Modern wimpy men

jenna_grows · 2022-07-11T07:52:53+00:00

If you’re clear about who you are and what you want from the outset, then you won’t attract these guys.

Glad-Discount-4761 · 2022-07-11T07:53:06+00:00

I dont know as I am non American but try to go to church and see like what if you meet Christian man who is family oriented and want housewife?

rosesonthefloor · 2022-07-11T16:19:44+00:00

Where are you meeting these men?

If it’s online: what does your profile say about you? I was able to find more traditional-minded men by being explicit about it on my profile, and highlighting the kind of feminine qualities I had that traditional men would be looking for. They’re out there, but they want to make sure that you’re going to be holding up your end of the bargain as many provider-type men are wary of being taken advantage of.

So basically, you want to sell yourself as a good wife while vetting them as a good husband. Make sure you’ve got photos of yourself in feminine outfits, enjoying life, and make sure you have actual hobbies and skills to bring to the table. High value men want high value women, and traditional men want traditional women. Embody that and you’ll attract that kind of man.

Also clarify your expectations: do you want someone to support you during dating phase? Right when you get married? Or just after you have children? Most provider men are amenable to the last option but not necessarily the first.

Also decide what you’re willing to compromise on. I’m not at all saying it’s bad to want to stay at home - that’s great if you can find it! And some men absolutely still want to and do offer that. I’m just saying decide where your dealbreakers are and where you have more flexibility - no one likes someone who is always “my way or the highway”, and I’m sure your future partner will appreciate a collaborative approach rather than an adversarial one once you get to that point.

I ended up with someone a bit different - his family run a prominent business in our city, so both of us having a “good career” is actually an element of prestige. Although I’ll likely take a few years off for kids, and I could probably end up like his mother and retire very early if I want. I’m happy with that.

sunglasses90 · 2022-07-11T10:57:23+00:00

I set my bumble preferences to moderate or conservative only. Basically I filtered out “liberal” men. It’s not a guarantee, but that was the biggest indicator to me on what their values likely were.

The guys you’re looking for are out there, but they are difficult to find. Treat dating like a part time job. As to where to find them I’d say anywhere outside of a city. Look for a guy who has an actual house, not a townhouse, that he knows how to take care of and renovate who is ready to have a wife/family. Also look for guys 5 years or more older than you. Age is a huge problem, because on average it takes guys longer to finish school and mature. So if you date your age you’re essentially dating younger. Most guys aren’t ready to settle down and have a family and be financial provider until after 30.

Ethman2k9 · 2022-07-11T14:38:58+00:00

This is what trash postmodernism will bring you. Can you really blame them tho? They’ve been brow beaten with this stuff their whole life!

rebeccabrixton · 2022-07-11T12:50:11+00:00

I am just here to say I have 3 young sons who I am unashamedly bringing up as masculine as possible. The U.K. is becoming very ‘woke’ so we just work around that BS narrative at home with logic and of course, setting an example. I know on a primitive level, women prefer masculine men and I want grandchildren haha!

misogyny_fetish · 2022-07-11T15:27:02+00:00

I’m in liberal Massachusetts. Lots of high-paying jobs mean lots of housewives, especially since the pandemic.

A major problem with finding a high value man around here can be providing receipts. These men need proof that you’re not just a mooch. Education is critically important here. They want proof that you’re intelligent, capable, and hard-working in the form of a college degree. Doctors marry doctors, not the cashier at Target. This is something I wish I had realized younger. Many men want you to have the degree and not use it!

Many men here are woke in the streets and traditional at home. You won’t find a lot of outdoorsy hunters, but you’ll find executives and engineers who take care of business.

Euphoric-Chain-5155 · 2022-07-11T14:50:02+00:00

There are masculine men in every state (although some states do have more than others), but your real issue is probably knowing where they hang out so you can fi d them.

How old are you and what state are you in?

Kaizen77 · 2022-07-11T22:42:33+00:00

There's masculine men everywhere. Look for calm confident men. A man that dresses decently, yet no slave to fashion or flashy, a man that solves problems or at least willing to tackle obstacles. His actions often speak louder than his words.

Brave-Awareness525 · 2022-07-11T07:47:41+00:00

Imo date an athlete or bodybuilder, preferably one who does "manly" sports. My husband wrestled D1 in college at 195lbs and was captain of the college's club football team too.

He is pretty much the opposite of wimpy: he's big, muscular, a very masculine man. He works his ass off: all throughout high school and college he use to workout 4-5 hours a day, everyday, and still does workout that many hours sometimes. He works hard in his job too (he's a physical therapist for a college football team), and he's very handy with tools too and loves working on his or my car.

Oh, and also, the most masculine and admirable thing he's ever done for me - he saved my life. I was walking back from the restaurant we went to, and this car was about to hit me - he tackled me to the ground and ended up in a one week coma due to traumatic head injury.

Hes in touch with his feminine, more gentle side as well, which I really like. He does things like cooking, plays piano, etc.

But yes, anyways, go date an athlete, whether college or professional. They are EXTREMELY hardworking, masculine, and usually have traditional values such as yourself.

And since you want a man to protect and provide for you (e.g. pay for meals, etc.), you need to give back yourself. As the saying goes "keep his balls empty and his stomach full", and you will have a very happy husband! Good luck!

Edit: and these traditional, masculine men are literally everywhere! I live in Cali, and even here I found my husband in college. Don't give up on your search for an amazing man!

Taguzi · 2022-07-11T13:12:30+00:00

Above 27-28 yo

Malicious-charity · 2022-07-12T01:14:19+00:00

Someone should start a dating site for people with this in mind lol

One-Poem1346 · 2022-07-11T07:59:03+00:00

It's not just in the USA, I live in the Middle -East and a lot of Arab men are starting to be like that due to westernization...some guys think that it makes them more attractive I think...

LivelyLychee · 2022-07-11T07:42:05+00:00

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No-Professional-2455 · 2022-07-11T20:23:19+00:00

Come to Long Island NY very traditional

MiracleMorni · 2022-07-11T11:14:28+00:00

Your world is your mirror so if you are only meeting feminine men try to ask yourself why you are attracting them. What belief do you hold (there are no good men) that keeps being confirmed? Unfortunately there is inner work to do but it will pay off. I can highly recommend content of Anna Rova on Medium and also her podcast Claimed to help you on your journey!! Hugs

EGOtyst · 2022-07-11T15:12:31+00:00

Military bases and officers.

Scared-Tea-8911 · 2022-07-11T15:12:47+00:00

Come to Texas or Oklahoma - many conservative men with strong family values. 😊

ddouchecanoe · 2022-07-11T19:19:25+00:00

Look for traditional/conservative men. Interests could be hunting, fishing, 4-wheel driving, church, welding, going to the range, camping, etc. possibly former military or a lot of military family.

They tend to congregate around the outer edge of big cities and beyond. Conservative men tend to be more traditional and hold that respect for women, provider type of mindset close to their hearts via upbringing and mom/dad relationship example.

Forever2426 · 2022-07-11T20:16:39+00:00

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Sunflowerdiva · 2022-07-11T14:15:28+00:00

The recent movement of them whining about being Men and crying about the benefits of being a woman are making themselves look wimpy.

I’ve become meticulous with vetting men before going on dates. Any whiney-baby “Poor me” rhetoric let’s me know there’s no reason to waste my time.

Masculine men are out there, it’s just that the whiners and complainers are loud. Almost a squeaky wheel thing, but not quite.

MOSFETBJT · 2022-07-11T19:14:19+00:00

A gym?

pearlsandstilettos · 2022-07-11T21:56:51+00:00

OP, you must engage with the post or it will be removed. We don't allow rants, you have to be looking for help.

32vromeo · 2022-07-11T16:22:12+00:00

I think it’s just the common standard that feminism has set over the years. I think maybe rp guys would be a place to start

pearlsandstilettos · 2022-07-11T13:29:57+00:00

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LivelyLychee · 2022-07-11T08:02:17+00:00

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mei_pendleton · 2022-07-11T19:58:45+00:00

Texas is great for that, especially at church or any conservative conservative groups.

blacknwhiterose · 2022-07-11T21:39:10+00:00

What state/city are you currently in?

KingOfTheNightfort · 2022-07-11T21:42:58+00:00

I can’t speak about the US, but you’ll find a lot in Eastern Europe and the Balkans.

TheBunk_TB · 2022-07-11T22:19:21+00:00

Would I get flak from saying a "State of Bliss"?

Seriously, I imagine that there are stereotypically "traditionally heavy" areas but I don't imagine that there is a hard census to prove anyone right.

valar_mormemes · 2022-07-11T23:32:46+00:00

I see your point of view as well. I find that even in Asian countries now, the traditional men are dying & we’re left with these men with feminine temperament that would cry bloody murder at the thought of their spouse / sig o wanting to be a housewife.

Remarkable-Row-2288 · 2022-07-12T07:12:46+00:00

You could also ask the weak men if they would be comfortable Changing a few bits of themselves. If they are weak, take them to the gym.

SplenduhP0py · 2022-07-12T07:16:29+00:00

Im curious what you see that qualifies as “modern, effeminate, and weak”

Also, i want to provide a housewife life style for my future wife, but that in itself is hard work too.

LaneyAndPen · 2022-07-12T20:28:37+00:00

Men have always come in different flavours, shapes and sizes. You’re being absolutely stupid if you think men have always been like lumberjacks, very often they were what you might think of as effeminate. Also you forget that women need to work hard too to earn their keep

Intelligent_Win3 · 2022-07-15T12:34:28+00:00

I have never, ever, ever split bills with a man in my life. I've lived in CA (including LA), NY (including NYC), PA (Pittsburgh and Philly), VA (including DC). This is 100% about the men you attract and the energy you put out. Men would literally never dream of letting a feminine woman pay. It's just incredibly emasculating for them.

I work in healthcare so there's a decent chance my salary is higher than many of the men I date (professionals still but engineers/software developers/even some lawyers make less than nurses/doctors/pharmacists/PAs) and they still insist on paying. The key is to always be feminine and have traditional manners. Imagine Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn, or any of the old Hollywood stars. Would any man in their right mind ask them to split bills 50-50? Never. It's about your aura. Literally any man (young/old, tall/short, liberal/conservative even employed/unemployed) will not let a woman pay if she is very clearly feminine. Think about the atmosphere you create during your dates and the energy you give off.

Theyogithatcould · 2022-07-19T05:10:28+00:00

It's not the state they're living in, but the profession they're working in. Healthcare, military, engineering.. Look for them in roles that took alot to get there/stay there. Those are your hard working, goal setting, fit in mind AND body, MANLY men.

PatchThePiracy · 2022-07-19T08:33:46+00:00

Stop dating progressive leftists.

hsvbamabeau · 2022-07-22T18:25:13+00:00

You’re not looking for a partner, you’re looking for a pimp.

fabdancer95 · 2022-07-23T00:36:36+00:00

Date a cop

Numerous-Biscotti900 · 2022-07-23T01:11:33+00:00

I feel your pain they are so hard to find! I wish you luck tho!

Odd-Membership6020 · 2022-08-01T11:30:46+00:00

Men are being brainwashed to be weak now

Zealousideal-Towel20 · 2024-02-19T18:18:23+00:00

I don't know your approach, but to attract those men you have to be feminine, show interest in them, and be sweet and complimentary. Men like that want, very simply, to come home to peace, not chaos. A clean house, a cooked meal that's real food, happy kids, a happy wife (as opposed to someone combative, nagging, in their face, or acting weird expecting him to play guessing games). These high value men won't tolerate bullshit, and they won't tolerate poor behavior and an attitude or unreasonable moodiness. If you test them, they'll say ok, if you don't like what I'm about, there's the door and they'll mean it because their options aren't limited.

I don't know you, so I'll speak generally. Don't take this personal, but if it helps, I generally find women who want these men don't get them because they either are in their masculine frame, or they behave in ways these men do not tolerate (combative, moody, try to change something about the man, test the man by putting the relationship in jeopardy, think that he wants to come home from a hard day of challenges to another challenge). They also can take a lesson from their grandmothers when they want something. A guy like that will move mountains for you if you're soft, helpless, and feminine. If you are critical, aggressive, and in his face like a dude, that only works on spineless wimps.

Remember, these guys won't chase you and if you aren't clear you're interested or you act like you have better options, they'll say ok, if I'm not for you there's the door, it's one way. They'll stay in control of their emotions at all times too.

Basically, I see women who want manly men go wrong by displaying behavior that those men don't reward. Who does reward it are simps and spineless, weak men who chase them, react to their games with emotion, and tolerate poor behavior and someone treating them poorly.

Rambinger · 2022-07-25T21:27:53+00:00

This sub is crazy.. I hope you all find the incels you deserve

Interesting-Study333 · 2024-07-19T23:12:56+00:00

Go for richer guys, it’s fucking tough being a sole bread maker on a wide range of incomes and depending on state. So it’s very reasonable for men to want a woman who can live a life like they do and contributing the same to live a fulfilling life.

Now based on what I said, I have no clue why that’s considered “weak” or an “effeminate” man. BUT I do agree if a man is projecting it strongly and pushing and basically “whining” about what role you should be doing that’s definitely a weak man who’s begging for a woman to play a role she didn’t sign up for.

Now for you to battle this, the main part is to step up your category of men in their finances. Not every single one but the majority are happy to fullfill a traditional role (including my wife and I, I am very well off with my current job and continue to keep it so we’re both happy)

Whatever way that fits for you to reach a higher level status of finances in Men then go ahead and do that process, but KEEP IN MIND… the more you reach for a more traditional man with higher finances who is more than happy to care for you the more standards and roles they are expecting of you as well.

God bless and hope you find the one! Good luck darling!

Available-Soft-9551 · 2024-07-31T10:43:57+00:00

women lib turn men into wimps.....women lib house wife ...is...false logic...

Salt_Seesaw_2258 · 2024-09-12T22:15:13+00:00

Some men are not insecure like most. A small amount of men are tough and don't need female to be secure, and happy. Real men could care less about women.

Understanding-Flashy · 2025-03-25T18:34:41+00:00

Date a guy who likes animals lol or perhaps someone who can be a companion? It seems weak men are extremely vocal but I'm a guy of few words lol. I'm here to see what I can learn from people. :)

Alive_Shoulder3573 · 2025-06-28T22:24:53+00:00

over ten years ago elementary schools started attempting to demasculine all boys trying to make them more feminine. this has created an entire generation of men that have no idea how to talk to or communication with the women around them. so now men escape to online gaming and rarely go look for winemaking to interact with.

I feel sorry for this generation because there will be far less children born to them and society will be lucky to survive this period.

these teachers have done more to hurt kids than any other aspect of every day life.

Street-Individual770 · 2025-11-05T18:46:48+00:00

I’ve noticed that when SOME men sense a whiff of intelligence they run for the hills. SOME are just looking for an easy vagina that, bonus, comes with a wallet attached to help pay the rent.

Title	Modern wimpy men
Author	BelleBonbon
Upvotes	236
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Date	July 11, 2022 7:25 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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