40 yo man, married 10 years. two children ages 4 and 10. Happily married ten years. For a while, i did not sleep with her as much as she wanted. That is my fault but is no longer the case, I want to fuck my wife madly.

About two years ago, i had a vasectomy appointment, and she went behind my back and cancelled it. She then went ahead and got her own IUD.

A little while later, she went on a suspicious vacation with two of her friends to New Orleans. Upon returning home, it was like she was a different person. There were NO photos of the vacation. What 3 35 year old females go on vacation and dont take any photos? She came home on drugs. with drugs. not even acting like herself.

She stated two of her friends had "boyfriends" set up waiting for them. She mentioned a sex party they went to. I kinda freaked out and she never mentioned it again and since then denies it. She came home with a mask and wig, like the type of shit you see in sex party porn lol.

fast forward a few months, and WHILE im fucking her, she stops me and 'says, i have a question.... would you like to watch me get fucked?" I replied "WHAT?!" and she repeated it. I freaked out. " NO I WOULD NOT LIKE TO WATCH MY WIFE GET FUCKED!"

She states " what? i cant have a fantasy?"

She since denies that this is her fantasy. For the next year, i did everything i could to make her happy. Huge birthday dinners, fantastic cruise, beaches, theme parks, a few dates, many loving and caring meals. Flowers every month. She then got a second job, i got her a huge balloon and congratulations card.

she doesnt say good morning, no kiss good night, pulls away from me. stiff when i hug her. NO LOVE

then our ten year anniversary comes up, and i know its been a tough year for us, and i state this in my card to her, and how i feel we should try to remember how much we loved one another, she means the world to me, i will love her forever and how much i value and repsect her etc etc.

She didnt even get me a card.

She is like hiding her phone when i come in the room. Leaving when i sit down next to her. So i become super suspicious and just happen to look at her username on reddit, which is HER OWN REAL NAME.

She has post history of the last year detailing how i disgust her, and wont fuck her. and she gives relationship advice in the /divorce forum. Like she hangs around the divorce forum talking about me. I am devasted and tell her. She apologizes and deletes her account before i could even screenshot.

I ask her the issues, i address the problems, she says i drink too much ( i drink two tall boys a day) i need to be more gentle, caring, and speak more gently to her. Bacically im an asshole, but i say " honey, i agree i can be a better husband and father and i will make the changes i need to make you happy" I did everything possible for the next week, made her her favorite dinners, took care of the kids as much as possible. We laughed. Watched the dahmer netflix. Went pumpkin picking, but shes still treating me like a second hand person in my own family.

She tells me that night " i am leaving you at the end of the month" I realize now, she got the second job so she could leave me easier.

Will not have sex with me. Told me she doesnt love me. Is leaving, says i can have 50% parental rights of the children, is getting an apartment 10 minutes away, with whos money i dont know. She thinks she is taking my car (our only car)

I have never EVER been violent with her or anyone but tells me she feels "unsafe". EDIT: this is completely not the truth or she may actually believe it. Some of the things she says, or her view of reality does not alighn with what is true , and it scares me bc both sides of her family have a history of deep mental illness.

I love her with all my heart and would never waiver on that. I asked her to not leave the house, but her and i can take different rooms, she can have all the freedom she wants, she can fuck or date whoever, but lets keep the house together for the children.

Tell me how much of an idiot i am please. she is moving out in two days. and packed the salt. i cant even finish making dinner