonding, time...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:24 PM
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The Bye Felipe Store one of my fav woman run Instagram accounts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:44 PM
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I have this on a face mask and also bought it in several coffee mugs to give to friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:23 AM
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I don't think any man can love past childbirth. They can't handle the hard work and sleepless nights. Can't handle you being too sore for sex and your attention going to a kid for 18 years instead of their dick. Unless they LOVED kids before you ever met, and grew up in a giant family, they'll probably cheat on you. If you get a nanny, make sure she's ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:16 AM
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I used to blame this on testosterone until I found out men on steroids tend to become even cuddlier and more loving/emotional... so it's just fat or skinny losers who are heartless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:10 AM
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They want a mommy who loves them unconditionally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:08 AM
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Yeah I plan to always lie about my money no matter what. Idc if it's my husband. Keeping secret accounts and never sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:44 AM
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That's how you know his hair looks like shit because he clearly never gets it done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 12:28 AM
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I feel attacked I hate every other junk food except hot Cheetos they're my "it's time to cry" snack lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:23 AM
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Oh my god I want to punch this man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:55 PM
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I wish to god this image was a joke but that's literally exactly how my ex wrapped presents. He'd joke about how bad he was at it and didn't know how. Literally NO ONE ever taught me how to wrap presents I just watched people growing up and tried. I fuck up paper and cutting too but it's easy to disguise with some folds!! Come on. They teach folding paper in elementary school did you fail that? Women have so much more fucking knowledge and skills than men that make people's lives better but they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:54 PM
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My ex who only ever ate pizza and chicken tendies also loved banana flavored candy and shit!! Why are all loser men the same?!? Why is it always safe boring shit like vanilla and banana? Lmaaooo 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:01 AM
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It is exactly like trying to get famous and make a living as a youtuber or instagrammer. Or even small business owner. Majority will not make it. It takes a ton of unpaid work and monetary investment to do a good job, and you have to be lucky and consistent which means being able to afford NOT having income for a long fucking time so you're probably already privileged. You're your own unpaid marketer. You're running multiple social media accounts. Editing all your own content. Competing with nai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:08 AM
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If women in the US had free healthcare, college tuition and childcare/maternity leave the OF numbers would be in the toilet. If rent was fair this explosion would never happen. Desperate women are doing this and it's sad. The empowerment is a cope. It's not even women who really enjoy it. Which is insulting to the real hobbyists if you give a shit about sexual empowerment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:00 AM
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And I really don't see straight men trying to cater to female pleasure and romance in the name of men's rights, emotional empowerment, mental health or gender equality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:56 AM
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This- interesting men get compliments all the fucking time. Any man with a creative hobby or a guitar. D&D nerds compliment each other's ideas. I see men in fashion subs complimenting each other all the time. Men in sports will say nice swing and shit. Honestly you have to be a big loser with no hobbies and no friends or ambitions to never get compliments?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:43 AM
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When you look at photos of your old self in a bad outfit years ago that you thought was hot but totally wasn't- do you lower your self worth or just cringe and laugh at the mistake of a younger you who didn't know any better? He's just a bad decision. And don't be jealous of the women- feel sorry for them. Cringe for them because he's about to be one of their regrets too. Virginity isn't sacred and a lot of us had less than stellar experiences. Virginity is like getting your first job sometimes …
/r/askFDS16/12/20 12:39 AM
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That's why I specify someone who was raised that way but is no longer in it...or pressured by it... highest value man I know is my father who was raised in a huge catholic family but left to become a hardcore liberal scientist. Still loves Christian values of kindness and family. Other men I've dated who were raised religiously but left their religion remind me of the same. Basically, they were raised with morals and expectations to not be a dick, but they're older and freer now, they don't expe…
/r/askFDS15/12/20 07:52 PM
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I don't know what to say because you're right. Men think about and crave sex like food and that doesn't change even when they're old men- speaking from experience. I'm glad you have hobbies and are getting promotions. The only men who might not be too predatory and disgusting are those raised in the church- but not extremely devout, they just have family values. Also Asexual and Demi men exist. Might be your best bet. Otherwise just keep enjoying life without men it sounds like you're killing it…
/r/askFDS15/12/20 01:29 PM
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My ex has been depressed since he was 18 and refused meds or therapy. Still refuses therapy to this day but earlier in the year he only got meds when he got close to suicide while we were separated. Unemployed and never goes outside btw. They worked for a few months, I was shocked and kind of impressed, wow maybe he did change....and then he told me they stopped working and he was depressed again and couldn't stop sleeping. I said, gonna go back to the doctor? Him: Nah I used to have empathy for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:56 PM
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Both of those are fully legal jobs you're guaranteed to get paid for and can't be socially shamed for doing. You can't get emotional trauma and PTSD from boxing or flipping burgers. No one starts learning to punch or deep fry things in order to please a manipulative boyfriend or older partner. You also can't move on in life and randomly get fired if someone finds out about your past at McDonald's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:51 AM
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Like someone else said you got lucky he even had the maturity and decency to break up with you instead of fade out or cheat. My guess is he'll hit you up again when he's horny. But 6 dates in 3 months is not enough girl- even during quarantine if a guy is into you he'll wanna see you waaaay more. He'll be bustin down your damn door or blowing up your phone. Trust your gut. Men are simple. If he likes you, you'll know, no question in your mind, no texting games, no false promises. And as others h…
/r/askFDS14/12/20 01:09 AM
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No, she really thinks he'll see the tweet and realize the error of his ways, feel bad and change immediately. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:24 PM
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This 1,000. It's not fair that when all is said and done they get to tell everyone you dumped them and they're the sad victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:16 PM
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Holy shit lol. Okay I'm loving buzzfeed news. They're also the ones who reported on sexism in the gaming industry and in Uber right? I know they started off making bullshit quizzes and cute videos but damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:46 PM
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Hahahha fuck. In the throes of my ex's depression, after his antidepressant stopped working and he refused to go to the doctor to change it or ever see a therapist, he started a weekly podcast... lmaaaoooo. Motherfucker never goes outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:03 PM
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Most men are out here eating Taco Bell, ramen and chicken tendies it won't be hard to impress them TRUST me.
/r/askFDS08/12/20 05:45 AM
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It's 2020, everyone is time poor and overworked, I recommend you NOT cook every day. Not even for yourself and definitely never for someone else. Meal prep. Have leftovers. Freeze shit. Get microwaveable stuff and make lots of sandwiches and salads. It's good to know how when you need to but don't nobody got time for that.
/r/askFDS08/12/20 01:31 AM
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Oh my god Matthew Perry looks fucking ROUGH too from all his life choices. Honey at least go for Joey, he's a silver fox, Chandler aged like milk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:55 PM
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Thanks for being the voice of reason in here. Saying most anime is trash is like saying romance novels are Twilight or 50 Shades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:31 PM
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This fact made me wheeze laugh out loud for a full minute. Women rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:39 PM
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I just checked the original thread on r/tinder and most of the top comments are about how it's a parks and rec reference and everyone remotely plugged into pop culture finds it hilarious and would swipe right. Scrotes are receptive to stuff when there's a dash of humor. Gives me some small hope. Any man who's trashing this just embarrassed himself by not knowing the reference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:18 PM
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If you have Netflix it's a chrome extension that you download and it lets you send links to anyone else with Netflix so you can all watch the same thing simultaneously in real time- with a chat bar to the right of the video. It's free comes with Netflix! Amazon has its own version
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:20 PM
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Women don't abandon you emotionally and financially for a younger, hotter friend. They also don't expect you to be their mommy because they can take care of themselves. However, making female friends can take some effort kind of like dating. I've had to initiate "friend dates" that didn't go so well. You still have to plan things and court your friends if you're not lucky to already have them. I've needed some liquid courage to break the ice with other women at parties. If you move, you have to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:07 AM
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Trash took itself out I'm glad he's not contacting you. Don't let the itch of rejection cloud your mind because they guy was gonna annoy you fast. I know you wanted him to like you no matter what but his behavior says nothing about your worth trust me.
/r/askFDS06/12/20 11:11 PM
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THROW HIM AWAY. He's trash. Let him block you. You need to go get some new non-shit boy toy to distract you so you don't go back to this one. This time NO TINDER. Stick to match, hinge or okcupid. Better yet just get a dog- all the love and attention you want
/r/askFDS06/12/20 11:07 PM
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Men act like picking up flowers from the drug store every once in a while for $15 is somehow the same effort as The Odyssey and we're asking too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:27 PM
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This whole thread is stories of men being complete monsters to women until they do the hard work breaking up. They really suck so much. These things wouldn't happen if they had balls and could end things like adults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 10:20 PM
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I don't think you have to beat yourself up too much because unfortunately a work place is one area where a man cannot take charge and pursue you, because it threatens his job and he might come across as creepy, so this is the one small area of life where a woman has to make the move because of the power dynamics at play- not that I approve of dating a coworker and doing it so fast. I hope you're prepared and ready for a fall out and if you guys date and things go sour you might lose your job not…
/r/askFDS05/12/20 09:17 PM
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Job does not matter, what matters is how they were raised and their social circle, ie how used they are to spending money to actually enjoy life. Buying themselves toys doesn't count but if they're used to spending while they're hanging out and in public with friends or family, that seems to be less of a big deal and transfers to dating. Lawyers seem like a wild card because they HAVE to spend to go to lunches and functions and dress nicely. It's how they become successful literally by networkin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:59 PM
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"I love paying $1200 a month to live in a completely empty room and not use it enough to get my money's worth"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:44 PM
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That was not black women posting their own photos, it was definitely just men online stealing photos to post and jerk off to the comments, or maybe even cat fishing as the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:19 PM
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The weirdest part about saying they're "happy" like this is saying they're happy never having friends or family over. Because you absolutely can't in a place like this. No one can even sit. Which immediately signals giant loser or giant depression to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:05 PM
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Do we have the same dad?!? I'll have worked outside in the hot garden all day and if my father comes home and sees me using a computer or sitting on my bed he assumes I've been "lazing around inside all day." He can NOT handle seeing me relax- if I'm relaxing I'm lazy and did nothing that day. If I'm indoors at 3 pm apparently I never went outside all day. I can't fucking stand it. I literally never make that assumption about other people I live with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:00 PM
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Ok I've come up with a perfect way to explain it all. Men think about sex the way women think about cuddling a cute animal. It's easy fun pleasurable and no big deal. When you see or meet one in public you'd love to pet it or go to your friends house to hang out with their cute dog but you don't want to take home and care/pay for most of those dogs you meet, too much responsibility. What's wrong with a quick pet to enjoy their fluffiness and positivity? Who cares if they miss you when you're gon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:11 PM
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Girl you sound like you got it all together. I'd give one of my tits to have your career. You're just reeling from the divorce still. Don't let it affect your confidence and reply to that man!! Just don't put all your eggs in one basket, and talk to a few men at a time. You need distractions and some reality doses after your divorce. Most men are not the catches they even appear to be. I'm seeing a guy who comes from money went to an Ivy League school and I just had to teach him how to use the m…
/r/askFDS04/12/20 08:54 AM
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Try watching British gardening shows. Very soothing :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:47 PM
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I love that show actually. Carrie and Big are the worst characters but for as many guys as the women date they show them all being quickly dumped for the smallest transgression FDS style, and the women are all over 30, so it's a good antidote for "the wall." There are plenty of episodes about their careers too. Come to think of it every episode involves a part of 1 characters career it just rotates women. I still think it was the best women's show out there for a looong time and many parts have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:45 PM
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Real life isn't like twitch. Male friends don't just hand you money and buy your dinner and give random gifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 11:58 AM
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Hilarious how men think self care is for women or will make them womanly but- gay men do it and they just end up looking like super handsome men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:45 AM
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Men only get this mad and use the "hurts me so much that you don't trust me therefore I have to break up with you" line when they get CAUGHT. If someone really likes you, you can't hurt them this much over a small trust issue. You called him out and he freaked. I bet it wasn't even a work buddy but another woman. Sorry he sucked.
/r/askFDS02/12/20 07:30 AM
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Completely avoid and stop talking to any man online who mentions sex or makes sex jokes within the first week of talking to him. Don't go on tinder stay on Hinge and Match and okcupid that's where the serious men are. Honestly just fake it until you make it. You don't have to tell anyone anything about your virginity or insecurities. Just vet a man normally to yours and FDS standards and if he's caring and polite he will make you feel comfortable enough for your first time regardless of what he …
/r/askFDS01/12/20 04:19 PM
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This is how I've personally broken up with every single guy of any duration of relationship. I don't think men are good at mature concise breakups in general and they also just don't want to do them- fearful, lazy and indecisive. Whenever I speak to other women we all agree that the only reason we're hardly broken up with is because the man won't do it period. He'll push you away, cheat on you, become insufferable, cold, no contact, withhold love and do everything he can to make YOU do it for hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:52 PM
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This happened to me lol. I tried to warn the girl and she blocked me! Have fun being his bang mommy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:14 PM
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Bih I bet that is an ugly AF house in the middle of bumfuck nowhere Midwestern USA , that he'll expect you to use your own money time and labor to decorate if you want to live with him and have any sort of comfort or company. Having a house doesn't stop a scrote from putting his mattress on the floor. It doesn't give him taste or handy skills or mean he knows how to care for anything at all. Better hope the house doesn't go down in value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:59 PM
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I am never ever making a man's lunch. I've made it to my late 20's without making breakfast for any man either. If I made dinner it was what I wanted and would already cook and he could have some but only one night. I'm never doing that home maker shit every damn night. He can meal prep with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:53 PM
20

In 13 years! That's a baby less than every 2 years!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:47 PM
6

"This isn't what I signed up for"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:46 PM
12

After dating ugly guys pretty much my entire 20s oh hell no I'm ready for someone hot. But my idea of hot includes features of maturity. I dated a muscular guy who couldn't dress himself. Or a super tall guy who was ghost pale from never going outside. Then a nicely tanned guy who never washed his hair. Always fucking something. It's no longer counting as hot to me. They have to know self care not just lucky genetics. Self care usually points towards other good qualities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:29 PM
8

They were probably lesbian cybering with each other. It's extremely popular.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:21 PM
13

Will be coming up on that magical 2 month post breakup mark when they all seem to reappear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:19 PM
19

The only male friend I ever made gaming, who didn't try some type of flirting with me or my character or get a little too close to me, was a very Christian, married reformed alcoholic who taught youth group and had 2 daughters. Only 5/6 years older than me. He shared pictures of his kids constantly. Dude just loved D&D.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:16 PM
11

My ex didn't cheat on me UNTIL he started streaming and had women basically making him offers. I think they thought he was slightly famous and must be slightly rich but he's a total loser with 0 life skills. I don't even trust the biggest male YouTube or streamer stars to have their shit together. Pewdiepie? Off camera is a bed on the floor or a girlfriend calling their doctor for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:10 PM
42

Lmao oh fuck. Masturbating to his own female characters is so true. I've met so many guy gamers like that. That's why they say there's no women on the internet because 90% of them- everywhere, here, and in games- are still men pretending to be women to jerk off to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:04 PM
109

It sounds like you have burn out. And emotional fatigue. Just focus on yourself honey and become a boss bitch who doesn't need a man. They might come along when you're least looking. And that way you'll be successful and independent anyways. Get a cat or a dog too! I think about men way less now that I have an adorable dog
/r/askFDS29/11/20 01:29 PM
22

I think she should make a second list of all his bad qualities and red flags and look at it each time she misses him
/r/askFDS29/11/20 01:39 AM
25

This girl. You are a DRUG ADDICT right now. Go get a new cat or a dog or hamster or something. You need something to love.
/r/askFDS29/11/20 01:38 AM
23

We're raised as women to take care of and fix anything domestic- babies, an ugly house, a sad person. We are valued for virtues of giving and selflessness. So I think the urge to fix men is also tied to our egos and pride in having womanly skills. "Look at this orphan I adopted and saved and raised into an upright character" might as well be the same as "look at this trash man I nurtured and cleaned up I'm so amazingly giving, selfless, motherly..." only we don't realize the trick is they take a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:33 PM
9

Let him go. Not worth your health. And by dumping him you're showing him his behavior is and was completely unacceptable and maybe you'll at least get a frantic apology out of him. He needs a good slap in the face and wake up call before you leave. I've been you, posting on Reddit, asking advice for how to deal with a LVM who doesn't give a shit about my illness. He never changed and had 2 years after my diagnosis to figure it out. Couples counseling didn't work. Trips to the emergency room didn…
/r/askFDS26/11/20 04:00 PM
29

Do we have the same ex lol. Mine was so whiny that I asked him to stop. It was the only disapproval I ever expressed of him only thing I asked him not to say and he kept bringing it up years later saying he had to "walk on eggshells" around me. Motherfucker just wanted to lust out loud that bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:28 AM
16

Massive red flag if a guy I've been seeing a few WEEKS doesn't text me for an entire day or two days. Tbh all this texting game bullshit should be figured out first week of dating or ASAP after exchanging numbers. If it's been weeks and you're still obsessing over the text stats or unsatisfied by the way he communicates then maybe he's not for you. Don't even spend any more time counting this stuff or thinking about it- go get mega busy cleaning or redecorating or picking up a new hobby and watc…
/r/askFDS26/11/20 02:11 AM
5

Yeah it's definitely being balanced out for her with money and fame. That's the only time it's okay to settle with an awful looking dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:14 PM
47

Someone did this to me at a party. The guy was short, fat and had lots of "personality." They were like "This is not your girlfriend. No way." I thought I was being so cool at the time, but really I was just working hard on my appearance while he didn't have to at all. Found him years later on a dating site and he's even fatter and looks worse!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:03 PM
14

Guy I'm seeing briefly described his ex as crazy... I cringed.. can't wait to hear what the story is if it even has any truth to it. Disappointed because I really liked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:18 PM
11

Like someone else said I think it is ok to relax and enjoy this normal man for once, however just make sure you protect yourself FINANCIALLY above all else. Don't mix finances, don't move in too fast, don't go all out on vacations, do not support him. Don't quit your job, dreams or move for him. That's the real trouble and where you should always guard your "trust." At the end of the day even if you're dating Mr Rogers for years you don't know what the fuck could happen and need that CASH to be …
/r/askFDS23/11/20 01:28 PM
6

That's creepy especially for a man masquerading as having morals
/r/askFDS22/11/20 11:15 PM
31

I think it's weird he only cared about your age and not what stage you are in life. I'm 28 and back to living at home because of personal issues. Even someone in their 30s could be in the same position. On the other hand there could be a very mature 28 or 35 year old who has all of their shit together so much that they really do need an older man but 16 years is a bit much. Did he try to get to know you more beyond your age AT ALL like ask what you do? Otherwise I'd be suspicious that he wants y…
/r/askFDS22/11/20 05:59 PM
3

I couldn't even fathom dating when my mom had cancer, even towards the end of her chemo when she was doing much better, all it took was one bad day or her throwing up or falling again to make me block everyone else out even friends. I went from a person who replied to all texts from everyone immediately- to forgetting about them for days and finding replying a mental chore. However I did have a guy in my inbox, interested but couldn't be involved, who always wanted to listen and I couldn't not g…
/r/askFDS20/11/20 08:37 PM
9

Yeah I'm still happily contemplating ways to get revenge and let every single one of our friends know what a piece of shit he is. He's not getting away with how he treated me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:58 PM
16

He either absolutely knew or you weren't the only girl he was doing this to. The part about him not wanting your relationship public is really weird- usually insecure people are highly possessive and want you to put your relationship status everywhere. But right when you said that made me think he was playing you and some other women, especially if his bestie was a cocaine dealer. So sorry honey but I'm glad you got out and you got out with an education- now you know the signs of men like that a…
/r/askFDS19/11/20 07:19 PM
33

I also bet guys who say this are just projecting a fantasy and still don't even get many opportunities to reject women lmao
/r/askFDS19/11/20 07:14 PM
73

Men always use tiny penis jokes and short man jokes as arguments for their discrimination, rights, feelings etc meanwhile women being devalued and murdered by men no matter what they look like lmao like a tiny penis is literally the worst thing that can happen to them somehow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:23 PM
9

I know it's not liked here but I -do- identify as Demi and I absolutely HATE the push to be included into the LGBT spectrum. I think it's useless, doesn't fit at all, selfish, space invading, cringy and I don't understand why aces can't just enjoy and celebrate their own spectrum they literally already have because we've come up with like 6 different versions of straight alt-sexuality. Just make your own rainbow god damnit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:35 PM
22

I think you should monetize this tragedy and spin it into an entire stand up routine sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:29 PM
8

Yessss girl I've been there! Hold onto him! My ex didn't even want to be around for one of my surgeries- new guy I've barely been dating asked to visit me every god damn day in the hospital!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:13 PM
23

Why do men have to be as gross as possible like everything is still a 5th grade farting or burping contest? No bigger turn off than literal toilet humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:05 PM
66

They really don't care that most of the compliments women get are faked just to scam us out of sex or to get favors/social grooming from other women. I'd rather get none than get another random Indian man adding me on Instagram saying I'm pretty. It's honestly like saying you're jealous of people who get bots trying to scam them out of money or jealous of children who get people that want to abduct them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:04 PM
1

I hope the fuck they do on Twitter now. My ex cheated on me with someone he met through Twitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:51 PM
7

Ok for anyone else confused it's from the Netflix show literally called You where he stalks women and kills people around them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:32 PM
50

Jennifer Coolidge is a fucking national treasure. She's gorgeous, has never tried to change her naturally curvy and strong form just rocks it, HILARIOUS and talented, she's 59 and killing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:35 PM
45

They're getting it from faceless but more often very ugly straight men that they'd never be attracted to or even flattered by, so in that sense really not that different from having lesbian customers or a guy having gay customers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 04:09 PM
39

I wish this was fully true but unfortunately as a millennial it's really fucking hard to live on your own, I can't afford 1 bedroom rent (along with all other bills) where I live and I make over double minimum wage in my state. You're either rooming with friends or a guy and I think the latter is the trap lots of young women fall into
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:06 PM
7

Throw the whole man out. He WILL cheat on you if he hasn't already, when you go through a period of hardship that means no sex, either a medical problem or family issues. But even without this is absurd and disgusting.
/r/askFDS15/11/20 09:46 PM
38

This. Just think of his public persona as a character. It could all be lies- an act. My ex was semi famous in his niche online community and people had no idea how much of a gigantic loser man child he really was.
/r/askFDS13/11/20 06:05 PM
3

This is the lowest effort contact I've ever seen. I get more text from my automated doctors appointment reminders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 07:03 PM
35

I game, I can pull an all nighter and I love all day game binging sessions as much as the next "gamer" but I dated a gamer/streamer/content creator and he never wanted to go outside, even when we lived in a condo with private fenced in porch full of a beautiful lush garden I planted. He hated going for walks in our perfect balmy weather to the park around the corner. Just an absolute troglodyte who hated nature and preferred being on computer 24/7. Not even taking 1 day break. So depressing. I j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:35 PM
41

This. I glam up to be manipulative, period. Not to attract men. Studies show people think pretty people are smarter, kinder, more competent and worth more. Honestly an easy cheat if you want to be taken seriously. I see LOTS of doctors and I'm sure to look nice WHILE wearing my glasses so that I look "smart" and they don't try to talk down to me- whenever I don't wear makeup people think I look sick, so I use this if I really need to convince someone I'm not doing well, at work, with friends or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:58 PM
11

Yeah she could just be hustling but being sexy and sexually demonstrative on social media basically counts as sex work to me unless you're doing something else very specific and being sexy is just separate to your content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 04:10 PM
7

Unless he makes a ton of money doing it, or he also makes time to leave his room and work out/get a tan, you'll be dating a skinny ghost who won't take you out anywhere. The nature of working for twitch requires you to near constantly stream to be successful. Do it only if you're a total homebody who also plays games for hours every day and prefers it to going out, or if he manages to take care of himself (easy to vet visually)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:56 PM
3

That requires thought, research, planning, and calling another human to schedule a time to come into your home and clean. These scrotes can't even call a doctor when they're horribly sick or depressed. They'd never do anything as adult as hire a maid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:48 PM
3

Yeah this. It's so fucking hard right now. I'm living at home as well because my mom got cancer so I had to take extra days off and lose pay to care for her. Even though I can't afford a full rent and I'm living rent free I'm saving absolute buckets just fuckin packin it away. Whoever is living at home better be saving massively towards something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:26 PM
10

Everyone here needs to go into their profile and account settings with a fine tooth comb and tune the privacy and message settings to their desired level. I keep mine tight. It's annoying what Reddit settings are default like having your profile public and searchable on google.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:04 PM
40

That's ok. Eventually he'll show his shit side and make the others appealing. It'll just take longer.
/r/askFDS05/11/20 05:58 AM
9

It's important to remember that most men who aren't rich are thrifty unless it's something they really really want like a video game or...a girl lol. They do not spend the amount a woman does on their appearance, so not only do they usually make more money but they have more saved for what they truly want, so if he's spending it on you let him- if he fucks up that's his own problem not yours, just never share a bank account or anything with him no matter what anyways. You shouldn't worry about i…
/r/askFDS02/11/20 03:31 PM
7

So what I did when I had to move out fast from a totally shared life (furniture and everything) with my ex was I just maxed out my credit card - or you can open a new one- getting a storage unit and moving supplies. Alerting my friends and family. And renting a truck all within 48 hours, I moved out and went back into a room at my parents. I did not tell him any of my plans, I simply finalized everything and then showed up at the door with boxes and friends. I had 2 female friends help me pack a…
/r/askFDS02/11/20 01:24 PM
3

He makes SO MUCH MORE than you that there's no excuse. He even lived in such a comfortable income bracket he could live alone completely independent and still have several women sleeping over eating his food and staying in two guest rooms. This is ridiculous. Rich men aren't worth it if they're cheap.
/r/askFDS01/11/20 07:37 PM
102

He only did this for publicity and clout. He's hustlin. Saying it's about a woman is just the tragic backstory to get him more fame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:55 AM
169

I bet her not wanting to be a bother was really her man saying don't overreact, just wait longer, seeing the doctor isn't worth the money, it'll go away and everything will be fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:24 PM
21

This is why my dream man doesn't even have a penis. Or balls. Full eunuch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:23 PM
5

This. Pick up a new hobby or even just a new man. Start flirting with someone else. Go plan a garden. Redecorate a room.
/r/askFDS25/10/20 07:15 PM
39

You talked for MONTHS and then met? Date on Sunday it's Thursday now and you're texting but he hasn't brought up date 2? I'd give him until Friday honestly and then ghost his ass. A guy who really wants to see you won't be able to stop himself from asking you out- seriously they're relentless. Don't talk for a few days and only reply if he mentions another date. It's ok to make em sweat. If he's cool not seeing you an entire week, then this whole first date was just a charming act and he enjoys …
/r/askFDS23/10/20 05:29 AM
84

Neither type will work hard to impress me so might as well pick the one that works hard on his body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 05:23 AM
62

Ask them why there are no romance kinks, poetry kinks, passion kinks, candlelight sexuals or massage fetishes? Oh is it because every fetish or kink is based off what men like?
/r/askFDS23/10/20 12:21 AM
20

They have to be raised right from very early. Have many siblings some younger so they know what care is. It's mostly religious families or big families that make these caring men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 12:14 AM
5

Does he have any electronic payment apps like Venmo, PayPal or cash app? I'd check their history
/r/askFDS22/10/20 05:06 PM
14

You'll never get rid of the power his parents hold over him like this until they die. Really weird that he sends most of his money to them and the only thing that can do that is guilt or this is all a lie and they're not getting most of it- maybe he's paying sex workers and trying to hide where the money goes.
/r/askFDS22/10/20 03:06 PM
3

THIS. It's supposed to be the opposite lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:47 PM
15

Or when he does backflips fulfilling your fantasies for once and works out, dresses up hot, and does nonstop over the top romantic things for you and only focuses on your pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 12:47 PM
41

Show, not tell. I try to remember this for myself too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:56 AM
178

Even in kink communities where the woman is in charge and enacting violence on the man, he still has ultimately all of the power, picks exactly what he wants, and you're still serving him and all of his needs and fantasies far more than your own. Even the roleplay of him being your slave has you dressing up, working hard, looking hot and playing all his games for him at maximum effort. While he's a trash, often ugly scrote who's getting off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:19 AM
16

I subscribed to some mental health subreddits for men just to see how men who actually work on themselves and talk to each other are, and there's sadly a LOT of posts about this, fearing their dick won't work on antidepressants like it's more important than suicide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:07 PM
8

I was being a little hyperbolic but many men want to have sex at least every day, even after they've been married for years, like this guy complaining his wife of 10 years won't have sex more than 4 times a week
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:04 PM
190

Eewwww. Sigh nevermind then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:55 PM
10

Going on Fetlife is like going on plenty of fish or swiping on tinder in a small town. At least in my area, it's a joke, everyone is hideous or has no fucking clue how to take a good photo, even the women have poor taste sorry. I was shocked because I expected people to put tons of effort into sex since it's such a strong drive. But no one super attractive or high value of any gender is there. I'm counting bad profiles, bad writing and bad photos against any of the men who had good bodies. Idioc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:46 PM
4

Holy fucking shit girl. GUUUUURL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:39 PM
288

Sometimes I feel like hunting only for men who are on SSRIs because 1) he dealt with his psychological needs and he's medicated and 2) his ass won't ask for sex 3x a day from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:16 PM
5

I was dumped for my illness at the same age. And reading this made me kind of bitterly...jealous. It's fucked up but kind of nice that he took charge at all, and paid any attention to her care or standing up for her. My ex wanted nothing to do with my disease or my care, couldn't be bothered to remember facts or look things up, wouldn't take me or show to doctors or surgeries, and told me "I'm scared you'll make this your new identity." That's HOW LOW the bar is- this guy is a manipulative assho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 02:04 PM
22

I love how "Change your belt" "you should probably work out" is nagging him while she's standing there looking like a smoke show in a fashionable dress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:57 PM
78

Won't matter if they do. Here in the west we have men loudly lamenting about the male suicide rates but meanwhile all of them refuse to go to therapy, the gym, or try meds ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:27 AM
7

As if he's busting his ass to look handsome for you? Did he even offer any kind of trade, like he'll get big biceps and pecs, or improve his closet if you grow your hair? I doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:51 PM
4

I think it's super embarrassing for both of them that they're with one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:48 PM
14

Every time we have these deep discussions about character, self worth and accountability, I remember that the incels and MRAs reddit keeps comparing us to are over in a dark corner screaming about 'chad's cock' and being obsessed with sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:28 PM
9

Yeah those stories where the sugar baby doesn't have sex are leaving out huge details like "well also her main job was modeling, she looked like Keira Knightley and she lived in NY where $300 might as well be one trip to the drugstore" It is almost NEVER going to be your experience unless you're exceptional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:41 AM
5

I said I was fine with it, but I'd be happier with a trendy asian fusion place lmao!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:27 AM
6

Yes if I have to make one more good, chic restaurant choice on my own I'll scream. With the internet it's easier then ever. My ex couldn't even look up photos for a place on yelp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 12:27 AM
31

A want a man who wants to go somewhere nice and eat something interesting for himself- not just to have sex with me. Our interests and goals have to align and that INCLUDES our taste in restaurants. I love to go to McDonald's... after a night out drinking and dancing in cool bars having fun. You don't need to be RICH but please be THRIVING. I'm fine with a nice local sushi place we go to in your well waxed Toyota. No, we don't need to go every week, sometimes I'm tired too. That's not asking for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:52 PM
14

I have the same problem... I love helping... just have to remind my stupid brain that helping a scrote is not the same as helping an animal or a child...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 09:21 PM
13

My dog makes me way happier than any man has. He's cuter too. And brings smiles to anyone who's ever around him. You need a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:03 AM
43

YES. Exactly. People who believe it are the same ones saying reverse racism is just as bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:25 PM
12

GO DAD. All went down because of a HVM who cared about his daughter. Now if only we could get men to care about women who don't have their DNA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:43 AM
20

Ok hear me out. I met this guy on tinder who only wanted to go out on meal dates. We probably went on three. He was rich and loaded because he picked an exclusive country club the first time. Every time I met him he said he already ate and just WATCHED me eat food. He never ordered. Then he paid for my meal. ?!?! Wtf was that lmao I feel like I got the other extreme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 07:40 AM
107

He got shredded in a short amount of time? As we've seen from insane scrotes over on steroid subreddits, that shit makes you crazy and violent, did any sources drug test him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:09 AM
36

Child in profile pic that's "not his" = I can't take photos to save my life and I have no friends to take photos of me, so I'm using one a family member took 2 years ago the one time I met my niece, I'm just that lazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:37 AM
41

What a complete failure of banter and conversation as well. Not only is that reply sensitive it's unintelligent and lacking creativity. He can barely hold a fucking back and forth. Could've replied with something clever and flirty. 0 game. Idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:36 AM
12

Thank you for sharing, FDS has so many "refugees" it can be hard to see examples of healthy relationships working and be told it's possible. I wish we had more women in good relationships reminding us what they're like more frequently!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:27 AM
5

Apparently not. Had to teach my 30 something ex how to make a salad. Saw another woman on here taught her 30 something man child how to break an egg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:44 PM
9

It's extra fucked up that one middle class old white man's pocket change is one young sex worker's paycheck she's barely scraping by with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:34 AM
24

Married men put me off sex work. It's largely them who can afford it anyways. Too depressing. Especially knowing how old they get and continue to do it. Their sex drives never go away it's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:29 AM
51

In western cultures yes the appearances are disparate. At least in asian, Spanish, European they appear to take care of themselves far far more. Thinking of South Korea. France. Switzerland. Etc. Everything else still out the window sadly. Imagine thinking it's unmanly to take vitamins so you just die faster but want a wife to take care of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:13 AM
7

I think about this meme like once a week. I love it so much. I'm glad it's appeared again. This is why men have more money to spend on Only Fans subscriptions. But not your dates. They don't have underwear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:12 AM
5

Sounds like this guy has probably been doing this his whole life, getting others to do "favors" for him that are actually labor that only benefits him. I bet he still drops his laundry off at his mom's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:48 PM
3

It's so hard when you have all of that from one person except one. They're so close. One extremely glaring flaw. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:57 PM
77

Also they want high maintenance that they still don't have to pay for or care for. The second you get sick they're gone. So they want some paradox of an extremely high maintenance woman who is still chill and never needy. Basically hopping from woman to woman each time they finally express needs which even the most confident woman eventually will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:16 PM
13

My FAVORITE doctor is my OB. I don't exactly know how they pick their specialty or maybe they just get a certain opportunity to shadow someone in med school and go with the flow. OBs also like birth babies most of the time and do surgeries so it's a lot more than staring at vaginas that I don't think creeps would get into. Plus they'd have to look at old ones, or ones being stretched out during birth, hardly porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:33 AM
44

In the original thread he never explains exactly why he decides to finally change and do therapy. Sus. It's like he ran out of plays so now being honest and vulnerable and having a tragic past is his new card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:19 AM
10

Trash takes itself out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:15 AM
26

Honestly just thinking he was a finsub and it was all his idea to jerk off to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:14 AM
30

A guy from OLD I was having phone calls with just kept going on and on about himself, revealing way too much (his exes, his sex drive, we haven't even met), not asking me a single question (this is almost every man, I find) and then just said "You're pretty closed off aren't you? Kind of mysterious?" No sorry I'm just not a child who needs to endlessly belch their internal monologues and I don't trust someone I've known for 3 days with my past
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:09 AM
17

My ex straight up told me he does this and uses this strategy especially at jobs. He fully explained it to me. "If you don't want to do something just do it poorly and someone else will"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:55 AM
41

^ This 100%. I don't even have enough knowledge on why men end relationships because their lazy asses don't. They wait for the woman to do it. The only case they flee is if the woman gets sick- they know she won't dump someone when she's in need so they try to get out ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:21 PM
33

Yeah four days means he'll have been horny enough again to contact but he hasn't sooooo he's getting it from somewhere else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:16 PM
50

Meanwhile basically any kind of woman has been socially trained to at least attempt all of these skills. There are lazy women and women who eat junk but they know how to shape up and clean up when they need and want to. Men are just clueless freak outs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:02 PM
9

You're only a 10 while you're literally giving a blowjob
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:42 AM
20

She's so chill I won't have to impress her or care about her feelings! She's just like a dude I can fuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:41 AM
16

Literally cucked lmao which is a phrase these men love to insult each other with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:38 AM
33

Men have been playing "dumb like a fox" for centuries to avoid emotional labor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:25 PM
95

This motherfucker couldn't even put effort into this conversation with you. All his energy maxed out at 4 words at a time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:04 PM
33

After I read this entire post I was thinking to myself "it's not really about being bigger or richer or better but just.. competent at something" and you hit the nail on the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 04:21 AM
9

Post saved. Amazing. Could never quite put into words how I felt about certain women defending sex work but they want to do nothing to make it more regulated, standardized and apparently think nude photos are worth a measly $5 a month on OF. All these desperate clueless women entering sex work who have no idea what their value is and sell their reputation and future job opportunity, while still not making enough to live is EMPOWERING. I'm SURE all this women would continue to do sex work if we h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:16 PM
31

The most hilarious defense I've heard yet. "I couldn't help it! You're just so fantastic! So I cheated!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:26 PM
7

The snooping has to stop because you'll make yourself sick and eventually find something you don't like or that pisses you off. You're basically reading his mind at this point and that's never healthy for anyone to know everything about a persons thoughts. You'll always find something to fight over. Tell him the security of your browser or passwords or whatever the fuck was compromised. Actually panic about it so that he'll panic too. You could even say you already saw someone trying to log into…
/r/askFDS01/10/20 12:50 PM
4

I don't understand, I came up with 1 single idea and when you shot it down I just asked you to tell me what to do because I'm uncreative, unprepared and lazy? What's wrong?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:09 PM
1

This is actually the biggest turn off for me when they can't keep up with the times and the trends especially in humor. I keep my outfits fresh AND my mind, keep up with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:24 PM
12

Men are so incredibly lazy. They only work at their jobs and porn and turn their brains off for everything else. You have an encyclopedia in your hand just google it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:47 PM
6

I've swiped through so many completely blank profiles that this is low key actually appealing to me and I hate it. It's more than most men type or tell you. The bar is SO LOW sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:38 AM
44

My ex didn't help me work at all on our apartment. I did all decorating picked and bought all furniture. I planted and cared for the entire garden. But I worked part time and he worked full time and he used to say he has such little free time and it's precious to him so he hates doing chores. Okay. Fast forward 2 years, we separate he's living with a room mate and quits his 9-5 for a new part time job from home DURING covid. He has nothing but time. He doesn't go outside for months. His apartmen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:35 AM
17

You could look for an asexual guy. It's actually an option on tinder.
/r/askFDS26/09/20 06:06 AM
38

Or unemployed lmaoooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:45 AM
32

I plan to never give one ever again. I'll either find someone on my sexual wavelength or stay alone. They don't ever have to go down on me either. The man would have to be extremely hot, rich, loyal and kind for me to do circus tricks in the bedroom like that and let's be honest those men don't really exist. Eating a pussy is so much easier- nearly choking is for husbands only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:00 PM
6

Lmao Queen energy
/r/askFDS24/09/20 11:23 PM
14

He wants you to pay your own money to be his sex worker. I don't think so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:21 PM
9

"How do I find a boyfriend that eats vegetables?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:16 PM
4

This girl got it all figured out!! Vision boards/ lists are so helpful. I have them on my phone to help me avoid impulse purchases and a chalkboard in my room so I can triumphantly cross things off. Keeps me grounded and motivated to see a big checklist when I feel like shit too.
/r/askFDS24/09/20 10:27 PM
40

Oh man I HATE these men. I dated two in college. It's absolutely creepy that they either withhold it on purpose or genuinely don't feel you're beautiful. One of them was a real sweetheart and treated me well but he just couldn't bring himself to say the easiest line in the universe?!? That's like going years without saying 'thank you.' Fuck these types of men. Freaks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:22 AM
10

Luckily I'm not into that and refuse to let anyone do it to me so my face has been pie free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:00 PM
2

Just go look up some male Irish celebs way hotter and more Irish than him and follow them on social media lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:09 PM
8

You said your mental health declined and I'll just take a wild guess that started this. Or you've been dealing with it for a while. Please get therapy. Continue the therapy and don't stop. Try supplements, exercise and if that doesn't work- a prescription. I know everyone says that but it sounds like you've got a good enough job to afford therapy or a prescription. My insurance pays for it. I had to call many many offices on my provider list but I found one. My ex ruined our relationship by refu…
/r/askFDS22/09/20 12:18 PM
4

Buying one for myself not because I want the new gen but because the PS4 background song and graphics just reminds me of my ex lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:15 PM
2

Those MRAs can shut the fuck up because I actually did buy a PS4 for my ex and a switch- both with games. He NEVER used the switch and he plays one single game on the PS4. Not doing that again. Eat me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:12 PM
34

Men honest to god can't conceive of the amount of effort we put into our appearance. They think hot women just wake up glowing and pick sexy outfits out in the dark. They don't realize our years of beauty education and makeup/ hair skills and product knowledge. They don't practice matching clothes to their complexion. They would never even be able to handle the diet and exercise of models with naturally gorgeous faces They really want Kim Kardashian then complain about how long women take to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:43 AM
46

My ex cancelled our 3 year anniversary dinner at my fav restaurant because of a fight. Few weeks later took his mom to the same one for her birthday 🤡 What did we fight about? His mom lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:38 AM
21

Feeling like my ex would never rush to get to me or save me or even help me in an emergency situation always bothered me. He never showed fear or concern for me. Thanks for reminding me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:23 AM
58

Women: I just want some romantic attention I don't even care if the flowers are from the drug store Men: CHOKE ON MY DICK TWICE A DAY IF YOU WANNA BE WIFEY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:16 AM
4

omg i need to watch this immediately!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:03 PM
7

My ex refused to treat his depression his entire life and never got therapy even when he was rolling in money. When my mom got cancer, lost her job and home, and I was a broken sad mess being her caretaker but going to therapy for it, he didn't wait long at all to tell me to go on antidepressants. For a temporary, new situation. He said I was so negative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:11 PM
83

Men leave women when they get ill and I feel like pregnancy or new kids is like a temporary illness to them because they're busy with doctors, body changing, probably low sex drive, some weight gain, and overall less attention on the man. "But what about my dick?!?" ensues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:36 PM
29

Just another extension of their extreme laziness. Instead of glowing up and working on themselves and really trying hard on dating and dating apps they don't want to do all that work and just go back to the last person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:33 PM
13

Mhm. Can't even call to make their own doctors or hair appointments. Who's the real child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:26 PM
8

There needs to be a service that can loan out dogs to any woman after a breakup. They are so important in giving you love, cuddles, activity partner and something to care for- all things to keep you from being tempted back to a man for those needs. Helps you stay grounded and know whether you really want a man or just someone to go to the park with lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:21 PM
18

You mean to tell me he's NOT my soul mate when he keeps breaking up with me and asking for me back?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:18 AM
32

I know for a fact my ex is sleeping on sheets I bought when we moved in together like 3 years ago. I'll bet money he never buys new ones unless they catch on fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:58 AM
14

My ex is 6/10 of these so yeah. His teeth are rotting out of his skull. Had dental insurance and still wouldn't do anything about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:04 PM
26

I made an entire beautiful garden wonderland for my ex in the condo we lived in. Flowers everywhere, butterflies birds and frogs visiting constantly. Cute porch furniture. He never wanted to go out there with me. It was either "too hot" or "too cold" at any time. He's been living somewhere else without me for the past year, unemployed, and I know (because I asked) he's gone outside for a walk once. One single time when I invited him to do it. And there's a park on the water a block away. He was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:00 PM
1

Love it. Followed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:48 PM
5

Love it. Followed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:48 PM
44

You're a DOCTOR and he called you arrogant when you talked about a body part?!? Lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:12 PM
15

The way that this continues despite bans and blocks and 0 word from you honestly makes me think this is a fetish of his. Posing as you online and cat fishing as you gets him off- he's so obsessed with the idea of you he wants to literally be you. 2 years is a long time for a stalker ex to keep at it but not long at all for the sex drive of a male fetishist! Men stop at nothing when they're horny so it explains the 0 shame about your family and everything overall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:50 PM
62

He can't even reach the counter to place an order
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:09 PM
2

If a man's character and body is good it's okay to have to dress him I agree. It sucks but it's way easier to make him wear a t shirt than treat you well or diet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:40 AM
4

Hahahahah this made my day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:31 AM
32

It's the disembodied dick that's unattractive. Poor angles, can't see your chest or arms, 80% of the photo is your wrinkled balls, you turned on a floodlight to brighten all your flaws and then used a cellphone camera from 2008 to take it. Most men are already not attractive enough to send nudes and then they're horrible photographers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:10 PM
76

Doesn't matter if he did a bunch of "unmanly" things either like baked a pie, made a bouquet, lit a candle and did some laundry, it's just fucking impressive seeing any man do more than 1 household thing without being asked. Bar is so low but he polevaulting over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:50 AM
13

I should be so lucky to get a fixer upper who's tall, blonde, handsome and muscular. Fucking unicorn right there. That's a way better baseline than the projects my dumb ass usually started with. Like we mentioned in another FDS thread you can't even find many hot men like this to do anything with or they're gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:38 AM
12

Did bitches forget that butterflies all over the jewelry rn aren't even unique, it's from the 2000's and people made fun of Mariah Carey for being obsessed with them, puhlease don't be impressed by a man who gets you the latest fast fashion trend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:34 AM
4

My ex refused to see a male therapist only wanted female lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:18 PM
16

I once went into an advisor's office in college and as soon as I sat down she tore into me about my grades at the beginning of my transcript and said "You will NEVER get into medical school with this history. Never ever." Quietly explained to her I wasn't premed at all and never intend to. Dunno where she got that idea. Literally a psych major. So don't worry, rejection happens even when you DONT try lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:12 PM
17

At least calling us red pill is closer than calling us incels. Like, most of us have obviously had sex and relationship with a man before if we're here. We're literally up in here talking about how to have LESS sex and relationships. Total opposite of the incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:05 AM
7

Some scrote highly sensitive about his paper pillows is up in here downvoting every single comment. I had to FLUFF UP a bunch back to 1 from 0. He wants y'all as flat as his bedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 01:13 PM
15

I mean this used to be an important thing for middle and upper class men in the 1800s and early 1900s. You had to at least display honor and morality. Especially among company because if you didn't, your reputation would be ruined and so would your career and then your entire family's prospects. They had to comb their hair, iron their clothes and not be gross degenerates in company. And cleavage and tight ass sexy corsets on women were wildly popular throughout. But it's totally ok now to wear u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 03:42 PM
13

Let me ask you this, if genders were reversed, and a creative male boss had a female coworker he wasn't attracted to fling herself at him and threaten suicide, do you think he'd hesitate for one second to throw her the fuck off the project and drop her like she doesn't exist? Do you really need him? It's so sad women are trained and raised to be kind and patient therapists no matter what. NUH UH. This is your job. Copy men and be cut throat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:50 PM
21

That show gave me so many self image issues because Lizzie had constantly dyed and styled hair, with a multilayer outfit and 3 million accessories in middle school somehow. Never repeating an outfit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:31 PM
6

Lmao I fucking wish Lizzie McGuire said this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:28 PM
12

That's pretty safe to assume. I see a lot of hot men that were pursued by pushy, aggressive, less than hot women in their early 20s and they kind of just went along with it and got snatched up early and hounded into marriage by these fierce women. Men don't like to lock things down but women do. Basically an eager woman got there first because women do know how to get shit done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:23 PM
18

Aaaaaand he's probably gay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:15 PM
20

This. Even if I find a guy I think is hot, I'm gonna have to assume they're stupid. It's far less likely they're the whole package like women are. I worked in academia and several different labs at my university. All of the men whose intellects I was attracted to looked like garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:14 PM
22

Dogs are so fantastic! They really help you keep a clear head about men by providing affection and company. I don't miss my ex at all when I spend a day with my dog. Realized I really just want someone to cuddle and do activities with. Dogs do that perfectly and never let you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:52 PM
26

You never get to go home from sex work online or offline. There is no PTO or closing hours. Technically to make the best living and really hustle you better be always available and always sexy in case a John calls you up or you go on cam and need to update frequently on OF. Being sexy is expensive and you buy all your own props and filming equipment. You do al your own editing and marketing. Being a high paid sex worker is basically like getting famous in any other social media profession. Get s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:22 PM
6

Yeah why aren't men doing the things we like like being romantic, dramatic, talking, writing poetry and songs for us, bringing flowers, doing some roleplay and things? ASKING us what WE like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:56 PM
40

A girl's regular ass social media pic from FIVE YEARS ago? This is worse than looking at porn tbh. This would make me suspect a super long crush maybe even love he's held for years. An obsession that will never end and you can never compete with and could very truly manifest in them being together unlike a porn star. Honest to god rather find my man jerking it to furry porn or something abstract.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:19 PM
67

It's this. Men KNOW their faults but if they try too hard to fix them they'll get endless shit, ridicule and comments from other men. Not even about being gay but just for trying too hard. They're put down. This exists in a lot of other social forms like poor people from a poor school who actually try to study and do well and follow instructions- they're uncool and bullied. Just about the only acceptable thing to do is work out but I've read many stories from overweight men that their overweight…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:05 PM
11

Is it sad that reading the first part of this about a man who actually grooms himself felt like a wet dream? Bars are so low I can't even find a guy who takes care of himself to that degree and isn't gay. I'd be over the moon for someone that doesn't ask me to do his skincare, clothes shopping and doctors appointments for him. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:02 PM
4

Yeah men are literally fetishized for their flaws. Having scars, a dark/traumatic past, being distant and unemotional, or being a jerk who just wants sex, are all sexualized traits of a man especially in romance novels and porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:03 PM
3

My ex told me his wife of 10 years cheated on him, but I found out 4 years later that he actually opened up the relationship and told her to date whoever to fulfill his sexual fantasies, and was surprised and upset when she got too attached to the new person he literally told her to date. That's when he called the whole relationship off. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:56 PM
15

Women are afraid men will rape them. Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Fucking cackle your head off if you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:16 PM
6

My ex's ex WIFE found this out when I sent her a message on Facebook asking for advice for dealing with his ass. Yes it really got that bad. I bet all her feelings and choice to leave him were double validated that day by me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:08 PM
5

I was with a man who constantly picked his mother over me, but she lived with us. She wasn't even sick. Just needy and whiny. So I know your pain. But mommy-son apron clinging connections are a little more common and understood. Outside of that we know men are fucking awful caretakers usually of both partner, parent or child, they'll get out of it however they can. I find it really odd that he's so attentive and servile to his dad, is his dad sick? Incredibly old? Just lost a job or a home? Does…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:45 PM
14

Correct. They're attracted to children and teens. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:53 PM
17

I'd have to dissect all the tweets really closely because posing as women on twitter especially in the sex work section of twitter is incredibly popular. I spoke with a man who admitted all of it and having multiple catfish accounts. He got off on it. It's easier to get away with on twitter because people expect fewer videos, voice recordings, selfies... proof basically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:43 PM
20

In my case I even picked out and bought that one outfit for him. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:12 PM
6

Taurus men are where it's at!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:09 PM
5

I love Capricorn men. And women too. They always end up being my best friends or favorite people. This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:07 PM
57

That's mad true too. Don't forget all the unpaid labor we do domestically that leaves us less time for work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:47 PM
281

This is why men have so much money sis and we don't. They put their mattress on the floor, LOVE eating ramen every night and can't even be fucked to buy conditioner let alone a wardrobe. Going to a doctor or dentist is like climbing Everest. I'd be rich too if I lived like a troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:23 AM
80

That whole thread is full of men admitting they have no emotional quotient or communication skills but I bet every single one of them would refuse to go to therapy or couples therapy if you asked them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:42 AM
40

This wanna be BDSM motherfucker. Nice try. Go dominate a sock
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:57 AM
13

I had an incredibly healthy life with no trauma, and a well of compassion ready to help people with, RIGHT up until I graduated with my Psych degree. A bunch of shit blew up my life and I'm still struggling- I don't know if I'll ever recover so I refuse to become a counselor. I think it's a fucked up, hypocritical thing to do. Honestly like an obese doctor being a nutritionist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:50 AM
22

As someone who ACTUALLY "went through stuff" that made me abruptly delete all my online dating apps- my mom with cancer was hospitalized for a week with two infections- it's weird that he can't even explain or hint what it actually was. He's using it to lure her over to HIS place where he cooks? So he can also cook up an emotional lie to get her to sleep with him? Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:16 PM
3

"So where do you want to go" god I'm screaming I feel like I have LV fuckboy PTSD from so many men never ever planning anything in their fucking lives and winging everything. Like not even bringing sunscreen to the beach or not even packing a phone charger for a trip and just "borrowing" mine. Basically I've been a mom on every single date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:30 AM
78

Brave of him to marry an old withered hag of 28 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:35 PM
26

This is the most boring ring I've EVER seen in my life. I think I can get something better in the costume jewelry at F21
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:36 AM
11

Idk about this, I'm definitely going to have to TALK about sex, because no way in hell I'm falling in love with a man, and letting him put on a mask of an angel, only to finally get in bed after months and find out he loves anal. It would ruin everything no matter how perfect he is if he secretly likes to wear diapers. Have to chuck the whole man out- all that time wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:33 AM
8

This is a common method of domming that I've seen a lot of female dommes use. It's basically being a "nurturing" domme and it's a tactic used to calm down subs when they get off, aren't horny, realize they don't want to do this any more/again and try to leave. You're trying to psychologically trick them into it being good for them and actually building character like you're some kind of mentor- which is a whole nother thing some people are actually into. But overall this is used to keep subs fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:40 PM
17

Her WHOLE FAMILY lives in fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:14 AM
4

Ngl this is trash food but I'm still SURPRISED he can cook any of this AT ALL. The bar is so low for men. I've dated so many guys who #1 are so picky they wouldn't even eat half that food and #2 fuck up ramen, don't stand a chance against an egg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:07 AM
10

And cheap, fake maple syrup too that's just corn syrup with flavor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:06 AM
10

Omg you really hit it. I NEVER see men flexing how well they can do stereotypical "manly" chores lmao. Seeing a man trim a tree and shape up the whole lawn would get me wetter than this diabetic's breakfast he made from boxes in an air conditioned kitchen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 11:02 AM
14

LOL right this breakfast is boring AF I've seen avocado toast more exciting than this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 10:59 AM
6

THANK GOD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 10:30 AM
25

I really think we need to put this in the side bar somewhere because there's actually articles and studies on this and ALL women need to be warned their husbands will abandon them if they get ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:44 AM
16

That is VERY common especially for cancer and breast cancer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:42 AM
10

Holy shit those are all really HVM signs. Especially offering a ride. It shows he worries and worrying means he cares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:40 AM
1

My ex also tailgated like CRAZY. He hated slow drivers. But he was a giant pussy and would never use his horn if we were in clear danger because using your horn is "rude." So he wanted to be passive aggressive but couldn't muster any defensive aggression to save our fucking lives. Absolutely wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:33 AM
13

Yeah because everyone knows most straight men have been trying way too hard on their appearance 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:27 AM
53

This dude sounds autistic to be honest. He seems really upset at having his order disrupted and he's super particular about the texture of his clothing? He also seems easily angered/enraged about borrowing from his PREGNANT wife in general. So, control and organization issues, very particular about the feel of his clothing but refuses to search for more, and easily angry about possessions. My ex had high functioning autism and was the exact same way. I can MAYBE get being upset at your wife stre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:26 PM
31

Those headphones are fantastic I have them and love them. Have been lasting me years too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:07 PM
24

What a stingy piece of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:06 PM
21

I'm really enjoying my mind's fantasy imagery of Atlantis-style glowing blue busts of Karen after Karen imagery just swirling around you in protective ancient magic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:58 PM
40

If men really want to attack us with biology we should remind them testosterone makes you angry and aggressive. They already know all this science from studying prisoners and athletes on steroids. T doesn't just peak once a month, it's a nice steady flow of violence all of the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:56 PM
9

Joke's on him. For every fetish there is an equal and opposite fetish and I already know there's other creeps out there mad horny for my itty bitties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:58 PM
57

This is why I look for men who love animals or are good with children/ have younger siblings. Preferably both. I don't trust a man who's never taken care of a pet on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:55 PM
8

PICK ONLY TWO: Handsome, good at sex, good person You'll never get all 3 lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:07 AM
17

I really just think femdom is for lazy but controlling men who want to turn their brain off and have a woman tell them what to do. But only in the specific way HE likes and wants. All subs are still controlling people who actually want you to put in more work torturing them than they really do for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:00 AM
2

She's a bangmommy through and through
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:54 AM
5

No man can take care of you as well as a woman could. Truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:52 AM
2

Translation: He's hoping for anal sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:16 PM
18

Even I don't follow 100 subs and I use reddit every day for every area of my life. 100 porn subs is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:37 PM
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I think only older men with children can become caring and attentive like this. Raising kids prepares them a little for what being attentive means, but also aging and seeing friends/parents die from cancer and just the experience of years exposing you to the reality that people really do fall ill. Young men without children have no fucking clue how to take care of someone and they don't take health problems seriously because they feel invincible. If they've never been sick or needed a surgery, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:28 PM
18

People keep celebrating the girls who make 6 figures a month but you can never buy back shame, reputation, and the disappointment of your parents no matter how much money you have. It's like blood diamonds. Both of my parents would have to be dead for me to even remotely consider online sex work. Anonymous escorting feels like a better deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:17 PM
2

"In conclusion, I believe that there is no way men have to work on themselves, compared to the sex that wears makeup and hair product every day, gets bullied into losing weight and spends more on their wardrobe than I spend on groceries and video games combined. 🤓"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:06 PM
2

I changed my fb relationship status from In relationship to just nothing- blank. Says nothing. Doesn't even say single. All my exes have since been messaging me or adding me back as a friend. Smh. LIKE THEY'VE BEEN WATCHING AND WAITING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:04 PM
6

Bumble is trash. People don't even have to list where they live and it quickly stops showing you people outside your specific parameters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:44 AM
10

This hit me like a ton of bricks I feel personally attacked. Been listening to too many sweet words lately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:33 AM
3

I thought people exchanged Snapchats when they weren't comfortable exchanging phone numbers and instagrams? You can easily stalk someone with those other two. I agree snap is fucking stupid and impossible for conversations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 02:39 PM
10

He's lying he 100% talks to her because it turns him on. Why does any man speak to his "ex sister in law" no matter what she does?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 02:05 PM
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These idiots never get it. Just like reverse racism isn't as bad and skinny shaming is not the same as fat shaming. It's about punching UP to those who are established in privilege. Aka MEN. Punching DOWN is bad. This is why boxers have weight classes or else it's unfair. Jesus Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:51 PM
9

It's just a male mindset. I've dated 4 guys with depression. All refuse therapy and meds. Or even working out and taking vitamins. They all say they want to fix it on their own OR they just don't believe in therapy and drugs. Definite dealbreaker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:09 PM
6

Oh okay thank god!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:24 AM
4

So he demonstrated value and future faked you...smh sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:16 AM
84

Seriously all men just want chicken tendies and I'm sick of it. They either cook shit food or they like good food and can't cook to survive. I've only ever dated one guy who knew how to cook well. He was so sweet. He'd make me fresh vegan meals constantly and desserts for special occasions. Buuuut he also didn't bathe, wash his hair or buy new clothes, and refused to get treatment for his depression. Always some shit. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:59 AM
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It's not empowering and it's not quick easy money. You're basically playing a lottery to get famous on the internet- like any other social website like YouTube or instagram, BUT risking your reputation and future job stability if anyone finds out. It's highly unstable income, and it's highly unlikely you'll make enough to live off of let alone be comfortable on for a while. $5 subscriptions are a joke. You need hundreds of fans just to make rent yet you're working harder for it than a 9-5. The m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:58 AM
14

Bet he refuses to see a therapist or actually fucking get diagnosed with that "depression"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:14 PM
39

Bet he refuses to see a therapist or actually fucking get diagnosed with that "depression"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:13 PM
30

This is how men have all that extra free time and money. They just live like trash and put all their energy into earning/career/hobbies/hustling. And they're so much happier for it. They perform less labor and upkeep for their life and appearance overall. Sleeping on trash but swimming in cash. Took me a long time to figure out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:12 PM
28

Idk about you but seeing a man handcraft a thoughtful and useful gift for a woman gets me extremely hot 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:31 AM
52

Just wait until he figures out that 21 year old only wants him for his money and free dinners looool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:39 PM
2

You have to get crowns over the teeth. As far as I know there's no other way of covering it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:57 PM
13

I had giant spots of fluourosis on my two front teeth growing up (if you don't know it looks like butter is stuck on your teeth) and couldn't fix this until age 19, so I spent most of my life being asked by other kids in school "what's wrong with your teeth?"- and I had NO answer. I was very aware of teeth from a young age. I've had braces and crowns and bleaching since then, basically everything you could ever do to make teeth prettier, but I still hate them and still hate smiling. When people …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:38 PM
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itsdavantewilson
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 06:56 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:50 PM
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If we're so ugly how do we have so many exes?!? Guuuurl someone please LINK that thread with all the selfies of the FDS women! We're beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:38 PM
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IM IN LOVE. Followed on Instagram he has other videos there too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:27 PM
19

What he look like tho?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:26 PM
4

I've actually struggled dating a man who loves food. Most white boys only want to eat pizza and chicken tenders. My ex wouldn't even eat the rice I cooked. I'd be over the moon to find a man who will eat any food in front of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:17 PM
1

This is why I just date gay men! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:37 PM
9

I've definitely spent the last few years of my life refining and perfecting my "lazy but pretty" looks when it comes to makeup, hair and style. Too much effort and you look like a crazy clown up close and people make annoying "going somewhere fancy?!" comments. Plus I just don't have the skin texture, money, or time to pull off contouring and fake lashes every day. I don't have the patience or money for manicures but I file my nails into the current trendy shape and paint them with 1 nude or cle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 08:48 PM
20

Me next time a fuckboy gets near me: LOUD TONGUE POPPING AND SASHAY AWAY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 07:28 PM
21

There's no way this is real come on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:11 PM
15

Same. I don't need a fucking Hemsworth brother just please know how to dress yourself, style your hair, comb your beard, and don't have a gut. That's about it. But even that is too difficult to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:23 PM
26

Women have "needs" too that are often emotional and romantic which we satisfy with romcoms, period dramas, bodice ripping novels... and basically we pretend to like sex a lot more than we do just to get emotional support and companionship out of men. Where is the opposite market? Where are men going to learn how to be romantic, thoughtful and caring for women? PUA doesn't count. I just don't even see it? Why are women injecting their lips to look hot but men aren't even bringing us flowers more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:46 PM
18

Trooof this is probably his #1 hunting ground. Men like it easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:57 PM
24

Omfg savage. Never heard the foreskins one before lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:45 PM
25

It's literally a porn stars job to act like they love doing porn and it's so super fun for them and they're not greedy at all no! Getting angry at that is like thinking a friendly waitress wants your number. Bruh she was being nice to you acting like she loved serving you for the tips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:28 AM
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OH my god I found this comment too and thought about posting it here! You beat me to it! Imagine chasing a man who isn't even attracted to you and wearing him down until he begrudgingly submits to marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:14 AM
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Because they're married and have to be monogamous they panic. Men will fuck livestock until they have to marry the sheep then they suddenly think they deserve the prettiest, fluffiest, whitest one or what's the point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:00 AM
9

I couldn't even get my boyfriend of 3 years to stay overnight at the hospital with me. On a weekend. I'm happy for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:47 AM
61

When you're an ugly man you can pay or just trick someone super hot into loving you and they'll deadass walk out in public with you. Ugly women: ???!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:17 PM
9

I used to emphatically INSIST on going Dutch on every date ever and I was super proud of it. I told myself I'd never let a man expect any physical reward from buying me food- it gave me control. But when I think about how many ugly and poor men I went out with while I worked so hard on myself and was careful with money- I cringe. I still don't need a man to pay every time, but he has to be ABLE to, and at least offer it, especially if he shows up looking like Shrek. I spent more money on my appe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:48 PM
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If you have a medical condition simply don't fuck with uneducated men period. You're stacking stupid ON TOP of their toxic masculinity that tells you to suck it up or stop being dramatic when you're sick or in pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:38 PM
2

Link???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:31 PM
3

Do we have a discord server?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:31 PM
6

There's no way he is. Actual hot guys don't even need to request a woman be beautiful, they just automatically pull them, or talk to them confidently, there's no fucking deli ticket for a 1 hot woman please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:26 PM
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Humans are social creatures! Shame him AND tell the rest of the family about this! Men only shape up when their ego and reputation is at stake!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:11 PM
7

My ex of 3 years peaced out and let me dad take care of me after surgery, even though we lived together and my dad is in his 80s lmao. I just went back home for 2 weeks and he visited me a couple times. Didn't take any time off work even though he was fucking salaried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 03:34 PM
28

You learned soooo much. This was some god damn mythical trials for you. This was your fuckboy odyssey. I know everyone dispenses advice about red flags and why didn't you know better/do better but it's so hard when you like them and they're handsome, and they played games with you to manipulative your self worth, it's like they've got a magic spell on you you can't escape. This motherfucker was INSANE though- saying he hates labels and also in the same room crying begging asking what he can do t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:26 PM
9

Men are so used to being on top and in charge of every single subject and area that when they see victims finally getting attention they scramble to get a spot too. They don't give a shit about helping or healing because they were never taught how.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:02 PM
1

Open up notes on your phone, make a big list of all of the reasons he sucked and he wasn't attractive or could have been better, and then just stare at it each time you feel bad and remind yourself he ain't shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:22 PM
11

Yeah this. Sorry but I had a very generous "ex" who bought and paid for many things, he truly enjoyed doing it and offered every time. But when men get angry they snap and by the time I was moving out, suddenly he demanded half the cost of everything I was taking with me. Even things I bought with my own credit card he said "technically I paid for because I paid for other things that allowed you to use your money for credit card bills instead."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:59 PM
7

Not as much as you'll sob when he leaves you for a younger woman and you suddenly have no valuable savings or assets and can't get anything from his broke ass in a settlement because "money doesn't matter!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:50 PM
25

Nevermind that the biggest sex symbols of our current timeline, the "hot American women" Kardashians are often coupling up with black men but okay go off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:40 PM
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She wearing 20 lbs of makeup and have her nails did in her photo but she don't wanna get "dressed up and go out" mmmmhm I bet the milkshake she wants still has to be vegan from a trendy place downtown. Try to drive this bitch to Taco Bell on the wrong side of town and see if she calls you back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 05:35 PM
9

That same man on his dating profile "I want a woman who takes care of herself"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:02 PM
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Porn stars make nothing compared to the e-girls, twitch streamers and instagram stars putting up patreons and onlyfans and calling themselves cosplayers or content creators while making pornographic content. They're making porn with lies. Just because you aren't fully nude doesn't mean it's not sexual. Men are still paying to jerk off to you. I feel so bad for porn stars and sex workers, they messed up. Being an e girl is the new best avenue. Do the same shit and just call it art and you get to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:09 PM
66

Men: Leaves wife when she gets cancer. Women: Stays with boyfriend who tried to choke her to death
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:18 PM
92

I follow a men's mental health/group subreddit and there's a thread in there right now about grown men just figuring out hair dryers and styling products.... and generally...styling their hair at ALL... not to mention I come across occasional threads on hair subreddits where men discover conditioner in their late 20s and it's like- I'm proud of you but also oof, I was expected and pressured to use those products and tools from the age of 12 or 13... all the "beautiful women" you draw and beat yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:11 PM
4

That advice flies in the face of all of the manic pixie dream girls men are writing into stories and getting crushes on so just do you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:58 PM
3

All this quarantine is making men think for once. I got two serious multi paragraph relationship texts from two exes in one day the other day. I still don't trust they aren't just horny. They think you'll be more willing to violate social distancing and sleep with them if it's with someone from your past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:34 PM
24

My ex's mom never cooked him vegetables because his father hated them so she gave up trying. Imagine not feeding your child vegetables and giving them proper nutrition just because your husband doesn't like that food. Basically neglect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:59 AM
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My friend just broke up with a guy because he refused to go down on her. Of course he still expected BJs. How embarrassing for him honestly. DUMPED for not eating pussy. So proud of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:44 PM
14

I mean, all sex workers are 'smart women' for exploiting men's urges. Sorry but you can't look at her content and not say she is one. Besides that though, her sudden disappearance online, disturbing videos she exited with, incredibly young age (20) and public records of filing 2 companies with her boyfriend as co-owner make me concerned for her or at least suspicious that this isn't entirely an "independent woman" venture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 03:55 PM
33

I've never seen anyone on FDS talking about raping, killing and enslaving men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:01 PM
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Starting to think self-styled high maintenance straight men only exist in New York, Chicago and LA when their jobs specifically force them to glow up to have a chance... I used to think of the husband of one of my friends as a good example of an average man who takes care of himself, but I just found out from drinking with her that she chooses all his clothes and makes all his doctor/ hair appointments and even orders takeout for them. He hates taking care of their kid too. He can't pick up a ph…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:52 PM
15

Belle Delphine is a sex worker masquerading as a streamer/cosplayer and influencer. She made a porn hub account with videos and then "trolled" fans by putting up "non sexual" videos, but she's sexualizing herself all of the time with her makeup, expressions and little girl clothes. Then just made an OnlyFans anyways. Watch her "I'm Back" video on YouTube, it's straight up soft core porn. IMO she can do what she wants but it's hypocritical and wrong to get to her level of fame and not be honest t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:09 PM
13

They're training you to be relaxed and calm and "not difficult" or "needy" which will always benefit your superiors (a boss, a love interest who earns more money or wants more control, insert other power dynamic here) more than you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 10:10 PM
7

All the struggles men complain about like their suicide rates and custody battles and war drafts are caused by OTHER MEN and toxic masculinity. They refuse to get therapy or talk to each other about feelings unless it's about how much they hate women. They still want to be manly men and then look jealously on all the "privileges" women have but refuse to become more like us. ?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:37 PM
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Men can't handle changes or struggles in their women or relationships. They have no concept of weathering a storm or being patient. They'll leave you if you get sick, if you get fat, if you get poor, if you have their kid and they figure out the first two years are hell and you barely have sex. They're just out the door. No waiting it out. Not even when they passionately loved you. Apparently you're different now and will never be the woman they fell in love with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 01:07 PM
9

It really doesn't get more lazy than this he's tryna ubereats-you-out from home with 0 effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 12:49 AM
9

Why isn't this tweet from a guy about him burying his face between my legs to get me to calm down? Is that on the 2020 agenda too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 11:09 PM
4

He gonna be in that new romcom Must Hate Dogs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:39 PM
4

I need to know this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 10:38 PM
10

Damn you really nailed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 07:06 AM
24

You have your answer already lol. Shaving one of those parts is much more painful and uncomfortable AND unhealthy than the others. Do men want you to be in pain?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 07:03 AM
56

When they don't even fight it says everything. It's like they knew and were just patiently waiting for you to do it so they can be the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 05:43 PM
14

So just a hole with no personality, needs, or feelings, not even remotely a person you ever have to take care of or think about. Just get a fucking fleshlight. Men need to admit when they don't want a partner they want a wet hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 03:33 PM
18

This is a weirdly bold tattoo on someone I can't see any other tattoos on. I'd expect it from someone heavily painted already. Sure this is real? I'm praying it isn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:48 AM
107

I'm really bothered that any show writers would write a grown professional woman beg a man to leave his wife for her. Regardless of the man that's just wrong to do to another woman. The wife would have to be straight abusive for that to be okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:45 AM
24

Don't forget spending hundreds $$$ more on our appearance than men do. If we going 50% on rent he should pay 50% of my salon and beauty bills or take this ass to the gym and the mall for a decent wardrobe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 08:51 AM
12

Sex. He's talking about sex he just knows he's not allowed to say it out loud. He wants to be appreciated with a blowjob when he gets home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:15 PM
28

These get posted often and I want them to reach front page and mainstream sites like imgur. The only way to fix this is to make it known to everyone and massively shame men for doing it. It should be as embarrassing as abandoning your children or abusing an animal. But no, apparently having a small penis is still the thing men fear being judged for most
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 01:48 AM
15

Oh honey I am so sorry. I would never wish the struggle of cancer on anyone let alone twice. It breaks my heart that he treated you that way and I wish you had more support around you to pull you out earlier. He sounds like a complete piece of shit. Love yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 01:45 AM
28

Men are just always in a rush and hate taking time for care and detail. They're playing a numbers game online and they are not patient. I've seen online dating guides for men that encourage talking as little as possible online and just trying to set up an in person date ASAP. The amount of men I've personally talked to on dating apps that immediately ask for my phone number that day or to get drinks as soon as we match to try and "close" me is wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:42 PM
24

Oh my GOD. This takes the cake. Men's worst argument against women is that they cheat and are gold diggers. But at least we can function as humans?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:29 PM
5

Uuggghh please my ex would only pack an hour before leaving for the airport and spend the rest of the trip asking to borrow MY shit I packed that HE didn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:28 PM
5

I bought my ex a switch with a game and he never plays it. About $400 expense. He had even expressed interest and I consulted his best friend about the purchase. Basically just don't buy your SO a $400 gift of anything that isn't like a piece of furniture or an object you can also use and benefit from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:15 PM
53

I think these are important for sex education to get girls to actually look at and understand their anatomy because my god is it shocking how so many still don't. It also teaches them they deserve pleasure too not just to get a guy off. It's anti pickme training.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:09 PM
4

It's not that they dislike them but that they just render you unapproachable by looking too much like a stereotype of an intelligent or difficult person. You're "girl with glasses" not "cute girl" or anything approachable. When a man pictures his ideal girl easy to talk to and hit on he's never imagining glasses. I get asked for directions and instructions a lot more when I wear mine lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:07 PM
34

I'm fine, no cancer but I still need to be monitored and have an oncologist I see. I get my bio marker taken once a month. Thank you for asking <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:31 PM
80

I was laying into him over text messages about how he never worries about me, he's never scared of losing me, he never shows fear or concern (I've been hospitalized twice while we were together- the first time he didn't want to be with me or wait for my surgery or be there when I woke up) and I don't think that's normal and I don't think that's love. At the time of this fight I had to get tested for ovarian cancer (I had many risk factors and a high blood marker already). If you don't know, ovar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:10 PM
3

Doesn't she marry a broke-ass playboy prince who stupidly spent his way out of his inheritance?!? WWHYYYYYYY? Why is there only one rich person in every cookie cutter romance? Is it so weird for two people to be of the same station?! And why use the tired trope of the playboy she "changes" to promise commitment to her? ALSO THEY FELL IN LOVE IN LIKE 3 DAYS AS FROGS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:58 AM
18

"Hi I'm Mark a BDSM poly kinkster who's too ugly for photographs and can't spell. Nice to meet you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:54 AM
14

I found that no matter what I wore, even a bodycon dress, mini skirts, tank tops, thigh highs, men leave me the fuck alone if I'm wearing glasses. They don't try. Never been hit on once with them on. Not at clubs or bars or coffee shops or campus or wherever. Be you and express yourself but if you don't want to be fucked with by scrotes that day just throw on some fake glasses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 03:29 AM
9

Please keep posting this stuff. It reminds me I made a promise to myself never to date a man with "depression" (self diagnosed no help at all) ever again and I need to stick to it. Somehow I've so far collected 3 exes with depression and 1 bipolar. Wtf is wrong with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 12:14 AM
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I could tell this story. My ex said he had depression but refused therapy and meds ( he had insurance for it too) for years. Meanwhile I got a therapist immediately when I had a mental breakdown and I frequently get full health checkups and bloodwork. Same story every time. Men refuse to help themselves they just complain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 12:10 AM
4

Just wondering to myself, what's the reverse version of this, where men build women up and are their personal secretary, career scouter and stylist? .... Oh right, pimps. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 12:30 AM
40

I had the exact same experience! Biggest penis I was ever with was the WORST at sex. Lights on no foreplay just pumping. Absolutely not interested in my pleasure. What's wrong with them?!? Size is useless on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:22 PM
3

I really wanna know who wrote this character or scene because they just KNEW. Curious if it was a man or woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:08 PM
5

If I'm forced to accept this when he's in the mood and I'm not, then can I tell a man I'm "in the mood for romance" and not leave him alone or let him sleep until he writes me a love poem and buys a gift for me against his will? He'll hate writing at first but eventually bask in feelings of love right? I know he's not in the mood but can I just swipe his credit card and buy me a cute new outfit, he may turn out to really enjoy how good I look in it?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:19 AM
9

This is the best thing I've ever read in my life. I don't think men and women have equal sex drives at all either. Even the pickmes who are like "I want it all the time!" still have some bare minimums like knowing the person and feeling safe and attracted to them. Men, because of testosterone I suspect, just don't care about those standards when they're horny enough. They're not joking when they say they'll fuck any female or anything. A woman will never reach the horny level of a man- she just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:07 AM
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Work out twice a week (it's once rn :() Eat more and gain 10 lbs, I'm unhealthy Get orthodontist appointment, I lost my mofuckin retainer Get a new credit card with better rewards FREEZE MY EGGS (I'm close to this) Bleach muh teeth New haircut-new me. I want the works, cut and dye, but not while it's COVID and I'm saving. Save up for first month last month and safety deposit for my own apartment. I'm 2/3rd there Hit 8k in my IRA. The amount might sound silly but I only work part time and my job …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:59 AM
2

Birth control usually does a good job lowering most women's sex drives. It does for me. It'll make your skin glow too. Drinking spearmint tea lowers androgens/testosterones. Vitamin A can lower sex drive as well (side effect of accutane) but take it in it's beta carotene form it's much safer. Idk what mental health issues you have but antidepressants and anxiety meds are also known to kill sex drives so if you've been on the fence and considering one now is the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:35 AM
6

If a guy really likes you and is excited to meet you for the first time absolutely nothing will stand in his way not even a " lake house." Men are lazy af but once they make up their minds tend to have killer laser focus. ESPECIALLY with women. It's even worse this is the second time. Can confirm he's a flake and he'll continue to do this especially if you accommodate HIM every time, you're "easy going"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:31 AM
14

It's more important to me now to find out about a guys parents than ever. My ex told me at first his parents were just divorced. He neglected- our entire 4 years together- to mention his mother was suicidal, institutionalized and left her children for years to live with another man. He also forgot to mention she was still suicidal depressed AND an alcoholic when she came to live with us :) quiz 'em hard ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:00 AM
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Now if she had told him she prefers dicks 1 inch longer than his but it's "just a fantasy" his whole world would be ruined, job lost, isolate himself, drink to depression, dead at 25 obsessed with his dick. But totally okay for him to watch big titty porno stars!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:54 PM
56

Unfortunately weird and inappropriate sexual urges are a side effect of Alzheimer's, dementia and other degenerative brain diseases. Or even brain tumors. In people who never displayed the behavior before. I wanna blame it all on them being men but I think it's 50/50. If they weren't thinking about sex secretly all the time it wouldn't come out when their brains get old and smooth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:17 PM
11

Ok now what's the secret formula that gets gay men to give a shit and look amazing? How do we do this to the straight men?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:44 PM
112

This happened to me. The guy stayed on the site. AND he was ugly as hell. The nerve lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:39 PM
46

It's really simple to me. The average cute pretty or beautiful woman is wearing about $100 more on her face and body than the man who asked her out and threw on a 2009 button up and combed his hair. I've already paid for the date by looking like dessert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 02:29 AM
4

Do you mind if I ask which one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:33 PM
13

Idk but my ex broke up with me for being sick, I went no contact for weeks, it broke him so he asked to talk and said he missed me and he'd take me back if IF I'd try to be less sick and worry less about being sick, aka, work even harder in my hard life to make his easy life easier. ?!?! Men are straight stupid. In their best moments, they'll all admit this to you. It's why they don't even talk to each other about their feelings and problems and talk to women. We're BETTER.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:56 PM
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I'm pretty sure getting pregnant for 9 months being sick and miserable and getting your body shredded and then having to nurse a screaming child is way more of a trap- and why would a woman do that to herself just for your sorry ass? Dads can leave willy nilly. What this image really says is they feel their bank account trapped when it's still more freedom than being a mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:10 AM
40

I love all your level up choices!! So many of them are less about men and more about how men have made you feel about yourself. We're not here just hating men but hating the boxes we have been putting both genders in. I'm so proud of you for going back to college too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:40 AM
18

no please stay, we need people like you here to give us hope for the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 01:23 AM
57

a guy friend tried to send me an 'i think i'm depressed' text for free emotional labor and i asked if he's tried therapy. He said no, went on a rant about how it's useless and damaging and he'll never do it. oh but you were about to get free therapy from me??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 01:22 AM
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Wow I read your unsent letter and you made the right decision- that man was officially trash as soon as he refused to pick up your kids when you got sick?? You're right he won't take care of you like you did him. Men hate sick and needy women. My "wonderful" ex never took care of me and it took 2 hospital trips to figure it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:55 PM
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I saw a photo of Elon Musk the other day having gained some weight and thought to myself "There's no way in hell the situations would ever reverse with a hot, cool young man PUBLICLY dating a rich but fat woman with no style." Just never ever. Never happens. And until it does and sugar mommies become mainstream I don't feel like women have equality lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 01:47 PM
5

How are we anything like incels when we're all here because we have a bunch of toxic exes? We ain't virgins lmao!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:17 PM
12

Literally murdering people over not getting laid. You don't see women doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:15 PM
8

Once again it's all about "fucking" and not even about dating, excitement, relationship, love, romance, flirting, seduction, connection.... you know, all the things that make "fucking" 10x as hot. I don't think I was made for this earth. Nothing is less attractive than plain old "fucking"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:14 PM
7

I have a male patient who's older but smells amazing. (He also dresses himself well- he's not white, or american he's mediterranean, of course siiiigh) I want to compliment him on it and ask what the cologne is since I know men don't receive compliments, but at the same time I'm really afraid he'll think I'm flirting 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:07 PM
10

Damn I thought I was covered with a cuddly dog but now I can improve him with some Armani Code thanks sis. He's now the perfect man 🐶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:04 PM
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Lol I'm glad. Ty for the award!! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:31 PM
15

Yes sorry I should say ex lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:47 AM
8

Ok lmao the third one really got me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:49 PM
13

I just hope homegirl remembers that life insurance companies won't pay out without a body!! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:40 PM
6

If this man can't handle fruit on pizza he sure as fuck won't be able to take me to any restaurant I wanna go to. Byyyeeeee. Miss me with your chicken tendies life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:38 PM
40

Damn that chokes me up. My bf of 4 years never went to a single doctors appointment with me through my surgeries and disease.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:17 PM
168

I want to believe this so bad it's taking all my will power to suppress all my negative grinch thoughts and doubts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 07:56 PM
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Men be like: Walks up to a woman and presses her nipple like it's a button. "Yes I'll have one sex please."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:04 PM
14

Thank you definitely needed to hear this. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:18 PM
18

It's sad because it actually speaks a lot to the state of men's mental health and how they're raised utterly lacking an emotional education, and then they wonder why they outperform us in suicides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:56 PM
10

Good for you!! Fuck him! He couldn't even weather a year! Worthless. This is the same type of person who just puts an old dog in the pound to trade it in for a puppy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:23 PM
8

Damn I fell in love with him just reading this. Just goes to show yet again his actions meant more than his words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:21 PM
32

Are you me? My totally healthy relationship of 4 years ended when I got a disease and "kept being sick" and being a problem. Still held a job and made money lol. He dumped me for being sick. Sorry it happened to you honey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:18 PM
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That's because women don't need a man to take care of themselves but men need bangmommies and maids or they'll just shut down I guess. They're basically remarrying to hire a new secretary bc they can't find where their dentist is but a woman will do it for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:11 PM
27

Damn this is genius thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:10 PM
3

What's stopping you? Do you have a porch? A window?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:27 AM
14

How the fuck would that even work, they kick you out if you're tired and take a break from cleaning for a few days? Do you lose your home if you burn dinner? Fuck off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:01 AM
14

This is why I whole ass garden! I've got flowers all day every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:57 AM
6

I get the logic, but in context it just doesn't make sense: continuing to rag on women and the men that support them is "punching down" and why it isn't fair or equal for the patriarchy to double down just because women started rising up. I hate this word and how it's often used but the ignorance of their long standing privilege is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 01:47 AM
13

Wait, there's pick me versions of men and other men put them down for it...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 12:26 AM
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I agree. This would make sense if we didn't already do all the dressing up, dressing THEM, picking some place nice to go, emotional labor, organization, decoration, secretary work, cleaning, cooking... now we have to go out and hunt men for the privilege of being their 24/7 bang mommies? Pick meeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:23 AM
21

Oh man... really hit me with the entitlement about working a job. My ex hated his 9-5 salary job, where he made more money than ever in his life, where his boss treated him like her son- all because he felt he should've become a famous musician. Somehow. Without enough drive or ambition and strategic choices. Played in a band where all the other people did the hard work booking and networking for him. How you gonna get famous if you can't call a doctor or bring your car into the shop? Interestin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:55 AM
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Aight so, instead of contributing to bills or groceries in an apartment with my boyfriend, I can just go sub to a bunch of hot dudes' OF accounts for $80 a month? That's totally allowed? Also sorry hun I can't go Dutch on dinner with you I spent $25 tipping my favorite hunky camboy Fernando. Let's stay in and eat. 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:21 AM
8

Omg no way!! That's fascinating! I never even thought of it like that, how being servile could be insulting. Pleeaasseee do a bigger post about European men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:06 AM
9

Second. Put some social pressure and shame on her. She'll drop him like a rock if he starts to embarrass her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:18 AM
6

I'm not judging a man based off his biceps and dick you idiot I want to see that he can dress himself, call his own barber, won't embarrass me in public or have a heart attack by 35. This is about less labor for me and being his personal assistant and shopper. Couldn't be further from sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:45 AM
45

Yeah can't tell if he's the wife or just a rat with a goatee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:42 AM
13

Translation: they both wanna end the relationship but are too poor/lazy to separate living space so they're giving "poly" a try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:41 AM
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Exactly. This "woman" is actually just perpetuating the "toxicity" she's complaining about by judging other women herself and putting them down. Because having standards of appearance and stylish skills and hobbies are worthless skills not worthy to be paid, but all of mens hobbies like video games, sports and cars are? Instagrammers are just shallow and no one else uses makeup, clothes or photography like actors or politicians right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:42 AM
21

Men go to work for 7-8 hours a day and get to chill when they go home. Women never stop working, always on the clock for any kind of labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:49 PM
19

Alright clicks gun does he have brothers cough them up I want a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 02:51 AM
68

Really intellectual men, unless they were raised upper class, are so hyper focused on their hobby or interest that they're still wearing jeans their mom bought them in middle school and eating chicken tenders every night. Men are just never as well rounded as women I find. They work on one thing hard, and if they're successful, use their money to pay for everything else to get rounded out. Source: I worked in hard science and soft science labs for years in college, from bio labs to computer labs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 07:08 PM
23

They save money by living like trash and then ask you to pay half of everything when you move in and spend way more making the place decent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:59 PM
29

S Korea has been doing this for over a decade. We copy their trends in fashion let's please copy their trends in men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:05 PM
12

The only reason for them to be in so fucking many is to make money and do subtle advertising and influencing. I know the mods of makeup addiction and skincare addiction get approached by advertisers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:27 PM
11

Thanks I really needed this. I don't appreciate myself for how hard I work on myself and what I do that no one else does for me. Or ever will. Everyone else has disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:50 AM
28

Truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:49 AM
53

Oh he'll find a way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:48 AM
15

I am definitely sick of white boys. Horrible taste in food and clothes. Don't know how to even wash their hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:13 PM
51

I know this is supposed to be funny but it's very sad the amount of guys I've dated who have food phobias and are such picky eaters they only want to have chicken wings pizza or noodles like they're 6 years old. Grown men who can't eat salad or fish to literally save their life. It wouldn't surprise me AT ALL to watch a large man cower in front of a charcuterie board and refuse to touch it. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:17 PM
9

Raise your hand if birth control destroys your sex drive so you can't even take advantage of it, but if you go off it your acne is so bad you feel too ugly for sex anyways. Cannot win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:46 PM
6

Ladies what is FAM?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:44 PM
4

Omg what brand? I'm wondering if I went on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:41 PM
11

All that's gonna do is make them ask you for a threesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 03:48 AM
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"Communicate and work harder than the person at fault and keep initiating every solution so they don't have to fix anything hardly!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:52 PM
5

It's also just plain boring that not even remotely the same sex services exist for women in the same capacity. We go 50/50 finances with our LVM and they still can't do flowers, gifts, romance, grooming, style and focus on our pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:03 PM
9

Yeah it's really hard because, sure destroy his wallet if it's that easy, but the reason it's easy is because men make so much more money in better fields the patriarchy gave to them, and don't spend their money being as performative as us. Not only are they slobs who save but they have more free time to make even more money by never taking care of themselves or trying to impress a woman. Letting an ugly man pay you for sex work just perpetuates this. He should be paying me to cut his hair or fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:50 PM
12

Haaaa this. My ex has my faceless nudes but I also have a photo of him sucking on a dildo, soooo...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:39 PM
13

You're our new mascot I love your videos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 07:45 PM
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Try 23 year old me. Always picked poorsies with bad taste too. Twin mattress on floor really got me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:19 AM
21

There's one problem with this, it requires they finish reading your whole text message/dating profile. And we know how rare that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:06 AM
7

Most men are ugly and picky at the same time. They all want a princess while looking like Shrek and unfortunately we keep making movies that tell them it's possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:47 PM
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My ex didn't like my dog, was mean to him, "growled" at him and scared him off for fun. He's an adorable, sweet and shy Pomeranian, doesn't even charge, and hides behind my legs :/ I'm allergic to cats and don't like most of them but I'd never be intentionally mean to them or hiss at them. Men just never pretend to care about anything unless they're trying to get in your pants. Once they're already there all acts are off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:12 AM
4

So we're beautiful AND diverse? The horror!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:08 AM
5

This is the best thing I have ever seen lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:22 PM
12

If I have to date one more guy with "depression" or "anxiety" who have never been diagnosed, won't get therapy, and won't try medication, supplements or exercise, I'll scream and just become a lesbian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 04:25 AM
1

The saying "they'll never leave their wife for you" isn't even about their wife or her feelings it's about his ego and public perception- right there in the sentence where he says he doesn't want his kids to think he's scum. People will see he left his childbearing woman for a younger model and call him a piece of trash and judge him really hard. They know what they're doing is wrong and embarrassing. Men are selfish to the core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:48 PM
1

HAAAAAH I always thought this!! Suspicions confirmed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:43 PM
8

Would you still like yourself if you weren't young and pretty, but rather old and unkempt, like all of the men who are calling you this word- yet still get to walk around proud and fulfilled? That's the power men continue to have over women. They are completely happy being unattractive and asking hot women to be their s-word. It doesn't go the other way and until it does and you shame men for being disgusting and not trying, your kinkdom is useless and never empowering or truly pleasing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 10:26 PM
22

Then the day she finally goes to interview for a faculty position with her PHD someone has whispered about her adult work and no university in the tri county area will hire her. :) So empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 10:01 PM
20

Requires heavy investments in gear, outfits, makeup hair nails and supplies. Editing and organizing multiple social medias, photos and accounts. Advertising for yourself and constantly checking messages and forcibly engaging with the "community" to "build your brand." Because it's online you're basically always at work, always available and if you take a break you're missing work. There's no weekends or 9-5. You're like a small business owner with 1 employee and you have to look hot all of the t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:59 PM
19

Seriously they should be asking us to peg them instead. It makes way more sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:02 PM
16

Wow are you me let's trade stories some time. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 08:56 PM
6

Oh my GOD you're so right lmao this hit real hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:06 PM
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Took me like 24 years of life to figure out other people ask for shit all the time. Even all 3 of my siblings got bigger pieces of the pie than me by constantly fucking up worse than I ever did and then asking for money or loans. I never asked for a car or computers or a graduation gift. I never asked to go to a good school, went to the cheapest community college I could. Everything handed down or my parents old stuff. I used to be proud of asking for nothing until I realized it was straight stu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:33 AM
28

What the fuck? Just reading this story gave me a little jolt of concern for you and a desire to go help you. I'd help everyone I could if I had the means and the time. What was his problem why are some people lacking humanity? That boy did NOT care about you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:01 AM
40

My ex of 4 years broke up with me a few weeks ago because of my disease. He said he can't deal with it, feels like I'm "always sick" (it's incurable lol?) and admits it annoys him and he doesn't have sympathy. He's still affectionate and could cuddle, but it shut off when I was sick. I'm clearly still functioning, doing pilates (I'm not trying to brag but just for some context I'm pretty thin and cute), working a job and I can go out and party with next to no symptoms. But yeah men will just bol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 04:56 AM
12

I've had like 5 of these boyfriends. 3 monthers and 6 monthers that you just know are going nowhere but you wanted the company. I'm cringing along with all these women in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 04:11 AM
8

Oh great I live right next to Ft. Lauderdale and I'll be 30 soon. I'm fucked lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:13 PM
6

Sounds like a keeper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:51 PM
30

I mean there are actually studies highlighting this. Men's brains are prone to convincing them women are far more interested in them than reality or logic would have anyone else believe. I also read somewhere that men rate themselves far more attractive than they are and especially against how women rate themselves. There's a third one somewhere about uglier men having more sperm- my point is, their own body knows how ugly they are and still wants desperately to pass on their genes, so their bra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:57 PM
33

Unfortunately I know from the experience of trying to dress and restyle a 32 year old man- it doesn't matter what you teach him, buy him, make him buy or make him wear, or even how fantastic he looks in it (my ex looked like a model), when you're not around or not asking him to, he'll put back on his shit clothes immediately to go to work or meet you at the restaurant. You'll always give 100% in appearance, him 50. Simply doesn't care or like it like you do. If anyone wants a stylish man, he nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:56 PM
31

Thank you for pointing this out. The average woman, who isn't even "hot" enough for the average man, still puts in more work on her appearance than the average man. Absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:46 PM
29

Ok I can understand a little mess but this looks NEXT LEVEL wtf was he doing while she was gone?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 05:55 PM
9

You just reminded me to go cuddle my dog. When I used to live with my ex I missed him so much. (He was allergic so my brother watched him) I would just go spend 2-3 days at home and never miss my ex because I got to be with my dog lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:32 PM
29

I've never seen this either! Amazing! I was questioning if that was really Taylor the whole time because her body language was so male as well, well-acted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:26 PM
66

My ex could definitely not keep it up without me doing extremely kinky things for him. I'm talking, he'd lose his erection in seconds and couldn't even get it in me unless the situation was a highly complicated kink. He'd go soft in the middle of missionary. Young thin 30 year old no health issues. I thought he was different, didn't know he was a statistic. Thankful for FDS every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 09:04 AM
21

Wow can you write a book of her sayings please. What a sage! That made me smile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:01 AM
35

Yes thank you. They're selfish and not even good at it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:01 PM
5

Girl please read what the hell you wrote. You're clearly so much better than this. Only one of these traits is slightly acceptable. But ALL FOUR?! No car, no apartment (he may as well not have one if you can't go over or can't see it), shit clothes and won't spend his money on you or looking nice?!? Let me ask you... if you've never seen his apartment and he wears shit clothes, how do you know for real how much money he makes? He could've lied to you. If he's 35 he will not change. I'm so sorry.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:12 PM
6

Found the realest take here. My boyfriends have dragged men for these qualities while I never even think of them or bring them up. Not to mention losing as much weight as waifish standards dictate may as well be impossible for some women- they just weren't built that way, won't reach it without anorexia, or they'll never keep the weight off for long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 07:05 AM
1

Probably not you sound british since you're saying flat mate lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 05:31 PM
42

It's absolutely 100% immoral not to tell this woman this is what he wants and where he's at. It should've been communicated right off. I spent years doing this only dating guys for fun and not commitment and I told absolutely all of them right away I wasn't ready for love and put my cards on the table. Why are men so lazy about getting what they say they want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 03:56 AM
37

Oh my GOOOOD lol my best friend had to deal with her boyfriend always having female roommates and yeah he "used to date" one and "hooked up" but what's the big deal?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 03:54 AM
21

They tease women for being talkative but I've been dating men for over 10 years of my life and none of them can shut the fuck up about themselves. Not just other subjects, which would be adorable. But themselves. Even the nice kind men still can't even figure out how to pretend they're interested in what I have to say or think. Whether it's a first date or date night after 3 years. And no matter their age they always tell stories from their glory days of high school or college and never seem to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:24 AM
13

Whether it's fake or not I like how he admitted he was attracted to her 💅🏻we glowin up ladies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:58 PM
11

Wait explain this jellybeans sub to me lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:55 PM
49

I used to think men just got dumped more for being dumb but after doing so much dating it's clear they basically force the woman to do it even if they're clearly pulling away and disinterested. Years long relationship? Just pull a fade-out until she cracks, bro, she'll do it for you and you get to be the victim! If that doesn't work try cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:45 PM
14

It looks self absorbed or obsessed if they have mirror selfies yeah. OR they look too lazy and dumb to use the timer on their phone for a good quality pic. This isn't 2008 NO ONE should be taking mirror selfies as their primary social media pic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:23 PM
13

There are men who are specifically attracted to strong, sporty, muscular women. No matter what your body type is there's a man out there who's wild for it I promise you. Don't suppress it- flatter yourself and emphasize it (with some other feminine qualities still of course- makeup, hair, clothes...) and while you may get less bites from average men the bite you do get will hold onto you because you're his ideal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:45 PM
34

I understand completely why you posted this, but seeing the random individual accounts about men on here, and then all of the women's comments with similar stories really helped me realize how badly I was treated in my relationship. By seeing one person with the same specific problem and then a bunch of commenters coming out saying "Me too, isn't it fucked up?" Gave me a huge... well, #metoo movement and really opened my eyes when before, I was giving him every excuse and pardon I could, or simp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:37 PM
40

This can't be real. Sounds sensationalized. Can anyone find a more legit source?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:17 PM
35

I think it's to further illustrate how whacko the FDS-equivalent male subs are where they all slobber over Stacy but also talk about hating and murdering her in the same breath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:01 AM
6

I'm genuinely curious how exactly do you get a guys last name from OLD without making it obvious you're stalking and pissing him off? Exchange Facebook or something? And at what time do you do it, early or late? Anyone can answer. I'm honestly interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:57 AM
21

This was literally the last few years of my life and I didn't even realize it until you wrote it down. He saved so much more money than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:43 AM
7

Wow are you me. Hurts to think about. Too true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:29 AM
8

Was looking for this. They don't have any control over this. They're slaves to testosterone. But unlike every other addict, they've never been shamed for expressing their love of sex. Is sex natural? Yes. Is food? Yes but we sure make fun of fat people and consider them second class citizens. Women have sex drives too but we've had them beaten and burned out of us for even expressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 01:54 PM
14

Sugaring is a trap and a scam most of the time for the woman. First of all she could make far more money doing the same exact thing as an escort. If you don't know exactly what you're doing, and if you don't get super lucky finding a cold hard cash man, it's just old men buying you mostly gifts, dinner and dates but gifts and lavish scenery do not pay bills. Unless it's your actual fantasy to get shiny gifts and nice meals you can't really empower yourself with while a man who will always make m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:49 AM
36

Girls are taught to love men "despite" things, even toxicity, signaling our own virtues of being brave, patient, understanding and not shallow about "money or looks."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:33 AM
90

Ah the classic immediate throw in of the towel when you ask them to improve. "Hey babe can you buy me flowers?" "No I can't you're not happy with me. Clearly this isn't working. You should break up with me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:52 AM
25

Jealousy like this becomes a self fulfilling prophecy too because you push people away and make them feel suffocated and like they need to escape. So they're GONNA turn to someone kind who doesn't make them feel that way. Ergo.... you played yourself. You basically put the idea in their head to "yeah maybe I should leave this controlling asshole for someone chill." The tighter you try to hold onto someone the more they'll slip away. Nothing pushes people into the arms of another as fast as misgu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 06:32 PM
35

The pickmeisha in me wants to play devils advocate for the men but every single time this comes around it's just simple math I've been dating since I was 15 and never met a man who spent more money on himself to make him look good than I did on myself. Usually pulling teeth to get them a fucking $15 Supercuts haircut or buy new clothes. When I go on a date I already know I've spent money looking good. He wears nothing on his face or hair or nails and threw on a button up from 2006. $0 down when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:00 PM
35

I love the commenter who's like "Misandry! They're literally asking for men to provide for them financially!!! Anyways... My boyfriend does provide for me financially" Girl that's why you have the comfort and stress free lifestyle to sit at home on reddit fighting against your own sex that is trying to get better treatment. What a hypocrite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 12:42 PM
35

No i hope she do go get some ladyboner pills so she can get her engine running for someone worth it and leave his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 09:33 PM
67

He'll ask for the talented, kinky, attentive, selfless, done-up full makeup full hair and expensive lingerie sex work she normally gets paid for- and then just give her emotional lashings the whole time they're "dating" for ever being a sex worker in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 07:23 PM
20

I desperately want to believe men like this exist but I've known how a lot of couples work and it feels like she "accidentally" repeatedly sent him Pinterest links, talked about Pinterest things and left the browser open and visible on a Pinterest page until he got the hint. Men are so thoughtful, it's easy, just mention something to him 5 times a day for several week in an obvious and obtuse manner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 04:02 PM
12

I agree. No one purposefully dates assholes. Women aren't looking for the word "asshole" in online dating bios. Jerks only reveal themselves after they lure you in. They've charmed you and know how to get you back and cycle repeats itself. THEN women complain to other men about them. It's like when guys call their exes psycho or crazy. I'm never going to assume "oh ok so you're into psychos that's specifically the trait you chose them for" "Hi I'm Denise and I only date people who show me all of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:30 PM
28

Yeah but once you get that career you're expected to still perform female roles and duties on top of now fulfilling male roles and duties/expectations-not even about having kids or not. Be pretty to be successful. Oh but not too pretty! Lead and take charge! But don't be a bitch! Dress like a stylish leader. Wait not like that too stylish! You're successful now with your successful husband? It's still YOUR job to make sure you have a beautiful well decorated and maintained home!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:36 PM
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Can confirm. Was highly satisfied. Then I got a disease. 2 surgeries within a year. Had insurance. Still held down a part time job and had my own money to support me so I wasn't even leaning on him. He got annoyed, did not want to care for me or show sympathy and started acting like an ass. Just search reddit for "wife/girlfriend cancer" vs "husband cancer" and you'll see a bunch of posts from men asking how to leave their sick partners and a bunch of posts from women on how to better support th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:15 PM
3

Does not sound like a man you want in her life. You might be having a hard time and need the help /because/ he's sapping all your emotional energy. No more chasing him. Maybe some time away missing her will do him good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 04:29 AM
12

I find wearing my glasses means I'll never ever get hit on, followed or creeped on. No matter what I'm wearing. No one will flirt with me because the glasses turn you into some sort of caricature of a nerd or "difficult" woman that is never sexualized enough to attempt a conversation with. I wore my contacts to the mall last week in jeans and a t shirt and a man literally stopped me in my brisk walking to deliver a cheesy pick up line. Just one of many differences between places I go to all of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:05 AM
28

I've dated at least 2 guys who never once told me I'm beautiful. Not "pretty" not cute. NOTHING. For months. And I get compliments all the time from others. I thought it was fucking weird at the time but neither one was exactly handsome and I didn't gush over them being movie stars- but men never glow themselves up as much as women do. I'm very stylish and good with makeup and dress up everywhere I go. Not a peep from them. It's awkward and horribly manipulative to withhold positive reinforcemen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:11 PM
32

Paris Hilton: Absurdist/Surrealist Icon?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 03:51 AM
15

I know how you feel and it's something that made me question whether I even belonged in this sub because I have "less to offer" or a "lower value." Thanks for finally asking this. I just remind myself of all of the countless men who have depression, bipolar, PTSD, alcoholism, anger issues, which should also be considered a chronic illness, and while they feel bad about it they almost universally refuse to treat or address it and fester for years. Women do. Women fight for their health. That's th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:12 AM
85

Literally our TAXES don't even work this way. Why do lone men think that they have more logic and fairness than a system that is thousands of years old and has been refined by entire societies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:05 AM
5

Oh wow 26 upvotes, clearly all of reddit must hate us, I'm shaking in my boots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:27 AM
6

Just followed her thanks. All publicity is good publicity. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 12:10 AM
17

Absolutely nothing specific about you and absolutely no specific date ideas or times so forcing the ball in your court to basically make you approach him and ask him out. How do they figure out this mindfucking switcheroo wizardry? If any woman sent a man this same message he'd be like "ew a crazy emotional clingy woman with problems? no thanks next" There would be NO nurturing and no "saving her"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:32 PM
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I used to think Paris was vapid until I watched a documentary all about her strategies for making money off of entertaining people with, essentially, a caricature. She's a straight up clever entertainer and "reality tv" is just as fake as any other actor, you're just "in character" longer. Paris taught Kimmy K and the rest of the Kardashians everything she knows and paved the way. It's not the most ethical or society enriching entertainment but there's always gonna be suckers. She's a boss bitch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:03 PM
2

You've been able to do a lot with all of the extra free time that men naturally have from taking care of nothing and not tying themselves down! You've hustled and improved your career good job :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 10:26 PM
1

Is this really a thing that really does work? I remember being on okc and tinder years ago and everyone making fun of people there "to make friends" but I really wanted it to work :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:14 PM
3

It is sooo hard and awkward. I've often thought of starting regional/area meetup groups for FDSers does anything like this already exist??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:13 PM
8

Shit, this is soooo true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:14 PM
6

Honestly sounds like you weren't the only girl in the picture. He lived far away and commuted a lot. Very easy for him to be juggling two "loves" but that was what made him afraid to label anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:10 PM
6

This would require "planning ahead" which we've already established from other threads that men can't even do when they need to eat- aka perform a basic human need for themselves by picking a restaurant (not Pizza Hut) or cooking themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 01:53 PM
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I can't think of a single reason for someone not to text back soon if they truly like you. We all be sneaking our phones out on the toilet and shit. Only if your job makes you lock it up for 8 straight hours does that make sense. Even then you have a lunch break once a day don't you? If they don't and it bothers you it means they're a terrible texter and not the communication style you need anyways. I have a drop dead gorgeous female friend who's smart and talented and great to me in person but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:57 PM
23

My boyfriend was very clean only in our kitchen when we lived together. He did not want to clean anywhere else without being told. Im messier than him but I still cleaned up better. If I asked him to vacuum he'd have an autistic meltdown saying it was too hard and the vacuum was garbage or not good. I wish I was joking. He also loathed yard work like digging a hole for me. I feel like even "clean" men are a joke and I have yet to meet one who can take care of every area of the house. They'll kee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 05:19 AM
7

Probably sounds dumb but I'm using Acorns to invest. I started an IRA with it. I don't have a job that gives me any medical or financial benefits. I've spent the last year just working and dealing with health problems that made me abandon all of my hobbies and creative pursuits, but I'm planning to start a weird hobby instagram page so we'll see how that goes. It's nice to even have the free time to think about it. I used to stress shop but managed a 6 month no buy for clothes, accessories and m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:00 PM
15

Smiling so big right now. I've only tried OLD many years ago and have never been back on but I see the experience hasn't changed a bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:40 PM
35

Men use all of the time and money they save never going to doctors dentists or therapists and never taking care of their appearance or the house in order to focus on their hobbies and careers. Then they out earn us and want to simply buy themselves the company of a healthy beautiful woman while looking like Shrek. Their interests and hobbies are deeply fleshed out because of all their leisure time and "lack of stress" from refusing to even face their health or responsibilities outside work. Many…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:05 PM
10

I have the exact same kind of message in my inbox from a few days ago. They do this, tell you to be with someone else, and will drag the whole relationship down but refuse to break up with you and make YOU do it so then they get to be the victim and say you tossed them out when really they pushed you away. The reason I've never been broken up with from a guy isn't because I'm fantastic or guys are loyal. They just give you mountains of shit and "fade out" until you can't handle it any more so yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:18 PM
56

Going through this right now. It's true. Men can't handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:02 PM
23

Had so many stress attacks every time we traveled because he'd only pack 2 hours before the flight and always forget shit and borrow mine when we were away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:02 PM
5

I couldn't have thought of a more perfect, level-headed response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:54 PM
71

"guess I'll just give up instead of spending 5 minutes on an idea"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:53 PM
1

Too close to home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:26 PM
41

I'm sad how well this works but it absolutely does. Never let them see you sweat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 12:14 AM
8

Yeah...I made a thread that got just hundreds of votes and dozens of comments, everyone told me to move out, he's glued to her. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:44 PM
13

Thinking about all this kind of stuff today while I was driving and at this point I'm honestly so sick of it I'm wondering if I should try being a lesbian. At least women have the social and cultural training to care and plan things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:15 PM
31

I can tell you exactly what's going on. Abuse porn is trendy among incels. They hate giving any power to "Stacy" including their sexual attraction and they loathe the fact that they still really desperately want the women they can't have. Just jerking it to "Stacy" feels "unfair" and infuriates then. So I've seen in a lot of incel threads they're all coaching each other to actually masturbate to violent/abused women so that they don't give away any more power. Literally their jealousy and obsess…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:01 PM
24

My boyfriend's mom moved in with us, destroyed our relationship and made me move out but I still try to stay together. He cancelled our anniversary ("too awkward and painful right now") to my favorite expensive restaurant where you sit outside in a garden- I found it myself for us a long time ago and brought him before, so the anniversary was just reusing my idea. A week or two later after our cancelled anniversary it was his mom's birthday and he took her there to eat :) no originality and he a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:40 PM
19

My boyfriend hadnt been to a doctor or dentist in years until I got with him and made him go. His teeth are still rotting out of his skull and he has dental insurance and he makes up excuses not to go. He shits violently after every meal and complains about it and refuses to try going no dairy or taking lactose pills. He has depression and anxiety and refuses to do therapy. He actually trusts doctors 100% but still doesn't want to see them. Guess how he treated me when I got sick and had to go t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:51 PM
9

I get that women have demanding laundry lists like this too and I would also call them insane if they had the same profile list but he's asking for that and he LOOKS like a dried up sea sponge! That's why this is whack!! Fucking whoosh over their heads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:19 PM
41

It's always "depression" and they always always always refuse to get therapy or help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:04 PM
5

I just read your long list of him negging you and now he can't let his favorite neggee go. Fucking run because even after you dumped him he's reaching through EMAIL to still hold onto you and BEAT you up emotionally. I've had post break up emails from exes but even the worst ones didn't tell me I have a mental disorder Never let them see you sweat. Leave him on read. Sweetest revenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:54 AM
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You're so amazing and badass. I bet you eat LVM for breakfast. I can't believe you survived that AND saved your sister, and I'm so sorry you had to at all. There are normal and very, very decent guys, but they usually have their own different kinds of shortcomings. But yes there are plenty of men who are genuinely caring. I've dated some of them. Just didn't work out despite them treating me very well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:27 AM
16

The biggest comment thread on that post is people arguing about whether the jailbait sub should've been banned... splitting hairs over what counts as child porn and is illegal or not...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:18 AM
4

I used to think I was completely alone and the only one suffering this but it seems so common that now I'm doubtful about ever finding a grown ass responsible man. All men just love doing nothing and then say they're depressed and do nothing about that too. Has anyone ITT known any male figure a brother an uncle their dad your bf who actually does make plans?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:52 AM
8

Out of all of those "hot" taken guys how much you want to bet they're only hot because of all of the makeovers their mo- I mean girlfriend made them do? I made my boyfriend get a trendy haircut. Found him the salon and scheduled the god damn appointment for him because he was too scared. Made him go to the dentist. Made him come to the pool with me to tan. Made him buy more food to gain weight. I made him buy trendy clothes and always picked them out and put them together and had to force him to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:10 PM
2

I feel this way. I don't have a "type" at all I like guys all sizes and colors. I'm only instantly attracted to traits like grooming and style. I'll take a chubby guy with fire threads and a sexy haircut over a jacked dude whose mom still dresses him and only uses shampoo. 99% of our time together will be spent being seen not having sex. Don't embarrass me. Don't waste my time making me get YOU ready after I got ready. "Wear something nice do you hair" smdh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:03 PM
4

Are you me. Jesus. I'm always burning that new relationship high and it always dies out at 3 months when I only then notice all of their flaws. Then I'm so embarrassed I was ever seen with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:58 PM
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I thought I was the only one dealing with this shit. Why is it so common?!? It's made even worse when you calculate all of the woman's unpaid labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:11 AM
25

I got sick and tired of always planning dates and picking out places so I made my boyfriend do it for a few weeks so we'd have some place to go each Friday. For context my bf LIKES paying for dinner so price isn't an issue. Told him it had to be a nice cool trendy or delicious/interesting restaurant. You know, a place for young people, where we can wear cute stuff, there's tons where we live. He had all week to do it, all he had to do was look at photos on yelp, look at the menu to pick out what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:41 PM
11

Was he abusive the entire 10 months at the same time he was kind and supportive? How long did he take to reveal himself? Would he verbally abuse you and then make up for it later with kindness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:22 PM
5

I feel the same about this place! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:41 PM
3

This comment is everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:36 PM
20

Last time I posted in r relationships no one even responded except to say my post was too long and they wouldn't read it. A man had a top 3k upvote post on the same day with the same amount of paragraphs/ length and hundreds of replies. :/ so yeah, no more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:22 PM
22

Lmao shit I feel attacked. This is something I'd do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:25 PM
13

It's not like they don't know where to buy cards or cookies. Could've even asked your friends what your fav snack is and plunked it out of the vending machine and made a god damn card out of printer paper and left those on your desk last minute. Why are men so unimaginative?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:11 PM
5

A "blacklist" is for sex workers... couldn't quite tell if he said blacklist or blocklist (transcription even wrote blacklist) but no one usually adds the word List when they're talking about being blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:46 PM
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I love the way you wrote this and I love your honesty and self reflection and willingness to criticize yourself and then ability to be extra kind after!! This took so much strength! You sound so cool and smart and worth way more than those crusty fuckheads. I hope you do get a rad new ear piercing. Rock on. This post made my day better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:25 PM
9

Wait I'm not the only one who's been asked to pay half of the bills while making 1/3 of the money and decorating the whole house...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:58 PM
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