Good afternoon,

My wife had an IUD (mirena) installed after our son's birth in 2019. Progressively over the next few years our relationship became strained, she was indifferent, and she was becoming more masculine in mannerisms right before my eyes. No matter how much I discussed it with her, it would take a full blown argument to get some kind of emotional connection and reaction. That wouldn't last for long. Right back into our routine and right back to a dull automaton like lifestyle. Boring, no passion, and career over family kind of priority.

I would get her flowers and it would be like giving flowers to a wall. No reaction. No care. I got her a 1 karat diamond necklace and she got mad at me at first. She would then realize that her reaction was making me recoil and then put on what I can only say is an act. It felt like she was acting to manage our relationship. It was a very strange thing to perceive.

I'm an over analytical kind of guy so I spent hours trying to figure out what the hell happened to my wife. I finally landed on the theory that her BC was causing this. I talked to her and convinced her to get it removed if I have a vasectomy. We have more than enough children, and despite not having a daughter (which I wanted badly) she's done due to other medical issues.

So I went under the knife.

Finally this last weekend I was out of town for three days, during which she had an appointment to get her mirena removed. All went well.

On return, it's like she's a completely different person. I have my wife back. She's brighter, funnier, more attentive, caring and more affectionate. She used to pull away from me when I would try to hug her. No more. I can't begin to describe the happiness I've felt over the past few days.

I understand the importance of bc, but are women told about the impact and strain it can cause to a relationship? What other social and psychological changes come about because of an IUD? I can't begin to explain to you the emotional and psychological pain I've put myself through trying to figure out my wife over the past few years.

Anyways, I needed to share this with someone. I hope it's not inappropriate for this subreddit.