Why did she become so EVIL?

Exact-Egg8675 · 2025-02-18T12:00:31+00:00

Damn bro same here!

darkerwithin · 2025-02-16T20:04:40+00:00

She has always been the way she is now. She merely chose now to drop the act.

regertsrus · 2025-02-16T13:42:56+00:00

I have multiple unfounded cps reports, multiple proven false police complaints. Five sherriffs complaints for an order of protection all proven false. One of them even proved an attempt to frame me. The judge in divorce court already asked her to withdraw. Instead her lawyer tried to blackmail me saying "sign the custody agreement and we will withdraw. I laughed at him outside the DV judges chambers almost hysterically. Some people here above tried to rationalize womens behavior with survival, enotional progeamming and whatever else. There is no rationalizing a pathological liar and the court clerk circle jerk that allows the weaponization of the system despite knowing the egregious lies are prevalent. Lets be honest here. The system is corrupt and in many ways encourages this behavior. Their tool of the trade is fear. We men will comply as long as we fear. I have no fear. They are my kids. I will tell them the truth as often as they can handle it. I will not abridge the truth from them as long as she is encouraged to lie with impunity. And when the kids see the truth, feel it and understand that the system is the culprit and mommy is the symptom, then i will sleep at night and the kids will understand that these agents of state are not their friends. They are here to instigate and wreak havoc on otherwise cool, calm and collected men and even women. This is why daddy doesnt talk to mommy. Why mommys family doesnt talk to mommy and goes through me to see the kids. Why mommys boyfriend is still allowed to stay in mommys house despite disguisting repeat alienation, manipulation and gross posturing. The system is utterly broken for telling me "we can not do anything about the boyfriend because the alienation backfired and the kids decided to spend less time with her". Its broken because the nasty loeffer blackmailed the kids to change their mind and let him stay, and the child lawyer just said "what do you want me to do, you married her". Here i am telling you men to stand up to these strangers. Dont let them harm your kids. "I want to split my time 50/50 between mommy and daddy" should have been one time too many. Repeat visits should not be allowed. Umpteenth calls with a random child lawyer repeating the same, should not be allowed. My lawyer tells me i am nuts for refusing the child lawyer visits/calls, refusing entry to cps, refusing to speak to cops on yet another complaint, refusing to pay the judges order to start forensics for yet another investigator to decide custody split. My message is simple. These people are persona non grata. I am mot a criminal. I never was charged. The complaints against me are proven false. I pay the child support diligently to a woman who spends the money on herself and her boytoy still living in a home deeded to me. I am going to dictate how this plays out, who has access to my kids on my time and how often. I will protect my kids with my life. And if a court magistrate wants to ruin the carefully and luckily developing blended family of 7 people i have doing phenomenally well under my roof, then the court shall accept the responsibility for anything that derails our lives. I will continue to sit on my hands and assess the situation and developments. And when i am ready, i will escallate litigation and not a moment before. I know most men dont have the luxury, the means and support to dictate their lives like this. I feel for you and the shakles this system has put you into. Know that time is on your side. When the kids are old enough to hear and see the truth, you too will stand tall and your kids will be able to understand. All you have to do is be their foundation until that time because its not likely that their pathological liar mommy can be any load bearing member.

Mugennsx · 2025-02-16T07:02:22+00:00

My experience says that at some point they started wanting something different. They were bored and got stimulated by something or someone else. And the main reason they became vindictive and mean is they convinced themselves you are the villain so that they can feel better about themselves.

Boomhower113 · 2025-02-16T06:37:11+00:00

The fun part is when it’s finally over and she thinks it’s like a prize fight where we can just hug it out and be friendly co-parents the second it’s done.

Bitch, you just spent a full year trying to destroy me and take my kids away!! We ain’t friends!

aquatic-dreams · 2025-02-16T05:38:44+00:00

My take. Women and men feel the same emotions and to the same degree, people that just say woman are emotional are full of shit. But us men are usually raised to suck it up and shut the fuck up. And women are typically raised to talk about their feelings, journal, and vent.

Thing is, the brain likes to repeat shit. And each time it repeats something it updates it's neural network so that it's easier to repeat next time. If there is an attached emotion to that thought, it gets a tiny amount more intense with that neural network update. That is why things like resentment and grudges start off as being something very insignificant and over time grow into an insanely huge emotional overreaction.

And that's exactly what it is, resentment.

She thinks you're a selfish, lazy, uncaring... And her cognitive bias kicks in and her brain proves to her over and over that she's right. You could be the opposite 99% of the time, but that 1% aha proven! The thing is, all our brains do this.

More than likely, you remember things and her for being better than they were. No matter what the proof is. And your brains going, see I told ya! Even if it's full of shit too.

So more than likely you thought things were better than they were. She thought things were worse. And the reality probably lies between the two. But she just knows her shit side story, and there's nothing you can do about it. And by the time she filed for divorce, she had spent years with that cognitive bias growing against you. So when she finally asks for a separation, she feels relieved. The cause of all of that stress and negativity is gone. And unless something really kicks her ass a while later. She is just going to remember how much better she felt being rid of you. And that's why she has no problem being evil. She knows deep inside that you fucked her over, that her life is better without you... it could just be bullshit but it doesn't matter. And there's nothing you can do to change that. But move on and live a life you are proud of.

rightwist · 2025-02-16T04:00:27+00:00

Speaking as someone 10 years past a divorce like that and still perplexed and hurt

In a sense it's the measure of a twisted kind of love.

She built her identity and dreams on being married

And to that extent she needs to fuck up my world for rejecting her. Never mind if she was the one who rejected me, or, any other objective reality.

Idk man I can't make it make sense.

watermelonstrong · 2025-02-16T03:36:13+00:00

You're the enemy, you're not part of her future, she has discarded you and you are now simply a threat to her finances and access to money, housing, children. You are no better than a criminal robbing her or assaulting her family in the street.

You are a relic of the past, you are an obstacle to her future goals

Dakeddit · 2025-02-16T03:33:19+00:00

They stay angry too. You can correct everything they said you were, but the mind is made up. You weren't what they needed at the time and now you'll pay.

Things do often get "better" with time though. Which can be very tough if you still have feelings for her. But she's never going to be the person you married again.

Conscious-Ad-7338 · 2025-02-16T03:30:32+00:00

It's just how they are; youre going to have to accept that she is your enemy now, she's not a good or reasonable person, and you have to forge your own life while greyrocking her and not reacting to any provocation she attempts

mixturedd · 2025-02-16T03:28:17+00:00

Women are much more highly emotional creatures compared to us men, hence their reactions seem way over the top to us. They also love to share very little detail with the female friends. While men divulge only what they need to. So women get tons of unsolicited advice from friends and not actual professionals or people with some level headedness

Content-Class1259 · 2025-02-16T03:21:41+00:00

Mine was just born evil

redditrock56 · 2025-02-16T03:11:55+00:00

A wise man once told me "you will never see a woman's true face, until you see her in divorce court".

Thebadmamajama · 2025-02-16T02:59:22+00:00

There's a lot of social pressure on women for breaking up a marriage. So the instinct is to make things miserable for you, to bait for the worst behavior. Then they can turn to everyone around them and say "see, look at what I had to deal with, he's a terrible person.".

Don't take the bait. It sucks, but you need to be like Teflon. You can control how you react to their BS, even though you can't stop it.

MikeTheAmerican · 2025-02-16T02:53:41+00:00

I wish my wife was being evil about the process. Instead she just disappeared and is completely off the grid. No idea where she is.

She went to Seattle to visit her mom while we were taking a week of space in between couples counseling sessions and she never came back. Haven’t heard from her other than her telling me she downloaded a dating app, drove 3 hours away, and cheated on me with a woman in Portland and moved in with this random woman.

12 years in the trash all over some bullshit propaganda she read on the “late blooming lesbian” subreddit. No goodbye, no apology, nothing. Told her a filed for divorce and can’t even get a response over that. It’s like I never meant anything to her. Truly devastating.

tyyyy110 · 2025-02-16T02:35:54+00:00

Remember this the woman you married is never the woman you divorce! 🤷🏾‍♂️

Bumblebee56990 · 2025-02-16T02:32:44+00:00

She wants to hurt you because she’s hurt.

RedRibbon3KS · 2025-02-16T02:14:05+00:00

I don't get it either. This is something that I've struggled with as well. How does it go from lifelong partners, till death do you part to I want you to suffer and die? I have not attacked her, have not spoken bad of her to family and friends but she has been going on a rampage for years. I've lost many people that I thought were friends and people have turned their backs against me because of what she accuses me of. But those who have stuck around have seen the truth without me saying much. I don't get it. I just don't get it. I'm in the same boat as you if that gives you any comfort.

Puzzleheaded-Yam1718 · 2025-02-16T02:14:01+00:00

Women

frogmicky · 2025-02-16T02:11:36+00:00

My STBXW got evil after she wanted to move forward with our divorce for some reason. You just have to be the bigger person and not fall into that trap.

EarAccomplished1300 · 2025-02-16T02:04:46+00:00

I always put it like this. When a woman is getting divorced, she sees it as SURVIVAL. what that means is, EVERYTHING is justifiable. She fights tooth and nail because with out you she is on on her own. "I have to act this way to SURVIVE." It is a true mentality switch. Idk if im making myself clear, but not because it isnt true. we dont understand it. Not because we are better, but it isn't our mentality. Im not some redpill dickhead either.

Title	Why did she become so EVIL?
Author	munchzbox
Upvotes	48
Comments	53
Date	February 16, 2025 1:56 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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