I think love and romance is not very important and can be dangerous. Men happiness depend on how pretty the women he knocked up irrelevant of the motives of those women. Men want women's "body," not her soul.

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2024-03-13T15:23:02+00:00

In general, autistic people can't read emotion. So trying to make decisions based on emotion or based on what I think other "feels" are very dangerous for me. Never worked anyway.

We can read emotions, understand and feel empathy, it's making appropriate emotional response (in the eyes of the receiving party) that is complicated. That's autism.

What you've described in your post looks like legitimate psychopathy.

RubyDiscus · 2024-03-13T15:34:27+00:00

I think I am more successful than most men in knocking up smart beautiful women

Sure Jan. How many have you "knocked up?" 🤣

I think you need... psychiatric help.

wtknight · 2024-03-13T15:11:38+00:00

A lot of people enjoy the feeling of love a lot more than the feeling of having transactional sex with an attractive person, though. They are willing to take the risk of rejection as a price for that feeling of love. I don’t think that your advice is very good for those kinds of people, although it may work well for others.

obviousredflag · 2024-03-13T16:08:25+00:00

Men happiness depend on how pretty the women he knocked up irrelevant of the motives of those women

and have good IQ. Analyzing stuffs just come naturally to me.

Then please go an analyze the studies done on that topic and see that how pretty the woman is is not important for men's happiness. For someone who is so proud of his rational thinking and analytical capacities, you pull a lot of stuff out of your ass instead of reading the relevant literature and presenting us with what the current state of the art perspective is on your topic.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-03-13T15:11:05+00:00

Speak for yourself. The best feeling in the world is when I’m falling asleep and my wife (who almost never swears) whispers to me “I fucking LOVE you!”

MyLastBestChance · 2024-03-13T16:57:11+00:00

I don’t think “knocked up” means what you think it means…🤣🤣🤣👶

WANT_SOME_HAM · 2024-03-13T15:41:13+00:00

I feel so bad for other autistic people who have to distance themselves from you. You're like Chris-Chan if he was way less entertaining but just as sociopathic. You're like Hannibal Lecter if he was kicked in the head by a mule.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2024-03-13T17:08:13+00:00

This is so sad.

Which-Inspector1409 · 2024-03-13T16:48:16+00:00

I want her body and her soul. Anything else is just masturbation to me.

bottleblank · 2024-03-13T16:51:27+00:00

Feelings are the reason anybody does any of this to begin with (including the feelings of physical intimacy). They can be manipulated, yes, but if it's purely a physically mechanical and unemotional business transaction then what's the point? Why even bother to have a relationship at all?

GH0STRIDER579 · 2024-03-13T15:57:07+00:00

This sounds like me back when I was being a defeatist and thought loving someone means giving someone a knife to stab me in the back, but the thing is to do it I had to ignore the example literally in front of me of my parents in a happy and healthy relationship and marriage with each other. Ultimately it doesn't get you anywhere other than a jaded and warped view of love and relationships that results in you ironically putting out the very same behavior that attracts shallow people thus creating a self fulfilling prophesy. If love wasn't so important, it wouldn't have been extensively and so talked about even during the ancient world and throughout historical record. Yeah, there are plenty of relationships throughout history which were transactional, but also so many examples of self sacrifice too. You can't just surrender to negativity bias and only focus on the bad. I mean...where's the transaction when Gandhi self immolated to protest British rule?

BoomTheBear86 · 2024-03-13T16:35:49+00:00

I see a post that claims “I’m naturally good at analysis”

And I see nothing but massive extrapolation from personal experiences, not a single source or statistic, and a whole lot of “folk wisdom”.

The ability to draw ad hoc conclusions from personal experiences and apply them as some kind of nomothetic truth without even consulting appropriate tests to verify your claim against isn’t even in the same ballpark as analysis. It’s just “pontification”.

SmallSituation6432 · 2024-03-13T18:35:41+00:00

lol. You tried so hard to get a woman to like you while you a side chick. Fuck off mate.

Calm-Cry4094 · 2024-03-13T19:59:34+00:00

Love/romance works in conjunction with attraction. Of course you want to have a relationship and raise a family with someone you’re very attracted to, but you also want them to make you feel loved and to do great things for them to show their happiness is on your mind. It’s similar to how many birds will dance with one another once every year and feed one another to strengthen their love.

catchtowards12345 · 2024-03-13T15:54:38+00:00

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campskills21 · 2024-03-13T16:03:21+00:00

You want a body for a month or so, after that you’ll slowly crave their soul.

FreitasAlan · 2024-03-13T15:08:45+00:00

I tend to have a minimum level of attractiveness for LTRs and then care at all if it goes above that. The minimum level is only because it somewhat correlates to health and self-esteem. Everything else depends on other criteria for me.

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GlobeUnited · 2024-03-13T16:32:33+00:00

I do think you're on to something as it relates to casual sex, and I sort of agree with the European approach as I understand it, which is to mostly legalize transactional sex (sex trafficking is a huge problem though, not sure whether that improves or gets worse there versus here).

I don't think it's likely to play a role in very many happy, healthy marriages though. One of the many wonderful things about a good family is that it exists outside of the transactional economy. You don't actually charge your minor children room and board, no marriage works without both parties putting in a ton of uncompensated labor. The return on that labor is not direct, but indirect in the form of the many nearly incalculable benefits that a good family provides to a person. If you tried to convert all of that into terms that would make sense for commercial transactions between strangers, it all falls apart, and everyone is left worse off.

Now, I do think it's an interesting question as to why can't transactional casual sex lead to a happy, healthy marriage based on mutual altruism. In theory, the traditional courtship model where there is a series of free meals, gifts, plane tickets, etc., that then lead to marriage has a lot of transactional features in the early stages that could be replaced by simple money for sex. I think the reasons why that can't really happen are probably more cultural and historial than inherent, but I don't know.

harmonica2 · 2024-03-13T17:20:07+00:00

To the OP is it true that most guys don't seem to stress out much about knocking up women they have had one night stands with?

Are most guys attitudes that it's only money?

Intellect7000 · 2024-03-13T23:41:50+00:00

There are variation among men. The Dark Triad (narcissism ,psychopathy, machiavellianism) men want women for mostly physical attractiveness (with submissive personalities) where the non-Dark Triad men go after women whom they can make great partners and build a family together.

2024-03-14T04:40:42+00:00

You may be retarded

Minoune1 · 2024-03-14T10:34:02+00:00

That's not autism.

That's not psychppsthy.

It's three 13-years old in a trenchcoat trying to look edgy.

Clavicymbalum · 2024-03-15T23:26:49+00:00

As a man myself, I can only say: speak for yourself, mate. While I can understand you feeling hurt and having your very own view / taste / wants - and I'm not gonna tell you how you have to feel - that doesn't change the fact that your unwarranted generalization trying to project that to "men" per se is baseless and totally wrong.

Dazzling-Ad-8161 · 2024-03-13T15:23:46+00:00

Yeah, great, ans women want men's money not their soul🙏💵

januaryphilosopher · 2024-03-13T16:35:49+00:00

This comes across as someone who has never actually felt love or at least doesn't know we call that feeling love. Or at least some kind of affection. You say love and yet just write about sex.

SillyMushroomTip · 2024-03-13T15:26:37+00:00

From my experience "love" is in essence the same as Santa Claus

izoldetales · 2024-03-13T15:11:48+00:00

The thing is modern culture would never accept mem persuing women for sex only .

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