Women shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to have sex when you consider the orgasm gap.

afk_row · 2023-09-03T20:18:49+00:00

How? It’s literally the opposite. Women orgasm more in relationships than they do in casual sex.

harmonica2 · 2023-09-03T20:25:33+00:00

OP, are you saying that women should be having more casual sex, because good sex for women is hard to find and therefore they need to have more, to find it?

Zabadoodude · 2023-09-03T20:16:09+00:00

the orgasm gap is proof that most men suck in bed,

It's just proof that men biologically have an easier time cuming than women. If you expect to lie back and just wait for your partner to make themselves and you cum, you're not good in bed either.

But, ya, single women shouldn't be shamed for seeking out casual sex.

Guys that don't want to date promiscuous women shouldn't be shamed for it either.

Peacesquad · 2023-09-03T21:20:29+00:00

Who’s shaming them? Women are more empowered than ever and they’re still miserable

Orangematcha · 2023-09-03T19:57:33+00:00

No one should be shamed for sex in general. Unless that’s the kink.

Frockz551 · 2023-09-03T20:56:47+00:00

Casual sex is degenerate from either gender. Whores disgust me.

RemainderZero · 2023-09-03T22:05:51+00:00

First off

however the orgasm gap is proof that most men suck in bed

No it isn't. Women can't even climax with a vibrator and 10,000 nerve endings in a clit during masturbating as fast as a man can with his hand. It's a biological difference, you are off your rocker to make this leap and probably starfishing in bed.

and even after trying to communicate their wants and desires with their intimate partner

There is a reason women have the reputation of expecting men to be mind readers like they have the reputation of starfishing. Women are notoriously bad at communicating practical and actionable information with men. Double if it concerns a risk to their ego like sexual preferences and kinks. All? No. Vast majority? Yep.

shaming women for wanting to experiment and enjoy themselves in bed is disgraceful.

It is. How is that happening?

Furthermore, why should men care if women cum? A man is responsible for his own nut every single step of the way from each initiation, making the arrangements, to burning the calories. It doesn't matter if we're talking about intercourse or masturbation, a man made himself cum 99% of the time. Women, don't care. Why should men?

wtknight · 2023-09-03T21:20:07+00:00

I think that women normally have more orgasms with the same regular partner rather than casually with strangers, so I don't see this as a reason not to shame women (or anybody) for having casual sex.

SlowEffective8146 · 2023-09-04T01:53:01+00:00

Casual sex is when women's odds for orgasm is lowest...lol

abaxeron · 2023-09-03T21:11:13+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/166zmto/the_number_of_sexual_activities_with_orgasm_in/

Two friggin days ago.

Firm_Shirt_2553 · 2023-09-03T20:22:18+00:00

orgasm gap is proof that most men suck in bed

Or maybe a lot of women just flop on the bed like a dead fish

Asatmaya · 2023-09-03T20:51:02+00:00

I mean, I agree, but the first lesson you learn in polyamory is:

"You are responsible for your own orgasm."

If you aren't getting off, say something, do something, whatever needs to happen; if you are just lying there and then complaining about it, that's your own fault.

DerayRevan · 2023-09-03T20:07:47+00:00

Nobody is shaming women sleeping around except women themselves since they slut-shame each other more often

Also the orgasm gap is the most deadbeat argument l keep saying, it doesn't take any crazy knowledge knowing women can get off and enjoy sex without having an orgasm, many women from my experience have told me they even had a genetic problem releasing one but still enjoyed the sex and that's why prefered doing foreplay first getting them in the mood

Most people are average in bed both men and women, and they have a preference to whatever their partner must do to turn them on

I made many of my girlfriends orgasm but they still wanted better sex such using toys or doing different positions

Lovemelikeareptile1 · 2023-09-03T20:11:53+00:00

Unfortunately, the orgasm gap is something women actively contribute to with their inability to communicate. Whenever a guy has sex with a girl and then goes to his friends and says "oh man, I gave her like 5 orgasms, she was screaming and tossing around on the bed, it was awesome. She hasn't responded to any of my messages for a week but I'm sure it's because she just felt like a slut and had buyer's remorse" what they fail to realize is that the woman almost certainly faked her five orgasms and that the reason she hasn't responded to his messages is that she doesn't want a repeat of the same.

Yet, this guy will think he really DID rock her work and will go on using the same "tried and true" techniques he used on her on other women, leaving them just as poorly satisfied as this poor girl. But the women never communicate what they like and they never communicate that a man might not be great in bed.

Granted that's somewhat understandable, because many women have learned no to say anything upsetting to a man with an erection because he can react in very violent and unpredictable ways. But women have to start being honest with men and offering some guidance on what they like in bed. Because every woman's body is different and what worked on one may not work on another.

Women who think a man should just know her body although he's never slept with her before is just willfully ignorant of how sex works.

MarBitt · 2023-09-03T20:17:13+00:00

I would say that few people shame women for wanting sex. Outside of religious circles and men obsessed with virginity. What is more often a problem is when a woman tries to sell sex to buy a relationship without actually wanting and being ready for the sex. Or when she delays sex to increase the likelihood of a relationship. Generally when she uses sex as leverage to achieve things other than sex. Once a woman barters with sex, it usually damages her self-esteem, intimacy, and burdens her in future relationships.

By the way, during the first casual sex, a woman has the lowest probability of orgasm, with repeated sex, the probability of orgasm increases, and it is the highest in a long-term relationship after a few months. Of course, it can also be that if a woman does not have an orgasm during sex, she is less likely to want to repeat it with the man.

DreaminInChocolate · 2023-09-04T00:39:20+00:00

No adult should be shamed for having or wanting consensual sex with another adult.

YasuotheChosenOne · 2023-09-03T20:04:20+00:00

The orgasm gap isn’t real women are just passive in bed and don’t vet for sexual compatibility. As soon as she stumbles across a dude who knows what he’s doing she’ll have more orgasms than the average man will ever have.

PercentageGullible11 · 2023-09-03T21:37:39+00:00

Filth.

63daddy · 2023-09-03T20:08:01+00:00

The vast majority of women I’ve been with could have and did have many more orgasms than I could. The orgasm gap in my experience favors women by several fold. If a woman can’t orgasm due to anti-anxiety meds, etc., looking elsewhere won’t solve her problem.

If a man routinely focuses on his orgasms and not hers, she should look elsewhere.

Safinated · 2023-09-03T22:29:11+00:00

That would mean caring about what women want, instead of what men want

Boo, hiss!

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noach_qayain_ · 2023-09-03T21:30:08+00:00

Our orgasms suck though and once you add SSRI's and other medications into that mix then sex just becomes a "need" like how a pack a day smokers needs a smoke in the morning. Also some women have several orgasms during sex. Some women seldom orgasm. It matters on the woman. A woman who cums a lot and loves sex will have a vice like no man could ever dream of. SO YOU CAN'T BE ATOMISTIC in this case.

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2023-09-03T21:48:48+00:00

Don't women have better in a committed relationship than a casual?

purplish_possum · 2023-09-03T22:05:49+00:00

Who's shaming anyone? I love women who love to fuck.

Cool_Ranch_2511 · 2023-09-03T22:55:31+00:00

my counter argument is thusly: close your legs, whores!

*takes a bow*

SirGoatFucker · 2023-09-03T23:32:40+00:00

STD’s exist and no birth control is 100%(except hammer to the balls)

Personally I wouldn’t want to put my dick in a woman who sleeps around, and also I would not want to suck strange smelly dick that’s been around the block. I actually do enjoy when I don’t piss boiling water.

Edit: misread the post, I have no idea what the OP’s logic is.

2023-09-04T00:32:22+00:00

Maybe the women complaining are the ones who also suck in bed lolololo they get the same energy they give

Shoddy-Donut-9339 · 2023-09-04T02:30:36+00:00

I had sex with 4 women and went down on 1 woman without me knowing that clitorises existed.

I was too chicken to ask any woman anything and women want to chicken to tell me anything.

I had sex with 10 women prior to getting married and I asked those 10 women nothing and they told me nothing.

Happy_Nuclear_End · 2023-09-04T11:08:13+00:00

Women don't even cum when they masturbate most of the time lol you really think someone will do something they barely can do themselves LOL.

Flightlessbirbz · 2023-09-04T13:08:05+00:00

Nobody should be shamed for having sex, but women are less likely to orgasm from casual hookups than in relationships. Women also have to shoulder the burden of potential pregnancy and higher chances of contracting an sti. So we can be real that in general, casual sex doesn’t have much in it for most women, without shaming those who do enjoy it.

anon-sucks · 2023-09-05T04:45:23+00:00

Orgasm gap… omg talk about victimization. Like women are to incompetent to reach down and kickstart the engine. Six billion toys just in case she’s to lazy. Besides women can have multiple multiples and Os last a lot longer.

Orgasm gap, that’s crap only a feminist would make up.

Jessicababyq315 · 2023-09-07T18:46:13+00:00

&&Totally get where you're coming from. The orgasm gap is real and it's totally legit for a woman to want to explore and enjoy herself. It's not fair that men are often given a free pass while women are judged. Everyone deserves to have a satisfying sex life and if that means seeking it outside of a committed relationship, then so be it. Nobody should be shamed for wanting to have a good time in bed.&& AA2: Totes agree with ya. Orgasm gap ain't a myth, it's for real and it's totally cool for a gal to wanna explore and have fun. Ain't fair guys get a free ride while we're put on trial. Everyone's got the right to a bomb sex life and if that means stepping outside a srs relationship, then no biggie. No one should ever be thrown shade for wanting to get their kicks in bed.

Title	Women shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to have sex when you consider the orgasm gap.
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Date	September 3, 2023 7:55 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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