Unattractive women are more likely to be actively interested

TomBerwick1984 · 2022-06-17T14:20:31+00:00

Based on speed dating experiments, the no. 1 predictor of initial romantic interest is someone who is more attractive in relation to ourselves...

"The strongest predictor of attraction for both sexes was partners' physical attractiveness."

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19558447/

"Only the responders’ perception of the targets’ physical attractiveness predicted romantic interest; specifically, responders’ who rated the targets’ physical attractiveness as higher than themselves reported more romantic interest."

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5519305/

Basically, men and women would prefer to date someone more attractive than themselves.

There's a dating coach Logan Ury who compiled behaviour science data, a long with experience working for hinger, and working with clients. She says; "find the least attractive person that you are attracted to". Pragmatism... Less competition, they are more likely to be attracted to you, and see you as a 'catch'.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-06-17T14:32:10+00:00

I've noticed couples that met on OLD, the man tends to be more attractive, and the opposite for couples that met otherwise.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-17T14:37:12+00:00

Men don't care about the opinion of or the outcome with women they are not attracted to, which leads to a few things. Number one, they let their natural confident self shine through because they are not trying to impress the woman (they see no point in it, there is nothing they want from her). And number two, deep down they believe they are worthy of a woman they are not attracted to and therefore the woman sees them as worthy as well.

If they were attracted to the woman, two things would happen. They would feel they need to impress her and put on a show or a fake facade, which only makes them seem awkward, needy and desperate. And number two, their insecurities will tell them they are not good enough for an attractive woman and that they don't deserve her which will lead the woman to conclude that the guy is not good enough and doesn't deserve her therefore leading to her not having any interest.

In essence, men are the cause of the reactions they get from women.

Hoopy223 · 2022-06-17T14:21:47+00:00

Look,

A guy/girl who isn’t very “hot” has to be more aggressive if they want to get laid.

Dating apps are a sausage fest. When I used POF my area was something like 130 active women users to 3800 male users in the same area and age group. Real Life is just the two of you hanging out. Completely different.

vogel777 · 2022-06-17T16:13:12+00:00

It really depends speed dating, online dating to me is quite a strange set up and it does encourage a shopping list mentality from both sexes. When you meet people in real life and get to know them overtime they might not make you think wow they are so hot right away but when you get to know them over time the fact that they are nice, funny, clever, loyal, strong and so on means that attraction can grow over time I know this because I've experienced it. Even just being friends with someone and one day your chatting to them and it suddenly hits you that they are attracted to you and then you feel it too.

I mean I think I can sort of see that red pill tries to reduce everything down to very objective and measurable units of worth and assumes that everyone male or female is trying their hardest to get the very best deal for their money and are willing to be completely cut throat about it. Meanwhile in the real world people are caught off guard about their feelings all the time for the most unlikely people and I would assume people who are have experienced that surprise attraction are possibly more open minded about people who might be a good match for them.

-passepar2t- · 2022-06-17T14:03:59+00:00

But many men are blind to unattractive women. If you want a high quality girl but you are being with an unattractive girl, that is just compromising your own standards for the sake of ,Idk what? Even the unattractive girl would sense your dishonesty, that she is just an option B for you.

ExpressBat45 · 2022-06-17T15:12:31+00:00

No. It's just that y'all are meeting those "unattractive" women because they're in the same league as you, they are more likely to be interested. A man with HOT women orbiting him and approaching would be in his league mostly. Girls that reciprocate for you are in your looks-league. I've seen old, homeless raggedy men hit on women 10x's better looking than them. It's in male nature to try to hit above his league. That's why y'all keep getting friend zoned or rejected. Those women don't want you or want to have relationships or sex with you. You need to look in the mirror and ask yourself if your hitting above or within your realm.

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-06-17T15:59:16+00:00

Unpopular opinion but I always thought that the problem with OLD would be adverse selection of women, as high SMV women don't need OLD.

Maybe this is why hinge became popular.

But I always thought that there would be market retaliation to OLD, where men would avoid women with OLD profiles for LTRs, and they would use search sites to find women's previous OLD data.

And so OLD would become shamed.

buffsterfan · 2022-06-17T17:30:30+00:00

I’ll just add that more attractive women are probably more likely to find a partner in person, so there’s most likely much less of them relying on dating apps. That can help account for some of this

2022-06-17T15:58:36+00:00

Not really anymore I've seen so many real life examples of a guy being like a solid 10 or 9 but with like a girl who's like a 3 lmao and treats him like shit

TheRedPillRipper · 2022-06-17T14:46:58+00:00

you are forced to begin looking at attractiveness

Attraction is initially visually based. Regardless of the bigger picture, either online or in reality. You’re either attractive enough to pursue; or not. It’s too why in real life there’s differing outcomes. As opposed to online. Where the pivotal factor in your first impression are your pictures.

Godspeed and good luck!

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-06-17T15:58:38+00:00

Unpopular opinion but I always thought that the problem with OLD would be adverse selection of women, as high SMV women don't need OLD.

Maybe this is why hinge became popular.

But I always thought that there would be market retaliation to OLD, where men would avoid women with OLD profiles for LTRs, and they would use search sites to find women's previous OLD data.

2022-06-17T16:11:39+00:00

wingsandeyes · 2022-06-17T14:09:40+00:00

I've found generally unnattractive women are the worst/least feminine ones to pickup or approach. Very annoying/bitter. My theroy is that:

They understand that they are too ugly to be approahced by a majority of men for anything outside of sex or a quick smash and dash...
They've grown up being virtually ignored by the opposite sex and will see rejection of men who show interest in them as some sort of petty revenge/ego boost

I mean even if you do avoid one and talk to her friends, it's always the uglisest/most overweight one in the group who will "Mother Hen" and ruin the interaction. Honestly the best women to approach are usually the more attractive one's, atleast if they reject you it will make a lot more sense.

Ecstatic_Edge5825 · 2022-06-17T15:58:50+00:00

I've seen guys who are like solid 10s with like women that are 2s on a good day and they treat him like crap

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-06-17T15:58:32+00:00

Unpopular opinion but I always thought that the problem with OLD would be adverse selection of women, as high SMV women don't need OLD.

Maybe this is why hinge became popular.

But I always thought that there would be market retaliation to OLD, where men would avoid women with OLD profiles for LTRs, and they would use search sites to find women's previous OLD data.

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-06-17T16:58:59+00:00

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NewDoom83 · 2022-06-17T14:20:26+00:00

Depends, I think butter face women guys will hook up with because the body is on point. Whereas good looking women guys want relationshipsvwith.

It's always important for a guy to know which lanes he can navigate in and make the most of it. Of course a guy can always work on himself so he can broaden that highway he's driving on.

toasterchild · 2022-06-17T14:51:56+00:00

It really depends on how much you personally care about personality and having an intimate connection. Some guys desire that and really enjoy it and some guys don't give a crap about connecting and just want the hottest body they can get.

2022-06-17T15:58:42+00:00

Not really anymore I've seen so many real life examples of a guy being like a solid 10 or 9 but with like a girl who's like a 3 lmao and treats him like shit

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-06-17T15:58:52+00:00

Unpopular opinion but I always thought that the problem with OLD would be adverse selection of women, as high SMV women don't need OLD.

Maybe this is why hinge became popular.

But I always thought that there would be market retaliation to OLD, where men would avoid women with OLD profiles for LTRs, and they would use search sites to find women's previous OLD data.

Time_Animaal · 2022-06-17T23:11:41+00:00

I would say in general this is true, but I think more attractive women sometimes act extremely attracted and obvious for a short period of time before they move on.

AltACCboyos · 2022-06-18T09:14:07+00:00

I will quite adamantly attest to that fact as it's the only reason i am not a virgin today, but to be honest i deeply regret the whole thing.

Dating people you yourself don't see as a catch is just an arrow to the knee, like eventually that "unattractiveness" of said spouse will creep on you with insecurities, because that person is a testament of the beat you could get and it if you feel like it is shitty it means your best is shitty.

Same thing applies for hookups, if you only manage to hookup with people you yourself deem ugly, them maybe that is the level of the best you can get, thus meaning your best is ugly.

This is why i just DON'T hit on ugly girls, i just aim for the ones i myself find attractive, because otherwise it will likely crystallize the fact that i am ugly within me and my therapist has too much work already.

To conclude, this is why i actually regret not being a virgin anymore and having dated before, because i did try to get the best i could and it just was awful in the attraction department.

RedPill115 · 2022-06-19T04:28:53+00:00

if we were to divide all of them into two groups- those who seemed interested after meeting me IRL, and those who I met through dating apps- the ones met IRL were more conventionally attractive. Why do you think that is?

Online dating is still something people do only when in-person isn't working for them.

Title	Unattractive women are more likely to be actively interested
Author	Ecstatic_Edge5825
Upvotes	65
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Date	June 17, 2022 1:55 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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