Why is it SO much easier to have sex with a woman in 2024 than SLEEP with her?

Agile-Explanation263 · 2024-04-15T21:37:54+00:00

Thats just how casual sex is, they were treated likely the same way or were told to leave immediately following sex, maybe they have to be at work in the morning, have you asked them or told them they can stay? Maybe the sex wasn't good enough to warrant her wanting to stick around?

Square_Height_5133 · 2024-04-15T21:45:38+00:00

Not my experience at all no. Women normally seem to enjoy sleeping together afterwards and the one time i did leave straight after sex I think she was kinda insulted

Stop_Maximum · 2024-04-15T21:41:48+00:00

I mean if you’ve agreed to have only sex, then why would they stay around for? I don’t think it means they are behaving like men, most people don’t realise that the behaviours can be similar depending on the individual.

Solondthewookiee · 2024-04-15T21:53:27+00:00

I've had casual partners who didn't mind if I stayed over and others who wanted to sleep alone (or sleep in their own bed). It's not really a big thing.

Barneysparky · 2024-04-15T21:50:53+00:00

You are seen as nothing but a fuck boy, a walking dildo.

Those women have their own lives, and you are not included.

Electric_Death_1349 · 2024-04-15T21:32:02+00:00

SupportRemarkable583 · 2024-04-15T21:36:31+00:00

What

awesomesauceeee · 2024-04-15T22:14:51+00:00

I’ve never had a hookup that insisted on leaving instantly after

DreaminInChocolate · 2024-04-15T21:40:37+00:00

You don't treat hook ups like a relationship partner.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-04-16T00:04:25+00:00

Easier to have sex with women? Where?

HTML_Novice · 2024-04-16T05:17:37+00:00

No most girls I go on dates with want relationships asap or after we’ve ducked a couple times.

I’m dying to find a girl who just wants my dick for once

Safinated · 2024-04-15T22:28:43+00:00

It’s the same thing to me

East_Writer_2892 · 2024-04-16T03:11:50+00:00

do you have all the stuff a women would want in you bathroom? If no that's probably one of the bigger reasons. If a girl can't peacefully remove her makeup and take a shower and all that she ain't staying in your place. I learnt this the hard way. If you want to bring women over make sure you have all of it ready to go.

tiny_friend · 2024-04-15T22:48:30+00:00

if you fuck her right she will fall asleep. seems like your performance has room for improvement. are these women who won’t sleep in the same bed after actually cumming with you? are you sweet to them?

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Flightlessbirbz · 2024-04-16T01:59:25+00:00

Pretty sure people mostly just sleep together after a hookup since they’re tired and/or drunk. I’ve never had sex with someone I didn’t feel comfortable enough to sleep next to after, but I can see why some people would prefer not. Like if it’s really just about sex and there’s no romantic or friendship interest at all, what’s the point?

Kapoue · 2024-04-16T04:18:56+00:00

In my experience, I sleep at her place after having casual sex. Yes it happened that I went home but most of the time, women like it when I stay the night.

optimuscrymez · 2024-04-16T05:21:33+00:00

No.

Usually after I fuck a woman she's cool with staying or leaving.

But if you're sleeping with women who aren't that attracted to you then yeah that'll happen.

forking_guy · 2024-04-16T11:17:56+00:00

I don't think this is really very common. But, if it is, what's the problem? Sounds PERFECT to me. I'd rather not have to try to figure out a polite way to ask someone to gtfo.

FebruaryEightyNine · 2024-04-16T12:02:57+00:00

It's been like this for a few years now. If anything I think the pandemic actually slowed things down a bit. A few years ago I was big on the NSA scene and went to a sex parties and I would literally end up having sex with multiple 8/10 women in the same night. There was little intimacy involved and I actually found many would enjoy the sex even more if it was more degrading.

I don't really mind either way. I honestly think a lot of women see me (and men who look like me) as sexual objects. I'm tall, very very muscular and well endowed. And with the mountains of porn out there, I'm not foolish enough to think only men are consumers. I think women are as shallow and visually stimulated as anyone and act accordingly. I saw a poster claim that OP is merely seen as a "walking dildo" (the irony is this same clown will turn around and complain about female objectification in the next breath) and there is an element of truth to that. Sexual commodificafion has gone both ways and I do believe just like men categorise women as "fuckable" more so than "wifeable", women also have men they would fuck and these often differ from those they would date. Whilst it didn't particular bother me, of the many couples I would meet back when I was on the scene it was...peculiar to say the least how many women would fiend for "BBC" and turn up to meetings with a average, portly white husband in tow.

The only thing I would offer as forewarning for women though is just "sluts" often end up being pretty self serving and end up being hated for a reason, don't expect men/chads to act any different. Ever wonder why the term "fuckboy" has become popularised? I thinknits largely due to women expecting men they see as "community dick" to magically grow a knack for responsibility and monogamy the same way dumbass dudes expect the hot Stacy they smashed in a ONS to suddenly want to commit. When I was on the scene, I was very much seen as a "walking dildo" though women always pulled a surprise pikachu face when they realised I wanted absolutely nothing to do with them outside of meeting in a sex club. One thing that always struck me in swinging/fetish scenes were the single women who would use it as a dick buffet and then act shocked that none of the food on offer provided any long term emotional sustenance. Men tend to be far more realistic about this than women are, so I'm intrigued to see how many handle the realities of modern hook up culture.

ta06012022 · 2024-04-16T12:16:04+00:00

I’ve spent the night (or she spent the night at my place) after all but a couple hookups I’ve had. It seems like that’s the norm.

obviousredflag · 2024-04-16T13:35:40+00:00

Nope, i didn't notice that. The women still all want to share a bed to sleep, cuddling and spooning, snuggling up to me, lying on my chest, on a one night stand aftermath.

cassowaryy · 2024-04-16T17:56:04+00:00

Maybe it’s just my experience, but a majority of women are still wayyy more inclined to push for a relationship after a few times rather than continuously have casual sex, unless it’s a one night stand. Sure sex is easy but getting into a relationship is almost just as easy and they usually goes hand in hand if the sex is good

Hosj_Karp · 2024-04-17T07:15:00+00:00

In my dozen or so casual sex experiences I've never had a woman leave immediately or kick me out right after. But thats mostly because these situations arose because we had some kind of not purely physical connection in the first place.

I have heard of this among friends who do engage in casual sex out of pure physical attraction and nothing else though

washington_breadstix · 2024-04-17T14:59:18+00:00

I haven't noticed this. The idea of having sex and then immediately leaving is so weird to me. Even if you know you don't want anything serious/long-term with the person, it seems more natural to hang around for at least a couple of hours after the sex and "wind down".

AdEffective7894s · 2024-04-15T21:57:50+00:00

How can you blame women for that?

Maybe they just realise that they are in a vulnerable position lying next to a man.

What if he decided that he wants sex again? how would she protect herself ( forgetting the fact that they she was getting railed a few hours ago by the same guy)

Dont criticize that because you don't know how scared anD oppressed women feel on a day To day basis. Its exhausting.

And for that exact reason they are queens who can do no wrong. Stunning and brave /s

Cethlinnstooth · 2024-04-16T00:16:25+00:00

Why would she let you have the freedom of her home while she sleep? You could install trackers on her stuff, snoop into her medicine cabinet and steal from her lingerie drawer.

And why should she hesitate to throw you out? Men are often "don't care, had sex" so obviously they are resilient to this stuff.

Ambitious_Mix3233 · 2024-04-16T23:03:10+00:00

I saw someone post on here that sleeping over is a boyfriend or girlfriend privilege, which makes sense to me.

apresonly · 2024-04-15T21:36:36+00:00

i dont want to be vulnerable with someone who is not safe

a man who only wants you for sex is not safe to be vulnerable with

campskills21 · 2024-04-15T22:03:30+00:00

If she sees you as boyfriend material she stays. She keeps staying with you as much as you want for a relationship. I like it when the girl stays, in my experience at least half the time after first time they will.

There’s a whole bunch of reasons why women leave after sex. Sometimes they just like to sleep alone in their own bed. Maybe she doesn’t want you to see her in the morning yet, or she snores. Maybe she didn’t like it, or she doesn’t want to take you seriously and has heart set on another guy.

Vivid-Ad-9870 · 2024-04-16T09:42:38+00:00

Its because they are going to another mans bed after yours and the dude doesnt know about you.

Title	Why is it SO much easier to have sex with a woman in 2024 than SLEEP with her?
Author	Draager
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Date	April 15, 2024 7:14 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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