Gentleman we got her.

tinkerb3lll · 2025-03-19T12:53:54+00:00

Well done

Own_Development2935 · 2025-03-18T16:18:02+00:00

Lololol… this ain't the brag you think it is.

DivorceCharacter512 · 2025-03-14T01:50:38+00:00

Killer - if they were all willing to accept clean breaks, there wouldn't be any lawyers. Dont equate luck with choice.

WeakSpite7607 · 2025-03-18T14:50:02+00:00

She escaped you... She was willing to take nothing to be free of you. Says a lot....

dfb54749014 · 2025-03-16T19:59:40+00:00

Congratulations, it's tough to come out 'ahead' in these situations. I was lucky enough to do the same.

Don't take it for granted and make the most of it as you move forward.

Pierre509 · 2025-03-14T18:29:07+00:00

im guessing this is uncontested divorce? Did ya own a house together?

Many_Alternative6563 · 2025-03-14T14:19:08+00:00

We got a winner 👏🏼

Icerunner45 · 2025-03-13T01:49:33+00:00

No clue how you made that happen. You made out really well. I'm still waiting on the couple false accusations to be done with and the ridiculous military protective orders to go away, then she still is going to end up with far too much custody, me paying close to half my paycheck to her and childcare, and then she still gets to take over 30% of my retirement...as well as likely half of everything I've put into investments and retirement savings. It's insane.

WeaknessCapital9064 · 2025-03-12T12:43:14+00:00

what state do you live in?

petropath · 2025-03-12T09:48:16+00:00

I need to get one bad....we've been separated over 3 years and we're only married a year before I left. I have never been married and have 0 support from anyone. Ideas? Oh I'm disabled too.

Exactly65536 · 2025-03-12T09:41:52+00:00

Good job!

I don't think people involve lawyers necessarily because they lack some kind of negotiation ability. To make things ugly, one party's effort is enough.

My current divorce goes smoothly, even though we have a 5yo kid, a mortgage and an apartment, a car and two cats. My first divorce went crazy and required like 5 sessions of consulting with a lawyer, even though we had almost nothing to split.

_nothingmatters_ · 2025-03-12T03:04:56+00:00

Sounds like you got the one non crazy one that was out there. Sorry about the cheating but it’s just flesh.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2025-03-11T22:01:27+00:00

Oh yeah we did it ourselves and I got the same deal but also our fully paid for house. Thank you affair fog. Was still devastated at the time because I loved that woman but 3 years on life is now fucking amazing.

samk002001 · 2025-03-11T17:23:47+00:00

So she’s cheating on you with a 15 yo kid? That’s criminal offense!!

RxRobb · 2025-03-11T20:51:43+00:00

If you were losing 2k a month to her habits then you must not have much to go after my guy. Mine fought in divorce for millions in assets took two years to complete

thanksvitalik · 2025-03-11T20:04:57+00:00

I think you can write a book about the heist and become a millionaire. Congratulations.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2025-03-11T20:04:30+00:00

What state is this? I might actually date if I lived somewhere that isn’t no-fault.

nickpete12345 · 2025-03-11T18:52:31+00:00

I had a similar outcome this past summer! Cheated, 5 younger kids, married 5 years.

No alimony or child support (for now)
50/50 custody
Kept all my retirement/cash on hand in exchange for house equity (50/50 asset split)
Savings has been incredible since divorce :)
No Lawyers

Any-Dare-7261 · 2025-03-11T18:27:50+00:00

Its been over 2 years and now we are finally talking about temporary custody order. I want to fire my lawyer but my town judges wont wven speak to you without counsel

Infamous_Database_17 · 2025-03-11T16:59:06+00:00

This post should be pinned for everyone to see, if there is a feature like that in the sub.

Moms_Sketti88 · 2025-03-11T16:40:38+00:00

My wife and I were on this route as well, until she got a lawyer. Now it’s the back and forth bullshit. But great news man. I was hoping for an outcome like this, but now it’s crazy demands. Congrats though man!

Bumblebee56990 · 2025-03-11T16:37:51+00:00

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥳🥳🥳🥳

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-03-11T16:35:03+00:00

Damn how the hell you swing no alimony?!

Analisandopessoas · 2025-03-11T16:31:51+00:00

Congratulations on your achievement. Life that goes on. Good luck

NotUsedUsernameYet · 2025-03-11T15:51:35+00:00

You played the cards right it seems: she is most likely to sign papers you want while she is cheating and has butterflies. I really hope your agreement/judgment is air tight so she couldn’t set it aside - and you should have used good lawyer for that.

cherales · 2025-03-11T15:38:19+00:00

Sounds like a result; hope ok to say be magnanimous too, if you’re not already, to show / add to what you’ve already shown your child that there is still some good left in the world?

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” —Maya Angelou

and all that…

Above all, it DOES sound like a result! 😃

sbayrunner · 2025-03-11T15:38:09+00:00

I feel like you got lucky she didn't lawyer up

soontobesolo · 2025-03-11T15:37:53+00:00

Nicely done! Your luck is absolutely not typical though, seems you had an ex wife who just rolled over to GTFO. Most guys are not so lucky.

Gentleman we got her.

Comments

1 I didn't listen to anyone's advice. Just because their divorce ended in flames doesn't mean yours must.

2 I kept emotion out of it and made it about business. Saying things like if we do this ourselves and trust each other, then we can save so much. Or it will be a lot faster if we split 50/50. What's yours is yours. Mine is mine. And I let her have stupid replacement things like TVs and furniture.

3 We decided to keep our friends out of it.

4 I told her that she was still the mother of my child and I would treat her as such.

5 I help her with things like airline tickets and things and promote a good relationship of her and the kid.

Title	Gentleman we got her.
Author	Metboy215
Upvotes	266
Comments	78
Date	March 11, 2025 3:30 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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