After 20+ yrs she’s moving out. She doesn’t like our dynamic, says I “control everything “, and wants to be her own boss. Says she loves me, but does not want to cohabitate. She has anxiety, depression, and borderline personality disorder, and has not been easy to live with. She ended up super drunk 3 months ago, and ended up having sex with some random person at bar, kind of a semi-rape situation, and she called me right away when she came to … And that started the divorce proceedings.

It’s been a long rocky road, many good times, and lots of rough times. I always tried to keep the family together, no matter what.

Anyway, she’s buying a house in country, and wants me to date me, have sleepovers, travel, etc. basically, same life we have now, but separate household. Part of me naturally wants to do it, we have two kids, and we like spending time together 70% of the time. She also wants to have sex every day, which is nice. But of course the rational part of me says I Need to GET OUT and find a normal relationship.

Btw, we still sleeping together , and go out.

Thoughts ?? Am I totally crazy for even considering her offer? I’d be sick to know someone else gets to have her if I decline. We’ve been together since she was 19, now 43.

Edit: Thank you for all the comments so far!!! I do want to stress, I do think she loves me , but she has had significant mental health issues all her life. I honestly don’t think she can control her thoughts, emotions, actions, as a “regular” human. She is a divorce lawyer, and gave me decent separation terms.